Self-Led Besties!

About Self-Led Besties!

Welcome to the pod, besties! You’ll find us chatting about all things Self-Leadership, parts, self-compassion, nonviolent communication & so much more.

Publisher

Christine Dixon, Hallie Shapiro & David Hilton

Category

health & fitness

Language

en

Explicit

No

First episode

19 Oct 2025

Latest episode

7 Jun 2026

Latest episodes

11 episodes in the feed.

1. 

   7 Jun 2026

   S1 E10 | Three Babbling Brooks

   As a special treat for the Season One Finale of The Self Led Besties Podcast...we decided to be on camera (on the YouTube version at least)!!! Whenever Hallie and Christine would have "babbling parts," David would graciously call them "babbling brooks," so we decided to call this episode "Three Babbling Brooks." David begins by telling about what has been alive in him lately - pondering the nature of vulnerable, wounded parts and the various layers around them. From there, we talk about how wounding happens from the inside out and healing occurs as Self brings loving attention to all the layers from the outside in. As Hallie says, "We've been on the Needs Bus lately," so of course we also bring in how unmet needs relate to wounds and burdened parts. Join us in this silly and serious discussion, and as always, please share any questions or resonance in the comments section below. 0:02 Introduction and Season Finale Announcement 0:42 Theme Song and Lip Sync 2:51 Discussion on Authenticity and Voice Messages 4:10 David's Introduction to Wounding and Healing 5:20 Emotional Beliefs and Protective Parts 7:44 Healing Process and Self-Energy 10:26 Visual and Somatic Components in Healing 13:41 Christine and Hallie's Observations on Protective Parts 16:32 Self-Energy and Integration 34:38 Exploring Needs and Burdening 39:18 Healing and Meeting Needs 54:28 Personal Reflections on the Season 61:29 Upcoming Projects and Workshops Follow us on IG! the pod: @selfledbestiespod Christine: @the_ordinary_sacred David: @ifs_awakening Hallie: @wiseinside.coaching

2. 

   24 May 2026

   S1 E9 | Activity: Wheel of Needs

   In this episode, Hallie leads David and Christine through a beautiful exercise piggy backing off of the needs exercise from last episode (though this can also be used as a stand alone exercise). Hallie explains why it so important to connect to our needs and how the world might be a more supportive place to live if we all valued needs. Then, after a short "coming into presence" moment, Hallie guides us (and you) through rating each of the needs based first on our body compass then letting parts express whatever comes up for them. After getting an overall rating for how well our nine universal needs are met in this chapter of our lives, Hallie guides us in exploring how our highest and lowest rated needs could be met by Self, Support (from another person), and the Strategies our parts use to get Supply. This exercise has the potential to bring so much clarity, compassion, and creativity into our systems. Please feel free to follow along or just listen, and we'd love to hear how the exercise was for you in the comment section below. 0:00 Intro 0:10 Theme Song 0:36 Exercise Introduction 1:48 Exercise Overview 3:58 Coming Into Presence 7:28 The 9 Universal Human Needs 15:35 The Wheel Of Needs 20:11 Rating Our Needs 22:02 The Need for Safety 24:59 The Need for Sustenance 26:50 The Need For Rest 29:22 The Need For Love 30:49 The Need For Understanding 32:32 The Need For Belonging 35:03 The Need For Purpose 36:46 The Need For Creativity 39:19 The Need For Freedom 41:36 Calculating Our Needs Percentage 44:00 Percentage Indicators 46:38 Strategy Overview 52:40 The Importance Of Authenticity 57:24 Lowest & Highest Scores 58:41 Highest Scoring Need 59:53 Highest Score Strategies 1:01:31 Lowest Scoring Need 1:02:16 Lowest Score Strategies 1:04:21 New Strategies For Lowest Score? 1:08:13 Invitation To Further Exploration 1:11:02 Christine's Experience 1:23:52 David's Experience 1:30:21 Closing & Goodbyes 1:32:00 Theme Song 1:33:03 Like & Subscribe

3. 

   10 May 2026

   S1 E8 | Activity: Are My Needs Met?

   In this episode, Christine shares a Needs-Based Protocol she's been working on. David and Hallie experiment with what emotions feel like in their bodies and how their emotions can be valuable messengers pointing to unmet needs. Then, Christine leads Hallie and David in an exercise to assess a relationship, environment, or activity by scoring how well they support each of the 9 Universal Human Needs. Then we discuss brainstorming creative strategies to meet those needs ourselves as well as specific requests to make of others. We welcome you to follow along in these experiments and offer feedback or questions in the comments. As we develop this protocol, your input is highly valuable. 0:00 Intro 0:10 Theme Song 0:37 Exercise Overview 4:45 Noticing Emotions 9:06 The Level Of Suffering 12:30 David's Emotions 15:21 Hallie's Emotions 18:47 The Nine Human Needs 23:29 David's Unmet Needs 25:04 Hallie's Unmet Needs 26:30 Meeting Our Needs 30:29 How Emotions Relate To Needs 35:34 Partner, Place Or Profession? 40:40 Rating Needs Being Met 44:50 High, Medium & Low Scores 50:05 Personally Meeting Our Needs 50:45 Specific Request Of Another Person 52:08 Creating Distance 53:30 Strategy Examples 1:02:34 Outro & Goodbyes 1:04:12 Theme Song 1:05:16 Like & Subscribe

4. 

