Revel in the Chaos

About Revel in the Chaos

Revel in the Chaos is your go-to podcast for unfiltered, relatable conversations about the messy and meaningful parts of life. Hosted by Tara Schifsky—a mom, wife, former teacher, and chaos navigator—this show dives into mental health, motherhood, trauma, relationships, and more. Tara blends humor, vulnerability, and heart, sharing her journey and hosting guests to tackle life’s toughest topics. This isn’t about perfection—it’s about connection, growth, and finding beauty in the chaos. Tune in and feel seen, heard, and a little healed.

Publisher

Tara Schifsky

Category

society & culture

Language

en

Explicit

Yes

First episode

30 Dec 2024

Latest episode

17 Jul 2026

Latest episodes

14 episodes in the feed.

1. 

   17 Jul 2026

   13 - Same Diagnosis. Different Chaos. - An Unfiltered Conversation Between Two Very Different ADHD Brains

   What happens when two women with ADHD sit down to compare notes? Turns out... the same diagnosis can look completely different. After sharing my own late ADHD diagnosis in the last episode (https://open.spotify.com/episode/3ByE9l4JpEcFuXDxs9JGoj?si=35c94d82f14c44e7), I wanted to continue the conversation by talking with another woman whose experience with ADHD looks a little (or a lot) different than mine. She's built a career helping people get organized. I spend way too much time overthinking simple decisions, avoiding tasks, and wondering why my brain works the way it does. So how do we both have ADHD? In this episode, we're unpacking what ADHD really looks like beyond the stereotypes. We talk about childhood, late diagnosis, masking, motherhood, relationships, organization, overwhelm, procrastination, perfectionism, and all the invisible ways ADHD shows up in everyday life. Along the way, we laugh, call ourselves out, compare notes, and discover that even when our experiences are different, so many of the feelings underneath are the same. Whether you have ADHD yourself, love someone who does, or you've ever wondered why your brain seems to work differently, I hope this conversation helps you feel a little more understood and reminds you there's no one "right" way for ADHD to look. In this episode, we talk about: • Why the same ADHD diagnosis can look completely different • The ADHD traits we missed growing up • Late diagnosis and finally making sense of the past • Organization, overwhelm, procrastination, and perfectionism • Motherhood, relationships, and the mental load • The strengths, struggles, and surprising gifts of an ADHD brain If this episode resonated with you, I'd love for you to follow the show, leave a rating or review, or share it with someone who could use this conversation. Thanks for being here. Resources taraschifsky@gmail.com⁠ (mailto:taraschifsky@gmail.com) ⁠Facebook⁠ (https://www.facebook.com/revelchaosmomma) ⁠Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/revelinthechaos_official/) Twin Cities Taskers (https://www.twincitiestaskers.com/)

2. 

   20 Apr 2026

   12 - I Thought I Was Just Bad at Life... Until I Learned Why

   I thought I just sucked at being an adult. Like… why can’t I keep up with basic life things without feeling completely overwhelmed? Laundry piles up. Emails go unanswered. I avoid the smallest tasks like they’re life-threatening… and then beat myself up for all of it. I tell myself “I’ll do it tomorrow”… and then tomorrow comes, and somehow it’s worse. At 38, I was diagnosed with ADHD. And suddenly… it wasn’t just a personality flaw. In this episode, I’m taking you inside my brain; the constant noise, the overthinking, the decision paralysis, the doom scrolling, the starting everything and finishing nothing… all while looking like a relatively functional adult on the outside. We’re talking about what ADHD actually looks like in women, why it gets missed for so long, and how it shows up in real life: parenting, relationships, responsibilities, and just trying to keep up. And the relief of finally having answers… along with the grief of realizing how long I went without them. If you’ve ever thought, “What is wrong with me?" or "Why can't I just get my life together?" this might explain more than you think. 👉🏼 In this episode, I talk about: What ADHD actually looks like in women (especially inattentive type) Why it’s often missed or misdiagnosed as anxiety or depression What daily life feels like (overwhelm, paralysis, procrastination) How it impacts parenting, relationships, and self-worth The relief—and grief—that comes with a late diagnosis CONTACT CHAPTERS 00:00 Understanding ADHD: A Personal Journey 06:49 Inside the ADHD Mind: Chaos and Clarity 15:00 Neurodivergence vs. Neurotypical: A Deeper Look 21:47 The Overlap of ADHD, Anxiety, and Depression 28:32 Executive Functioning: The Daily Struggle 34:06 Distraction Spirals and Task Overload 38:42 Time Blindness and Rushing Through Life 42:47 People-Pleasing Tendencies and Emotional Sensitivity 50:47 Reflections on Life Before and After Medication 53:40 The Positive Aspects of ADHD 58:17 Understanding Different Operating Systems of ADHD

3. 

