Respectfully, You’re the Problem is a dating, relationships, and healing podcast for women navigating trauma, attachment styles, toxic relationship patterns, hyper-independence, grief, anxiety, and modern dating. Through brutally honest conversations about self-awareness, emotional healing, boundaries, feminine energy, and breaking unhealthy cycles, we’re learning how to build healthier relationships without pretending we have it all figured out. Because sometimes the red flag isn’t them. Sometimes… respectfully, you’re the problem.
Episode 17: What to Expect, When You're Expecting Love
“It’ll happen when you least expect it.” People mean well. But when did “don’t obsess” become “pretend you don’t want love”?
You’re allowed to want a relationship, actively look for one, and keep building a life you enjoy. But finding someone incredible also means learning how to be someone another person can build with.
In this episode, Carolline gets into the work you can’t do entirely alone: communicating your needs, respecting boundaries you don’t like, handling the first disappointment, and knowing when to bend without abandoning yourself.
Because you’ve spent plenty of time deciding what you won’t accept. What are you willing to contribute?
24 Oct 2026
Episode 16: Your Double Standard Is Showing
You call it disrespect when they do it, but a reaction when you do it. Their mistakes reveal their character. Yours apparently require context.
This week on Respectfully, You’re the Problem, we’re unpacking the double standards we defend, the excuses we make, and why understanding your behavior doesn’t automatically justify it. We’ll talk about accountability, empathy, and holding yourself to the same standards you expect from everybody else.
Because self-awareness gets uncomfortable when the hypocrisy is using your voice.
10 Oct 2026
Episode 15: Self-Care or Self-Sabotage?
Are you protecting your peace—or protecting a habit that’s keeping you stuck?
This week on Respectfully, You’re the Problem, we’re getting honest about when self-care becomes self-sabotage. Because something that helped you through one season might be getting in your way now—and a really good excuse is still an excuse.
With a little tough love and practical ways to check your own patterns, we’re talking about getting the rest you need, recognizing avoidance, and following through on the life you keep saying you want.
Respectfully, your excuses have had enough extensions. Let’s work on our shit, together.
3 Oct 2026
Episode 14: New Me. Please Hold Your Complaints
Everybody has an opinion about your life. Funny how their questionable decisions had “good reasons,” but yours need a committee’s approval.
This week on Respectfully, You’re the Problem, we’re talking about trusting yourself enough to change your life—and building the self-discipline to actually follow through. From taking action when motivation disappears to letting go of relationships you’ve outgrown, we’re breaking down five realistic steps toward your next chapter.
You don’t need everyone to understand who you’re becoming. But you do need to start showing up for that person.
Let’s work on our shit, together.
24 Sept 2026
Episode 13: The Everyday A$$hole
You know the person who leaves their shopping cart in the parking lot, blocks the entire grocery aisle, or talks over you the second your story reminds them of theirs?
This episode is for them. And, unfortunately, probably for us too.
We’re playing “You might be the problem if…” with the little everyday habits that make everyone else’s day harder. We’ll laugh at the worst offenders, then ask the uncomfortable question: Which ones do I do?
Put your cart back. Let someone finish their sentence. And respectfully, don’t be the asshole.
17 Sept 2026
Episode 12: Delulu- But Make It Productive: How to Build Confidence
Confidence isn’t something you’re born with—it’s a skill you build. And sometimes, building it requires being just delusional enough to believe you can become someone you’ve never been before.
In this episode, we’re talking about how your thoughts, environment, habits, and the people around you shape who you become—and how to intentionally rewire them. Because “this is just who I am” is usually an excuse wearing a name tag.
We’re not faking confidence. We’re practicing it until it becomes real. Delulu? Maybe. Productive? Absolutely.
10 Sept 2026
Episode 11: You Are Not Behind in Life
Your 30s aren’t proof that you’re behind—they’re proof that you survived your 20s and learned something.
In this episode, we’re talking about why 30 is the new 20: more confidence, better boundaries, smarter decisions, and finally becoming the person you were before the world told you who to be. Your 20s were the trial run. Your 30s are where you stop performing, start choosing yourself, and build a life that actually fits.
You’re not late. You’re not running out of time. And respectfully, you’re probably just getting started.
3 Sept 2026
Episode 10: Men vs Women - 5 Ways to Improve Your Relationship
Men want respect. Women want love. One wants to fix the problem, the other just wants you to shut up and listen — and somehow we’re shocked that relationships are hard.
In this episode, we’re breaking down 5 common differences between how men and women experience love, conflict, communication, appreciation, and intimacy — and how misunderstanding those differences can quietly wreck a relationship.
Maybe your partner isn’t loving you wrong. Maybe they’re loving you the way they understand love.
The goal isn’t to make men think more like women or women think more like men. It’s to learn the person you chose and recognize that different doesn’t mean deficient.
Sometimes, different is exactly the fucking point.
27 Aug 2026
Episode 9: How to Get What You Want in Life
You want the relationship, the opportunity, the money, the peace. But do your daily habits support the life you keep asking for?
In Episode 9 of Respectfully, You’re the Problem, we’re talking about how to get what you want—and actually keep it. Because apparently, a vision board does not come with discipline included.