   26 Apr 2026

   S1 E7 | Parts Chat: Who is the Healer in an IFS Session?

   In this episode of the Self Led Besties Podcast, Christine, Hallie and David speak for their active parts around the exclusion of non therapists from the IFSI training (yes, we still have parts processing the decision made 2 1/2 years ago!). We reference an article entitled "The Ethics of Using IFS in Coaching." Here is the link, if you'd like to read the article yourself: https://www.compassionateresultscoaching.com/blog/ethics-of-ifs-coaching (https://www.compassionateresultscoaching.com/blog/ethics-of-ifs-coaching) A main point in the article is that IFS is unique in its understanding that it is NOT the practitioner but the client's Self who is the healing agent in their system. So the question is NOT "Who is allowed to facilitate IFS?", but "Who does IFS assert is the healer?" We discuss our distress over the conflict between therapists and non-therapists created by the exclusion and our desire to be united in the unique hope of IFS. We also discuss how much of mainstream therapy can end up reinforcing client's core wounds such as, "I am helpless," "something is wrong with me," etc. and how anyone with Self energy - a coach, friend, family member - can be supportive of our own Self tending to our parts, and that, ultimately, it is always Love that heals. 0:00 Intro 0:12 Theme Song 0:38 Discussion Intoduction 2:33 How Christine's Parts Responded 4:28 How David's Parts Responded 5:46 How Hallie's Parts Responded 10:42 Article Introduction 12:46 Article Reading 23:21 How Therapy Can Reinforce Wounds 29:59 The Importance Of Self-Energy 36:58 The Importance of Relationship 40:50 The Importance of Inner Work 43:26 The Importance Of Self-Led Friends 52:16 IFSI & Christianity 55:09 How Love Heals 59:53 A Beautiful Poem By Hallie 1:00:48 Closing & Goodbyes 1:01:34 Theme Song 1:02:35 Like & Subscribe!

5. 

   12 Apr 2026

   S1 E6 | Activity: The Relationship Garden

   In this episode, David leads Hallie and Christine (and you) through an exercise based on a beautiful gardening metaphor to bring curiosity and awareness to the relationships in our lives. In the exercise, we imagine four flower beds - one each for seedling, deeply rooted flowering, withering, and dying relationships. We assess the time and energy we put into each type of relationship as well as listen to parts' fears and needs around the various stages of our relationships. After the exercise, Christine and Hallie share about the insights they gained, and Hallie extends the metaphor in many wonderful ways. If you participate in the exercise, we'd love to hear about your experience in the comment section! 0:00 Intro 0:10 Theme Song 0:34 Exercise Overview 2:01 Parts Check-In 3:17 Imagining The Garden 5:32 Noticing Four Flowerbeds 8:59 Energy & Effort Percentage 10:52 First Flowerbed - Seedlings & Saplings 13:42 Second Flowerbed - Evergreens 16:03 Third Flowerbed - Wilting & Withering 18:18 Fourth Flowerbed - Composting 20:42 Part's Insights? 21:15 Energy & Effort Change? 23:02 Bonus Question 23:44 Exercise Ending 24:20 Christine's Experience 35:54 Hallie's Experience 56:43 Relationship Discussion 1:10:36 Closing & Goodbyes 1:11:49 Theme Song 1:12:53 Like & Subscribe!

6. 

   29 Mar 2026

   S1 E5 | Activity: Gentle Presence Lights the Way

   In this episode, Hallie leads David and Christine (and you) through an incredibly helpful exercise to get to know parts around a polarization and then to bring them together to find a Self-led consensus. Hallie starts with the prompt, "What is something you/parts of you have been putting off?” and leads us to get to know the parts who want to do the thing and the parts who block/resist it. She guides us toward gentle inquiry of each part/set of parts to find out their fears, needs, values, and requests. At the end, we all share for what came up for us in the experiment/experience. Feel free to join us in doing the exercise and share your experience in the comments or just listen to our experiences. You cannot get it wrong! 0:00 Intro 0:11 Theme Song 0:35 Exercise Preview 1:51 Exercise Overview 6:54 Finding a Trailhead 8:17 First Part's Questions P1 11:33 First Part's Questions P2 12:39 First Part's Questions P3 13:21 Second Part's Questions P1 16:18 Second Part's Questions P2 16:45 Second Part's Questions P3 17:24 Spending Time With Vulnerable Parts 20:23 Bringing Parts Together 21:54 Sharing Part's Perspectives 24:43 Inviting a Consensus 25:54 Exercise Conclusion 27:53 David's Experience 36:01 Christine's Experience 48:05 Exercise Reflection 56:40 Hallie's Experience 1:00:14 Closing & Goodbyes 1:02:23 Theme Song 1:03:23 Like & Subscribe!

