Pre Marriage 101

About Pre Marriage 101

Let’s talk about what we forget to till it’s too late. I will talk about questions/topics that we should discuss before marriage.

Publisher

Santos Ortiz Jr

Category

society & culture

Language

en

Explicit

Yes

First episode

8 Mar 2020

Latest episode

12 Jul 2026

Latest episodes

16 episodes in the feed.

1. 

   12 Jul 2026

   The Sovereign Soul Blueprint

   Pre-Marriage 101: The Sovereign Soul Blueprint is a raw, unapologetic deep dive into the invisible perimeter defenses couples must establish before sharing a life. This episode strips away the commercialized fairytale garbage to confront the heavy realities of personal boundaries, privacy versus secrecy, the absolute necessity of physical alone time, and the weight of emotional independence. It delivers a hard truth with zero coddling: if you cannot survive as two whole, independent individuals, your marriage will quickly turn into a high-stress hostage situation. Chapter 1: The Lockdown Before The Lockup The wake-up call. A gritty introduction setting the stage for why attraction and shared interests aren't enough to sustain a lifetime commitment without established boundaries. Chapter 2: The Fine Line Between Privacy and Secrecy The digital reality. A deep dive into the difference between protecting your individual human dignity (privacy) and hiding sketchy, deceptive behavior (secrecy). Chapter 3: The Myth of Two Becoming One Smashing the fairytale. An exposure of toxic enmeshment, explaining why losing your identity kills romance and why maintaining separate hobbies and friendships is non-negotiable. Chapter 4: Personal Space or Mental Suffocation The physical boundary. A practical look at the primal need for physical solitude within a shared home, and why wanting space is a survival mechanism, not a rejection. Chapter 5: The High Cost of Emotional Dependency The internal work. A heavy truth bomb explaining that your spouse is not your personal therapist or a band-aid for childhood trauma, and why you must control your own internal weather. Chapter 6: The Independent Blueprint for Partnership Bringing it all together. A powerful conclusion summarizing the blueprint for a resilient relationship, and challenging couples to have these uncomfortable conversations before walking down the aisle.

2. 

   6 Jul 2026

   The Unapologetic Alliance

   YOUR PHYSICAL BODY IS THE ULTIMATE LIABILITY. You are standing at the edge of the ultimate physical merger. This week we strip away the illusions of sanitized romance and face the cold execution of the somatic contract. We examine the raw physical expectations of your union, the brutal financial costs of biological reproduction, and the life or death legal powers you hand over to your partner when you sign that certificate. This session is an unvarnished, high stakes audit of how physical decay, medical crises, and biological misalignment will destroy your life if you ignore them today. Stop playing house. Face the biological math with total clarity or get ready to watch your alliance crumble under the weight of unspoken frustration. CHAPTER LIST THE UNAPOLOGETIC ALLIANCE THE SEXUAL COMPATIBILITY BASELINE THE PROCREATION AND FERTILITY AUDIT THE MEDICAL POWER OF ATTORNEY CLAUSE THE SYNTHETIC MAINTENANCE AND AGING CONTRACT THE CONVERGENCE OF THE ALLIANCE

3. 

   27 Jun 2026

   The Final Life Contract

   PRE MARRIAGE 101: THE FINAL LIFE CONTRACT You are standing at the absolute edge of the cliff. The pen is in your hand. The government is waiting. Your assets are on the chopping block. This week we strip away the remaining illusions of romance and face the cold execution of the ultimate merger. We examine the legal realities of combining your estates, the non negotiable terms of the exit penalty, and the absolute closing protocols of the sovereign alliance. This final session is a ruthless, unvarnished execution plan. Stop playing house. Sign the contract with total clarity or walk away before you ruin your life. CHAPTER LIST THE POINT OF NO RETURN THE MERGER EXECUTION THE EXIT PENALTY CLAUSE THE SOMATIC DECAY AGGREGATION THE TRIBE EXCLUSION ZONE THE SOVEREIGN DOMAIN THE PARTY OBSESSION THE CONTRACT INTEGRITY

4. 

