About Queerly Having Issues - a Queer Podcast on Trauma, Mental Health, Healing and Inner Peace.
A queer-led podcast (https://queerlyhavingissues.com/)unpacking LGBTQ+ identity, mental health, and healing from religious trauma — hosted by Jafeth Jacobs. Grounded in lived experience and academic research, this show explores the real, complex issues queer people face every day. From deconstructing faith and surviving toxic theology to navigating relationships, chosen family, shame, recovery, and personal growth — no topic is off-limits.
Whether you're healing from fundamentalism, exploring your queer identity, or simply looking for validation and community, this podcast offers honest conversations, emotional support, and a safe space to feel seen.
If you’re LGBTQ+ and searching for solidarity, self-acceptance, and meaning, this podcast is for you.
Reclaiming the Self: Queer Trauma, Religious Exit, and Sexual Freedom
Drawing on my master’s research, which led to a forthcoming academic book chapter this year, this episode explores the journeys of queer individuals leaving evangelical communities. It looks at how religious trauma shapes their experiences. Leaving a religion which is often labeled as ‘apostasy,’ is far more than a simple decision. It’s a deeply personal process, full of identity struggles, emotional challenges, and social disruption. At the same time, I will share bits of my own story, reflecting on what it was like to leave religion and find my voice.
This episode grew out of a guest lecture I gave at VU Amsterdam and is for anyone who is interested in the personal, psychological, and empowering journey of a religious exit.
I hope this episode will help anyone going through a deconversion journey feel seen, understood, and less alone.
Special thanks to Srdjan Sremac and Lenneke Post for the invitation to give this lecture.
References:
Jafeth Jacobs - Brokenhearted (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SOKO4zkl6O4)
11 Feb 2025
Queer-Friendly Buddhism? An Exploration
In this episode, I dive into the concept of "queer-friendly" Buddhism, exploring how it’s often portrayed in the West versus the reality of queer identities in Buddhist countries. Join me as I reflect on my own meditation journey, while simultaneously unpacking the so-called "Thai Paradox"—the contrast between Thailand’s reputation as a queer-friendly destination and the complexities queer people face in their everyday lives.
Links I've mentioned within this episode:
Listen to my new single 'P.S. I Love You.' (https://open.spotify.com/track/0hFWseS3NYTB1wmdK6Db91?si=44bde0d96bd34398)
Episode 'Religious Trauma In a Nutshell.' (https://open.spotify.com/episode/53rdDnInMLBg2MVDhndhjS?si=b9eb0ae28b254f23)
9 Apr 2024
My Gay Dating Issues and a Little Bit of Homonationalism
Often people ask me why I am still single, or sometimes I ask myself the same question. In this episode, I'll delve into the complexities of modern dating, aiming to uncover shared experiences and hopefully find some common ground. I will also briefly address the current political situation in the Netherlands and discuss the concept of homonationalism, as I believe it is important for our community to be aware of this.
References in this episode:
Todd Baratz: YourDiagnonsense (https://www.instagram.com/yourdiagnonsense/)
Alan Downs: The Velvet Rage (https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0738215678/ref=as_li_ss_tl?ie=UTF8&linkCode=sl1&tag=downsphd-20&linkId=b55d2cd75dbdbb167cee3b833f1984d6)
Ask me anything: QueerlyHavingIssues (Instagram.com/queerlyhavingissues)
9 Apr 2024
My Dating Issues and a Little Bit of Homonationalism
Often people ask me why I am still single, or sometimes I ask myself the same question. In this episode, I'll delve into the complexities of modern dating, aiming to uncover shared experiences and hopefully find some common ground. I will also briefly address the current political situation in the Netherlands and discuss the concept of homonationalism, as I believe it is important for our community to be aware of this.