7. 

   1 Mar 2026

   S1 E4 | Activity: Left-Handed Letters from Love

   In this episode, Christine leads Hallie and David (and you) through an exercise in which we express our parts' concerns by journaling with our dominant hand and then respond from Love/Spirit/SELF with our non dominant hand. Christine gives an overview of the many sources which use a similar method to access wisdom from Divine Source - Liz Gilbert's Letters from Love, The Morning Pages encouraged in The Artist's Way, Journal Speak developed by Nicole Sachs to heal chronic pain, Conversations With God by Neal Donald Walsh, and Spirit by Bob Falconer. Christine also talks about the influence of Jill Bolte Taylor's ideas in her book "Whole Brain Living," which made Christine wonder if our Self exists, or is at least channeled by, our right brain. She talks about the parallels between the parts and Self in IFS and JBT's "4 Characters" of the brain in this video (https://youtu.be/CHTrvga8q50?si=KP6vf3nwwhAebtGi). Christine, Hallie, and David all do the exercise and share the responses they got from Love/Spirit/SELF as well as their experience using the exercise in the recent past. Check out our SLB Instagram account (https://www.instagram.com/selfledbestiespod/) if you'd like to see the writing that came out of it for us. Please feel free to try the exercise and let us know how it went in the comments below. 0:00 Intro 0:18 Theme Song 0:42 Exercise Overview 1:52 Exercise Influences 11:32 Exercise Preview 16:08 Step One - Parts Writing with Right Hand 18:00 Step Two - Parts Question and Left Hand Reply 20:08 Christine's Experience 24:45 David's Experience 38:24 Hallie's Experience 48:17 Past Experiences with Exercise 57:24 Outro & Goodbyes 57:57 Theme Song

8. 

   15 Feb 2026

   S1 E3 | Activity: Three Paths to Self-Energy

   In this episode of The Self Led Besties Podcast, David gently leads Hallie and Christine through three groups of exercises that act as inroads to Self Energy: 1.⁠ ⁠Presence 2.⁠ ⁠Awareness 3.⁠ ⁠Qualities of Self You are welcome to join us in these experiences/experiments or just listen. At about the 46 minute marker, Christine and Hallie share for their parts' reactions to the exercises. If you participate in the exercises, please share about your experience in the comment section. We'd love to hear from you! 0:00 Intro 0:17 Theme Song 0:42 Exercise Overview 4:38 First Path To Self - Presence P1 9:28 First Path to Self - Presence P2 18:09 Awareness Overview 20:57 Second Path to Self - Awareness P1 25:22 Second Path to Self - Awareness P2 35:36 Qualities Overview 37:46 Third Path to Self - Qualities 46:38 Christine's Experience 56:38 Hallie's Experience 1:13:03 Outro & Goodbyes 1:17:22 Theme Song

9. 

   1 Feb 2026

   S1 E2 | Activity: Accessing Self-Energy Through Flows of Compassion

   In today's episode of the Self Led Besties Podcast, Hallie beautifully leads David and Christine through a meditation and journaling exercise of listening to activated parts and receiving compassion from a Self energy surrogate and our own future Self before offering compassion out to others. After the exercise, Christine and David share about their activated parts and the messages they received from Self. Christine shares for parts activated by events in Minnesota and David shares for parts polarized around healing. In the spirit of experimentation on which our podcast is based, we tried offering just an audio experience with no edits for this episode. There will be large gaps of silence in this video/audio so that you can follow along in the exercise with us. You are welcome to join us or forward and just listen to our experiences. This is an exercise you can come back to repeatedly whenever parts feel activated (see chapters if you'd like to access a specific part of the exercise). If you do the exercise and would like to share what came up for you, please do that in the comments section. In this way, we can all be a community of compassionate with-ness for one another. 0:00 Intro 1:48 Theme Song 2:28 Exercise Intro 5:01 Finding Trailheads 9:32 Writing About Trailheads 16:25 First Flow Of Compassion 21:55 Second Flow Of Compassion 26:36 Third Flow Of Compassion 32:38 Exercise Summary 35:29 Christine's Experience 45:42 David's Experience 55:38 Outro & Full Theme Song

10. 

