Pocketbook Conversations is the money management and financial coaching podcast for 6 and 7-figure earning Black women who want to pay off debt, build wealth, and change how they relate to money for good.
Hosted by Tiyana King, Financial Strategist and Money Manager, this show goes past the budgeting tips and financial hacks to the emotional weight, family dynamics, survival patterns, and internalized beliefs that keep Black women stuck in financial stress even when they're making good money.
We'll answer questions like:
- Why am I broke even though I make good money?
- How do I pay off credit card debt when I keep using the cards?
- How do I improve my credit score fast?
- How do I stop overspending?
- Why do I feel anxious every time I check my bank account?
- How do I stop living paycheck to paycheck on a high income?
- What's the difference between a financial coach and a financial advisor?
- How do I heal my relationship with money?
With over 12 years in finance and banking and clients who have collectively eliminated over $1.3 million in debt, Tiyana brings both professional expertise and lived experience to every episode.
If you're ready to change how you relate to money for good, hit follow and join me every Wednesday. Pour up, settle in, and join the conversation.
Book your consultation to build a personalized plan to pay off debt, improve your credit, and build the kind of financial life you actually want.
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BONUS: How To Regulate Your Nervous System Once You Are Out Of Debt
Episode Summary
Getting out of debt is the milestone. But staying regulated once you get there is the real work.
In this bonus episode, Tiyana shares the practical steps she gives her clients to maintain the financial peace they worked so hard to build. Because the habits that got you out of debt are not always the same habits that keep your nervous system calm on the other side of it.
It starts with a daily money plan. Knowing exactly how you intend to spend before the day starts so your money has direction and your mind has clarity. No more swiping and figuring it out later. Intentional spending becomes the new normal.
Your credit cards stay open. In this episode Tiyana breaks down why closing them is one of the most common mistakes women make after paying them off and how to use them strategically to your benefit instead of letting them become a source of fear all over again.
The therapy does not stop either. Continuing to meet with your therapist as you step into this new financial identity is how you protect the progress you made. Your money confidence is still being built and it needs consistent support to grow.
And it starts in your mind every single day. Daily money affirmations and positive self talk around your finances are not just feel good practices. They are how you retrain the thoughts that kept you stuck and replace them with ones that reflect who you are becoming.
You did the hard part. This episode is about making sure it sticks.
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26 Aug 2026
13. What Happens To Your Nervous System After Getting Out Of Debt
Episode Summary
Something shifts when the debt is gone. And it goes way deeper than your bank account.
In this episode, Tiyana talks about what actually happens to your mind, your body, and your day to day life when you finally get to the other side of debt. Because the transformation is not just financial. It is deeply personal.
Imagine standing at checkout and seeing the total without flinching. No panic. No mental math. No holding your breath while the card processes. Just swiping and moving on with your day. That is what financial peace actually feels like in your body.
It shows up in other ways too. The guilt that used to follow every self care purchase, every trip, every decision to do something just for yourself starts to quiet down. You stop feeling like you have to justify taking care of yourself because you know your money is handled.
And when life does what life does, because the ebbs and flows never fully stop, they no longer send you into a spiral. An unexpected expense is just an expense. A slow month is just a slow month. The ground beneath you feels solid in a way it never did before.
That is peace of mind. And in this episode Tiyana breaks down what it looks like when her clients finally reach it and why that peace is exactly what every woman who walks through the doors of The RJ Firm is working toward.
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19 Aug 2026
12. What Debt Does To Your Nervous System
Episode Summary
The stress of carrying debt goes way deeper than your bank account.
In this episode, Tiyana breaks down what carrying debt actually does to your nervous system and why so many high earning Black women feel exhausted, overwhelmed, and barely able to keep up with daily life even when nothing has technically gone wrong.
When debt becomes a constant background stressor it pushes you into survival mode. And when survival mode becomes your norm, your body stops being able to tell the difference between a real emergency and a bill notification. Everything feels urgent. Everything feels like the end of the world. Fight or flight becomes your default setting and it starts showing up everywhere.
The burnout that follows is real. The inability to clean your space, work out, cook a meal, show up fully at work, or be present in your relationships is not laziness. It is what happens when your nervous system has been running on high alert for too long.
So can it be fixed? Yes. In this episode Tiyana walks through exactly how the firm steps in to solve it. Taking the financial tasks completely off your plate so your mind finally has space to breathe. Working alongside your therapist to help your nervous system re-regulate as your financial picture changes. And keeping you informed every step of the way with a clear strategy so you are never left wondering what is happening with your money.
You were not built to carry this alone. And you do not have to anymore.
