The Relationship Health Matters Podcast explores all aspects of progressing the missing link in thinking about how to improve adult and child wellbeing.
How is that all of our best efforts are not producing the results that we say that we want? What changes can we make to help our children, families and communities become happier and healthier places?
Hosted by Dr Cathy Betoin, a practising clinical psychologist and experienced teacher
Cathy is the author of
Relationship Health: What's That?
Relationship Health: The Missing Link in Adult and Child Wellbeing.
The podcast aims to offer you thought provoking content influenced by the I Matter Framework, that can help you think about the way forward in your varied roles - both personal and professional.
The question we explore in each podcast is: lets say that we wanted to make an active shift to a relationship health approach in this chosen issue, what changes would we make short and longer term?
A discussion about the series Adolescence and themes around relationship health
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28 Mar 2025
What are the core goals of relationship health practice?
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28 Mar 2025
What can I do to stop my daughter hating me?
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4 Feb 2025
Reflections on Emotionally Based School Avoidance - a conversation with Jacqui Wilson
Reflections on Emotionally Based School Avoidance - a conversation with Jacqui Wilson
28 Jan 2025
A conversation about relational patterns with Jacqui Wilson
In this discussion, we explore the way that relational patterns emerge and how they can get stuck and the role of awareness in making change possible.
28 Jan 2025
A conversation about internal and external relationship health - part 2
In this discussion we bring our focus to the issue of the skills needed for relationship health across the life span and the importance of building these skills in children.
26 Jan 2025
A conversation about internal and external relationship health with Jacqui Wilson
In this podcast you will hear us reflecting particularly on the issue of internal relationship health and how it emerges from our experiences in external relationships.
20 Jan 2025
A conversation with Elaine, an experienced primary teacher: How do we progress a social emotional focussed curriculum?
Elaine is a teacher and SENCO in a small rural primary school. She discussed the impact of the national curriculum changes and COVID-19 on students' academic and social-emotional well-being. She noted that academic skills are now expected at younger ages, leading to increased pressure and mental health issues.
Elaine emphasized the importance of nurturing relationships and a holistic approach to education, highlighting the need for better support for parents and early intervention. She suggested that training should start at the top level and be ongoing, involving both new and experienced teachers. Elaine also stressed the importance of understanding and tracking social-emotional development to provide effective support.
Elaine's Recommended Action Points
[ ] Explore ways to incorporate more social-emotional learning into the curriculum.
[ ] Advocate for a review of the national curriculum to better balance academic and holistic development.
[ ] Investigate training and professional development opportunities for teachers to develop skills in supporting children's social-emotional needs.
[ ] Initiate discussions with parents to understand their needs and explore ways to provide more support for parents in understanding of how to promote social emotional development at home.
20 Jan 2025
A conversation with Rachel, an experienced educational psychologist: Lack of focus on social emotional priorities after Early Years
Rachel is an experienced educational psychologist who has been working in the education sector since 2003. Her role involves understanding and addressing the developmental and educational needs of children. Rachel is passionate about bridging the gap between early years education and mainstream schooling, especially for children with special educational needs and those who have experienced developmental trauma.
Rachel has observed significant challenges within the educational system, particularly how current education policy means that schools often prioritize academic goals over the social-emotional development of students. She advocates for a more holistic approach to education, emphasizing the importance of emotional literacy and supportive relationships in schools. Rachel actively works on training educators and support staff to become more trauma-informed and emotionally literate, aiming to create environments where all children can thrive. Rachel highlights the need for systemic changes within the national curriculum to better address the needs of vulnerable children.
Rachel's Recommended Action Points
[ ] Recognise the priority of the social emotional developmental needs of all children for a longer period in core provision
[ ] Ensure that children who have had developmental trauma access informed embedded support for their delayed social emotional needs.
[ ] Make the priority of supporting social emotional development a national issue (ie top down directive) not just something that schools feel that they have to ignore other important priorities for or have permission to progress
[ ] Recognise the need for educational reform as too many children are currently poorly served
20 Jan 2025
A conversation with John: An experienced secondary teacher: The Decline in Social Emotional Competencies in Secondary Children
John is an experienced secondary teacher of PE and math with over 35 years of experience. He discussed the decline in children's social-emotional and motor skills seen over his career, and noticeably at entry to school in Year 7. He noted that by the time students reach secondary school, many lack coping skills, resilience, and the ability to work in groups. Girls generally develop these skills faster than boys, creating challenges in co-educational settings.
John emphasized the need for a curriculum that addresses social-emotional development, noting that current practices focus too much on academic attainment. He highlighted the lack of training for secondary teachers in this area and the tension between pastoral and teaching staff. John suggested practical subjects like food tech could improve engagement and behavior.
John's Recommended Action items
• [] Explore ways to incorporate social and emotional skill development into the national curriculum and assessment framework.
• [] Provide targeted professional development for secondary school teachers to equip them with the skills and strategies to support students' social and emotional needs.
• [] Consider curriculum reforms that prioritize practical, interactive, and collaborative learning experiences over passive, lecture-style instruction.
• [] Investigate the feasibility and potential benefits of separating boys and girls into different classrooms or learning environments during the critical adolescent years.