   15 Jun 2026

   Infidelity and Trust

   TRUST IS THE SOLE CURRENCY OF YOUR LIFE CONTRACT. If you are deleting text threads, hiding financial statements, or keeping old options on standby, you are actively sabotaging your alliance. This week we strip away the sweet talk and face the cold mechanics of betrayal. We examine why secrecy acts as a slow poison in your home, how micro cheating drains your emotional capital, and why a single lie can instantly liquidate a lifetime of shared equity. This session is a raw, unvarnished inventory of your personal transparency. Stop playing games with your future. Do the hard work today or watch your entire alliance burn tomorrow. CHAPTER LIST THE TRANSPARENCY BASELINE THE SECRECY TAX MICRO CHEATING AND BOUNDARIES THE DIGITAL PAPER TRAIL INTIMACY THEFT THE LIQUIDATION PHASE REBUILDING FROM RUIN THE FIDELITY CLAUSE THE CONTRACT INTEGRITY

5. 

   7 Jun 2026

   Financial Reality & Lifetime Assests

   PRE MARRIAGE 101: THE DIVORCE TALK You are standing right on the edge of making the biggest mistake of your entire life, and you know it. This week, we stop the performance and look at the raw reality of why you need to walk away from a bad alliance before the papers are signed. Staying in a dead union because you are scared of social pressure is a form of self-destruction. We look at the cold facts of the exit talk. This is not about saving your feelings. It is about saving your life before you sign a life contract that will strip you of your peace and your capital. Stop playing games and look at the facts of your situation. CHAPTER LIST THE BREAKING POINT THE PRENUPTIAL REALITY COLD TRUTH AND DENIAL THE SUNK COST TRAP THE CONTROL FREAK THE VALUES COLLISION THE BAGGAGE TAX

6. 

   31 May 2026

   Social Circles & Loyalty

   STOP BUILDING YOUR FUTURE ON SOMEONE ELSE'S RULES. Pre Marriage 101 is the raw blueprint for couples at the crossroads of commitment. We strip away the fairy tales to look at the literal facts you must discuss before you sign a marriage contract. Week 7: Social Circles and Loyalty You are out here trying to play both sides of the fence. You want the safety of a real alliance but you still want to act single when the sun goes down. This week we look at your messy friends, your sneaky text logs, and why you keep your ex on a leash. No soft talk. No clinical garbage. Just the raw price you pay when you do not lock down your boundaries. Chapter List THE SOCIAL SHIFT PEER GROUP INFLUENCE THE NIGHTLIFE VOID THE EX COMPLICATIONS THE PLATONIC FALLACY THE ESCAPE HATCH THE SECRET LOGS THE TRIBE BOUNDARIES THE CONTRACT INTEGRITY

7. 

   24 May 2026

   Unresolved Trauma

   STOP BUILDING YOUR FUTURE ON SOMEONE ELSE'S RULES. Pre Marriage 101 is the raw blueprint for couples at the crossroads of commitment. We strip away the fairy tales to look at the literal facts you must discuss before you sign a marriage contract. Episode 5: Unresolved Trauma Your past is a debt that your union will eventually have to pay. This week we face the ghosts in your history that dictate how you fight and how you hide. We look at why projection erodes trust and how refusing clinical help turns your partner into a full time caretaker. This session is a raw inventory of your unhealed wounds. Do the work now or watch your alliance burn later. CHAPTER LIST THE SHADOW INVENTORY THE PROJECTION LOOP THE POSSESSION STORY THE COST OF REFUSAL THE IDENTITY DEBT THE TRAUMA AUDIT THE ALLIANCE FACT

8. 

   17 May 2026

   Family Bounderies

   STOP BUILDING YOUR FUTURE ON SOMEONE ELSE'S RULES. Pre Marriage 101 is the raw blueprint for couples at the crossroads of commitment. We strip away the fairy tales to look at the literal facts you must discuss before you sign a marriage contract. Episode 4: FAMILY BOUNDARIES This session is an inspection of the family dynamics you are about to sign into. You think you are marrying one person, but you are actually dealing with an entire tribe. We face the truths about enmeshment and the financial leashes your parents use to maintain control. This is the time to build a wall around your new life so you can finally be a spouse instead of a child. Stand on stone before you sign that paper. CHAPTER LIST THE PERIMETER FENCE THE CUT UMBILICAL CORD THE SIBLING SABOTEURS THE TRAP OF BLOOD MONEY THE STRATEGY OF TRADITION THE BOUNDARY AUDIT THE PRIZE OF STONE

9. 