    17 Dec 2025

    S1 E1 | Activation Station: Exploring Angry Parts

    Welcome back to the pod, besties! In this episode, we're experimenting with out first ever Activation Station segment! Chapters 00:00 Intro 01:04 Parts Check-In 13:19 Activation Station 01:01:59 Self-Led Consensus 01:15:36 See You Next Time! (Hello Brian!) 01:15:45 Full Theme Song! Links to things we mentioned: Not Nice (Book): https://shorturl.at/v8cDw (https://shorturl.at/v8cDw) Mayam Bialik's Breakdown Podcast: https://www.bialikbreakdown.com/ (https://www.bialikbreakdown.com/) Marshall Rosenberg: https://www.cnvc.org/about/marshall (https://www.cnvc.org/about/marshall) Enemies Project: https://www.enemiesproject.org/ (https://www.enemiesproject.org/) Telepathy Tapes: https://thetelepathytapes.com/ (https://thetelepathytapes.com/) David Hilton: Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/ifs_awakening/) David's Website - https://www.mindfulnondualtherapy.com... (https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqbE1tUkk5bm4yaVhQNnluSG1vVVpCQlZ2c3pfQXxBQ3Jtc0ttZ2U4cF9Tb2xWN1hYOTRFaUMwM1FlQkVUbVpBaVNYV3doeWc0aGdMdmpCV3gzbGt0elZTZ0Y4bkhka2l3dDJ1dnEtaU1PVm10VHNkOVFvc0Z2MWpoV2o0LVJXUlJnTFlVMUx2N1BHZVdIZkpxdkFVOA&q=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.mindfulnondualtherapy.com%2Fifs-therapy&v=HdCMKvGylfg) Hallie Shapiro: Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/wiseinside.coaching/) Hallie's Website - www.youarewiseinside.com (http://www.youarewiseinside.com) Christine Dixon: Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/the_ordinary_sacred/) Christine's Website: https://www.theordinarysacred.com/ (https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqbUZBNDUtRVRkS1JxVkxyeHEtM28tbEcwWC1wd3xBQ3Jtc0tsU00tQ0xKYU5HOEdNN3llaDd1NlB1bU15elpUclNxbVVOOHVobWZ0SWdsWDdvd2ppRkZ2ZE1FX1M4dGNYTXl0Yjg0aFFVUkozdnJjT0lkTmI1RTIxOFNualdrc0dZNUx3SF93U0I4Z2ZzT09SRy0zdw&q=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.theordinarysacred.com%2F&v=HdCMKvGylfg) Self Led Besties Pod: Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/selfledbestiespod/)

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    19 Oct 2025

    S1 E0 | Welcome to the Pod, Besties!

    Welcome to the Pod, Besties! You’ll find us chatting about all things Self-Leadership, parts, self-compassion, nonviolent communication & so much more. Chapters 00:00 Welcome! 02:03 Our Connection To Each Other 16:55 Parts Check-In 29:14 Everything As An Experiment 32:42 They Love You They Really Love You 37:15 Our Podcast Name 40:16 Self-Energy Surrogates 57:52 Until Next Time! 59:12 Special Brian Appearance! 59:27 Full Theme Song :) Show Notes: Martha Beck Wayfinder Life Coach Training (https://marthabeck.com/life-coach-training/?gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=1667892167&gbraid=0AAAAAC5Oayclsp3iieOw_qv-QYSLxo5hI&gclid=Cj0KCQjw9czHBhCyARIsAFZlN8RMMAfs8QYaGPbZ7JEaFZ25luXk8aBtm0u2weCZBU8rUy_9-QQDrCEaArbDEALw_wcB) Ordinary Sacred IFS Meditation for Grief (https://youtu.be/VWYou7CXqM0?si=fBu__6IrEZPjEmVW) Outshining Trauma (https://www.shambhala.com/outshining-trauma.html?srsltid=AfmBOoopHDzoQ8Md6LIDrp0n54dmvy5tfN8Bp_mJcY612wXfhSgp16Ee) by Ralph De La Rosa Ordinary Sacred YouTube Videos on Outshining Trauma (found within Come to the Library Series (https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLYavST3gksljBYsPakep_S-f6qvH1vkNY)) Self Energy Surrogates (https://youtu.be/6HzZjLlIvSc?si=BkAccj9eYZqMDzIK) video Christine Dixon: Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/the_ordinary_sacred/), Website (https://www.theordinarysacred.com/) David Hilton: Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/ifs_awakening/), Website: Mindful-Nondual Therapy (https://www.mindfulnondualtherapy.com/) Hallie Shapiro: Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/wiseinside.coaching/), Website: Wise Inside Self Leadership Coaching (https://www.youarewiseinside.com/?fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAAadZ0xvACxeVXkomgFTc80G_E5EhqlgAQ3AILMRYbpIkAX8zZQ6t78_idFVF5Q_aem_HTJE0KgmrNu7EQo-G_reaA) SLB Podcast: Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/selfledbestiespod/)

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