20 Jan 2025
A conversation with Gill an experienced primary teacher: impact of the current curriculum on pupils
Gill is an experienced reception teacher who now works across the primary range in a support role. She discusses concerns about the National Curriculum's impact on social-emotional development in young children. She notes a shift from child-centered, in-the-moment planning to a knowledge-focused curriculum, which neglects personal, social aspects.
Gill highlights issues such as lack of early intervention support, budget cuts, and the rigid adherence to a knowledge-based curriculum. She emphasizes the importance of early intervention, nurturing relationships, and play-based learning for developing emotional resilience and social skills. Gill argues for a holistic approach that prioritizes personal, social development over academic knowledge, including work with parents.
Gills Recommended Action Items
[ ] Advocate for a more balanced curriculum that prioritizes the development of social-emotional skills, particularly in the early years.
[ ] Explore ways to provide more flexibility and autonomy for teachers to respond to the immediate needs of their students, even if it means temporarily deviating from the prescribed curriculum.
[ ] Engage with policymakers and education authorities to emphasize the importance of early intervention and the need for a robust support network for families, including access to speech and language therapists, mental health services, and other resources.
[ ] Collaborate with other schools and education professionals to share best practices and advocate for a more holistic approach to education that values the development of social-emotional skills alongside academic achievement.
20 Jan 2025
A conversation with Kirsten, an experienced SENCO: The evidence of many children struggling in every class
Kirsten is an experienced primary SENCO working with several small schools. She discussed the challenges in tracking social-emotional development in primary schools. She noted a significant increase in children struggling with emotional regulation and resilience, often first identified in reception but neglected in subsequent years.
Current assessment focuses on cognition and learning, neglecting emotional development. Despite the introduction of ELSA (Emotional Literacy Support Assistant) roles, schools increasingly struggle to afford classroom assistants and the needs for help far outstrips supply of adults able to listen and serious school funding challenges are actively limiting what schools can manage to provide.
Kirsten emphasized the need for formal assessment of emotional development, similar to the Early Years framework, to better support children in a timely fashion. She believes addressing these issues early could prevent future problems.
Clarification: In the recording, I threw Kirsten with my question asking about the 4 strands of the EYFS. This was my mistake, in fact, the Early Years Foundation Stage has 7 strands and the Early Years Development Journal used for SEND children has 4 strands.
Action Items
[ ] Obtain and review the assessment data from the early years foundation stage to understand the level of social-emotional development of students as they transition to primary school.
[ ] Investigate the use of Emotional Literacy Support Assistants (ELSAs) in the schools and the potential to expand this support.
[ ] Explore the possibility of incorporating a structured assessment of social-emotional development into the primary curriculum, similar to the early years framework.
[ ] Consider ways to prioritize the development of students' social-emotional skills within the primary curriculum.
20 Jan 2025
A conversation with Paul: The impact of the national curriculum on schools practice: view of a Headteacher
Paul is an experienced teacher with 40 years of experience in the primary sector, 13 years as primary headteacher. He now trains prospective primary teachers. Paul discussed the evolution of the national curriculum and his views regarding its damaging impact on children's education.
He highlighted the shift from a holistic approach focusing on the whole child to a more academic-centric model under Michael Gove's reforms.
Paul believes this shift has led to a decline in emotional and social development, with schools becoming more like factories focused on SATs and attainment. Paul emphasized the need to return to a holistic curriculum that includes multiple intelligences and emotional intelligence. He also noted that current teacher training is de-skilling new teachers, leading to a lack of creativity and problem-solving skills in education.
Paul's Recommended Action Items
[ ] Advocate for a curriculum that is more focused on the "whole child" and developing critical thinking, emotional, and social skills.
[ ] Explore ways to provide more training and support for teachers, especially younger teachers, to help them develop more creative and engaging teaching practices.
[ ] Identify and implement strategies to help students develop problem-solving and creative thinking skills, rather than just focusing on rote learning.
20 Jan 2025
Our hopes for the Relationship Health Matters Podcast
A conversation with Jacqui Wilson.
19 Jan 2025
Welcome: About the Relationship Health Matters Podcast (to be replaced)
When it comes to wellbeing for yourself, for your family or in in your workrole, are you looking for a way forward that can help you join up the dots? Would you like to spend less time feeling stressed out and more time feeling connected, with confidence that your decision making is grounded in a clear practical science based understandings? You might be a perfect fit for the I Matter Relationship Health Learning Journey starting with the I Matter Framework Fundamentals – a 7 module immersive training that teaches you the foundations that will enhance your understanding and communication skills and impact your results. Click here to learn more (https://www.imattertraining.com)
About This Episode:
Dr. Cathy Betoin introduces her podcast, "Relationship Health Matters," aimed at promoting relationship health in a full range of settings. She highlights the importance of relationships in children's well-being, noting that despite research emphasizing this, it is often overlooked in practice and policy.
Cathy defines relationship health as a dynamic process supporting positive connections, emotional understanding, and conflict resolution. She introduces the "I Matter framework," a practical tool to facilitate communication and shared understanding in discussions about relationship health.
The podcast will feature short interviews and discussions on diverse aspects of relationship health, inviting listener input and engagement.
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