What Happened to You? Understanding ACEs, Trauma, and the Path to Healing
In this episode, I sit down with Dr. E’Toyare “Torie” McDonald-Williams—educator, advocate, and founder of Be VicTORIEus Educational Services—for a powerful conversation about trauma, healing, and personal transformation.
Together, we explore the Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs) assessment and why it is much more than a score. Dr. Torie shares how understanding our ACEs can help us connect present-day behaviors, leadership styles, and relationship patterns to experiences from our past. We discuss the importance of trauma awareness, healing, and the inner work required to break cycles of hurt that often manifest as bullying, conflict, and other harmful behaviors.
This conversation challenges us to move beyond asking, “What’s wrong with people?” and instead ask, “What happened to them?” As we continue to evolve as individuals, leaders, and communities, healing our own wounds may be one of the most important steps toward creating a more compassionate and emotionally healthy world.
Dr. Torie: https://www.bevictorieus.com/IG: @dr.victorieus / https://www.instagram.com/dr.victorieus/CDC: https:// www.cdc.gov/aces/about/index.html
2 May 2026
Why Going No Contact is Much More than Abuse, Narcissism and a Toxic Environment
The world as we know it is splitting. We are literally witnessing an awakening taking place right before our eyes, and because of it, many things are shifting. One, in particular, is relationships, especially the ones with parents. Family estrangement is growing and is leaving a whole society in a frenzy. According to The New Yorker, “38 percent of Americans have gone no contact with their parents.”1 (https://raphaellasilva.substack.com/p/why-going-no-contact-is-much-more#footnote-1)
Their reasoning?
Younger generations, especially Gen Z and Millennials, increasingly view going no contact as a form of self-preservation.
Join me as I describe this from a spiritual outlook.
IG: @raphasaiditherepodcast / @imraphaellasilva
23 Apr 2026
Things that we don't know that we don't know - Daily Weekday Tidbit
Have you ever wondered what might be in your blind spot? On this episode, I talk about a way to discover how to discover what that is.
IG: @imraphaella
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