Welcome to Set Apart + Called.
This is a space for honest conversations about healing, faith, motherhood, narcissistic abuse, high-conflict co-parenting, spiritual warfare, trauma, and the things we learn while rebuilding our lives.
Some episodes are deeply personal. Some are practical. Some are conversations about what God is teaching us in real time. But all of them are rooted in one belief:
What was meant to break you does not get the final word.
Whether you're navigating a difficult relationship, learning how to trust yourself again, healing from past wounds, or simply trying to make sense of what you've lived through, you're not alone here.
We'll talk about the hard things, the hopeful things, and everything in between, from therapy to spiritual growth, from motherhood to recovery, from survival to freedom.
Because healing isn't always linear, faith isn't always simple, and sometimes the most powerful breakthroughs happen in the middle of the story.
Unfiltered Conversations #1: In Real Time — Why You Feel Responsible for Other People’s Emotions
Unfiltered Conversations: In Real Time is a new series within Set Apart + Called where we talk through things while we're still living them.
No polished lessons. No pretending to have everything figured out.
Just honest conversations about healing, relationships, faith, self-awareness, and the things that come up along the way.
In this first episode, I'm talking about something I recently realized in therapy: how often I feel responsible for other people's emotions.
Why do some of us immediately assume we've done something wrong when someone's energy feels different?
Why do we rush to fix things that may not even be ours to fix?
And what happens when we finally learn to sit with discomfort instead of managing everyone else's emotions?
This isn't an episode from the other side of healing.
It's a conversation from the middle of it.
And maybe that's exactly where some of us need to be.
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TikTok: @setapartcalled.po
Email: setapartandcalledpodcast@gmail.com (mailto:setapartandcalledpodcast@gmail.com)
Emotional Healing
People Pleasing
Self Awareness
Emotional Regulation
Boundaries
Self-Abandonment
Anxiety
Trauma Recovery
Relationships
Personal Growth
29 Apr 2026
Episode 39: The Duality of Narcissism - He Was a Pastor in Public, but a Monster at Home | Guest Episode with Lena Rivers
What happens when the person abusing you is also the person everyone admires on Sunday morning?
In the first guest episode of Set Apart + Called, I sit down with Lena Rivers to talk about surviving narcissistic abuse inside a marriage with a pastor whose public image looked nothing like the reality happening behind closed doors.
We talk about spiritual abuse, manipulation inside the church, the pressure to stay silent, and what happens when faith becomes tangled with fear, control, and image management. Lena also shares what it was like asking church leadership for help — only to watch the institution protect the abuser instead.
This conversation is honest, uncomfortable, and deeply important for anyone who has ever questioned themselves inside a relationship that looked “good” from the outside.
The duality of the public pastor and private abuser
Spiritual manipulation and image control
Why narcissists can thrive in church environments
What happens when leadership protects the wrong person
Rebuilding faith after spiritual abuse
The reality of leaving and healing after narcissistic abuse
Lena Rivers is a narcissistic abuse survivor and educator focused on helping others understand coercive control, manipulation, and post-separation abuse. She is currently working on a book for survivors navigating recovery after narcissistic relationships.
TikTok / Instagram: @thrive_free_npd
31 Mar 2026
Episode 38: Reactive Abuse - How the Narcissist Pushes You to Your Breaking Point — Then Uses Your Reaction as Proof You’re the Problem
Have you ever finally snapped after months of being provoked and then somehow ended up being the one who was out of control?
That’s reactive abuse. And it’s one of the most powerful tools a narcissist uses to maintain control, shift blame, and keep you questioning your own sanity.
In this episode we break down exactly what reactive abuse is, why it works, and how narcissists deliberately provoke reactions they can use against you. If you’ve ever been told you’re “too emotional,” “unstable,” or “the real problem” — this episode is for you.
What reactive abuse actually is and why it’s not your fault.
How narcissists deliberately engineer your breaking point.
Why your reaction gets weaponized against you.
The connection between reactive abuse and gaslighting.
How to recognize the cycle and protect your peace.
The spiritual warfare behind the pattern.
If this episode resonated with you, share it with someone who needs to hear it. You can reach me directly at setapartandcalledpodcast@gmail.com (mailto:setapartandcalledpodcast@gmail.com) — I read every message personally.
Stay grounded in truth. What was meant to break you is building you instead.
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