Forget the love-and-light BS. Shadow Work, WTF? dives into the shadows we’d rather hide — shame, fear, boundaries, people-pleasing, and imposter syndrome — and shows you how to actually work with them in your life and with your clients. Through raw, messy, unfiltered conversations, we make shadow work human, practical, and sometimes laugh-out-loud messy.
Inside the MAFS Drama: Mean Girl Dynamics, Projection & Attachment Styles Decoded LIVE with Stella
Stella from MAFS sit's down with Caitlin to unpack her relationship and mean girl drama.
You saw the dinner party chaos - now hear the psychology behind it.
Stella sits down with Caitlin to unpack her relationship, the mean girl drama she was targeted by, and what was really happening beneath the surface.
They go deep on:
The anxious/avoidant dance Stella used to live in (and what shifted)
Why “boring” can be the first sign of secure attachment
The mean girl hierarchy, projection, and subtle power plays at the table
What not reacting actually communicates in high-conflict spaces
How real support looks (spoiler: not your friends yelling “fuck him!” on repeat)
Compassion without reconciliation (aka: you can have empathy and still say NO)
How to watch reality TV like free therapy instead of a public hanging
Whether you’re watching MAFS or not, this episode will change how you see relationship drama — on screen and in your own life.
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Caitlin: https://www.instagram.com/complete_bycaitlin/
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27 Aug 2025
Ep. 119: Why 10 Years of Personal Development Didn't Work (Until Shadow Work): Student Spotlight with Lucy
In this episode, Caitlin and Lurinda sit down with Lucy, a mum of three who's been in the personal development space for a decade. Lucy gets honest about why all that mindset work and manifestation coaching helped her intellectually but never actually healed anything, and how Shadow Alchemy became the first approach that actually worked.
From judging women in the gym to realising she was projecting her own desire for confidence, Lucy shares the messy truth about spiritual bypassing and what it really takes to move from understanding your patterns to actually healing them. Plus, some excellent tangents about going clubbing in your 30s and why we stop having fun as adults.
This episode is for you if:
You've done years of mindset work but keep running the same bloody patterns
You judge other women's confidence and secretly wish you had it too
You can connect all the dots about your childhood trauma but still feel triggered by the same stuff
You've lost parts of yourself to motherhood or "adulting" and want them back
What we'll cover:
Why Lucy used to judge women in the gym and what that really meant
The difference between intellectually understanding your patterns and actually healing them
How spiritual bypassing keeps you stuck in analysis without feeling
What happened when Lucy finally let her alterego come out at the nightclub
Resources Mentioned:
Shadow Alchemy Certification: shadowalchemycoaching.com
Shadow Alchemy Coaching Academy: @shadowalchemycoachingacademy
Connect with Us:
This conversation will probably make you think about all the parts of yourself you've shut down in the name of being "appropriate." Share your thoughts with us @shadowalchemycoachingacademy - especially if you're ready to stop intellectualising your way through healing.
If you've been doing mindset work for years but still find yourself stuck in the same patterns, maybe it's time to stop thinking your way through your trauma and start feeling it. Lucy's story is proof that understanding yourself isn't the same as healing yourself - sometimes you need to get out of your head and into your body. And maybe, just maybe, you need to go dancing.
1 Aug 2025
Ep. 118: From Wedding Doubts to Deep Love: How My Avoidant Attachment Almost Sabotaged My Marriage
In this raw and deeply personal solo episode, Caitlin gets brutally honest about what really happened in the months leading up to her wedding - and it wasn't the fairy tale love bubble you see in movies. After recording this episode 35 times (yes, really), she finally lets it be messy and shares how her avoidant attachment patterns showed up in ways she never expected, how she almost convinced herself she was marrying the wrong person, and what she discovered when she dug beneath the surface of her doubts. This episode is the real, uncomfortable truth about what it takes to choose love when your nervous system is screaming "run."
This episode is for you if:
You've ever doubted a good relationship and wondered if there's something "better" out there
You struggle with intimacy even when you feel safe with someone
You keep having the same arguments with your partner and can't figure out why
You're terrified that loving someone deeply means you'll be destroyed if you lose them
What we'll cover:
How avoidant attachment shows up differently in secure relationships versus toxic ones
Why Caitlin felt like she was "missing spark" and what she discovered about her relationship to seduction and intimacy
The mirror dynamic that showed her and her partner were actually facing the same fears
The moment she realised her avoidance wasn't about commitment—it was about her terror of loss
Key points:
06:00:00 - The Wedding Doubt Spiral
Caitlin shares how the question "what if I regret it?" started consuming her thoughts three months before the wedding.
15:00:00 - Missing the Spark
Why she felt like something was missing in her relationship and what she discovered about her addiction to push-pull dynamics.
25:00:00 - The Seductress Shadow
How Caitlin realised she'd shut down parts of herself that brought aliveness because she'd only used them as manipulation tactics.
50:00:00 - The Deactivation Strategy
How Caitlin caught herself unconsciously starting fights to create distance when intimacy felt too vulnerable.
This episode is messy, real, and probably longer than it needed to be—just like relationships. Share your thoughts with us @shadowalchemycoachingacademy (https://instagram.com/shadowalchemycoachingacademy), especially if you've recognised your own patterns in Caitlin's story.
If you're in a relationship where someone isn't willing to meet you in curiosity and vulnerability, this episode might be the reality check you need. And if you're with someone who is willing to do the work, even when it's uncomfortable, maybe it's time to stop looking for problems and start co-creating solutions.
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