   28 Dec 2025

   11 - Friendship Through Every Season: Why We Need It, How It Changes, and How It Saves Us

   In this episode of Revel in the Chaos, I’m talking about friendship through every season of life, how it starts, how it changes, how it sometimes falls apart, and how it can save us when life gets heavy. From childhood friendships and messy teenage years to motherhood, loss, and the chaos of midlife, this episode is a love letter to the people who walk beside us, loudly, quietly, imperfectly. We’ll talk about: Why friendship is essential at every stage of life How to maintain and nourish friendships when everyone is busy How to know when to keep investing, and when to let go Making new friends as an adult (even when it feels awkward AF) What real support actually looks like Why one good friend can change the quality of your entire life This episode is deeply personal, honest, and inclusive, whether you have a big group of friends, one close friend, or you’re still searching for your people. Because no matter the season you’re in, you’re not meant to go through it alone. CHAPTERS 00:00 Welcome Back and Season Two Preview 07:20 The Importance of Friendships 08:17 Navigating Midlife Friendships 16:41 Friendships as Chosen Family 17:32 The Nature of Friendship 20:25 Navigating Friendship Changes 25:31 Making New Friends in Adulthood 31:56 Effort in Maintaining Friendships 36:19 The Importance of Supportive Friendships 38:55 Friendship in Motherhood 41:17 Quality Over Quantity in Friendships ORACLE CARD PULL Deck: Wisdom of The Oracle, By Collette Baron-Reid Card: Treasure Island (Pulled in the protection position) Essential Meaning: “The Law Of Attraction bringing dreams into fruition; the results of positive thinking made manifest; abundance appearing as if from nowhere; financial gains and the sharing of good fortune.” Protection Message: “Poverty consciousness and a sense of “not enough” can cast a shadow on your path. These ideas and core beliefs come with a high cost. Do you really want to proclaim yourself a victim of disappointment and failed expectations? Are you avoiding success because you will grow so tall that others may want to cut you down? Or is it possible that you are caught in a fear that you will lose what you have acquired, so you hold on so tight that you miss the opportunities to expand? You are being challenged to change the way you see the world and move from a perception of limitations to a perception of abundance. Take a risk, for you have nothing to lose except your confinement in a prison of your own making. Open the door and find the abundance waiting for you to claim it.” CONTACT: taraschifsky@gmail.com Instagram: @revelinthechaos_official (https://www.instagram.com/revelinthechaos_official/) Facebook: Revel in the Chaos (https://www.facebook.com/revelchaosmomma/)

4. 

   19 Sept 2025

   10 - If Roles Were Reversed: Exposing Relationship Double Standards and Privilege

   Ever feel like the rules in your relationship don’t actually apply to both of you? In this episode, Tara Schifsky dives headfirst into the uncomfortable, but all-too-common, world of double standards and privilege in relationships. From parenting to day-to-day dynamics, she shares brutally honest personal stories and insights from friends, exposing how these imbalances can quietly (or not so quietly) chip away at your energy, patience, and sanity. With a little humor and zero sugarcoating, Tara challenges listeners to ask themselves: Are you playing by the same rules as your partner? CONTACT: taraschifsky@gmail.com (mailto:taraschifsky@gmail.com) Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/revelchaosmomma) Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/revelinthechaos_official/) CHAPTERS 00:00 Introduction to Double Standards in Relationships 05:08 Personal Experiences with Double Standards 11:01 The Impact of Privilege in Parenting 15:09 Communication Gaps and Their Consequences 20:01 Navigating Imbalances in Work and Home Life 25:12 Overcoming People-Pleasing Tendencies 25:39 Navigating Conflict Avoidance 27:23 The Struggle for Personal Time 30:00 Double Standards in Emotional Expression 33:00 The Burden of Parenting Expectations 37:09 Family Dynamics and Planning Responsibilities 41:08 Hobbies and Personal Freedom 44:14 Societal Double Standards in Parenting 47:19 Reflections on Privilege and Relationships 52:22 Personal Reflections and Closing Thoughts

5. 

   14 Jun 2025

   9 - The Hard Work of Healing: My Journey Out of Postpartum Hell

   Tara Schifsky shares her vulnerable journey through postpartum depression and anxiety, revealing the challenges and hard-won lessons of reclaiming herself amidst the chaos of motherhood.

6. 

