More Than You Were Told is the podcast for women who are done shrinking, done following the rules, and done living a life that looks good on paper but feels wrong in their body.
Hosted by Julie Oeder, who broke free from corporate burnout, people pleasing, and the conditioning that told her to play small, this show helps you unlearn everything that kept you stuck and build the confidence to actually change your life.
Raw conversations, bold truths, and the mindset and identity shifts you were never taught but always needed. You are more than you were told. Now you get to live like it.
What happens when the life you worked so hard to build no longer feels like yours?
In this episode, I sit down with Melissa Desotelle, a local realtor who made the bold decision to walk away from a nursing career and redefine what success actually looks like for her. We talk candidly about the moment she realized her “why” mattered more than titles, expectations, or keeping up with the Jones’.
Melissa shares the deeply personal story behind leaving a brand new build and choosing an older, outdated home in the country, and how that decision reflected a bigger internal shift. One rooted in trust, intuition, and choosing peace over performance.
This conversation explores the quiet pressure so many high achievers feel to look successful, even when it comes at the cost of fulfillment. We talk about identity shifts, listening to your gut when it is whispering before it starts screaming, and giving yourself permission to choose a life that makes sense to you, not everyone else.
If you have ever felt successful on paper but unsettled in your spirit, this episode will meet you right where you are.
This episode is for you if you are questioning your current path, redefining success, or learning to trust your inner voice over outside noise.
Be sure to connect with Melissa on Facebook and Instagram.
23 Dec 2025
Your Brain is an A*shole; Overcoming the Lies You're Telling Yourself
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Ever feel like your own brain is working against you?
In this episode, we’re calling it out. Your brain isn’t broken. It’s just doing what it was designed to do keep you safe, small, and stuck in familiar patterns.
If you’ve ever told yourself you’re not ready yet, that you need more confidence, or that other people are just better at starting things than you, this episode is for you.
We’re breaking down the most common lies your brain tells when you’re on the edge of starting a business or bringing an idea to life and reframing them into truths that actually move you forward.
You’ll learn why confidence doesn’t come before action, how overthinking disguises itself as preparation, and what it really takes to become the version of you who finally starts.
This episode will help you stop listening to the voice that keeps you stuck and start trusting yourself enough to move anyway.
If you’re ready to take your first brave step, this conversation is for you.
16 Dec 2025
You Were Trained to Wait (Let's Break That)
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Most of us were taught to wait until we felt ready. To only move when we had confidence. To only act when we were “sure.” But that conditioning keeps countless ideas stuck in phone notes and never sees the light of day.
In this episode of More Than You Were Told, I share my personal journey of launching a business in one of the most sensitive industries imaginable—dog poop scooping—and how I overcame nerves, judgment, and hesitation to take bold action. You’ll hear why confidence doesn’t come first, why movement creates identity, and how small, imperfect steps can transform your life and your business.
If you’ve been sitting on ideas, waiting to feel ready, this episode will challenge the rules you’ve been taught and show you the first step toward becoming more than you were told you could be.
9 Dec 2025
From Feeling Small to Being Unstoppable: How to Take Bold Action
Do you ever feel like life is happening to you instead of through you? That your ideas, dreams, or ambitions are just out of reach? In this episode, Julie shares how to move from feeling small and stuck to confident, courageous, and unstoppable.
You’ll learn why fear is actually a signal that growth is near, how to take bold action even when it feels uncomfortable, and practical ways to start building unshakable self-trust today.
If you’re ready to step into your next version and start showing up fully in your life, DM Julie on Instagram @julieoeder to connect.
3 Dec 2025
Perfection is the Enemy of Business Ideas
In this episode we dig into the real reason women stay stuck when they want to start a business. It is not a lack of information. It is perfection. We talk about how perfection creates paralysis, how self trust is built through action, and why waiting to feel ready keeps your dreams on pause. You will learn why confidence comes from movement, not planning, and how to take the first courageous steps toward the business you have been thinking about for months or even years.
If you want a mindset based approach to starting your business and you are tired of overthinking every decision, this episode will help you move through fear, lean into discomfort and take aligned action. You will walk away with clarity, motivation and a deeper understanding of what it truly takes to become the woman who finally trusts herself enough to begin.
If you are ready to take brave steps and you want support from someone who has been where you are, connect with me on Instagram @julieoeder
I can help you build the courage and self trust you need to bring your business to life.