References in this episode:
Todd Baratz: YourDiagnonsense (https://www.instagram.com/yourdiagnonsense/)
Alan Downs: The Velvet Rage (https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0738215678/ref=as_li_ss_tl?ie=UTF8&linkCode=sl1&tag=downsphd-20&linkId=b55d2cd75dbdbb167cee3b833f1984d6)
Ask me anything: QueerlyHavingIssues (instagram.com/queerlyhavingissues)
17 Oct 2023
My First Heartbreak and The Power Of Chosen Family
Within this episode I will talk about the power that chosen family has for us queers, before I do so I will address my first heartbreak. Heartbreak is a universal experience, however, I realized that for many of us queer individuals our first heartbreak takes place within our family and/or our save environment. Ask me anything: @queerlyhavingissues
17 Oct 2023
My First Queer Heartbreak and The Power Of Chosen Family
Within this episode I will talk about the power that chosen family has for us queers, before I do so I will address my first heartbreak. Heartbreak is a universal experience, however, I realized that for many of us queer individuals our first heartbreak takes place within our family and/or our save environment. Ask me anything: @queerlyhavingissues
18 Jul 2023
Queering Jesus, a Healing Journey
This episode is about Queering Jesus, using Queer Theology as a way to heal the broken pieces we might carry inside of us because of toxic religious teachings. With this episode I would like to wrap op the religious issue, in order to make room for other important issues that we deal with as queer people.
References within this episode:
Marcella Althaus-Reid (https://qspirit.net/marcella-althaus-reid-queer-theology/)
Robert Goss (https://lgbtqreligiousarchives.org/profiles/robert-e-shore-goss)
Book on consolation (https://michaelignatieff.ca/books/#On_Consolation)
Ask me anything: Queerly Having Issues (https://www.instagram.com/queerlyhavingissues/)
18 Jul 2023
Queering Jesus: Undoing Religious Trauma and Reclaiming the Body
In this episode of Queerly Having Issues, we will dives deep into the intersection of religious trauma and queer theology. After growing up in a non-affirming evangelical environment, I will share how reframing the Christian narrative through a queer lens has been a powerful part of my healing journey. I will introduce the basics of queer theology and queer Christology, discuss key thinkers like Marcella Althaus-Reed and Robert Goss, and reflects on how reimagining Jesus as a radical, justice-seeking outsider can offer hope and healing for queer individuals. Whether you're deconstructing your faith, recovering from religious trauma, or simply curious about how spirituality and queerness can coexist, this episode offers a thoughtful and empowering perspective.
References within this episode:
Marcella Althaus-Reid (https://qspirit.net/marcella-althaus-reid-queer-theology/)
Robert Goss (https://lgbtqreligiousarchives.org/profiles/robert-e-shore-goss)
Book on consolation (https://michaelignatieff.ca/books/#On_Consolation)
Ask me anything: Queerly Having Issues (https://www.instagram.com/queerlyhavingissues/)
9 May 2023
It’s a Family Affair: Growing Up Gay and Finding Belonging
In this second episode I will elaborate on my personal journey, in which the theory of Religious Trauma as an individual experience will become clearer. I would also recommend to listen to the previous episode 'Religious Trauma In a Nutshell' (https://linktr.ee/queerlyhavingissues), if you haven't already, in order to make sense this one.
References within this episode:
Movie: Prayers for Bobby (https://www.imdb.com/title/tt1073510/)
James Cohen: Second Adolescence (https://www.instagram.com/secondadolescencepod/)
Todd Baratz: Your Diagnonsense (https://www.instagram.com/yourdiagnonsense/)
Ask me anything: Queerly Having Issues (https://www.instagram.com/queerlyhavingissues/)
9 May 2023
It's a Family Affair
In this second episode I will elaborate on my personal journey, in which the theory of Religious Trauma as an individual experience will become clearer. I would also recommend to listen to the previous episode 'Religious Trauma In a Nutshell' (https://linktr.ee/queerlyhavingissues), if you haven't already, in order to make sense this one.
References within this episode:
Movie: Prayers for Bobby (https://www.imdb.com/title/tt1073510/)
James Cohen: Second Adolescence (https://www.instagram.com/secondadolescencepod/)
Todd Baratz: Your Diagnonsense (https://www.instagram.com/yourdiagnonsense/)
Ask me anything: Queerly Having Issues (https://www.instagram.com/queerlyhavingissues/)
28 Mar 2023
Religious Trauma In a Nutshell
After a short introduction to my new podcast, I will address the theory of Religious Trauma, while connecting it to my own personal experience.
The 'Brokenhearted' song which I wrote for the queer community, because of the high rates of depression and suicidal tendencies within our community, you can find HERE. (https://open.spotify.com/track/4uOAvRu3wmtSG4BaUuKU5x?si=9c79f476428243f0)
Don't hesitate to ask me anything on the GRAM (https://www.instagram.com/queerlyhavingissues/)
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