Refined & Unhinged

About Refined & Unhinged

A mother-daughter podcast on womanhood, real talk, and the wild ride of self-discovery. From refined reflections to unhinged confessions—this is womanhood, uncensored. Refined & Unhinged is the unapologetically honest podcast that dives deep into the evolving female experience—hosted by mother-daughter duo Jen Dryden Hess and Ali Stricklin. Jen is an empty nester navigating her Third Act with bold curiosity, while Ali is running multiple businesses and raising two daughters in Los Angeles. Together, they unpack the beautifully chaotic journey of being a woman—no topic off-limits, no filter applied. Each week, you’ll hear raw, intergenerational conversations that span personal growth, self-discovery, sexuality, motherhood, mental health, relationships, wellness, career pivots, financial literacy, and society’s messiest expectations. Sometimes it’s deep. Sometimes it’s hilarious. It’s always authentic. What makes Refined & Unhinged special is our commitment to building a community where women’s stories become bridges. Each episode features relatable experiences that remind you you’re not alone in your journey. By sharing both our vulnerabilities and victories, we’re creating more than just a podcast—we’re fostering a movement of connection that extends beyond the airwaves. Whether you’re a 25-year-old questioning everything or a 65-year-old rewriting the rules, this is your space to feel seen, laugh out loud, and connect with women doing the work (imperfectly) at every stage. Expect guest interviews from experts and everyday women alike, generational hot takes, and sofa-side wine fueled chats. The conversations don’t end when the episode does. Join our thriving community of open-minded, open-hearted women who are embracing the mess, the magic, and everything in between. Continue these important discussions, find your tribe, and attend exclusive in-person events through the Refine Social Club—where podcast listeners become real-life connections. Visit www.refinesocial.club to find events in your city and join a community of women supporting women. Refine Social Club Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/refinesocial.club Refined & Unhinged Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/refinedandunhinged Refined & Unhinged Show Notes: https://www.refinesocial.club/podcast

Publisher

Refine Social Club

Category

society & culture

Language

en

Explicit

Yes

First episode

30 Apr 2025

Latest episode

6 Oct 2026

Latest episodes

32 episodes in the feed.

1. 

   6 Oct 2026

   Season 2 Opener: No Logos, More Bloodwork

   We're back! Somewhere along the way, the logo stopped being the point, the bag got quieter, the jewelry got smaller, and the new status symbol became a full blood panel and a doctor who actually reads it. For the Season 2 opener, we start where most of our conversations end up anyway: what's worth spending on, what's worth fixing, and which appointment each of us keeps moving to next month. Jen has a few decades' head start on aging, and she has opinions about all of it. In this episode: Why the logo disappeared, and what quietly replaced it The cosmetic procedure that keeps getting postponed, and the real reason why Ali's Function health testing, from the scheduling saga to the blood draw itself Genetics, supplements, and playing the long game on aging Spending on the things that hold up Chapters00:00 Season 2, we're back03:53 When the logo stopped being the point05:56 Living under the radar08:03 How much of your style is actually yours10:01 The cosmetic procedure question12:06 Why it keeps getting postponed13:56 Who decides what aging looks like16:00 The case for testing everything18:02 Ali's Function health panel20:04 The scheduling saga22:02 The blood draw, honestly23:59 Ali's health optimization era25:50 What testing does to your nerves28:00 Aging, health, and the choices we're making30:01 Genetics and getting ahead of it31:57 Everything is connected34:04 Supplements and the daily routine36:01 How the way you live shows up on your face37:59 Your choices versus everyone else's opinions40:02 Closing thoughts SHARE & REVIEW:If this episode landed, send it to the friend who needs it or leave us a review. Screenshot your share or review and DM us for a chance to win our monthly swag giveaway. FOLLOW:Refined & Unhinged: @refinedandunhingedRefine Social Club: @refinesocial.clubAli: @alistricklinJen Dryden Hess: @jendrydenhess The podcast by Refine Social ClubRefine Social Club is where these conversations keep going, in person. Intimate dinners, salons, and gatherings where podcast listeners become the women across the table.Join our list to hear about the next one.

2. 

   12 May 2026

   Your Friends Are Not Your Therapists

   Ali and her mom, Jen, dig into one of those topics every woman hits at some point — what do you do when a friend keeps coming to you with the same problem, the same chaos, over and over again, and nothing ever changes? Is it okay to say something? Is it okay to walk away? They get into the real mechanics of how to handle it: the art of the redirect (yes, just change the subject), why timing matters more than you think when it comes to hard conversations, and why bringing something up when someone is mid-spiral almost never works. Ali draws a surprisingly parallel between managing deeply feeling kids and managing deeply feeling adults — turns out, the Dr. Becky approach applies way beyond toddlers. They also talk about the stuff nobody warns you about: the cost of being everyone's sounding board, why you should never vent about your partner to your friends, the damage that gossip does even when someone "promises" not to repeat it, and why a good therapist will always beat a group text for working through your shit. What we cover: How to redirect a friend who's stuck in a loop — without blowing up the friendship Why hard conversations land better when the other person isn't already spinning The case for asking "do you have capacity for this right now?" before unloading Friend breakups: when it's okay to walk away and why it still hurts Why your friends and family aren't your therapists (and shouldn't be) The unspoken rule about not talking shit about your partner — or your friends — to other people SHARE & REVIEW: If this episode resonated, please share with a friend or write a review. We would love to hear from you. Screenshot your share or review and DM us for a chance to win our monthly swag giveaway!FOLLOW:Refined & Unhinged: @refinedandunhingedRefine Social Club: @refinesocial.clubAli: @alistricklinJen Dryden Hess: @jendrydenhessThe podcast by Refine Social Club Join our thriving community of open-minded, open-hearted women who are embracing the mess, the magic, and everything in between. Continue these important discussions, find your people, and attend exclusive in-person events—where podcast listeners become real-life connections. Join our list to stay in the know.

3. 

   14 Apr 2026

   Dressed to Express

   We're talking fashion this week and honestly? It got a little heated. Ali and Jen sit down for a real talk about getting dressed, finding your personal style, and figuring out which trends are actually worth your time (and closet space). Whether you're someone who lives for a shopping trip or you've been wearing the same three outfits on rotation, this one's for you. SHARE & REVIEW: If this episode resonated, please share with a friend or write a review. We would love to hear from you. Screenshot your share or review and DM us for a chance to win our monthly swag giveaway!FOLLOW:Refined & Unhinged: @refinedandunhingedRefine Social Club: @refinesocial.clubAli: @alistricklinJen Dryden Hess: @jendrydenhessThe podcast by Refine Social Club Join our thriving community of open-minded, open-hearted women who are embracing the mess, the magic, and everything in between. Continue these important discussions, find your people, and attend exclusive in-person events—where podcast listeners become real-life connections. Join our list to stay in the know.

Reach and audience

Public platform figures. Ratings count people who left a rating, not total listeners.

Apple Podcasts (US)

5.0 / 5

11 ratings

Spotify

5.0 / 5

9 ratings

Podcast Authority Score: 38 / 100

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Quality

55

Social presence

0

YouTube

0

Engagement

51

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