A single, Black Christian trying to figure it out. This podcast is full of candid thoughts and feelings about life, love & relationships, God & church, adulting, the workplace, and everything in between.
Leadership wasn't part of the original plan, but sometimes the roles that shape us most are the ones we never saw coming.
In this episode, my friend Shawn shares his accidental leadership story and the lessons he's learned along the way. We talk about navigating imposter syndrome, the difference between leading from scars instead of wounds, and what to do when the responsibility you're carrying becomes bigger than you expected. Shawn also unpacks how understanding your strengths, knowing your limits, and staying connected to your "why" can help you lead with confidence and authenticity.
Whether you have a leadership title or you're simply influencing the people around you, this conversation is full of practical wisdom and encouragement for anyone trying to lead well without losing themselves in the process.
00:00 Intro
02:33 Shawn’s unlikely leadership origin story
12:45 Imposter syndrome and how to fight against it
23:19 Leading from scars vs wounds
25:15 When leading becomes more than you expected
29:27 Using your strengths
32:15 Defining success
35:30 Knowing your limits
36:41 Knowing your why
42:42 What makes a good leader
49:17 Closing
Thanks for listening! Leave me a review if you want—new episodes on Wednesdays at 6 am CT.
Questions, comments, concerns, want to chat? Email realhonestpod@gmail.com.
27 May 2026
Who’s gonna know you like me?
Just be cause we feel like we know someone, doesn't mean they feel like we do. How do we get the context out of our heads and into the conversation?
Today I'm unpacking various things that impact our interpretation of what it means to know someone, including generation gaps as explained by Daniel Moral on Silicon Canals.
00:00 Intro
01:28 Goals Check-In
07:36 What I’m Learning from God rn
12:30 Knowing with Context
24:55 Generational Gaps
38:20 Knowing with New Information
48:39 Hard Conversation of the Week
51:41 What I’m Watching Right Now
Article referenced today: I’m 38 and I noticed last summer that my parents mostly ask about logistics — the drive, the weather, the dogs, the job — and rarely ask how I actually am (https://siliconcanals.com/d-im-38-and-i-noticed-last-summer-that-my-parents-only-ask-about-logistics-the-drive-the-weather-the-dogs-the-job-and-never-about-how-i-actually-am-and-i-realized-id-been-answe/) by Daniel Moran
Thanks for listening! Leave me a review if you want—new episodes on Wednesdays at 6 am CT.
Questions, comments, concerns, want to chat? Email realhonestpod@gmail.com.
20 May 2026
It's just indifference... Part 2, with Cody Beck
It’s been brought to my attention that when I say “I hate small talk, I want to be deep,” some people have interpreted that as “I want to be dark and sad all the time,” which is not at all the case.
So I brought on Cody Beck, one of my best friends, to demonstrate what I find to be a deep and interesting discussion.
We revisit last week’s topic, indifference, along with the first chapter of How to Know a Person by David Brooks, which also explores this topic.
The goal of this conversation is to figure out how we feel about indifference - what does it mean? Is it good? Is it bad? Etc. The point is not for us to arrive at the same conclusion or to agree with each other, but to help each other arrive at a conclusion and understand how we each got to where we land.
00:00 Intro
05:10 Recapping last week’s topic of indifference
11:28 Emotional data points and being known
17:46 Communication and therapy
18:49 Is indifference inherently bad?
23:18 What does indifference actually mean?
29:50 How to Know a Person by David Brooks
42:56 When someone assigns a personality trait you disagree with
57:29 Feeling seen
01:10:31 How new information changes an opinion
Cody Beck is the creator and co-host of American Hauntings Podcast, which is available wherever you listen to podcasts. Learn more here: https://www.codybeck.com/american-hauntings-podcast
Thanks for listening! Leave me a review if you want—new episodes on Wednesdays at 6 am CT.
Questions, comments, concerns, want to chat? Email realhonestpod@gmail.com.
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