   10 May 2026

   Addictions & Secrecy

   You face the hard facts about substances and gambling habits that drain your shared future. We also look at the solo release cycle where you use your own body to build a wall against your spouse. This is a gritty audit of your secret life designed to help you stand on solid ground before you sign a contract.

10. 

    3 May 2026

    Sexual Realities

    This episode strips away the fake modesty to look at the high-voltage wiring of your relationship: sex. You will face the biological math of the hunger gap, comparing how often you expect intimacy versus your partner's literal capacity. I explain how digital parasites like pornography eat your real connection and turn you into hollow roommates. You get a blueprint for machine maintenance, covering the hard truths about aging, medical issues, and physical effort. The session ends with a final inspection of your sexual compatibility so you do not end up married and miserable for forty years. Key Chapters: The Physical Blueprint: Why sex is the high-voltage wire that can burn your house down. The Hunger Gap: Literal math on frequency and the cost of the "two hundred instance" deficit. The Digital Parasite: How porn and adult sites eat the intimacy in your bed. Machine Maintenance: Facing the facts of aging and physical health before you sign a life contract. The Final Inspection: How to ask the hard questions tonight without getting defensive.

11. 

    28 Apr 2026

    Financial Infidelity

    THE HIDDEN LEDGER Secrets, Debt, and the Price of Silence Most people think cheating involves a hotel room and a second phone. In reality, it often starts with a secret credit card, a hidden bank account, or a "small" lie about the price of a new purchase. The Hidden Ledger strips away the shame to examine why we lie about money and how those secrets dismantle our most intimate relationships. We provide a raw, unfiltered look at the cost of financial betrayal. This podcast explores the psychology of money hoarding, the fallout of secret gambling, and the long road to rebuilding trust when the damage is measured in dollars. Whether you are the one hiding the receipts or the one discovering the debt, we offer direct conversations and practical strategies to stop the bleeding and find a way back to transparency.

12. 

    4 Jun 2021

    Why Do You Want to Marry Me?

    This question needs to be asked before marriage so that you both have a clear understanding on why you both want to be with each other. This should give you and your partner clear knowledge on the real reason, and it may not be why you think.

13. 

    17 Jan 2021

    Sex

    This weeks episode we discuss the popular subject of sex. This isn't the conversation about what you want to do to one another, but what should be talked about beforehand; the uncomfortable stuff. The stuff we avoid because of our pride or because its so taboo to talk about. This week I'm venturing into new territory with the inclusion of the Clubhouse app. This gives me a live audience and numerous guests; making my podcast more interactive than most. Hope you enjoy the changes and one day join in on my Clubhouse room, PreMarriage_101.

14. 

    22 Mar 2020

    Necessary Space

    Are you the type to want to be up under your spouse? Are you the type that needs ample room? When you’re in you emotions, do you need ppl around for support or do you want to be alone? When angry/sad, do you want to approach the situation head on or do you need some time alone to cool off/gather your thoughts? Just on a daily basis, do you like to be alone for some time? Do you need that alone time periodically? In all these scenario, you or they may need some or a lot of space. Some ppl don’t require any space. And, there are those who require someone to be there. Do you know enough about yourself to answer these? Can you handle someone who is the opposite? Can you come to a medium, find a middle ground that benefits both of you? Or, are your needs non negotiable, there’s no way around them, you need some one there or that space? This is very important because there are time we need to recharge or heal. Everyone’s process is different. Some need someone there to help pick up the pieces or comfort them to heal. Some ppl need that alone time. If you aren’t given this, you can’t be mentally healthy. And this will destroy a relationship.

15. 

    14 Mar 2020

    Chores & Responsibilities

    We have two options here. The first one is easy. We have certain things that men and women did from a role specific society. Men took care of the finances and those "manly" chores around the house. Women took care of everything else including all domestic chores and caring for the children. the second option is based on the "new" rules that have blurred the lines between gender roles. So today's questions are, depending are which you follow, what would you do and what do you refuse to do? What chores will you share? And, what is up in the air depending on who's around when it needs to be done?

16. 

    8 Mar 2020

    Co-parenting and Discipline

    A lot of us come into relationships with children. Some of them live with us, some don't. All our circumstances are different concerning this. Some of us have great co-parent, some have none. But, some of us have the co-parent from hell! Saying this, we have different relationship with the other parent and understandings when it comes to new partners entering our lives. So, my question is, and I know it will vary considerably... How do we approach discipline between your partner, your child, and your co-parent?

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