Revolutionise Your Love Life

About Revolutionise Your Love Life

Revolutionise Your Love Life is a podcast is on creating healthy, loving relationships. From ending relationships that have run their course to finding new love and being the most fulfilled you can possiblly be. Revolutionise Your Love Life is hosted by Heather Garbutt.

Publisher

Revolutionise Your Love Life

Category

education · health & fitness · society & culture

Language

en

Explicit

No

First episode

2 Mar 2020

Latest episode

18 Oct 2026

Latest episodes

117 episodes in the feed.

1. 

   18 Oct 2026

   115: I Know My Parents Love Me, So Why Does It Still Hurt? With Jessica Yip

   So many of the people I work with carry a quiet ache around their parents. They know they were loved. They were fed, housed and sent to school in clean clothes. And yet time with their parents leaves them feeling unseen, guilty or small. In this episode I’m joined again by the wonderful Jessica Yip, Calling in “The One” coach and certified True You coach. We explore why love and hurt so often live side by side in our families of origin. Jessica speaks openly about growing up as the daughter of Chinese immigrant parents. She describes how the gap left by missing emotional attunement can follow us into adult relationships. Children may take on adult responsibilities far too young, or feel split between two cultures. They may learn to make excuses for behaviour that should have raised a red flag. We look at the four types of emotionally immature parent described by Lindsay C. Gibson: emotional, driven, passive and rejecting. We talk about how each one shapes the way we love. We also explore the difference between healing and transformation, and why insight alone won’t change our lives. Jessica then offers a clear, compassionate path for relating to our parents as the adults we are now. Key Takeaways Being loved isn’t the same as being known. Many of us had our physical needs met but missed the emotional attunement that teaches a child their feelings and needs matter. Early adaptations become adult patterns. A child who learned to have no needs may grow into an adult who over-gives, avoids conflict, or turns red flags into flowers in dating. Healing and transformation are different. Healing means telling the truth about what happened and letting old feelings move through us. Transformation means building new relational skills and showing up differently. You can be the adult in the room. Accept who your parents truly are, take full responsibility for your life now, and speak up with kindness and clarity, setting the boundaries that were never set for you. Adjust your expectations, then find relatedness. As Gibson writes, we can’t expect emotional satisfaction from emotionally immature parents. When we release that hope, a more honest and enjoyable connection becomes possible. Resources Mentioned Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents by Lindsay C. Gibson Calling in “The One” by Katherine Woodward Thomas (2021 edition). Jessica recommends the list of relational skills on page 140. Dr Arielle Schwartz, quoted on how children would rather believe they are bad children than face having bad parents Jessica’s website and free consultations: jessicayip.com (http://jessicayip.com) About Jessica Jessica is the coach for hardworking people who feel like they’ve ticked all the success boxes in life but are aching for more love and joy. As a leading Calling in “The One” Coach, and now as one of the first certified True You Coaches personally trained by Katherine Woodward Thomas, Jessica helps clients graduate from old stories and painful patterns that keep love at a distance. She brings over a decade of experience blending transformative coaching, somatic attunement and relational skill-building to help you reconnect with your aliveness, agency and power to create healthy relationships, meaningful experiences, and the delicious life and love you’ve always longed for. About Your Host Heather Garbutt is a psychotherapist, love coach and accredited Calling In The One practitioner with over twenty years of experience working with women on love, relationships and the interior work that makes lasting change possible. ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ 📩 JOIN THE NEWSLETTER Each week I write about conscious love, the interior work and what calling in a real relationship actually takes. Join the community here: https://heathergarbutt.com/newsletter (https://heathergarbutt.com/newsletter) ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ 💛 CALLING IN THE ONE If you are ready for structured, supported work to understand your patterns and call in the relationship you deserve, find out more about working with me here: https://heathergarbutt.com/services/ (https://heathergarbutt.com/services/) ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ This podcast is brought to you by Boost and Bloom: https://boostandbloom.co.uk/ (https://boostandbloom.co.uk/) ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ See all podcast episodes here: https://heathergarbutt.com/podcast/ (https://heathergarbutt.com/podcast/)

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   4 Oct 2026

   114: Living Your Life's Work: Redefining Success from the Inside Out, with Sadie Beyl