   20 May 2025

   8 - An Untold Story of Postpartum Hell: The Truth Behind My Smile (Pt. 1)

   In this deeply personal episode of Revel in the Chaos, host Tara Schifsky shares her firsthand experience with postpartum depression and anxiety — a topic that is still widely misunderstood and too often left unspoken. Tara opens up about the emotional and psychological toll that followed the birth of her child, describing the overwhelming darkness, disconnection and shame that crept in when she expected joy. This isn’t just a story about the “baby blues”—it’s a raw look at a serious mental health condition that affects 1 in 7 women, yet remains heavily stigmatized. With unflinching honesty, Tara recounts the moments that broke her, the silence that isolated her, and the strength it took to start speaking the truth out loud. This is part one of her journey—a conversation that sheds light on the very real struggle so many mothers face but rarely feel safe enough to admit. Whether you've lived through it, love someone who has, or want to understand what postpartum depression and anxiety really looks like, this episode will open your heart and your eyes. CONTACT: Email: taraschifsky@gmail.com Instagram: revelinthechaos_official (https://www.instagram.com/revelinthechaos_official/) Facebook: Revel in the Chaos (https://www.facebook.com/revelchaosmomma) (https://postpartum.net/) (https://www.postpartumdepression.org/)

7. 

   16 Apr 2025

   7 - Overstimulated AF

   In this episode of Revel in the Chaos, Tara Schifsky takes a hard look at the burnout culture plaguing millennial moms. With humor and vulnerability, she shares her experiences navigating the relentless overstimulation that often leads to feelings of rage and dissociation. Tara delves into the unrealistic expectations that come with motherhood and how they contribute to a cycle of exhaustion and overwhelm. She emphasizes the crucial role of communication and support systems in combating burnout, reminding us that we can’t do it all. With a focus on setting boundaries and prioritizing self-care, Tara encourages listeners to reclaim their sanity in the chaos. So join her as she addresses the trials of millennial motherhood, all while sipping on a cup of lukewarm coffee and trying to find balance in a world that constantly demands more. CONTACT and SOCIALS Email: taraschifsky@gmail.com Insta: @revelinthechaos_official (https://www.instagram.com/revelinthechaos_official/) FB: Revel in the Chaos (https://www.facebook.com/revelchaosmomma) CHAPTERS 00:00 Introduction and Life Updates 05:28 The Pressure of Societal Expectations 06:27 Navigating Overstimulation and Burnout 09:45 Understanding Overstimulation 12:06 Mom Rage and Emotional Overload 24:35 Coping Mechanisms and Mental Health 28:50 Embracing the Chaos of Motherhood 35:37 Navigating Overstimulation and Overwhelm 39:28 Communication as a Key to Connection 48:38 Self-Care and Setting Boundaries 55:25 Finding Balance in a Noisy World KEYWORDS motherhood, overstimulation, parenting, mental health, self-care, societal expectations, communication, burnout, coping strategies, family dynamics

8. 

   3 Mar 2025

   6 - Who the Hell Put Me in Charge? - The Default Parent Part Two

   Being the default parent isn’t just a title—it’s a full-time, unpaid, and often unappreciated gig. In this episode of Revel in the Chaos, Tara Schifsky rips the curtain off the invisible workload that keeps households running while leaving parents (mostly moms) running on fumes. From the guilt trips to the double standards, she gets real about the emotional toll, the unspoken expectations, and the constant mental juggling act. But it’s not all school drop-offs and snack wars —Tara also dives into reclaiming balance, setting boundaries, and finding the power in owning the role (without letting it own you). Tune in for a brutally honest, slightly cathartic, and refreshingly unapologetic take on the reality of being the “default” parent. TAKEAWAYS The podcast addresses the often unspoken challenges of parenting. Tara shares humorous anecdotes about her children's funny remarks. Being the default parent comes with an invisible workload that is exhausting. The pressure to perform and maintain a perfect household can lead to guilt. Tara discusses the double standards in parenting roles between partners. Open communication within the family is essential for addressing imbalances. Setting boundaries is crucial for managing the overwhelming responsibilities of parenting. It's important to recognize and appreciate the role of the default parent. Tara emphasizes that it's okay to feel overwhelmed and seek help. Finding joy in parenting amidst the chaos is possible. CONTACT Instagram: @revelinthechaos_official (https://www.instagram.com/revelinthechaos_official/) Facebook: Revel in the Chaos (https://www.facebook.com/revelchaosmomma) Email: taraschifsky@gmail.com CHAPTERS 00:00 Introduction to the Chaos 02:11 The Default Parent Dilemma 09:29 The Invisible Workload 14:49 Navigating Guilt and Expectations 17:43 Understanding the Default Parent Role 21:57 Planning and Preparation for Trips 24:25 Navigating Travel and Freedom in Relationships 27:30 The Double Standards of Parenting 31:50 The Invisible Workload of the Default Parent 39:32 Creating Balance and Equity in Family Responsibilities 43:49 Embracing the Role of the Default Parent KEYWORDS parenting, motherhood, default parent, mental health, family dynamics, parenting struggles, work-life balance, guilt, parenting humor, family responsibilities

9. 

