Resilient Minds in Relationships!

About Resilient Minds in Relationships!

Welcome to Resilient Minds in Relationships, hosted by Kathryn Fayle, MA, LPC, NCC, CSAT, founder of Resilient Mind Counseling and Coaching, PLLC. This podcast is your go-to resource for practical, informative, and relatable guidance to strengthen your relationships. Each episode is designed with your busy life in mind—offering actionable advice, real-life examples, and expert insights that are easy to process and quick to apply. Whether you’re looking to improve communication, build trust, or deepen intimacy, these bite-sized episodes will empower you to create healthier, more fulfilling connections. Tune in, take notes, and take your relationships to the next level—one step at a time.

Publisher

Kathryn Fayle

Category

education · education · health & fitness

Language

en

Explicit

No

First episode

28 Jan 2025

Latest episode

25 Aug 2026

Latest episodes

22 episodes in the feed.

1. 

   25 Aug 2026

   Why Do They Keep Lying After They've Been Caught?

   Why Do They Keep Lying After They've Been Caught? You caught them. You already know something happened. So why are they still lying? For many betrayed partners, the continued deception after discovery becomes almost as painful as the original betrayal. The story changes. Another detail comes out. Something you were told three weeks ago turns out not to be true. And suddenly, you're right back at discovery day again. In this episode, Kathryn Fayle, MA, LPC, NCC, CSAT, breaks down what's often happening underneath continued lying after betrayal, including fear, shame, compartmentalization, consequence management, and the need to control the narrative. We also talk about trickle truth and why each new disclosure can create another injury for the betrayed partner. When your brain has learned that the information you're being given isn't reliable, checking the phone, replaying conversations, searching for details, and asking the same questions can become attempts to figure out what's actually real. In this episode, we talk about: Why someone may continue lying even after they've been caught The role of shame, fear, and compartmentalization Why “I didn't want to hurt you” isn't always the protection it sounds like How trickle truth affects betrayal trauma Why betrayed partners can become hypervigilant and start searching for information The difference between helpful truth and unnecessary traumatic detail Why getting caught doesn't automatically make someone ready to become honest What real accountability after betrayal can sound like Why transparency and consistency matter when rebuilding trust How a betrayed partner can begin stepping out of the role of full-time detective One of the most important distinctions in this conversation is this: Understanding why someone lies doesn't require us to minimize the damage the lying causes. Healing after betrayal requires more than ending the behavior or promising that it won't happen again. Trust begins to rebuild when words and behavior become congruent over time, and the betrayed partner no longer feels responsible for constantly searching for reality. Connect with Kathryn Follow Kathryn on Instagram: @resilient_mind_counseling (https://www.instagram.com/resilient_mind_counseling/) Learn more about Kathryn, betrayal trauma therapy, couples work, intensives, and other resources at: www.resilient-minded.com (http://www.resilient-minded.com/) About Kathryn Kathryn Fayle, MA, LPC, NCC, CSAT, is a licensed professional counselor specializing in betrayal trauma, infidelity, relationships, attachment, and helping individuals and couples navigate the difficult process of rebuilding emotional safety after relational injury. Her work focuses on helping people understand what's happening underneath their relationship patterns so they can move toward clarity, accountability, and healthier connection.

2. 

   24 Aug 2026

   The Betrayal Loop: When One Partner Needs Answers and the Other Starts Shutting Down

   After betrayal, one partner often needs answers, reassurance, and connection while the other begins to shut down, defend, or pull away. And before long, they're caught in a loop. The more one partner pursues, the more the other withdraws. The more they withdraw, the more unsafe the betrayed partner feels. Suddenly, they're no longer talking about what happened. They're reacting to each other's protection. In this episode of Resilient Minds in Relationships, Kathryn Fayle breaks down what she calls The Betrayal Loop, including what's happening underneath the pursuit, why a partner may shut down during difficult conversations, and how couples can begin interrupting the cycle without minimizing the betrayal or removing accountability. You'll learn why safety needs to come before solutions, why validation isn't the same thing as agreement, and how finding the fear underneath the reaction can completely change the conversation. Because sometimes the problem isn't that you keep having the same conversation. It's that you keep getting caught in the same loop. E Book Resource : Betrayal Trauma & The First Steps (https://kathryn-fayle.mykajabi.com/betrayal-trauma-ebook)

3. 

   23 Apr 2026

   Why Your Partner Hears You But Isn’t Really Listening

   Most couples don’t actually have a communication problem. They can talk. They can explain. They can even repeat each other word for word. And still walk away feeling completely disconnected. Because the issue isn’t communication skills. It’s the three lies most couples are operating from without realizing it. In this episode, I break down the patterns I see over and over again in the therapy room—patterns that slowly create distance even in relationships that look “fine” on the surface. We’re talking about: Why staying quiet is not the same as being kind What’s really underneath the “same fight” you keep having The difference between being heard… and actually being felt And I’ll give you one simple, practical experiment for each—so you can start shifting this in your own relationship immediately. This isn’t about scripts or perfect communication. It’s about telling the truth… and being willing to hear it. Learn more about us here www.resilient-minded.com (http://www.resilient-minded.com) IG : @resilient_mind_counseling (https://www.instagram.com/resilient_mind_counseling/?hl=en) Facebook : Resilient Mind Counseling and Coaching, PLLC (https://www.facebook.com/resilientmindcounselingandcoaching/)

Reach and audience

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Apple Podcasts (US)

5.0 / 5

6 ratings

Podcast Authority Score: 8 / 100

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Quality

4

Social presence

0

YouTube

0

Engagement

32