Self Centered with Katie and Allie

About Self Centered with Katie and Allie

If you’re done living for approval and everyone else’s needs, you’re exactly where you’re meant to be. Self Centered is about reclaiming your relationship with yourself as your home base, so your thoughts, choices, and relationships flow from clarity, self-trust, and alignment instead of guilt, fear, or external validation. Our mission is simple: to help you return to yourself and challenge the culture that taught you to abandon who you are. Together, we uncover what pulls you away from your center, so you can live in alignment with your values and co-create a world where being well and centered isn’t seen as selfish. Hosts Allie and Katie have lived the burnout, the guilt, and the people-pleasing. Now, they share real stories and practical insights to model how to come home to yourself, reclaim your power, and build relationships rooted in interdependence, not codependence. This isn’t therapy. It’s real conversation and lived experience that reveal the patterns shaping how you show up, set boundaries, and connect, both with yourself and with others. Welcome to the movement! Let’s find your center and stay there, together. © 2024–2026 Self Centered™. All rights reserved.

Publisher

Katie Kurtz and Allie West

Category

health & fitness · society & culture

Language

en

Explicit

Yes

First episode

3 Dec 2024

Latest episode

9 Jun 2026

Latest episodes

71 episodes in the feed.

1. 

   9 Jun 2026

   71. Why We're Taking a Break from the Pod (Building a Life We Can Hold)

   What happens when you finally start feeling momentum toward the life you’ve wanted, and realize you need to nurture it instead of overextending yourself? In this deeply personal episode, we share why we’re taking a break from the podcast, not because things are falling apart, but because they’re finally coming together. After years of survival mode, burnout, health struggles, overfunctioning, and pushing through, we’re entering a season focused on sustainability, fullness, joy, and learning how to actually sustain the lives we’ve worked so hard to create. We talk about: Moving from survival mode into thriving The difference between glimpses of wellness and sustainable wellness “Patching the holes in the cup” so growth can actually last Choosing alignment over pressure and performance Building lives that feel nourishing, grounded, and sustainable This episode is especially for you if you've: Spent years in survival mode or chronic stress Felt yourself finally beginning to heal and stabilize Struggled to slow down because you're used to overfunctioning Need permission to prioritize sustainability and joy Are learning that growth sometimes means stepping back, not pushing harder If you’ve been feeling yourself outgrowing survival mode and craving a more sustainable, grounded, joyful life, this episode will deeply resonate. EPISODES MENTIONED: 2. Stop Overextending by Staying in Your Seat 6. Boundaries 23. How to Make Friends as an Adult 27. Ego 101 28. Defense Mechanisms & Relationships 29. Gaslighting 101 42. The Drama Triangle 48. Codependence 101 49. Breaking Codependent Patterns 50. Subconscious Codependent Habits 51. Our Culture is Codependent, too Love the show? A quick rating or review helps us so much! Follow us on IG: selfcentered.pod (https://www.instagram.com/selfcentered.pod/) Thoughts, questions, guest requests, or episode ideas? Email us: selfcenteredthepod@gmail.com (mailto:selfcenteredthepod@gmail.com) DISCLAIMER: The Self Centered with Katie and Allie Podcast is intended for entertainment, educational, and reflective purposes only. The views, opinions, experiences, and content shared by the hosts and guests are personal and subjective. They are not presented as objective facts or as representative of any professional body, organization, or field, including psychotherapy, coaching, or personal training. This podcast includes personal reflections on dynamics in various relationships, platonic, family, romantic, and professional. General references to “family,” “an ex,” or “a friend”, for example, are intentionally vague to protect anonymity and do not refer to every individual in those categories. When names are used, they are fictitious, and identifying details are altered. Some information shared is based on research or professional experience, not personal history. The information provided does not constitute medical, mental health, legal, or other professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. It should not be relied upon as a substitute for consultation with qualified, licensed professionals. Listeners are strongly encouraged to seek the advice and support of appropriate professionals for their own needs. The hosts, guests, and creators of the podcast disclaim all liability for any direct, indirect, incidental, or consequential loss or damages arising from the use of, reliance on, or interpretation of the podcast content or any linked materials. Use of this podcast and related content is at your own risk. By listening, you acknowledge and agree to these terms.

2. 