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12 Aug 2026
11. You Have to Heal Your Finances in Order to Heal Your Nervous System
Episode Summary
You cannot calm what you are still avoiding.
In this episode, Tiyana gets honest about the connection between your finances and your nervous system and why one cannot truly heal without the other. Avoiding your bank account, ignoring your spending, and putting off the hard financial conversations are not just bad money habits. They are keeping your body in a constant state of stress and anxiety that follows you everywhere.
This episode is about what it actually takes to break that cycle. Facing what you have been avoiding instead of letting it quietly drain your peace. Being present with your spending every single day so money stops feeling like something that is happening to you. Building a real debt payoff plan so the weight of what you owe stops living in your chest.
But the financial work is only part of it. Because as your money heals, you change as a woman. The version of you that was surviving her finances and the version of you that is directing them are not the same person. Growth requires you to let go of who you have been with money and step into who you are becoming.
And underneath all of it, there is usually a source. A childhood experience. A money story you inherited. A version of financial trauma that has been quietly running the show. That is where the real work begins, and it is why therapy is not optional in this process.
If your finances have been a source of stress, anxiety, or shame, this episode is your permission to finally face it and start healing from the inside out.
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5 Aug 2026
10. Everything You Want Is On The Other Side Of Healing Your Finances
Episode Summary
Before the budget. Before the debt payoff. Before the savings goal. There is something that has to happen first.
In this episode, Tiyana gets to the root of what actually keeps high earning Black women stuck financially. Not the income. Not the debt. Not the lack of a plan. It is the unhealed relationship with money that sits underneath all of it.
Because when your nervous system is dysregulated around money, every financial decision comes from a place of fear, avoidance, or reaction. You avoid your bank account. You second guess every purchase. You feel embarrassed about where you are financially even though you are making good money. And no budget in the world can fix that until the healing happens first.
This episode is about what becomes possible when you do the deeper work. When your nervous system finally settles around money. When the anxiety that used to follow every swipe, every bill, every balance check starts to quiet down. When you learn to trust yourself to make sound financial decisions. When the embarrassment lifts and confidence takes its place.
Everything you want financially is possible. But it lives on the other side of healing.
If you have been doing all the right things and still feel stuck, this episode will show you exactly why and what it actually takes to move forward.
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15 Jul 2026
9. White Man Financial Confidence
Episode Summary
What does it actually feel like to not know what day you get paid?
In this episode, Tiyana shares a moment from her time working at Wells Fargo in undergrad that she has never been able to forget. A coworker, genuinely shocked to find out it was payday, had no idea the check had even hit. And in that moment, Tiyana realized something that changed everything: financial stability is not just about the numbers. It is about the confidence that comes with knowing your money is handled.
That coworker was not stressed about the paycheck because he did not have to be. Meanwhile, Tiyana was working three jobs, drowning in credit card debt, and counting down the minutes until that deposit hit.
That contrast is what this episode is about.
Because there is a level of confidence that comes with being financially sound. The kind where you swipe your card without flinching. Where you book a trip in March, pay for it in full, and show up to the airport months later without a single worry about how you are going to cover it when you get back. Where your nervous system is finally calm because money is no longer the thing keeping you up at night.
Tiyana also gets honest about what actually gets in the way for most high earning Black women. It is not the income. It is the absence of money management, the unhealed relationship with spending, and the little girl inside who never got what she needed and is still trying to get it now.
If you are ready to stop surviving your finances and start directing them, this episode will show you exactly what is possible and what it takes to get there.
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1 Jul 2026
8. Your Credit Score Only Matters When You Need to Use It
Episode Summary
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A 750 credit score. That's the number she had in her head. But with a score in the high 500s, collections from a pandemic job loss, and debt that wasn't moving the way she hoped, it felt completely out of reach.
In this episode, Tiyana walks through the story of a client who came in ready to buy a home and refinance her car but felt stuck because her credit score wasn't where it needed to be. The debt wasn't falling fast enough. The negative items felt permanent. And the goal felt further away the harder she tried.
What changed everything wasn't hustling to pay down every balance at once. It was a full analysis of her credit profile, identifying exactly what was hurting her score, separating the active debt from the inactive negative items, and building a plan to eliminate both strategically.
Because your credit score is not something you chase. It is something you build with the right sequence, the right strategy, and a clear understanding of what is actually on your profile and why.
In this episode you will learn why throwing money at debt is not the same as improving your credit, how inactive debt can be just as damaging as active balances, and what a real credit improvement plan actually looks like from start to finish.
If you have a credit score goal and no clear path to get there, this episode will change how you think about it.
