Patio Talks

About Patio Talks

Welcome to Patio Talks. A space where you can pull up a chair, sit back, and enjoy honest conversations, real stories, laughter, and healing. This is your mic, your moment, your patio.

Publisher

Patio Talks

Category

society & culture

Language

en

Explicit

No

First episode

2 Jul 2025

Latest episode

7 Oct 2026

Latest episodes

55 episodes in the feed.

1. 

   7 Oct 2026

   Why can it be so difficult to let someone go—even when you know the relationship no longer belongs in your life?

   Sometimes an ending is easy to explain. Someone betrayed you. Someone hurt you. Someone crossed a line, and you can point directly to what happened and say, “That’s why I left.” But other endings are more complicated. In this episode of Patio Talks, Gissell and Charleston have a raw conversation about letting people go, the weight of shared history, one-sided relationships, respect, and why a painful ending isn’t necessarily a wrong decision. The conversation begins with a simple question: Why is it easier to leave when someone hurts us than when we’re simply no longer right for each other’s lives? Charleston talks about needing to understand whether a decision to walk away feels justified, not necessarily because someone needs to be blamed, but because he has to consider what the relationship has required of him, what it has given back, and what continuing it would cost. Gissell shares a different perspective, reflecting on how conflict can build slowly when communication is missing, boundaries aren’t respected, and problems are allowed to grow until what began as something small becomes an avalanche. Then they confront one of the biggest questions of the episode: Does history earn someone a permanent place in your life? For both of them, the answer is no. Knowing someone for years, or even for most of your life, doesn’t automatically mean the relationship still deserves the same access to you today. History can explain why someone mattered. It doesn’t necessarily determine the role they should continue to have in your life. Gissell and Charleston also discuss whether we have a responsibility to reconnect, how much effort both people should be willing to make, and what happens when only one person has been doing the giving. And perhaps most importantly, they talk about something we don’t always give ourselves permission to admit: An ending can break your heart and still not be a mistake. You can cry over someone. You can miss the memories. You can appreciate what the relationship once was. And you can still decide that peace, respect, and the life you’re building require you to let it go. In This Episode Why hurt can make leaving feel easier to justify Making emotional decisions vs. clear-headed decisions Whether every ending needs someone to blame How small unresolved problems can become much bigger ones The importance of communication and mediation Whether shared history earns someone permanent access to your life One-sided relationships and constantly being the giver The difference between helping someone and being taken from Whether you have a responsibility to reconnect Why reconciliation requires effort from both people Respecting other people’s time Recognizing when your boundaries have been crossed Why a painful ending can still be the right decision Choosing peace without pretending the loss doesn’t hurt Today’s Patio Question Do you need a good enough reason to let someone go? And underneath that question is another: Does your history with someone mean they deserve a permanent place in your life? About Patio Talks Patio Talks is a weekly conversation hosted by Gissell Colon and Charleston Tubbs, where every episode begins with one meaningful question. Together, they explore real-life experiences, relationships, family, identity, boundaries, leadership, purpose, and personal growth through honest conversations that invite listeners to think differently about their own lives. No pretending to have all the answers—just two perspectives, lived experiences, and conversations that often lead somewhere neither of them expected. Because sometimes the right question changes everything. Support Patio Talks ☕ If Patio Talks has made you think, reflect, laugh, or see something in your own life differently, you can support the show through Buy Me a Coffee. Support Patio Talks on Buy Me a Coffee⁠ https://buymeacoffee.com/patiotalks (https://buymeacoffee.com/patiotalks) Disclaimer The views and experiences shared on Patio Talks are based on our personal lives, observations, and opinions. We are not licensed therapists, counselors, medical professionals, or legal advisors. Nothing shared in this episode should be considered professional advice. Our goal is simply to share conversations, experiences, and perspectives that invite reflection. Keywords letting someone go, why is it hard to let go, ending relationships, outgrowing relationships, toxic relationships, family relationships, friendship breakup, one-sided relationships, setting boundaries, relationship boundaries, letting go of family, growing apart, respect in relationships, reconciliation, emotional healing, moving on, self-respect, choosing peace, personal growth, Patio Talks

2. 

   30 Sept 2026

   Can You Outgrow Someone Who Did Nothing Wrong? | When Relationships No Longer Fit

