Relatively Unqualified

About Relatively Unqualified

We overshare about real life so you don’t feel crazy. Relatively Unqualified is your comedic virtual support group where hosts Nic and Darra, who are absolutely not qualified to give advice, share honest stories about life, marriage, and family. Sometimes life gets messy. Sometimes life gets spacey - disorienting, isolating, and completely off course. Through guests and personal experience, we talk about what actually happened to us, what we learned the hard way, and how to keep going when the fire alarm goes off and you’re not sure how to land the ship. Expect laughs, family fails, small wins, and conversations that remind you you’re not alone, and help get things back down to earth.

Publisher

with Nic and Darra

Category

comedy · education

Language

en

Explicit

Yes

First episode

21 Dec 2025

Latest episode

17 Aug 2026

Latest episodes

8 episodes in the feed.

1. 

   17 Aug 2026

   Relatively Unqualified #0007 - Stress, Burnout & Resilience with Kristin Fettig

   Burnout doesn’t always look like falling apart—sometimes it looks like holding everything together until there’s nothing left for you. In this episode of *Relatively Unqualified*, we sit down with Kristin Fettig to have a conversation about tools to navigate Mental Health that really work. Kristin is a Mental Health Architect and founder of her consulting practice focused on stress, burnout, resilience, mental health education, and practical tools for navigating pressure. What happens when you’re still showing up for everyone else, but you’re running on empty? In this episode, Nic and Darra sit down with Mental Health Architect Kristin Fettig for an honest conversation about stress, burnout, resilience, boundaries, and the pressure so many of us feel to just keep pushing. Kristin breaks down why resilience isn’t about endlessly powering through hard seasons,it’s about recognizing your capacity, responding to what your mind and body are telling you, and learning how to re-fill what life keeps taking out. The conversation gets personal as Darra opens up about wondering how you know when a difficult season has reached the point where it’s time to seek therapy, Nic opens up about his own resistance to asking for help, and the group talks about the guilt that can come with setting boundaries or choosing yourself. From “spoon theory” and habit stacking to grounding exercises and 30 minutes of intentional self-care, this episode is full of practical ways to start making life feel a little lighter. Because sometimes giving the bare minimum really is giving 100% of what you have—and that counts.

2. 

   27 Apr 2026

   Relatively Unqualified #0006 - College, But Not Like We Imagined

   College: What if the biggest challenge isn’t getting there… but figuring out who you are once you arrive? In this episode of *Relatively Unqualified*, we sit down with Nic’s step-daughter, Jadah and her best friend MK to have an honest conversation about what that transition really looked like. Coming out of high school, Jadah and M.K. looked like they were heading in completely different directions. One was structured, high-achieving, and seemingly built for success. The other barely wanted to be there, unsure if college was even part of the plan. And yet, once they both launched into college life, everything flipped. What unfolds is a raw, honest look at how expectations collide with reality—and how growth rarely looks the way you think it will. Jadah opens up about hitting a breaking point no one saw coming, struggling with depression, and ultimately making a difficult decision to step away from college to focus on her mental health. M.K., on the other hand, found unexpected confidence and freedom in the very environment she feared. Together, their stories highlight something deeper than success or failure: the courage to pivot, to ask for help, and to redefine what “strong” actually means. This conversation is raw, real, and full of heart. Whether you're a student, a parent, or someone navigating a big life transition, this episode is a reminder that there is no one “right” path—and that stepping back can sometimes be the strongest step forward.

3. 

   6 Apr 2026

   Relatively Unqualified #0005 - Nic's Story: Unspoken Grief

   Nic, Darra and Nicole have a candid conversation about grief, loss, healing, and finding purpose after tragedy. Listener discretion advised. In this deeply emotional episode of Relatively Unqualified, the hosts return after a short hiatus to tackle one of the most personal and difficult conversations they’ve ever had: the loss of a child. Nic shares, for the first time publicly, the full story of losing his son Brayden over two decades ago. What begins as a painful recounting of that day unfolds into a raw and honest exploration of long-term grief, self-blame, and the quiet ways trauma can shape a life. Joined by Nicole, Nic’s wife and longtime source of strength, the conversation dives into how unresolved grief led to years of self-sabotage, emotional isolation, and reckless behavior. Nic reflects on how he buried the experience, avoided asking for help, and struggled with feeling undeserving of happiness. The episode also explores turning points: a near-fatal accident that forced him to confront his past, the impact of becoming a father again, and the moment he realized he needed to choose healing, not just for himself, but for his family. Through heartbreak, vulnerability, and ultimately hope, this episode is about more than loss. It’s about survival, accountability, and learning how to move forward without forgetting. If you’ve ever experienced grief, supported someone who has, or struggled silently with something you couldn’t put into words, this episode is a powerful reminder: you are not alone.

4. 

   4 Feb 2026

   Relatively Unqualified #0004 - Navigating the Chaos: How to Align Your Life with Your Values

   In this episode, Nic is joined by Darra and her sisters, Nicole and Priscilla for an honest conversation about values-based decision making, career identity, motherhood, burnout, leadership, faith, and the tension between who you thought you’d be and who life shaped you into.

5. 

   15 Jan 2026

   Relatively Unqualified #0003 - The Comedy Grind in a Small Town with Wesley Funderburg

   A candid conversation with comedian Wesley Funderburg covering onstage nerves, bombing, crowd work, offensive jokes, and balancing standup with family life.

6. 

   15 Jan 2026

   Relatively Unqualified #0002 - Subtle Ways Spouses Disrespect

   A candid discussion with Nic & Darra on disrespect in marriage, boundaries with family, emotional validation, and how couples navigate conflict while protecting their relationship.

7. 

   1 Jan 2026

   Relatively Unqualified #0001 - Bend Oregon

   Meet Darra & Nic, the hosts of Relatively Unqualified, as they introduce their podcast, share family stories, questionable life choices, and explain why honesty and humor drive this show.

8. 

   21 Dec 2025

   Trailer - Relatively Unqualified

   Nic and Darra give a sneak peek into their up and comming podcast... Relatively Unqualified.

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Apple Podcasts (US)

5.0 / 5

1 ratings

Spotify

5.0 / 5

6 ratings

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