Questions In Your 20s

About Questions In Your 20s

There are so many questions about being in our 20s. How do we find our purpose and direction at home, with our friends, and at work? Am I experiencing a Quarter-Life Crisis? Do we find our work meaningful? What am I looking for in my partner? Are my friendships serving my emotional needs? What can I do to better look after myself?Join me and let's talk about our thinking patterns, meaningful hobbies, and all the fun milestones of our 20s.

Publisher

Caro

Category

society & culture

Language

en

Explicit

No

First episode

6 May 2023

Latest episode

5 Apr 2026

Latest episodes

19 episodes in the feed.

1. 

   5 Apr 2026

   AITA for peeing standing up in a traffic jam?

   It's time for AITA part 2. This week, we look at AITA for: Fixing my daughter’s car when her boyfriend said he’d handle it? Peeing standing up in a traffic jam? Forcing the teacher to change my kid’s grade? Telling my wife to get a job? Laughing at my husband when we got the paternity test results? Enjoy!

2. 

   9 Mar 2026

   My successful matchmaking story! and dating updates

   Tune in to tonight's bedtime story as I debrief my weekend at the spa, and as a third wheel for a couple I put together.

3. 

   7 Feb 2026

   Conversation with a world record-holding expedition leader: Martyn Williams

   Join my conversation with Martyn Williams, a world record-holding expedition leader who led expeditions to Everest, North Pole, and South Pole. He's taught meditation and enlightenment to monks in India, and had so many stories to share. More about Martyn Williams: Web:  www.enlighteningadventures.com (http://www.enlighteningadventures.com/) Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Martyn.Williams.bliss (https://www.facebook.com/Martyn.Williams.bliss)https://www.facebook.com/EnlighteningAdventures (https://www.facebook.com/EnlighteningAdventures) Blog: http://insightsfromtheedge.wordpress.com (http://insightsfromtheedge.wordpress.com/) YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Tdejd72MJ1g (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Tdejd72MJ1g) Book: https://www.amazon.com.au/stores/author/B06XZFSQ89 (https://www.amazon.com.au/stores/author/B06XZFSQ89)

4. 

   25 Nov 2025

   Vogue: is having a boyfriend embarrassing now?

   Vogue's recent article 'Is Having a Boyfriend Embarrassing Now?' exploded on social media last month. This week, we discuss changing expectations women have for boyfriends in a world learning to de-centre men.

5. 

   19 Nov 2025

   Bedtime story: first dates!

   I've re-entered the dating world yay! Debrief some recent first dates with me. In this episode, I unpack: - Awkward things that happened - Fun things I like to ask the other person - My feelings about going back to dating

6. 

   30 Aug 2025

   Break Ups

   I've been experiencing a lot of challenges lately post-breakup, so join me as I yap about the things that I've learnt over the last few months!

7. 

   15 Mar 2025

   "Oxford study": does it even exist?

   Join me for a conversation about "Oxford Study" comments, where the stereotypes against Asian men and women come from, the role of media in perpetuating these harmful stereotypes against women in relationships with white men, the role asian men in redirecting their hate towards asian women in these relationships, and the future moving forward :) Articles I used in my research: Dazed Digital (2024) ‘The Oxford study is bullshit: Asian women, white men’, Dazed Digital. Available at: https://www.dazeddigital.com/life-culture/article/66017/1/the-oxford-study-is-bullshit-asian-women-white-men (https://www.dazeddigital.com/life-culture/article/66017/1/the-oxford-study-is-bullshit-asian-women-white-men) (Accessed: 15 March 2025). The Guardian (2024) ‘Asian women dating white men: Fake Oxford study’, The Guardian, 12 June. Available at: https://www.theguardian.com/world/article/2024/jun/12/asian-women-dating-white-men-fake-oxford-study (https://www.theguardian.com/world/article/2024/jun/12/asian-women-dating-white-men-fake-oxford-study) (Accessed: 15 March 2025). JoySauce (2024) ‘Enough with the Oxford study’, JoySauce. Available at: https://joysauce.com/enough-with-the-oxford-study/ (https://joysauce.com/enough-with-the-oxford-study/) (Accessed: 15 March 2025). Murali Balaji, Tina Worawongs, The New Suzie Wong: Normative Assumptions of White Male and Asian Female Relationships, Communication, Culture and Critique, Volume 3, Issue 2, June 2010, Pages 224–241, https://doi.org/10.1111/j.1753-9137.2010.01068.x (https://doi.org/10.1111/j.1753-9137.2010.01068.x) Pacific Ties (2024) ‘The assumptions, accusations, and animosity of the Oxford study’, Pacific Ties. Available at: https://pacificties.org/the-assumptions-accusations-and-animosity-of-the-oxford-study/ (https://pacificties.org/the-assumptions-accusations-and-animosity-of-the-oxford-study/) (Accessed: 15 March 2025). Peng, R. 2024, Asian women are more than just the “Oxford study” | Identity Unveiled, Carlsbad (Accessed: 15 March 2025).