   Can you outgrow someone who never actually did anything wrong? We usually understand why relationships end when there’s betrayal, dishonesty, disrespect, or some obvious breaking point. There’s a reason. Sometimes there’s even a villain. But what happens when the person is still a good person and the relationship simply doesn’t fit anymore? In this episode of Patio Talks, Gissell and Charleston have an honest conversation about outgrowing friendships, family relationships, and people who once played major roles in our lives. Charleston reflects on a childhood friendship with someone he still cares about but no longer connects with. Their lives went in different directions, and maintaining the friendship would mean returning to environments and behaviors that no longer represent the man he is today. Gissell explores another side of outgrowing relationships: what happens when your values, boundaries, and expectations change. Sometimes creating distance isn’t about believing you’re better than someone else. It’s recognizing that what you once accepted no longer belongs in the life you’re building. The conversation becomes more personal as both Gissell and Charleston discuss difficult decisions they’ve made involving family. Charleston opens up about stepping away from a relationship after years of feeling that the connection had become one-sided—and why making that decision hurt even though he believed it was necessary. They also challenge their own premise: Does saying you’ve “outgrown” someone accidentally suggest that you’re ahead of them? Maybe someone choosing a different life doesn’t mean they’re behind you. Maybe they’re simply walking a different path. In This Episode Can you outgrow someone who is still a good person? What “outgrowing” a relationship actually means When old friendships no longer fit your current life Values, lifestyle changes, and boundaries Why history doesn’t always equal compatibility Outgrowing family relationships One-sided relationships and constantly being the giver Knowing when helping someone begins hurting you Why ending a relationship can hurt even when you know it’s necessary The difference between outgrowing someone and believing you’re better than them Letting go without turning someone into the villain Today’s Patio Question Can you outgrow someone who never did anything wrong? And before you go: Who are you holding onto because of who they used to be in your life not because of who you are to each other today? About Patio Talks Patio Talks is a weekly conversation hosted by Gissell Colón and Charleston Tubbs, where every episode begins with one meaningful question. Together, they explore relationships, identity, family, boundaries, purpose, personal growth, and the complicated parts of everyday life through honest conversations that invite listeners to think differently about their own lives. Because sometimes the right question changes everything. Support Patio Talks ☕ If Patio Talks has made you think, reflect, laugh, or see something in your own life differently, you can support the show through Buy Me a Coffee. Support Patio Talks on Buy Me a Coffee⁠ https://buymeacoffee.com/patiotalks (https://buymeacoffee.com/patiotalks) Disclaimer The views and experiences shared on Patio Talks are based on our personal lives, observations, and opinions. We are not licensed therapists, counselors, medical professionals, or legal advisors. Nothing shared in this episode should be considered professional advice. Our goal is to share conversations, experiences, and perspectives that invite reflection. Keywords outgrowing people, outgrowing friendships, outgrowing relationships, friendship breakup, ending friendships, family boundaries, letting go of relationships, growing apart, one-sided relationships, changing friendships, relationship boundaries, personal growth, moving on from people, friendship changes, family relationships, self-respect, setting boundaries, Patio Talks

3. 

   9 Sept 2026

   Why Do I Feel Like I Have to Explain Myself? | When Did Explaining Become Asking for Permission?

   When does explaining yourself stop being communication—and start becoming a request for permission? In this episode of Patio Talks, Gissell and Charleston explore the difference between keeping people informed, seeking approval, and feeling like every decision you make needs a defense. Charleston reflects on how, growing up, he often explained his choices to his mother and grandfather because their approval mattered to him. From joining chess and sports to choosing friendships, he realized that many of those conversations weren’t just about communication—they were about whether the people he respected believed he was making the right choice. As an adult, that changed. The conversation turns toward relationships, where Gissell and Charleston discuss whether partners owe each other explanations for major decisions, and why communication matters when a choice affects the life two people are building together. They also challenge the idea that “I don’t owe anybody an explanation” is always healthy. Sometimes an explanation is not about permission at all. Sometimes it is about accountability, respect, trust, and alignment. Charleston brings his leadership experience into the conversation, explaining why certain workplace decisions require approval and accountability, while Gissell reconsiders her own answer when they talk about decisions that affect children, finances, and the household. The episode gets more personal as both reflect on the people whose approval shaped them growing up, the decisions they no longer feel responsible for defending, and what it means to finally make choices based on who they are today rather than who someone else expected them to become. Because everybody does not have to understand your decision for it to be the right decision for you. But growing into your own life also means learning the difference between: “I want you to understand me.” and “I need you to approve of me.” In This Episode Why we feel the need to explain our decisions The difference between communication and seeking approval How childhood shapes whose opinion matters to us Whether partners owe each other explanations Dating casually vs. building a life with someone Why accountability is different from asking permission When “I don’t owe anybody an explanation” goes too far Making decisions that affect children, finances, and relationships Charleston’s experience carrying his grandfather’s guidance into adulthood Learning to make decisions for yourself What Gissell and Charleston have stopped explaining Why personal growth does not require everyone else’s understanding Today’s Patio Question When did explaining yourself become asking for permission? And before you go: What decision would you stop defending if you finally accepted that everybody doesn’t have to understand it? About Patio Talks Patio Talks is a weekly conversation hosted by Gissell and Charleston , where every episode begins with one meaningful question. Together, they explore real-life experiences, relationships, leadership, identity, healing, purpose, and personal growth through honest conversations that invite listeners to think differently about their own lives. Because sometimes the right question changes everything. Support Patio Talks ☕ If Patio Talks has made you think, reflect, laugh, or see something in your own life differently, you can support the show through Buy Me a Coffee. https://buymeacoffee.com/patiotalks (https://buymeacoffee.com/patiotalks) Disclaimer The views and experiences shared on Patio Talks are based on our personal lives, observations, and opinions. We are not licensed therapists, counselors, medical professionals, or legal advisors. Nothing shared in this episode should be considered professional advice. Our goal is simply to share conversations, experiences, and perspectives that invite reflection. Keywords explaining yourself, seeking approval, people pleasing, asking permission, communication in relationships, relationship communication, accountability, trust, family expectations, parental approval, self-confidence, personal growth, decision making, boundaries, self-worth, adulthood, relationships, leadership, living authentically, Patio Talks Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/patio-talks/donations (https://redcircle.com/patio-talks/donations)

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YouTube views

3,075

Score snapshot 15 Sept 2025

Apple Podcasts (US)

5.0 / 5

1 ratings

Podcast Authority Score: 23 / 100

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Social presence

0

YouTube

65

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0