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About Relationship Restoration Radio

The Pressures of Privilege explores pressure, class, achievement, family legacy, and the responsibilities that come with advantage, through conversations with inheritors, founders, advisors, doctors, artists, writers, and people who have chosen a different path. Hosted by Swiss-American journalist and producer Diana Oehrli, the show asks how we can use what we have well: to live more fully, connect more deeply, and become better stewards of our communities.

Publisher

Diana Oehrli

Category

education · health & fitness · society & culture

Language

en

Explicit

Yes

First episode

16 Sept 2024

Latest episode

26 Oct 2026

Latest episodes

1 of 113 episodes have a transcript.

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   26 Oct 2026

   Ep57 Peter Holmes à Court—How to Put Your Privilege to Work for Other People When the Career You Love Costs You Your Family

   In this episode of The Pressures of Privilege, host Diana Oehrli sits down with Peter Holmes à Court, author of Riding with Giants, co-owner of the South Sydney Rabbitohs alongside Russell Crowe, a media leader at Davos since 2012, and today the Chief Convener of Afrika House in Nairobi, for a conversation about what a person with a lot of opportunity owes to the people who never got the same chances. By his own account, Peter was the youngest CEO of a top 100 company in Australia when he realized that at his pace he would never see his twin boys grow up. He used to say that in a million-dollar salary, $500,000 pays for your work and $500,000 pays for your soul, and he was not prepared to hand over the second half. When his children moved to Europe, he gave up a dream job running the brand of Sydney to follow them and ended up in a French village of 11 people next door to a handmade bicycle factory. Diana, who first met Peter through a writing group in Switzerland, talks with him about what that factory taught him about excellence, why he thinks Davos leaves out the people most affected by its conversations, how he rebuilt his life in Nairobi after a train accident at his wedding, and how he uses his position as an outsider to point a spotlight at African artists and photographers. By the end of this episode, you will know: → How to decide which part of your life belongs to your soul, and why Peter left a job he loved to be present for his children and to invest in young people, whether they are his own or not. → What a handmade bicycle factory taught Peter about excellence in work, why he believes meaningful work is built into human beings, and what a spotless kitchen shows about work you do for how it feels to you. → What Peter says Davos gets wrong, how to pack a room with a real cross-section of people, and why he is proud to have helped seat a man from a refugee camp as a Davos co-chair alongside the CEO of Microsoft. → How Peter calls himself a compulsive convener and why he can handle not knowing whether three people or 42 will turn up tonight. → How helping others became part of Peter's recovery after a train accident at his wedding in Zimbabwe, and why he says there is no hierarchy of trauma. → How to use your privilege and your outsider status as a spotlight on other people's excellence, from Kenyan photographers who see their own country differently than a visiting photographer does to artists who cannot get a visa to attend shows of their own work abroad. → How Peter builds a different deal with each artist at Afrika House, from a 50-50 split to 80-20, to helping a mate for nothing so the relationship does not become exploitative. → Why he calls GDP the wrong scorecard and what he wants politicians held accountable for instead. This episode is for anyone who holds the title, the seat at the table, or the opportunity... and has started to ask quietly what it is all for.

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   18 Oct 2026

   Ep56 Dr. Jud Brewer—How to Stop Anxiety From Running Your Life Even When Control Has Stopped Working

