Sweary life advice about claiming your joy. Playful, tender-hearted, and trauma-informed. We'll talk about authenticity, vulnerability, self-compassion, self-care, sobriety, glitter... all the good shit that helps us show up for ourselves and each other just a little bit better every day.
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Claim your joy!
You know what fuels patriarchy and capitalism? The “what’s in it for me” mindset. You know what nourishes our souls and creates a sense of community, connection, and care (especially during difficult times)? Shifting into the mindset of being a contribution.
Whether we call it being of service, sharing our gifts, or leaving things better than we found them – adopting a mentality of giving what we have to offer on a daily basis boosts our sense of happiness and well being. Changing the world (with a lowercase w) happens through simple acts of kindness and care between two people.
So, if you need a little dose of hope and encouragement that you can make a difference today, this episode is for you.
Read the transcript at: https://settlingisbullshit.com/ (https://settlingisbullshit.com/)
Resources, References, and Links
Note: book recommendations include affiliate links. If you buy a copy, I’ll get a tiny commission, and that would be super cool.
Episode #35: Cultivating Joy Amidst the Shit Show (https://settlingisbullshit.com/2025/02/27/cultivating-joy-amidst-the-shit-show/)
The Art of Possibility (https://bookshop.org/a/109472/9780142001103) by Rosamund Stone Zander and Benjamin Zander.
The Book of Joy (https://bookshop.org/a/109472/9780399185045): Lasting Happiness in a Changing World by the Dalai Lama and Archbishop Desmond Tutu.
Episode #29: Intuition & The Reclamation of Feminine Wisdom with Andrea Leda (https://settlingisbullshit.com/2025/01/09/intuition-the-reclamation-of-feminine-wisdom-with-andrea-leda/).
2 Apr 2026TRANSCRIPT
60 | Thriving with ADHD and Un-shaming Our Life Pivots with TT Hernandez
Living with ADHD in a neurotypical world is hard. It just is. But we don’t have to lose ourselves in shame and self-loathing when we can’t contort ourselves into the shapes society wants for us.
In this conversation with TT Hernandez, artist and trauma-informed coach for creative minds, we share about our journeys as late-in-life diagnosed ADHDers and how we found our way out of shame and burnout and into self-compassion and self-care.
A huge part of that process was un-shaming the ways that our quirky and magical ADHD brains operate and learning to embrace the inevitable life pivots that the universe throws at us… ideally learning to listen to the gentle nudges before getting hit upside the head with a two-by-four (or an actual softball, as was the case for TT!)
Read the transcript at: https://settlingisbullshit.com/2026/04/02/adhd-and-un-shaming-our-life-pivots-with-tt-hernandez/ (https://settlingisbullshit.com/2026/04/02/adhd-and-un-shaming-our-life-pivots-with-tt-hernandez/)
Connect with TT
Visit her website: tthernandez.com (http://tthernandez.com)
Follow her on Instagram: @the.tthernandez & @hall_lore_ween
Order her books!
Hall-lore-ween (Book 1) https://a.co/d/eGi5Px5 (https://a.co/d/eGi5Px5)
It’s Hall-lore-ween again! (Book 2) https://a.co/d/0MIbHM6 (https://a.co/d/0MIbHM6)
Resources, References, and Links
DSM-5 Criteria for ADHD (https://www.utmb.edu/pedi_ed/GENPEDS/ADHD/page_06.htm) – when they separated things out into inattentive and hyperactive.
Hyperfocus (https://www.additudemag.com/understanding-adhd-hyperfocus/?srsltid=AfmBOooOfr6WW90-P6eeU5JwxL-iG9IMqqtCe-GuFhiLCIqdF7DNvylP). “an intense fixation on an interest or activity for an extended period of time.”
Episode #48: Honoring Our Limitations (https://settlingisbullshit.com/2025/07/30/honoring-our-limitations/).
Seven Grams (http://sevengrams.org). The short film TT illustrated.
Rejection sensitivity (https://www.additudemag.com/rejection-sensitive-dysphoria-and-adhd/). An aspect of ADHD in which we are acutely attuned to potential (and real) rejection.
Body doubling (https://add.org/the-body-double/). A simple but incredibly effective tool for ADHDers in which you simply have someone present with you while you work on difficult tasks.
How to ADHD (https://www.youtube.com/c/HowtoADHD). My favorite YouTube channel for understanding and coping with ADHD.
3 Mar 2026TRANSCRIPT
59 | Getting Through the Messy Middle
Host [Host Name] offers a pep talk for navigating life's difficult transitions, emphasizing acceptance, community, and hope.
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61 | Being a Contribution
Published 20 Apr 2026 · Transcript excerpt
[…] And they offer a series of very specific practices that we can do to help cultivate that sense of possibility in the world. And one of the chapters is about being a contribution. And it has stuck with me ever since the first time I read the book. And this is a concept that also shows up in a variety of different places, in a variety of different ways, in kind of the camping sphere and the national park sphere. There's this idea of leaving it better than we found it. In positive psychology, there's a core concept that other people matter in the book of joy by the Dalai Lama and Archbishop Desmond Tutu, which is another one of my favorite books that I tend to revisit. […]
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