   15 Feb 2025

   5 - Being the Default Parent: The Struggle is Real... But Often Unoticed

   In this episode of Revel in the Chaos, Tara Schifsky opens up about the hidden struggles of being the default parent—the constant mental load, the overwhelming responsibilities, and the emotional toll that often goes unnoticed. From self-doubt and anxiety to the relentless juggling of family life, Tara shares her personal journey of navigating the invisible workload that shapes motherhood. She delves into the importance of carving out time for gratitude, self-care, and better communication within family dynamics. With a powerful call to action, Tara encourages listeners to reflect on their own experiences and start a conversation about how we can better support the unsung heroes in our homes. Contact: Share your thoughts on this episode! Or reach out to suggest a new topic: Email: taraschifsky@gmail.com Instagram: @revelinthechaos_official (https://www.instagram.com/revelinthechaos_official/) Facebook: Revel in the Chaos (https://www.facebook.com/revelchaosmomma) Chapters: 00:00 Introduction and Gratitude 01:08 Navigating Self-Doubt and Anxiety 04:00 The Importance of Downtime 08:42 Understanding the Invisible Workload 12:56 Defining the Default Parent 19:39 The Burden of the Invisible Workload 25:26 Communication and Partnership Dynamics 28:50 Balancing Personal Needs and Parenting Responsibilities 32:13 Conclusion and Call to Action

10. 

    31 Jan 2025

    4 - Digging Deep, Breaking Cycles, and Disappointing the Hell Out of People (People Pleasing Pt.2)

    In this episode, Tara delves deeper into the topic of people pleasing, exploring its roots in trauma, grief, and narcissism. She shares her personal experiences and the impact these factors have had on her identity. Tara emphasizes the importance of setting boundaries, learning to say no, and expressing one's needs as essential steps in the recovery process. She encourages listeners to prioritize self-discovery and self-worth, ultimately aiming to empower themselves and break the cycle of people pleasing for future generations. Contact and Sharing I would love to hear from you! Leave a comment or send me a message via email or social media. Email: taraschifsky@gmail.com Instagram: @revelinthechaos_official (https://www.instagram.com/revelinthechaos_official/) Facebook: Revel in the Chaos (https://www.facebook.com/revelchaosmomma/) Please like, share, follow, subscribe... all the things that will help me reach more people who could benefit from our conversations on Revel in the Chaos. Thank you. Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Podcast Journey 05:04 Exploring People Pleasing: Part Two 07:26 The Impact of Trauma and Grief 15:25 Narcissism and People Pleasing 17:40 Recovering from People Pleasing 24:21 Setting Boundaries and Saying No 31:10 Expressing Needs and Feelings 33:30 Final Thoughts and Encouragement Keywords people pleasing, trauma, grief, narcissism, boundaries, self-discovery, mental health, personal growth, self-worth, empowerment

11. 

    17 Jan 2025

    3 - The Price of People Pleasing: Living for Others While Losing Myself (Pt.1)

    In this episode of Revel in the Chaos, Tara Schifsky delves into the complexities of the 'good girl complex' and the pervasive issue of people-pleasing. She reflects on her personal journey, the impact of generational influences, and the struggle to set boundaries while navigating relationships. Tara emphasizes the importance of self-worth and the challenges of unlearning ingrained behaviors, all while sharing relatable anecdotes and insights into mental health. A Note From Tara: Let's connect! Please reach out via email or Instagram and keep the conversation going. I would love to know your thoughts on this episode. Also, let me know what other topics you think we should dive into. Again, thank you for your continued support. I can't wait to hear from you. xoxo, Tara INSTAGRAM: www.instagram.com/revelinthechaos_official/ or @revelinthechaos_official EMAIL: taraschifsky@gmail.com Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Reflection on Previous Episode 02:47 Exploring the Good Girl Complex 12:05 The Impact of People Pleasing on Life Decisions 24:51 The Struggle of Unlearning People Pleasing 30:07 Looking Ahead: Healing and Future Conversations

12. 