   In this episode of The Pressures of Privilege, host Diana Oehrli sits down with Dr. Jud Brewer, a psychiatrist and brain scientist who runs research at the Mindfulness Center at Brown University and wrote the New York Times bestseller Unwinding Anxiety, for a conversation about why money and control fail to quiet an anxious mind. Dr. Brewer's lab began with smoking, then moved to eating, and found that anxiety was driving the eating. A suggestion from the 1980s that anxiety runs like a habit became the foundation of a new program. In a randomized controlled trial with people who have generalized anxiety disorder, it produced a 67% reduction in anxiety, compared with 14% for people who received medication and psychotherapy. He has treated billionaires, and he says their anxiety works exactly like anyone else's. Only the subject of the worry changes. Diana, drawing on her own experience of how control can become its own addiction, talks with Dr. Brewer about willpower, grit, unearned guilt, raising children in privileged families, and Your Life the Game, the game he is building to teach teenagers curiosity and kindness. They also touch on Mindshift Recovery, the free program he co-founded for people breaking addictive habits. By the end of this episode, you will know... → How anxiety forms a habit loop in which the feeling triggers worrying, which hands you an illusion of control, and how to map your own loop with one question: what am I getting from this? → Why there is no evidence that any amount of anxiety improves performance, and how a 1908 study of Japanese dancing mice grew into a myth that still shapes how people think about stress. → Why Dr. Brewer says there is no neural evidence for willpower, and what is actually driving the habits you credit to discipline. → How to meet a craving or a wave of worry with curiosity, and why the longest craving any patient has timed in Dr. Brewer's clinic lasted 13 minutes. → What distress tolerance is, why Dr. Brewer says it has more science behind it than grit, and how Diana learned to sit with unearned guilt and then do the right thing anyway. → Why wealth cannot buy a way out of your relationship with yourself, and what Dr. Brewer has seen in his billionaire patients. → Why protecting children from discomfort can leave them less prepared, and how Dr. Brewer's lab practices leaning into discomfort with a weekly hill workout. → How to stay balanced when someone you love is suffering, so you can help without turning their pain into your own distress. This episode is for anyone who has quietly believed that enough money or enough control would finally settle the worry... and has never been shown what to do when it doesn't.

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   11 Oct 2026

   Ep55 Mark Drax—How to Stop Believing You Are a Monster When an Abusive Childhood Taught You to Hate Yourself

   In this episode of The Pressures of Privilege, host Diana Oehrli sits down with Mark Drax, an ICF-certified addiction recovery coach and a disciple of Dr. Gabor Maté, for a conversation about what happens when a boy from a secure home, with private schools and every advantage on paper, grows into a man who spends decades hiding. Mark was never into drink or drugs. At six foot eight, with white hair pulled into a ponytail, he walked into his first treatment center in 2004 and was told to stop and be a good boy. It took years of searching and the right therapist to find what sat underneath: an addiction to secrecy and rage that began with a nanny who beat him for the first four years of his life, beyond his parents' knowledge, long before he was sent away to boarding school at eight. Diana, who met Mark about 10 years ago at addiction conferences in London and Cape Cod, walks with Mark through the night in September 2018 when a chaplain stayed with him and the work of building a life with nothing left to hide. By the end of this episode, you will know... → Why addiction so often has little to do with the substance or the behavior, and how to ask what problem it is solving, using the question Mark puts to every client: why? → How to tell whether a habit has become a problem, using Mark's test of stopping for a week, then three weeks, and noticing the irritability and frustration that surface. → Why a child who is hurt by the adults responsible for his safety decides that he himself must be bad, and how that belief grows into the monster so many adults think they carry. → How to tell your therapist the whole truth, and what it cost Mark to spend years telling his therapist only what he thought she wanted to hear. → How to respond to a child's curiosity, from the spilled apples in the supermarket to the wire hanger near a power socket, so the child learns he is lovable. → Why the fear of asking for help gets built in childhood, and what Gabor Maté's question, "When all this was happening to you, who did you tell?" reveals about a generation of children who tell no one. → How to make peace with parents who gave only what they were taught to give, so you can miss them and love them without guilt or shame. → What it feels like to stand in front of a room with nothing to hide, and why Mark says the truth sets a person free. This episode is for anyone who has spent years believing something monstrous lives inside them... and has never once been asked what happened first.

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Ep #13 - From comedy improv to longevity science | Chris Burres

Published 14 Sept 2025 · Transcript excerpt

[…] In fact, it extended the life of test subjects by 90%. Yeah, I think it's extremely reasonable that the guys who discovered this one, the Nobel Prize for the discovery of this molecule. When was that 1996 or 2000? Yeah, the Nobel Prize was awarded in 1996. They discovered it in 1985. My company started manufacturing it and selling it to research institutions around the world in 1991. Oh, so even before? Yeah, so it's, I'm not a very braggadocious person. It is not unreasonable to suggest that because scientists actually had macroscopic quantities of this material that we sold them, they were able to understand the value of the material and ultimately that led to the Nobel Prize. […]

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