24 Nov 2025
Welcome to More Than You Were Told
Welcome to the podcast re-launch with a fresh name; More Than You Were Told! In this quick intro, I share why this podcast exists: to help women break free from feeling stuck, burned out, or trapped by what society tells them to do.
Expect solo episodes with mindset insights, bold reflections, and interviews with women who’ve reclaimed their confidence and lives.
Follow me on Instagram at @JulieOeder to share your story and join the conversation.
13 Mar 2023
Pushing Through the Fear of Failure to Find Success
Fear of failure holding you back from chasing your dreams? In this episode, I'm talking you through why failure is the backbone to finding success and how to embrace it vs. avoiding it. I'm mentioning key people who have found success after what seemingly felt like a hopeless battle in doing what they enjoy.
Connect with me on Instagram @julieoeder
29 Nov 2022
Ben Fisher on Building a Platform of Hope through Recovery
How can addiction play a role in a beautiful platform of hope and positivity? My friend Ben Fisher, founder of A String of Hope, is on this week to share his inspiring story of recovery and how he has built a large social media presence by encouraging others. In this episode, we we're talking all about how consistency, small steps, and patience play into finding success both in business and in life.
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19 Oct 2022
How Empathy Became My Strength in Business and Life
I used to believe my empathic ways were a weakness. Now that I'm building my own business, I understand it's actually a superpower of mine. Empathy should be at the core of our relationships in both life and business; in this episode tune in with me to hear how I turned the narrative around for myself on empathy, how I use it in my own business, and why having empathy is such a powerful means to create relationships.
Follow along with me on Instagram @julieoeder
10 Oct 2022
What is the Difference in Doing vs. Being?
Doing vs. Being: The two modes we can operate in, yet get addicted to Doing. In this episode I'm breaking down the difference and why our ego's love the Doing mode. As someone who first experienced Being years ago I want to share how impactful accessing the being side of "human being" can be.
26 Sept 2022
Maddie Gerdes on How Failing Led to a Heart Centered Education and Career
How can we gain clarity of our heart in a culture that doesn’t align with our values? Maddie Gerdes shares her story of leaving medical school to pursue her passion of healing the body with nutrition. She shares how she overcame limiting beliefs, discovered what her heart truly desired, and how she embraced acceptance and gratitude in the process. Maddie is currently completing her Masters degree in Nutrition and is a certified personal trainer offering virtual sessions for her clients.
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Train with Maddie: https://www.trainwithkickoff.com/coaches/MadelineGerdes
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19 Sept 2022
4 Reasons You Feel Stuck in Life and How to Start Overcoming Them
There are 4 major reasons for why we tend to start feeling stuck in life. Feelings of hopelessness, stuck in your job, unhappy where you live and unfulfilling relationships can start the downward spiral. This week, I'm talking about how each of these affected me personally and how I started to turn them around. In this episode you'll learn more about leading with gratitude, seeking new relationships, and exploring new opportunities.
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Find me on Instagram: @julieoeder
12 Sept 2022
What You Should Really Know About Time
The lack of time is one of the top excuses people tend to use to avoid making change. However, time is our most valuable resource that we tend to take advantage of. In this episode, Julie talks about regrets of the dying and how this impacts how we spend our day to day. If you're guilty of using time as an excuse (we all are), this episode is for you.
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5 Sept 2022
Society Actually Sets us Up to Fail
Curious to know why you feel lost post-school? When you enter the real world, you're on you're own! This juicy episode lays out why our formal education years set us up to fail once we're out and how we are not taught the tools we need to be successful. Listen in to learn more on followers vs. leaders and why we end up feeling stuck in our lives.
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5 Sept 2022
How Vulnerability is the Key to Getting Unstuck
Ever wondered what the very first step would be to start making change in your life? Vulnerability; the greatest gift to ourselves & those around us, how to start accepting vulnerability in your life, and tips for releasing resistance to being yourself. Tune in to learn why you should stop playing it safe and let yourself be YOU.
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5 Sept 2022
My Transformational Journey and Why
Ex-corporate employee turned entrepreneur; I’m sharing my story with you to help YOU get more out of your life. Tune in to my very first episode of the She Wants More podcast to learn my journey from burnout and lacking meaning in my life to a truly lit up person who cannot wait for what life has in store.
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17 Aug 2022
Trailer - She Wants More Podcast
Welcome to the She Wants More podcast with Julie Oeder! If you’re feeling stuck in life, unsure how to pivot, but desperately want positive change for yourself – you’re in the right spot! We’re talking vulnerability, breaking the norms of society, growing a fulfilled life on your own terms, and of course money mindset!
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