Queers, queens and in betweens. We're Rochelle and Maddy. Fiances who love to chat all things lesbian. Each week we will be sharing conversations that show us queers do the same sht as everyone else.
Whether you're queer, straight or somewhere in between, we are going to be oversharing on all things lesbian life, queer dating, what it’s like being two mums, Australian queer IVF journeys, how to support a friend or family member who is coming out and whatever other unfiltered lesbian chats happen in between.
Follow along with us on Instagram and TikTok @those.twomums for daily life and behind the scenes x
Kayla sheds some much needed light on what it is like going through IVF as a same-sex couple, using sibling sperm donation. Kaylas wife Ingrid carried their three kids using her egg, and Kaylas brother as their sperm donor. Kayla shares the early conversations around their IVF journey, how they made the decision to use her brother as their donor and every other aspect that comes with that decision.
Kayla presents this topics so well and is such an inspiration for anyone considering going down this path on their own IVF journey, as well as those who are unaware of the process of using a known donor.
Her story is a MUST listen!
Follow us @those.twomums to stay up to date with the pod and our daily queer life x
8 Apr 2024
Navigating Being The Non Birthing Mum with Georgia Hinkley
Being the non birthing mum in a same sex relationship is something that I never thought I would have trouble navigating, but I did, and I know I am not alone. This week we bring Georgia Hinkley back on the podcast to talk about how we have both navigated becoming a mum, as the non birthing women a same sex couple.
THIS is the episode I needed when my fiance was pregnant. I thought how the hell am I going to bond with the baby? How do I deal with comments (that I can't answer) about pregnancy and birth when out in public with my baby? How do I stop feeling like I'm not the real mum?
We are here to help you through it all.
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1 Apr 2024
Chapstick What?? Chatting Gender Expression and Lesbian Labels
This week, we are unpacking how we label ourselves and chat all things gender expression. Grab a coffee, beer or beverage of your choice, sit back and enjoy the rouge, unfiltered lesbian conversation that is ahead. Rochelle has a problem that she wanted to unpack on the mic so Maddy (and you guys) are her therapists for the week. We talk about labels within the lesbian community and what gender expression means to us. Rochelle and Maddy have very different journeys with sexuality and gender expression and how they've navigated both together. This is their take on this topic, everyone has their own experiences and remember labels are only fun if they feel GOOD and RIGHT for you x
Follow us at @those.twomums to stay up to date with the pod and our queer daily life
25 Mar 2024
Season 2: Our IVF Journey For Baby Number 2 Has Started!
Queers, queens and in-betweens! Maddy and Rochelle sit down to discuss in detail, their second ivf journey for baby #2. They talk on how they went about it second time around, why Maddy is carrying again, their experiences with navigating different highs and lows for the first time, using the same donor / limited donor sperm as well as Maddy going through IVF for the first time. AND they have some very exciting news!!!
Follow at @those.twomums to stay up to date with the pod and their daily queer life x
31 Jul 2023
The inner workings of a two-female relationship? We share it all!
If you have ever wanted to know the inner workings of a two female relationship, todays episode is for you. We delve deep into and confirm (or deny) any and all lesbians stereotypes and myths and you might be surprised by our answers.Also in todays episode we unexpectedly let you all in on something that we had never spoken about before this episode, you will hear the rawness and honesty in our voices as we both realise how each other feel on a particular topic. In todays ep we chat about:
Is there more understanding for each other in a two female relationship?
Is there always a more 'butch' and 'femme' in the relationship?
Do queer woman fancy every female they meet?
U-Haul? What the heck is it and do lesbians do it?
Scissoring.. yay or nay?
What cars do Maddy and I drive? Are they lesbian cars?
Does one of us feel more like our daughters 'real mum' than the other?
Do us lesbians really have more satisfying sex?
AND SO MUCH MORE!! Remember these are all our opinions, our experiences and don’t represent all queer relationships x
24 Jul 2023
Being intimate with women vs. men - with Nic and Jac from Adventure Wives
This ep is your one stop shop on being a lesbian!... kidding, but really. This week we sit down with two of the most beautiful humans, same sex couple - Nic and Jac, as we explore life through the eyes of 4 lesbians. Want to know how often 2 girls under the same roof argue? We got ya covered. Want to know if we would sleep with a straight girl? We'll spill the tea. Want to know how lesbians have sex? Naive, but we still tell you!Today we chat about:
Nic and Jacs coming out stories (they're quite different)
Do you have to label yourself as a lesbian or bisexual or anything at all?
