Many of us have a messy relationship with conflict. Listen to Sam Ardery read his book Positively Conflicted and learn to fear conflict less and do it better.
When confronted with conflict, our fight or flight response kicks in and we either rush into battle or back away. By defaulting into one of these options, however, we risk damaging ties to people we care about, opening ourselves up to future retaliation or allowing resentments to fester.
Positively Conflicted invites us to re-examine our instinctive and often destructive reactions to conflict. With decades of experience in mediation Sam Ardery doesn't offer advice on how to win every fight, nor does he promise a one-size-fits-all solution to complex issues. Instead, he presents a different perspective - one that enables us to engage with conflict in novel and courageous ways.
Here Sam reads his book Positively Conflicted, each chapter an episode.
Conflict is real for you and for me. These final thoughts on hard questions, myriad answers, and the possibility of wrestling with the tension rather than promising a simple answer where none exists.
Compare your conclusions to mine and send them along as you wish.
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Website: samardery.com (https://samardery.com)
Email: sardery@lawbr.com
Podcast Production Partner: Steve Heatherington of Good Podcasting Works (https://goodpodcasting.works)
Music: A Safe Place by Marco Zannone via Pond5 (https://www.pond5.com/artist/marcozannone) (marcozannone's (https://marcozannone) Artist Page)
31 Dec 2024
Chapter Thirteen - Standing Up For Yourself
Recognizing that you have an arsenal of tools provides the strength to know that standing up for yourself comes in all colors. Walking away and not caring what someone thinks can be standing up for yourself, saying no to someone in authority with a willingness to pay the price is standing up for yourself, having a conversation that terrifies you is a strong response to the uncertainty of engage in conflict. Just staying in the room while others are in conflict is yet another way to stand up for yourself and maybe for others.
The rainbow contains a full spectrum of colors for you to stand up for yourself
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Website: samardery.com (https://samardery.com)
Email: sardery@lawbr.com
Podcast Production Partner: Steve Heatherington of Good Podcasting Works (https://goodpodcasting.works)
Music: A Safe Place by Marco Zannone via Pond5 (https://www.pond5.com/artist/marcozannone) (marcozannone's (https://marcozannone) Artist Page)
26 Dec 2024
Chapter Twelve - Accepting Responsibility
Who among us has not made a mistake and hurt someone else? Even after recognizing it, isn't your mind working overtime to explain why it isn't all your fault?
The story begins creating itself almost from the moment you realize what you did wrong. If you can own your part without minimizing it or talking at all about the fault of another, then you will have a magical power to engage conflict.
Is it risky and does it make you vulnerable? Sure it does. But in chapter 12, you can consider it with eyes wide open. Maybe your vision will change
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Website: samardery.com (https://samardery.com)
Email: sardery@lawbr.com
Podcast Production Partner: Steve Heatherington of Good Podcasting Works (https://goodpodcasting.works)
Music: A Safe Place by Marco Zannone via Pond5 (https://www.pond5.com/artist/marcozannone) (marcozannone's (https://marcozannone) Artist Page)
26 Dec 2024
Chapter Eleven - Radical Listening
When was the last time you listened solely for the purpose of listening? Nearly always, we listen with an agenda to get something we want or avoid losing something we already have. Radical listening is the powerful practice of listening solely for the sake of listening.
When you get agitated or scared, listening leaves the building like a rat running from a fire. This is precisely the uncomfortable moment for you to pause and listen without preparing a response. As a coach once told me, practice makes permanent not perfect. If you want to listen better, then pause and practice differently.
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Website: samardery.com (https://samardery.com)
Email: sardery@lawbr.com
Podcast Production Partner: Steve Heatherington of Good Podcasting Works (https://goodpodcasting.works)
Music: A Safe Place by Marco Zannone via Pond5 (https://www.pond5.com/artist/marcozannone) (marcozannone's (https://marcozannone) Artist Page)
24 Dec 2024
Chapter Ten - Embracing Discomfort
Living life on life's terms is just plain hard. Few things are more compelling than the desire to be comfortable in the United States. The market for pain relievers was estimated to be over $7 billion. This does not take into account illegal use of street and prescription drugs and the resulting addictions. Embracing discomfort is counterintuitive. Commercials and social influencers call you to the fantasy of an easy fix. Reaching for the first bit of relief whether it's food, alcohol, or possibly an unhealthy relationship, compels us. If we are going to address the reality of conflict in our lives, then embracing discomfort long enough to consider its causes and the best responses, is an essential ingredient
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Website: samardery.com (https://samardery.com)
Email: sardery@lawbr.com
Podcast Production Partner: Steve Heatherington of Good Podcasting Works (https://goodpodcasting.works)
Music: A Safe Place by Marco Zannone via Pond5 (https://www.pond5.com/artist/marcozannone) (marcozannone's (https://marcozannone) Artist Page)
24 Dec 2024
Chapter Nine - Engaging With Conflict
Conflict does not request consent. It happens anytime things are going differently than you wish. If you don't identify it, you make yourself a victim rather than a player. It always begins with you, whether you invite it or not. Engaging skillfully under the umbrella of believing that you can be okay under a variety of circumstances gives you the most important control. The control over yourself. You can own and choose rather than hide and react
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Website: samardery.com (https://samardery.com)
Email: sardery@lawbr.com
Podcast Production Partner: Steve Heatherington of Good Podcasting Works (https://goodpodcasting.works)
Music: A Safe Place by Marco Zannone via Pond5 (https://www.pond5.com/artist/marcozannone) (marcozannone's (https://marcozannone) Artist Page)
19 Dec 2024
Chapter Eight - Trust
Author Sam Ardery explores the complex nature of trust, revealing the often unseen ways we rely on it and the risks of unforgiveness and impossible standards.
19 Dec 2024
Chapter Seven - Bias and Stereotype
Author and mediator Sam Ardery explores the insidious nature of bias and stereotype, challenging listeners to recognize and reject their own close-minded thinking.
17 Dec 2024
Chapter Six - Power
Author and lawyer Sam Ardaya Dery explores how wielding power wisely can have a devastating impact, and how being aware of one's own power is key to using it effectively.
17 Dec 2024
Chapter Five - Fear
Bestselling author and lawyer Sard Arya Dery reveals how identifying and confronting fear can lead to courage and forward momentum by recognizing and reframing natural responses like anger or sadness.
12 Dec 2024
Chapter Four - The Justice Gene
Author and lawyer, Sam A. Dery, explores the concept of the justice gene and how it can be leveraged to create connections and avoid harm in relationships.
12 Dec 2024
Chapter Three - The Problem With Circumstance
Author and lawyer Sam Ardery explores how to intentionally choose your path amidst life's circumstances, empowering you to transform expectations into purpose.
10 Dec 2024
Chapter Two - You Versus the World
Host and industry expert, shares the transformative power of pausing in discomfort to choose a thoughtful response, unlocking unimaginable possibilities.
10 Dec 2024
Chapter One - The Storm Inside
Author and mental wellness expert, [Name], explores the internal conflicts that keep us up at night, revealing strategies for calming the storm within and finding inner peace.
10 Dec 2024
Foreword and Introduction
Holly McKiernan and the author share the value of positively conflicted in conflict literature, offering insights on how to fear conflict less and do it better.
9 Dec 2024
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Sam Ardery shares a glimpse into his audiobook Positively Conflicted, exploring the complexities of human nature and the search for meaning in life.
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