Season 2 is here! And it's not all theory but it is all truth.
I didn't get into anger work because I had it figured out. I got into it to fix my husband. Spoiler: I was a really big part of the problem too. We were drowning: reactive, defensive, resentful, barely holding it together, and we nearly didn't make it. It was in the darkest stretch of our marriage that I realized anger wasn't our villain. It was our signal. And if we didn't learn how to understand it, we were going to pass it down.
So I studied it. Built frameworks around it. Tested it in my own marriage and my own parenting. Not only did we thrive, my clients have continued to, too. That's how Anger Intelligence™ was born.
And this season, we're going deeper than we ever have.
We're learning the language of anger: the archetypes, the patterns, the nervous system wiring underneath it all. We're building the literacy most of us were never taught but absolutely should have been. And we're doing it because we are transitional characters. We break cycles. We change what the next generation inherits from us.
This isn't about becoming calmer. It's about becoming literate about the emotion that's been trying to protect you all along.
Your anger isn't going away. But this season, it becomes your compass.
Let's talk some SHIFT.
Find out your anger archetype before we dive in. It's free, it's fast, and it'll make every episode land. 👉 Take the Anger Archetype Quiz (https://asteadyspace.com/anger-archetype-quiz)
18 Nov 2025
From Outbursts to Ownership: 3 Lessons That Changed My Parenting and Marriage
What happens when you realize your anger is hurting the people you love most?
In this honest and emotional episode, Davina Hehn shares the night she yelled at her kids, walked away feeling justified, then broke down in shame when she saw the truth. She opens up about living with PMDD, almost losing her marriage, and how years of stress and silence built up until everything felt too heavy to carry. But this isn’t a story about giving up. It’s about learning to see anger as a signal, not a failure. Davina walks us through the three lessons that helped her rebuild trust, repair relationships, and take full responsibility for her emotions. This one is real, raw, and full of heart.
🧨 In This Episode, We Talk SHIFT About:
00:00 Nearly losing her marriage and kids’ trust
01:31 Rewriting her marriage after crisis
02:10 Life with PMDD and increased conflict
03:31 When parenting feels impossible
06:12 The calm after the storm and deep regret
10:22 Lesson 1: Don’t wait until everything breaks
12:27 Lesson 2: Unrealistic expectations
16:15 Lesson 3: Radical self-responsibility
20:43 More trust, more connection, more play
22:33 Free resources: Quiz + weekly support group
🔗 Ready to SHIFT with Me?
🔥 Join SHIFT Live https://yoursteadyspace.myflodesk.com/shiftlive (https://yoursteadyspace.myflodesk.com/shiftlive)
📞 Book a Clarity Call https://www.yoursteadyspace.com/bookwithme (https://www.yoursteadyspace.com/bookwithme)
11 Nov 2025
71: Guest | “She Kept Me Alive”: A Daughter's Story of Suicide, Secrets, and Healing with Lisa Sugarman
Some secrets protect us. Others keep us from healing.
In this profoundly honest episode, I sit down with author, mental health advocate, and suicide loss survivor Lisa Sugarman. Lisa shares how she discovered (35 years later) that her father’s sudden death was actually suicide, a truth her mother kept hidden to protect her 10-year-old heart.
We talk about grief, parenting, secrecy, and how Lisa transformed her personal pain into The Help Hub, a free mental health resource center. We also talk about how sharing our stories, even the hardest ones, can literally save lives.
This episode is open, emotional, and deeply human. It’s about connection, empathy, and why telling the truth, in the right time and way, can be the beginning of real healing.
🧨 In This Episode, We Talk SHIFT About:
00:00 – Lisa’s mission: “What’s more powerful than knowing you kept someone here?”
01:27 – Her background in writing, parenting content, and mental health advocacy
02:52 – Losing her father suddenly at 10… and learning the truth decades later
06:06 – Why her mother kept the suicide a secret, and how she found out
10:17 – Rebuilding trust and deepening their mother-daughter relationship
14:48 – Featuring her 86-year-old mom in her next book
16:57 – Advice for anyone feeling betrayed by a family secret
18:23 – Davina shares her own story: her husband's suicide plan and sobriety journey
21:21 – What makes a suicide attempt not about wanting to leave loved ones
25:49 – Challenging shame and silence around suicide and mental illness
30:44 – The dangerous myth that suicide is a “selfish” act
33:48 – Launching The Survivors podcast with an attempt survivor co-host
43:30 – Building The Help Hub as a free, searchable mental health resource
55:25 – How Lisa manages the emotional weight of helping others
1:24:16 – The moment Lisa realized she had truly saved a life
1:28:03 – Her upcoming book on surviving her father’s death… twice
👋 Connect with Lisa Sugarman:
🌐 Website + Help Hub: https://www.thehelphub.co/ (https://www.thehelphub.co/)
🎧 Podcast: The Survivors (https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-survivors-podcast/id1800321269)
🔗 Ready to SHIFT with Me?
✨ Join SHIFT Live (https://yoursteadyspace.myflodesk.com/shiftlive)
📞 Book a Clarity Call (https://www.yoursteadyspace.com/bookwithme)
Inside a recent episode
58: GUEST | Toxic Divorce, Legal Gaslighting & Staying Steady in Chaos with Lisa Johnson or Been There Got Out
Published 12 Jul 2025 · Transcript excerpt
[…] That's that's the best way to get through. And finding others who experience it too, but our resolution focused and can help you keep up the stamina to keep going. Because, oh, I mean, there's a lot of times when you get a gut punch in court or out of court and you get tired. And you're just like, I can't do this anymore. And that's when your, your team comes in and is like, that's okay. Like you can feel awful and disappointed. And maybe it was a harsh blow. But we're going to let you stay down on the ground for a little. And I'm going to get back up and figure out another way to do this. Yeah. […]
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