Why does Rochelle find girls so sexy?
How do you know if someone is queer, or just a really friendly human
Our awkward straight girl encounters
What do lesbians really argue about?
Scissoring? Is it a thing?
AND SO MUCH MORE!!Follow Nic and Jac and their beautiful outback adventures through the NT on @adventure.wives and follow us at @those.twomums on instagram to stay up to day with our day to day life and behind the scenes x
17 Jul 2023
So I like girls.. now what?
Why is coming out so difficult and how to be more confident with your sexuality. As a queer person, coming out never stops. To the doctor, a new colleague, the friendly stranger at your kids swimming lessons. And while over time, it can get easier, it can also still be hard, and scary and awkward. On this weeks episode we delve into just WHY is coming out so hard? and so scary? and so awkward? We chat about:
Pivotal awkward moment in our early coming out days
Navigating those difficult conversations when coming out
What factors contribute to making coming out EVEN harder?
Why do we crave acceptance so much?
How to be more confident with your own sexuality
Fostering support and acceptance in our kids while they're growing up
What do to if your loved ones don't accept you after you come out
AND SO MUCH MORE!
Follow us at @those.twomums on instagram to stay up to date with our day to day life and behind the scenes x
5 Jun 2023
Q+A: Who wears the pants in our relationship? Do we fight? Are we gold stars?
We answer all of your juicy questions and help you get to know us a little bit better. This is such a fun, light hearted and easy listen. We chat about:
How did we meet?
Who wears the pants in the relationship? Is that even a thing with lesbians?
How do we share and support each other as parents?
Do we feel comfortable with PDA in public?
Do we fight? and how often?
Have we both been with males before? When/how?
Do we find it "easier" being two females rather than a male/female relationship?
Plus we discuss a DITL of our jobs as a firefighter and paramedic and do we love or hate shift work??
AND MUCH MORE!! Follow us at @those.twomums on instagram to stay up to date with our daily life and behind the scenes x
22 May 2023
What is it like being the "other" mum? Becoming a mum as the non-birthing parent with Georgia Hinkley
This week I chat with Georgia Hinkley who is one half of a same sex couple from WA and has two beautiful daughters, that her wife Kayla carried. Georgia is so open and raw in this conversation about the thoughts and real life situations that she has faced being the non-birthing parent.What does it feel like becoming a mum but not actually giving birth?? or not being the one to carry the baby? How on earth do I bond with it? THIS is the episode that I needed going through mine and Maddys own IVF journey and as the "non-birthing" parent, I struggled with how I was going to bond with the baby when Maddy, my fiance', gave birth. Georgia and I discuss:
How we made the decision who in the relationship was going to carry our children
What it felt like being the support person of a pregnant woman, from a women's perspective
Tips that helped us to bond with our babies
How Kaylas first birth went and why Georgia felt so unheard as a female partner
Times when we have dismissed as the partner
AND SO MUCH MORE!!
15 May 2023
Our (very different) coming out stories
We get very vulnerable in this episode, sharing both of our (very different) coming out stories. How did we know we were gay? and when? What do we identify as? We also chat about why representation is SO important in the lgbtqi+ space and share some stories about times we have been assumed straight.This is a safe space and we hope that this conversation helps, educates or speaks to someone.
8 May 2023
Our reciprocal IVF journey as a same-sex couple
In our third episode we get deep and chat about something near and dear to our hearts and that is our IVF journey. We keep saying "this is the episode we needed when we were going through our journey", so if you're planning on starting IVF, currently going through it or just interested in the whole process.. this is the ep for you!
We chat about:
Why we chose to do reciprocal IVF
What we did to prepare ourselves mentally, physically, emotionally and financially
Step by step through the entire process
Our decision making process behind choosing a donor
How much the whole thing actually cost us?!
and so much more!
We don't delve into all parts of fertility treatments as we can't speak on that behalf but we hope you find this episode super informative and get a few good tips out of it!
24 Apr 2023
Maddys birth story | Two Mums
WE LOVE A GOOD BIRTH STORY!! This week, for our first ep, we are bringing you Maddys birth story with our daughter Macklyn. We talk about:
Why she chose to have an elective caesarean (spoiler)
Going through the private hospital system
The lead up to the day and what we did to prepare
How her birth day played out
Recovering from a caesarean
And so much more!!Follow us on instagram to stay up to date with all future episodes at @those.twomums
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