8. 

   30 May 2024

   Plight of the eldest daughter: Eldest daughter syndrome?

   ‘Being an eldest daughter is like an unpaid internship for the rest of your life.’ It’s a bit dramatic but holds some truth to it, so let’s unpack that together. Today, I want to cast a spotlight on an experience that’s more niche than the adulting experiences I normally talk about, the experience of a first-born daughter. I hope this episode serves some form of solace for my fellow eldest daughters. And for those listening who aren’t, I hope this gives u a better idea of some of the things we experience so you have a deeper appreciation for the older sisters who may be your friends, partners, family members, or your own. References Bologna, C. (2023) Are you ‘parentifying’ your children? here’s what you should know., HuffPost. Available at: https://www.huffpost.com/entry/parentification-parentified-children_l_6536b883e4b0689b3fbd8ac2 (https://www.huffpost.com/entry/parentification-parentified-children_l_6536b883e4b0689b3fbd8ac2) (Accessed: 30 May 2024). Horner, P. et al. (2012) The relationship of birth order and gender with academic standing and substance use among youth in Latin America, Journal of individual psychology (1998). Available at: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3375868/ (https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3375868/) (Accessed: 30 May 2024). Jacobson, R. (2024) Firstborn girls most likely to succeed, Scientific American. Available at: https://www.scientificamerican.com/blog/observations/first-born-girls-most-likely-to-succeed/ (https://www.scientificamerican.com/blog/observations/first-born-girls-most-likely-to-succeed/) (Accessed: 30 May 2024). Morgan, M. (2023) Are you okay or are you an eldest daughter?, What Is Eldest Daughter Syndrome & How Do I Heal? Available at: https://www.refinery29.com/en-au/eldest-daughter-syndrome-oldest-sibling-family-responsibilities (https://www.refinery29.com/en-au/eldest-daughter-syndrome-oldest-sibling-family-responsibilities) (Accessed: 30 May 2024). Valenzuela, D. (2022) Have you been a victim of eldest daughter syndrome?, Katie Couric Media. Available at: https://katiecouric.com/lifestyle/parenting/eldest-daughter-syndrome-parentification/ (https://katiecouric.com/lifestyle/parenting/eldest-daughter-syndrome-parentification/) (Accessed: 30 May 2024). Yang Hu Professor (2023) What is ‘eldest daughter syndrome’ and how can we fix it?, The Conversation. Available at: https://theconversation.com/what-is-eldest-daughter-syndrome-and-how-can-we-fix-it-202016 (https://theconversation.com/what-is-eldest-daughter-syndrome-and-how-can-we-fix-it-202016) (Accessed: 30 May 2024).

9. 

   8 Feb 2024

   Love talk: the bar should not be on the floor

   A few months ago, I re-entered a stage of my life that feels so familiar, yet so foreign: the talking stage. While the core themes of joy, excitement, adversity, and heartache of having a crush are universal and have stayed the same, I’ve noticed so many differences as a woman in her 20s. This week we dive into maintaining high standards for the people you choose to spend time with, why we stay in relationships that don’t serve us, and the most gate kept pages of my journal (!!!). Further reading: The Peculiar Longevity of Things Not So Bad https://scholar.harvard.edu/files/danielgilbert/files/peculiarlongevity.pdf

10. 

    16 Dec 2023

    Physical touch and long distance relationships: convos w/ friends

    Physical touch is a very important part of feeling connected with another person. Biologically, there are nerve fibres on our skin that sense touch which are associated with feeling physically and emotionally connected with another person. Our ability to touch the people we love, both sexually and non-sexually, can have a big impact on the depth that we feel love for another person as well as how loved we feel by others. It depends on our love language, it can be one of the most important parts of a relationship for people whose love language is physical touch, but can be of little importance for people who are more receptive to love in the forms of acts of service, quality time, thoughtful gifts, or words of affirmation. These 2 aspects of human connection, physical touch and navigating the different love languages of people in a relationship, can change when people enter long distance relationships. How do we adapt the ways we show our love when we cannot physically be with our partner? When is a long distance relationship not worth the longing? References: Jakubiak, B K, & Feeney, B C. (2019). Interpersonal touch as a resource to facilitate positive personal and relational outcomes during stress discussions. Journal of Social and Personal Relationships, 36(9), 2918–2936. doi:10.1177/0265407518804666 (https://doi.org/10.1177/0265407518804666) Lee, J E, & Cichy, K E. (2020). Complex role of touch in social relationships for older adults’ cardiovascular disease risk. Research on Aging, 42(7-8), 208–216. doi:10.1177/0164027520915793 (https://doi.org/10.1177/0164027520915793) Wasling, H.B. (2014). Fight off loneliness with touch | Helena Backlund Wasling | TEDxGöteborg [Video]. Youtube. URL https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=omIWt3xq648 (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=omIWt3xq648)

11. 