   What does it truly mean to feel successful? In this episode, I return to From Mourning to Light Conversations to talk with my dear friend Sadie Beyl, spiritual grief guide and former architect. What began as an off-camera chat about retirement became a heartfelt conversation about living a life where who you are and what you do are no longer separate. Sadie shares how the sudden death of her husband, Paul, led her across a threshold into the unknown, and how following her inner guidance shaped a new life supporting others through grief. I talk about something I see again and again as a relationship coach: the beliefs we hold about love rarely stay in our love lives. They shape how we feel about money, visibility and success too, creating an inner glass ceiling formed by family, class, culture and gender. Together, we explore how healing that ceiling begins with self-responsibility, and how each of us can be a drop in a much larger wave of love. Key Takeaways Success can be measured from the inside. For both of us, success means living our life's work, being in service and feeling at peace, alongside the security of bills paid and money in the bank. Your love beliefs mirror your money beliefs. If you believe "nobody ever chooses me" in love, you may hold something similar about deserving money, success or being seen. We all carry an inner glass ceiling. Family of origin, class, heritage, gender, race and sexual identity can all shape where we unconsciously stop ourselves. Guidance reveals itself one step at a time. Sadie shares how, after profound loss, she did not know where she was going, only the next step, and how trusting that led her to help others. Healing ourselves heals our relationships and beyond. When we notice our triggers and take responsibility for them, we bring more love to our partners, our communities and our world. Resources Mentioned Conscious Business Success, my programme exploring your relationship with money, visibility and success. Book a free 30-minute discovery call at heathergarbutt.com (https://heathergarbutt.com) Tony Robbins, Unleash the Power Within, the event that helped spark Sadie's new path Reiki, which transformed Sadie's early grief journey From Mourning to Light, Sadie's online grief summits and podcast My earlier Valentine's Day conversation with Sadie about love and relationships: heathergarbutt.com/podcast (https://heathergarbutt.com/podcast/) About Sadie Beyl Sadie Beyl is a spiritual grief guide and the founder of the From Mourning to Light online grief summits, which bring together diverse speakers and authors to explore how people rebuild meaningful lives after the death of a loved one. A former professional architect who ran her own practice in Cape Town with her husband, Paul, Sadie now supports those in grief through her 10-Week Transformation Workshop, meditation, mindfulness, Angel card readings, and past life regression sessions. She hosts From Mourning to Light Conversations, a companion podcast to the summits. About Your Host Heather Garbutt is a psychotherapist, love coach and accredited Calling In The One practitioner with over twenty years of experience working with women on love, relationships and the interior work that makes lasting change possible. ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ 📩 JOIN THE NEWSLETTER Each week I write about conscious love, the interior work and what calling in a real relationship actually takes. Join the community here: https://heathergarbutt.com/newsletter (https://heathergarbutt.com/newsletter) ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ 💛 CALLING IN THE ONE If you are ready for structured, supported work to understand your patterns and call in the relationship you deserve, find out more about working with me here: https://heathergarbutt.com/services/ (https://heathergarbutt.com/services/) ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ This podcast is brought to you by Boost and Bloom: https://boostandbloom.co.uk/ (https://boostandbloom.co.uk/) ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ See all podcast episodes here: https://heathergarbutt.com/podcast/ (https://heathergarbutt.com/podcast/)

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   20 Sept 2026

   113: From Bootstraps to Brilliance: How Women Grow Through Divorce with Colette Bane

   In the fourth instalment of Heather's series on conscious intentional divorce, she's joined again by family solicitor Colette Bane to explore two very different - and equally valid - ways clients move through separation: the pragmatic, who want the process handled quickly and efficiently, and the released, who use the ending of a marriage as the beginning of something entirely new. Colette speaks candidly about the risks of moving too fast without ever processing the emotional side, and why unaddressed feelings so often resurface later, sometimes as PTSD, sometimes as friction in future co-parenting. The conversation then turns hopeful, as Heather and Colette discuss the phenomenon of post-traumatic growth - the women who come out the other side of divorce and, in Colette's words, "go out there and absolutely boss it." From launching businesses to rediscovering who they really are outside a marriage that no longer fit, both women share real examples of transformation, including Heather's own story of building a therapy-rooms business in Swindon after her own divorce. Key Takeaways Pragmatic clients need to be brought back to their emotions, not rushed past them. Wanting divorce "done and dusted" is understandable, but skipping the emotional processing can lead to worse settlements and unresolved feelings resurfacing later, sometimes as PTSD. Post-traumatic growth is real - and common. Many people only discover who they truly are once they step outside a marriage or role that no longer fit them. How you handle the process shapes your future relationship with your ex. Rushing through practicalities while your ex is still processing emotionally can leave lasting resentment, which makes co-parenting or staying civil far harder. "The best revenge is to go out and boss it" - not as a way to get back at an ex, but as an empowered reclaiming of identity and confidence after divorce. Community and connection accelerate healing. Both Heather and Colette point to networks like the Athena Network as spaces where women thriving pre- or post-divorce support one another's growth. About Colette Bane Colette Bane is a Family Solicitor at Knights, known within her professional community for her quiet composure, thoughtful presence, and deep commitment to supporting people through relationship breakdown with compassion as well as legal expertise. Colette is known for combining sharp professional insight with genuine warmth, helping her clients feel supported not just legally, but personally, through one of life's most difficult transitions. About Your Host Heather Garbutt is a psychotherapist, love coach and accredited Calling In The One practitioner with over twenty years of experience working with women on love, relationships and the interior work that makes lasting change possible. ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ 📩 JOIN THE NEWSLETTER Each week I write about conscious love, the interior work and what calling in a real relationship actually takes. Join the community here: https://heathergarbutt.com/newsletter (https://heathergarbutt.com/newsletter) ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ 💛 CALLING IN THE ONE If you are ready for structured, supported work to understand your patterns and call in the relationship you deserve, find out more about working with me here: https://heathergarbutt.com/services/ (https://heathergarbutt.com/services/) ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ This podcast is brought to you by Boost and Bloom: https://boostandbloom.co.uk/ (https://boostandbloom.co.uk/) ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ See all podcast episodes here: https://heathergarbutt.com/podcast/ (https://heathergarbutt.com/podcast/)

Who has been a guest on Revolutionise Your Love Life

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• Monica Douglas
• Ali Miles-Jenkins
• Colette Bain
• Sue Ritchie

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5.0 / 5

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5.0 / 5

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Engagement

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