Past Imperfect: The Alchemy of Transforming Trauma

About Past Imperfect: The Alchemy of Transforming Trauma

Have past events tainted your present experience? Do you want a new perspective? In Past Imperfect, Sam Seager and Jude Claybourne take an honest and personal look at recovery from trauma, addiction and narcissistic abuse from a refreshingly light perspective. We’re two friends who love each other, have experienced trauma and have (ultimately) felt enriched by it. We've found that moving the focus away from blame and towards taking responsibility for our own conscious growth can transform trauma from a crippling burden to a nourishing gift. Join us in our conversations and explorations

Publisher

Samantha Seager and Jude Claybourne

Category

health & fitness

Language

en

Explicit

Yes

First episode

17 May 2020

Latest episode

28 Nov 2021

Latest episodes

25 episodes in the feed.

1. 

   28 Nov 2021

   Hibo Wardere: Transforming the Trauma of FGM into Action

   In this final episode of the series, we interview Hibo Wardere, author of Cut - a memoir of her own experience of FGM at the hands of her family as a six-year-old child and her subsequent journey with the trauma of that experience. TRIGGER WARNING: detailed description of the female genital mutilation and vaginal cutting of children Hibo is a committed campaigner against FGM, both in the UK and all over the world. Hibo speaks openly about her experience, the trauma, betrayal and pain of being cut and its impact on her relationship with her family and with herself. We talk about protecting girls in our own communities - FGM is still practised on children living in the UK - and how to get involved. She makes the concept personal and real, and gives an insight on the role of men in FGM, the impact of the pandemic on the prevalence of cutting and gender-based violence and the economic machine that fuels the . We also touch on the work of Rhobi Samwelli in Tanzania, an FGM survivor who risks her life to provide safe houses for girls at risk of being cut. Every year, hundreds of girls risk their lives and their connection with their families to escape the damage that is planned for them. If you'd like to donate to support girls at risk of being cut now (during the annual cutting season), please click through here: https://www.globalgiving.org/projects/safe-house-training-centre-tanzania/. Even the price of a cappuccino will feed a girl for a few days. Give what you can. Follow Hibo and support her work: https://twitter.com/HiboWardere https://www.instagram.com/hibowardere/ Read her book 16 days of activism against FGM: https://16dayscampaign.org 25th November to 10th December Get help If you think you are at risk of cutting, are concerned for a child or would like to access emotional support or medical services for yourself related to genital mutilation, we've included a list of resources below. Our list is UK-centric, but if you have access to the internet, you can find out about resources in your country. Children can call the NSPCC, Children can call Childline for free on 0800 1111 (tel:0800 1111) Adults who are concerned about a child can call their local Police station or the NSPCC on 0808 800 5000 (tel:0808 800 5000) Forward UK has a comprehensive list of ways to get help on their website: https://www.forwarduk.org.uk/i-need-help/ This includes your local authority, emergency services and non-emergency Police services. http://nationalfgmcentre.org.uk - education about harmful practices http://nationalfgmcentre.org.uk/uk-fgm-services/ Resources and support for survivors of FGM across the UK Most London hospitals, and many across the country, have FGM clinics. You can attend to get support, medical help and talk about reconstructive surgery https://inthenameofyourdaughterfilm.com/trailer/ You'll notice that some pesky dogs do some barking during this episode. Given the context, I think it's the least of our worries. Email us at pastimperfectpodcast@gmail.com with comments (and pictures/stories of your Kinder oracles!). Follow us on instagram @pastimperfectpodcast and on Twitter @PastImperfect2 Note: we are two fairly well informed people with opinions that we like to talk about. We're not expert voices telling things how they are, just how the are for us. Music: New Dawn by Ruth Blake. Listen to her music at www.ruthblake.com Logo image based on Psychopomp by Hollie Chastain. Check out her art and amazing collage book at www.holliechastain.com

2. 