   26 May 2026

   70. Love is Blind Part 7 (Final Episode): Why Chemistry isn't Enough for a Healthy Relationship

   What happens when you want love so badly that you stop listening to yourself? In this episode, we unpack some of the biggest relationship dynamics from Love Is Blind, including avoidant attachment, codependency, emotional unavailability, weak egos, over-pursuing, validation seeking, and staying true to your values in relationships. Using examples from the show (especially episodes 10, 11, 12, and the reunion), we explore: Why some relationships feel emotionally addictive and confusing The difference between being loved and simply being chosen Why confusion in dating is often a red flag, not a challenge to solve How fear of starting over keeps people stuck in unhealthy dynamics The role insecurity and ego play in dating behavior What healthy partnership, emotional safety, and reciprocity actually look like Why staying self-centered sometimes means walking away from someone you love The importance of compatibility around values, children, finances, and communication This episode is especially helpful for people who: Struggle with people pleasing or codependent relationship patterns Feel stuck in confusing or emotionally inconsistent relationships Tend to ignore red flags because they want love to work Have experienced avoidant partners or anxious attachment Want healthier, more reciprocal relationships rooted in mutual care and emotional maturity EPISODES MENTIONED: 27. What the Ego is and Why it Matters 32. Communication Styles, and how to Become more Assertive 35. How to Know Who You Can Trust (and Who You Can’t) 48. Codependence 101 Love the show? A quick rating or review helps us so much! New episodes every Tuesday – hit subscribe so you don’t miss out. Follow us on IG: selfcentered.pod (https://www.instagram.com/selfcentered.pod/) Thoughts, questions, guest requests, or episode ideas? Email us: selfcenteredthepod@gmail.com (mailto:selfcenteredthepod@gmail.com) DISCLAIMER: The Self Centered with Katie and Allie Podcast is intended for entertainment, educational, and reflective purposes only. The views, opinions, experiences, and content shared by the hosts and guests are personal and subjective. They are not presented as objective facts or as representative of any professional body, organization, or field, including psychotherapy, coaching, or personal training. This podcast includes personal reflections on dynamics in various relationships, platonic, family, romantic, and professional. General references to “family,” “an ex,” or “a friend”, for example, are intentionally vague to protect anonymity and do not refer to every individual in those categories. When names are used, they are fictitious, and identifying details are altered. Some information shared is based on research or professional experience, not personal history. The information provided does not constitute medical, mental health, legal, or other professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. It should not be relied upon as a substitute for consultation with qualified, licensed professionals. Listeners are strongly encouraged to seek the advice and support of appropriate professionals for their own needs. The hosts, guests, and creators of the podcast disclaim all liability for any direct, indirect, incidental, or consequential loss or damages arising from the use of, reliance on, or interpretation of the podcast content or any linked materials. Use of this podcast and related content is at your own risk. By listening, you acknowledge and agree to these terms.

3. 

   12 May 2026

   69. Love is Blind Part 6: Avoidant Attachment, “Fixing” Partners, and When Love Isn’t Enough

   What happens when someone seems emotionally available one minute… and completely shuts down the next? In this Love Is Blind recap of Emma and Mike, Bree and Connor, and Chris and Jessica in episodes 7-9, we unpack the real relationship patterns underneath what we’re watching unfold. From avoidant attachment and emotional deactivation to trying to mold someone into your ideal partner, this episode is really about the ways people disconnect from themselves and each other in relationships. We talk about: Avoidant attachment and “deactivation” The difference between loving someone vs loving their validation The pressure to “fix” or raise a partner Love the show? A quick rating or review helps us so much! New episodes every Tuesday – hit subscribe so you don’t miss out. Follow us on IG: selfcentered.pod (https://www.instagram.com/selfcentered.pod/) Thoughts, questions, guest requests, or episode ideas? Email us: selfcenteredthepod@gmail.com (mailto:selfcenteredthepod@gmail.com) DISCLAIMER: The Self Centered with Katie and Allie Podcast is intended for entertainment, educational, and reflective purposes only. The views, opinions, experiences, and content shared by the hosts and guests are personal and subjective. They are not presented as objective facts or as representative of any professional body, organization, or field, including psychotherapy, coaching, or personal training. This podcast includes personal reflections on dynamics in various relationships, platonic, family, romantic, and professional. General references to “family,” “an ex,” or “a friend”, for example, are intentionally vague to protect anonymity and do not refer to every individual in those categories. When names are used, they are fictitious, and identifying details are altered. Some information shared is based on research or professional experience, not personal history. The information provided does not constitute medical, mental health, legal, or other professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. It should not be relied upon as a substitute for consultation with qualified, licensed professionals. Listeners are strongly encouraged to seek the advice and support of appropriate professionals for their own needs. The hosts, guests, and creators of the podcast disclaim all liability for any direct, indirect, incidental, or consequential loss or damages arising from the use of, reliance on, or interpretation of the podcast content or any linked materials. Use of this podcast and related content is at your own risk. By listening, you acknowledge and agree to these terms.

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Apple Podcasts (US)

3.5 / 5

13 ratings

Spotify

2.6 / 5

25 ratings

Podcast Authority Score: 56 / 100

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Quality

74

Social presence

90

YouTube

0

Engagement

49

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