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24 Jun 2026
7. From Paycheck to Paycheck to Financially Unbothered
Episode Summary
Her Money Confidence is open for enrollment. Join here: https://therjfirm.com/her-money-confidence
What does it actually look like when a woman stops surviving her paycheck and starts owning her financial life?
In this episode, Tiyana shares four real stories from women inside Her Money Confidence, each one showing a different piece of what financial transformation actually looks like when the right foundation is in place.
A woman who tried budgeting before and it never stuck until she had a system built around her actual life, paid off multiple debts, and stopped dreading the end of the month. A woman who spent months trying to figure out her debt alone before finally asking for help, and then paid off credit card after credit card while carrying money over month to month for the first time in her life. A woman who made saving $10,000 her goal every single year for five years and never hit it until she had the right strategy behind her and did it in six months without a raise or extreme sacrifice. And a woman who came in scared and financially overwhelmed, and left with all of her credit cards paid off, a dream trip taken, and a plan to pay off her home two years early.
Four women. Four different starting points. One process.
If you have been surviving your finances instead of directing them, this episode will show you what is possible on the other side.
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16 Jun 2026
Behind the Rebrand: Why I Renamed My Program
Episode Summary
She built a program to help Black women save money and get out of debt. The results were real and she thought she knew exactly what she had created.
Then the testimonials started coming in.
Nobody led with the savings milestone. Nobody opened with the debt payoff number. They talked about the shame finally leaving. About feeling in control for the first time. About understanding their money instead of being controlled by it.
In this episode, Tiyana walks through what her clients actually said, why their words didn't match the name she had given the program, and what that gap revealed about what was really being built inside 5 Figure Funds all along.
The name was describing a destination. The program was delivering a transformation. Her clients helped her see the difference, and ultimately renamed the program.
Her Money Confidence is open for enrollment now. If this episode gave you something to sit with, the link below is your next step.
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Join the group program, Her Money Confidence, at https://therjfirm.com/her-money-confidence
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3 Jun 2026
Panic Payments: Why Throwing Money at Your Debt Isn't Working
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You made a payment. A big one. And for about five minutes, you felt better—until you realized nothing actually changed.
That's a panic payment. And in this episode, Tiyana breaks down why making random, fear-based payments toward your debt is costing you more than it's helping you.
Through a client story of a woman working hard to improve her credit score while still relying on her cards for everyday expenses, and Tiyana's own experience with panic payments before she understood credit strategy, this episode gets honest about what's really happening when you throw money at debt with no plan behind it.
Panic payments aren't a strategy. And until you have a personalized plan that tells you exactly what you're paying, why you're paying it, and when it will be gone, you'll stay stuck in the same cycle.
If you're ready to stop throwing money at debt and start actually seeing it decrease, this episode is your next step.
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27 May 2026
If You're a Big Spender You Need to Be An Even Bigger Planner
Episode Summary
In this episode, Tiyana tackles a pattern many high earners know too well: spending like the money will always come back because historically, it has. But what starts as confidence in your earning power quietly becomes a cycle of debt, stress, and financial chaos.
Through a client's honest confession and Tiyana's own story of juggling 3-4 jobs in college while drowning in debt, this episode exposes the gap between earning well and managing well.
You'll learn why planning your spending isn't punishment. It's protection. And how building a strategy from day one (yes, even for spontaneous purchases) allows you to pay off debt every month without giving up the things you love.
If you've ever told yourself "I'll pay it off later" and then didn't, this episode is for you.
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21 May 2026
Spiraling and Spending Go Hand in Hand
Episode Summary
In this episode, Tiyana King of The Rosaiah Jamēs Firm talks about how self-trust impacts your relationship with money. She introduces four steps to trust yourself and feel more confident with your money decisions by interrupting the spirals and patterns that cause you to slip into old spending habits.
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13 May 2026
How I Finally Broke The Debt Cycle
Episode Summary
In this episode, Tiyana King of The Rosaiah Jamēs Firm talks about her debt story over the years, how it impacted her mentally and emotionally, and what finally helped her break the cycle. She introduces two frameworks that changed the way she understands and manages her money, and how these same frameworks have transformed her clients' finances.
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4 May 2026
The Money Stories You Learned Growing Up
Welcome to Pocketbook Conversations, a podcast hosted by Tiyana King, a money coach, and dedicated to unloading our pocketbooks—what we've learned, inherited, and internalized about money as Black women. We're starting at the beginning: childhood.
We're reflecting on how our maternal and paternal figures spent, saved, talked about, and used money, because those early experiences quietly shape how we move with money today.
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