   28 Nov 2021

   A Little Bit About Fear

   We talk about fear and how to metabolise it, reframe it and live alongside. We also touch on the system we live on, the film 'The Father' about the system we live in and Sammy does a mighty job of reading a poem (copied below). These are exciting times to be alive. Enjoy! Man's Search for Meaning, Viktor Frankl https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/4069.Man_s_Search_for_Meaning If This is a Man, Primo Levi: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/275630.If_This_Is_a_Man?from_search=true&from_srp=true&qid=XYO7RiKWWl&rank=2 https://t.me/staceysworldrocks Telegram group for Staceys World Rocks https://rumble.com/vn7lf5-monopoly-who-owns-the-world-must-see.html Monopoly Who Runs the World about Black Rock and Vanguard. Eddie Chilvers https://eddiechilvers.bandcamp.com/album/change-your-mind This is Vanity: Watch on YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=40zqsPvGTfw IF you can keep your head when all about you Are losing theirs and blaming it on you, If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you, But make allowance for their doubting too; If you can wait and not be tired by waiting, Or being lied about, don't deal in lies, Or being hated, don't give way to hating, And yet don't look too good, nor talk too wise: If you can dream - and not make dreams your master; If you can think - and not make thoughts your aim; If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster And treat those two impostors just the same; If you can bear to hear the truth you've spoken Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools, Or watch the things you gave your life to, broken, And stoop and build 'em up with worn-out tools: If you can make one heap of all your winnings And risk it on one turn of pitch-and-toss, And lose, and start again at your beginnings And never breathe a word about your loss; If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew To serve your turn long after they are gone, And so hold on when there is nothing in you Except the Will which says to them: 'Hold on!' If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue, ' Or walk with Kings - nor lose the common touch, if neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you, If all men count with you, but none too much; If you can fill the unforgiving minute With sixty seconds' worth of distance run, Yours is the Earth and everything that's in it, And - which is more - you'll be a Man, my son! by Rudyard Kipling.

3. 

   28 Nov 2021

   Midsommar, Narcissism and How Cults Capitalise on Loneliness

   The dark masterpiece Midsommar is the topic of this excitable episode. Ari Aster's 2019 movie is a multi-layered study of narcissistic behaviour – overt, covert, blatant and so slick and sophisticated you'll get a warm glow while it's happening. We look at how the film showcases gaslighting and codependence in relationships and in cults and how they isolate people using intense love, nurture and seeming acceptance. And we delve into how the film not only shows brainwashing, but practices it, drawing us in and giving us the warm and fuzzies at the most manipulative of moments. It's full of SPOILERS, so if you haven't seen the movie, it's streaming on Netflix and other online sources right now. See it first. Be warned, it is a horror movie, even though it works very differently to the classic horror template. TRIGGER WARNINGS: there's lots of talk of cults and how they abuse people, narcissism, manipulation, victim-blaming and extreme grief, as well as talk of the murder/suicide of family members. We are talking about horror and manipulation, too, so strap in, and if you're feeling sensitive today, go gentle on yourself. I'm afraid our sound is janky again. We're working out how to get clean recordings on both sides while we do our live recordings on Zoom. Thank you for your patience while we work on solving this issue. Resources Acolytes of Horror: Nathan, video essayist, philosopher and artist: @LIGHTNINGWOW https://www.patreon.com/NathansArtProject Watch Nathan's intelligent and comprehensive video essay on how Midsommar brainwashes you: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gr2j0o_B2mw Also packed with spoliers. HG Tudor - an 'out' psychopath who debunks how others do it and offers advice: https://narcsite.com Email us at pastimperfectpodcast@gmail.com with comments (and pictures/stories of your Kinder oracles!). Follow us on instagram @pastimperfectpodcast and on Twitter @PastImperfect2 Note: we are two fairly well informed people with opinions that we like to talk about. We're not expert voices telling things how they are, just how the are for us. Music: New Dawn by Ruth Blake. Listen to her music at www.ruthblake.com Logo image based on Psychopomp by Hollie Chastain. Check out her art and amazing collage book at www.holliechastain.com

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