    10 Jan 2025

    2 - Special Guest Interview: The Unfiltered Truth Behind Transformation

    **Disclaimer: This episode contains explicit language, and mentions difficult topics such as suicidal ideation. Please listen with care, and see the resources listed below if you or someone you know needs support. Summary In this episode, Tara Schifsky and her husband Joe delve into the complexities of navigating a midlife crisis, exploring themes of vulnerability, masculinity, and personal growth. They share their personal experiences, the impact of therapy, and the importance of being present in family life. Joe discusses his journey of self-discovery, the decision to quit his job, and the challenges of embracing change. The conversation emphasizes the significance of emotional expression and supporting one another through life's transitions. Chapters 00:00 Navigating Midlife Crisis: An Introduction 03:03 The Impact of Personal Stories 06:00 Understanding Masculinity and Vulnerability 08:57 Catalysts for Change: Joe's Journey 12:14 Therapy and Self-Discovery 15:11 Work-Life Balance and Identity 18:07 The Decision to Quit: A New Beginning 21:00 Embracing Change and Presence 23:47 Challenges and Future Aspirations 27:13 Navigating Mental Health Challenges 30:06 The Importance of Hard Work and Self-Care 32:31 Embracing Uncertainty and Growth 35:22 Support and Teamwork in Relationships 38:05 Parenting Through Vulnerability 40:55 Courage to Change and Self-Reflection 43:52 Finding Success in Small Victories 46:16 The Journey of Self-Acceptance and Pride Contact Info I would love to hear from you! Please send me your stories that you would like me to share on air. Email: taraschifsky@gmail.com Instagram: @revelinthechaos_official Resources Crisis Helplines: National Suicide Prevention Lifeline (USA): ◦Phone: 988 (24/7 confidential support) ◦Text: 988 ◦Website: 988lifeline.org (https://988lifeline.org/) Crisis Text Line (USA): ◦Text HOME to 741741 ◦Website: crisistextline.org (https://www.crisistextline.org/) ◦ Education & Awareness: National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI): ◦Website: nami.org (https://www.nami.org/) ◦Offers resources for both individuals and families affected by mental health challenges. Mental Health America (MHA): ◦Website: mhanational.org (https://mhanational.org/) ◦Provides educational resources and toolkits for dealing with mental health issues.

13. 

    3 Jan 2025

    1 - Plot Twist! How a Midlife Crisis Writes Your Best Chapter Yet

    Summary In the inaugural episode of 'Revel in the Chaos', host Tara Schifsky shares her journey of vulnerability and self-discovery, discussing the challenges of perfectionism and the concept of midlife crisis. She reflects on her personal transformation from a dedicated teacher to a freelance writer, spurred by her own midlife crisis and that of her husband, Joe. The episode emphasizes the importance of embracing change, redefining midlife crisis as a transformative experience, and encourages listeners to pursue their happiness amidst life's chaos. Instagram: @revelinthechaos_official (https://www.instagram.com/revelinthechaos_official/) Keywords midlife crisis, personal transformation, mental health, motherhood, self-discovery, vulnerability, career change, perfectionism, relationships, chaos Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Revel in the Chaos 03:32 Redefining Midlife Crisis 12:09 The Power of Support While Going Off the Deep End 22:25 Taking Risks and Doing What Scares the Hell Out of You 24:44 Embracing the Chaos of Transformation Content Warning: This episode includes explicit language and may not be suitable for all audiences. Listener discretion is advised.

14. 

    30 Dec 2024

    Official Trailer

    Welcome to Revel in the Chaos, the podcast where we drop the filters, embrace the mess, and dive headfirst into the beautifully chaotic parts of life. Hosted by Tara Schifsky—a mom, wife, former teacher, and self-proclaimed chaos navigator—this show is your go-to space for real, raw, and relatable conversations about the messy and meaningful moments we all experience. From navigating mental health and motherhood to unpacking trauma, grief, relationships, and everything in between, Tara brings humor, vulnerability, and heart to every episode. Some weeks, she shares her own journey of turning life's challenges into something beautiful, and other times, she’s joined by incredible guests to tackle the tough stuff we all think about but rarely talk about. This isn’t a podcast about perfection—it’s about connection. It’s about laughing when life gets absurd, crying when it gets overwhelming, and finding joy in the chaos. So, if you’re tired of pretending everything is fine and you’re craving conversations that make you feel seen, heard, and even a little healed, this is your place. Subscribe now to Revel in the Chaos on your favorite podcast platform, and let’s turn life’s chaos into something meaningful, one conversation at a time.

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Apple Podcasts (US)

5.0 / 5

11 ratings

Spotify

5.0 / 5

19 ratings

Podcast Authority Score: 55 / 100

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