We’re getting honest about self-sabotage, emotional capacity, consistency, and the responsibility that comes with “more.” I’m looking at my own life right alongside you: what needs to change, what needs to grow, and what cannot come with me.
A little faith, a few uncomfortable truths, and practical steps to start building a life you can sustain—not just fantasize about.
Let’s work on our shit, together.
20 Aug 2026
Episode 8: You're Self Aware, But Still The Problem
At some point, self-awareness has to become action. You can read every book, listen to every podcast and learn all the therapy language—but if you keep reacting the same way in real life, you’re not growing. You’re memorizing.
This episode is about getting out of your head, stepping back into the world and actually using the skills you’ve worked so hard to learn.
Because healing isn’t proven by what you know. It’s proven by what you do when life happens.
13 Aug 2026
Episode 7: Respectfully, You're Exhausting
Your feelings are valid. But managing them is still your responsibility.
In this episode, we break down nervous-system regulation in plain language: what dysregulation actually feels like, why you may constantly need reassurance, and how that pattern can become emotionally exhausting for the people around you.
This isn’t about never needing support. It’s about recognizing when you’re asking someone else to repeatedly calm the storm you refuse to learn how to manage yourself.
Respectfully, your emotions are real—but they aren’t everyone else’s job.
6 Aug 2026
Episode 6: Respectfully, Check Your Lens
Two people can experience the exact same situation and walk away with completely different stories. Why? Because we don’t see things as they are—we see them as we are.
In this episode, we’re talking about the invisible lens created by your past, your insecurities, and the parts of yourself you haven’t fully confronted. We’ll break down projection, Carl Jung’s “shadow,” social media assumptions, and how your brain can turn an interpretation into a fact without asking your permission.
Because sometimes the situation isn’t the problem. Sometimes, respectfully… you need to check your lens.
31 Jul 2026
Episode 5: Dating App Survival 101
The Dating App Survival Guide
Dating apps have somehow become the only place where someone can post six photos without their face, write "just ask" as their bio, and still wonder why they're single.
In this episode of Respectfully, You're the Problem, we're putting modern dating profiles under the microscope. From bathroom selfies and Snapchat filters to vague bios, group photos, hat collections, and the infamous "I'm fluent in sarcasm," we're breaking down the biggest dating app mistakes people make—and why they matter more than you think.
But this isn't just a roast.
We'll explore the psychology behind first impressions, attraction, self-awareness, and why the way you present yourself online can either invite connection or unintentionally push people away. You'll learn what actually makes a profile stand out, the subtle mistakes that sabotage your chances, and how to create a dating profile that reflects who you really are.
Whether you're swiping on Hinge, Bumble, Tinder, or just here for the entertainment, this episode is equal parts funny, brutally honest, and genuinely useful.
Because sometimes... the reason dating feels impossible isn't the apps.
Respectfully... it might be your profile.
If you want, I can also write a version that's a little more edgy, click-baity, and Spotify algorithm-friendly to help maximize listens.
23 Jul 2026
Episode 4: Respectfully, Dating Sucks
Dating sucks… but maybe not for the reasons you think.
In this episode, we’re diving headfirst into the absolute dumpster fire that is modern dating. From dating apps turning people into online shopping catalogs to ghosting, situationships, terrible first dates, and the completely unhinged dating advice flooding social media, we’re breaking down how we got here—and why dating feels so much harder than it used to.
With plenty of laughs, brutally honest stories, and a little psychology, we’ll talk about how technology has changed the way we connect, why endless options aren’t actually helping us, and how to survive modern dating without completely losing your mind.
Whether you’re single, dating, or just here for the chaos, this episode will make you laugh, question everything, and maybe even rethink the way you approach relationships.
Respectfully… we’re all just trying to survive out here.
16 Jul 2026
Episode 3: First It Whispers, Then It Screams
Your body doesn't go from calm to burnout overnight. Relationships don't suddenly fall apart. Life gives you whispers long before it starts screaming—you just have to stop muting them.
In this episode, we're talking about the subtle warning signs we ignore in ourselves, our dating lives, and our relationships, why we dismiss our intuition, and how those tiny "beige flags" eventually become the dealbreakers that blindside us. Funny, painfully relatable, and maybe just a little bit of a personal attack.
11 Jul 2026
Episode 2: Respectfully, You're Not Helping
You can’t shame someone into becoming a better partner—and you can’t bully yourself into healing either. In this episode, we’re talking about the difference between accountability and shame, why criticism often creates defensiveness instead of change, and how the way we communicate can quietly destroy the connection we’re desperately trying to fix. Respectfully… if shame is your strategy, you might be part of the problem.
9 Jul 2026
Episode 1: Respectfully, You’re the Problem
Before we talk about dating, relationships, or why you keep choosing the same person in a different body… we have to start with you. In the first episode of Respectfully, You’re the Problem, I’m introducing myself, why I started this podcast, and why self-awareness is the first step to changing your patterns. No shame. No pretending to be perfectly healed. Just uncomfortable honesty, accountability, and figuring out why the hell we do what we do. 🎙️💕
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