    4 Dec 2023

    Feminism in the digital space: ‘Girl Dinner’

    Part 1: The ‘girl dinner’ trend on tiktok has had beautiful yet unintended consequences of reclaiming the word ‘girl’ in a way that empowers women and redefines the domestic expectations of labour for women. Part 2: When we cast rigid boundaries between our personal and professional lives, we may be compromising the psychological safety of our workplace or uni environment Part 3: The weaknesses of having a type A personality can become our strengths, although it requires adjustments to the ways in which and with whom we spend our time References Chamlou, N. and Temple, J. (2023) Type A personality: Common traits and lifestyle tips. Available at: https://www.forbes.com/health/mind/type-a-personality-traits/ (https://www.forbes.com/health/mind/type-a-personality-traits/) (Accessed: 03 December 2023). Gallo, A. (2023) What is psychological safety?, Harvard Business Review. Available at: https://hbr.org/2023/02/what-is-psychological-safety (https://hbr.org/2023/02/what-is-psychological-safety) (Accessed: 03 December 2023). Greene, A. and Silva, K. (2016) ‘#WordsAtWork: David Morrison wants Australians to stop saying gender-based terms like “guys”’, ABC News, 1 June. Ivana, F. (2021) ‘Time anxiety: what it is and how you can deal with it’, Clockify, 23 December. Available at: https://clockify.me/blog/managing-time/time-anxiety/ (https://clockify.me/blog/managing-time/time-anxiety/) (Accessed: 03 December 2023).

12. 

    12 Nov 2023

    Everything I know about love

    "Love is a quiet, reassuring, relaxing, pottering, pedantic, harmonious hum of a thing; something you can easily forget is there, even though its palms are outstretched beneath you in case you fall.” - Dolly Alderton, ‘Everything I Know About Love’ Tune in and let’s appreciate some of the book’s most powerful quotes together, and reflect on how they relate to what my female friendships have taught me, my appreciations for my male friendships, and the journey of finding peace with myself in my 20s.

13. 

    16 Oct 2023

    Rating people’s flops: AITA

    are you a judgemental person? then you’re going to love this episode. Let’s discuss some AITA cases and weigh in on who was in the right or wrong, for fun. AITA if I said I had a problem with my fiancée adding a ring enhancer to the engagement ring I just gave her? AITA for wearing clothes that wouldn't fit my friend AITA because I reacted badly when my husband went for lunch with a coworker

14. 

    15 Oct 2023

    Finding peace with fomo

    our fear of missing out keeps us on our toes. it’s what leads us to compare ourselves with others. it’s not limited to the fun events our friends are going to, but we can compared ourselves to the people around us in all aspects of life: romantic relationships, friendships, professional success, and arguably the most mentally taxing, the degrees to which other people are content with their lives, and how that compares to the way we view our own achievements and goals. join me this week to unpack 3 types of fomo: academic, social, and life milestones.

15. 

    14 Sept 2023

    Gut instincts: When should you trust yourself?

    The role of our gut instinct as a decision-making tool has been an interesting point for Greek philosophers for centuries. But in that case, why does it feel like it’s been left unsolved? Feeling our gut instinct is a universal human experience that doesn’t seem to be a concept that’s heavily understood. Why? Is it because it’s so irrational, we can’t do scientific studies on it? Is it because it’s so personal, there’s no way we can objectify it? The great thing about our gut instinct is that it’s really fast- it doesn’t need time for us to sit down and write a pros and cons list. But the reality of that is that we compromise accuracy for a quick decision.

16. 

    7 Aug 2023

    The Grass is Greener Syndrome: Crushing on people we can’t have

    Have you ever had a crush on someone who didn’t like you back? But when they reciprocate that crush, you lose interest immediately? Why does it happen? What does it mean? And are we the problem? Join me and dive into what our crushes tell us about our own emotional unavailability

17. 

    14 Jul 2023

    To be friends or not to be friends? High school vs. Adult

    What happens when we lose friends from high school? How do I adjust my social skills for friendships in the working world? Do enough people know that I do pilates? Quality friendships are fulfilling and essential for us to meet our social and emotional needs. Join me and let's unpack the most interesting and confusing parts about making friends in our 20s.

18. 

    17 May 2023

    Why are horrifying true crime stories interesting?

    True crime: is a turbulent upbringing associated with an increased risk of becoming a serial killer? If so, is it reversible? How do we react at the end of a cold case when no one is brought to justice? Join me and explore how true crime allows us to engage with the darkest parts of humanity, our natural desire for problem solving, and the impact it has on our own psyche.

19. 

    6 May 2023

    Why is our generation drinking less?

    What's happening to the decreasing culture of excessive drinking? What caused it? Join me as I unpack the role of social media in our shift away from alcohol, our generation as the 'no-stigma generation,' and arguably most importantly, my weekly update.

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