Relational Alchemy

About Relational Alchemy

Relational Alchemy is a podcast about the relationship patterns we live out — and how those patterns hold the key to our deepest healing. Hosted by relationship coach and somatic practitioner Lindsey Bourne, this podcast explores attachment styles, nervous system healing, emotional triggers, subconscious beliefs, and the protective strategies we develop in response to early relational wounds. Each week, through personal reflections, conversations with practitioners, and stories of transformation, we examine how patterns like anxious attachment, avoidance, people-pleasing, codependency, shutdown, and self-abandonment show up in our relationships — and how they can be softened, understood, and transformed. Rooted in trauma-informed, somatic, and attachment-based perspectives, Relational Alchemy offers a grounded, compassionate approach to relational healing. This podcast is for anyone longing for deeper self-awareness, nervous system regulation, and relationships that feel grounded, secure, and meaningful — with themselves and with others.

Publisher

Lindsey Bourne

Category

health & fitness · society & culture

Language

en

Explicit

No

First episode

12 Jan 2026

Latest episode

19 Oct 2026

Latest episodes

11 episodes in the feed.

1. 

   19 Oct 2026

   Why We Never Feel Enough: Shame & Self-Worth in Relationships with Rachel Kelly

   As my work with clients has deepened, I’ve noticed that almost everyone eventually arrives at the same layer underneath it all: I’m not enough, I’m too much, there’s something inherently wrong with me. Some clients don’t resonate with the word shame at all, but the moment I mention feeling not enough, they recognize it immediately. That connection is what sparked this conversation. In this episode, I’m so excited to welcome Rachel Kelly back to the podcast. Rachel was my very first guest and ...

2. 

   17 Jul 2026

   A Client Story: How to Turn Relationship Triggers Into Healing

   Have you ever done all the work, read all the books, understood your attachment style, and then gotten into a relationship and found yourself right back in the same patterns? That's where Lizzy was when she found me. Painfully self-aware, years of therapy under her belt, and still getting activated in ways she couldn't shift in the moment. In this episode, I'm bringing a former client onto the podcast for the first time to share her story, her experience of our work together, and what actuall...

3. 

   26 Jun 2026

   Grief as a Portal: Movement, Identity, & Coming Back to Yourself with Helen Phelan

   What if the grief you've been carrying in your head could only be released through your body? What if the relationship that collapsed was actually the thing that brought you back to yourself? What if reinvention isn't something you plan, but something your body leads you toward when you finally stop running from the pain? In this episode I'm joined by Helen Phelan, founder of Helen Phelan Studio. Helen and I went to college together, but ended up on opposite sides of the country. What started...

4. 

   18 Jun 2026

   How To Actually Heal Through Relationships

   What if the very thing you want to fix about your partner is actually the thing you're meant to heal in yourself? What if the urge to control, fix, or chase reassurance from your partner isn't about them at all? What if your partner isn't the problem, and isn't the solution either, but the mirror? In this follow-up solo episode, I'm picking up where last week's power struggle episode left off. If that episode helped you understand why the power struggle happens, this one is about what to actu...

5. 

   11 Jun 2026

   The Phase of Relationships Nobody Talks About (But We All Need to Know About)

   What if the fighting, the triggering, and the distance you're feeling in your relationship aren't signs that something is wrong, but signs that something important is trying to surface? In this solo episode, I'm diving deep into one of the most misunderstood phases of relationships: the power struggle. It's the phase that follows the honeymoon, and it's the one that ends more relationships than it should. Because most people don't know it has a name, don't know why it happens, and don't know ...

6. 

   20 Mar 2026

   How Astrology Reveals Your Relationship Patterns

   What if astrology wasn’t about predicting your future… but about understanding how you relate? In this episode, I’m joined by astrologer and one of my closest friends, Isa Nakazawa, to explore astrology as a deeply relational language. Together, we unpack how your birth chart can reveal the patterns, defenses, and inner dynamics that shape your relationships. We talk about the overlap between astrology and psychology, how both systems map the human psyche, and how they can help us transform t...

7. 

   11 Mar 2026

   Transforming the Shame Triangle with Jessica Fern and David Cooley

   In this episode we explore: What the shame triangle is and how it shapes the way people experience themselves and their relationships The difference between the inner critic, the shame part, and the protective escape strategies that follow Why shame is often one of the biggest obstacles to healing, accountability, and repair How perfectionism, people-pleasing, shutdown, projection, and conflict avoidance can all be protective responses The connection between shame, anger, ...

8. 

   25 Feb 2026

   Healing Your Nervous System So Love Stops Feeling Like Survival

   In this episode we explore: The difference between regulating your nervous system and actually healing it How attachment wounds drive anxiety, control, and conflict in relationships Why triggers are invitations to tend to your own body instead of reacting outward The hidden ways control shows up in dating, communication, and expectations How the “not enough” wound shapes rejection, abandonment fears, and self-worth What it takes to feel safe with uncertainty in love a...

9. 

   19 Feb 2026

   From Performance to Presence: How Relationship Patterns Shape Your Work Life

   In this episode we explore: • Why your relationship patterns don’t disappear when you walk into work • The difference between internal authority and outsourcing validation • How triggers at work mirror childhood and attachment wounds • The hidden cost of perfectionism, people pleasing, and over-functioning • Why your nervous system recreates familiar stress and rejection • The link between self-image, success, money, and romantic relationships • How to use ...

10. 

    3 Feb 2026

    Common Patterns In Relationships & How to Alchemize Them for Your Highest Growth

    In this episode we explore: • Why surface conflicts are never the real issue • The shared wound underneath couples fights • How survival mode shapes attraction patterns • Projection and inner child triggers in relationships • A practical way to spot and shift your relational cycles About Rachel Kelly: Rachel helps people to rewire their nervous systems out of survival mode and build secure attachment. She is obsessed with helping you feel your feelings, build internal safety and create a life...

11. 

    12 Jan 2026

    Relational Alchemy

    Have you ever felt frustrated, or even hopeless, about the patterns you see playing out in your life or relationships? Have you wondered why the same dynamics keep repeating, even when you’re doing the work or desire change? Relational Alchemy is a podcast about the patterns we live out in love and connection. It explores how our relationships with ourselves and with others reveal the deeper forces shaping our lives. Hosted by Relationship/Couples Coach and somatic practitioner Lindsey Bour...

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Apple Podcasts (US)

5.0 / 5

3 ratings

Spotify

5.0 / 5

6 ratings

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