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Sober Gay Guy Music By: Adam Moyer
Where It All Started
This episode is a personal origin story from The Sober Gay Guy Podcast, tracing the host’s path from escalating addiction to the moment that forced a change. It matters because it pairs lived experience with a practical sobriety framework for anyone carrying addiction, shame, and everyday life all at once.The host shares how the show was born out of real life, not expertise, and why being honest out loud can help other people feel less alone. The episode closes with concrete tools for staying sober in the middle of a busy, ordinary Tuesday.Key topics
In this episode: the host explains that the podcast “started over” and returns to the beginning of the story for new listeners.
The episode frames addiction as more than substances - anything that starts making decisions for you can become addictive behavior.
The host emphasizes that addiction was compounded by life pressure: work, parenting, marriage, bills, and emotional exhaustion did not pause during recovery.
A practical sobriety framework is introduced: define non-negotiables, plan for bad days on good days, shrink the goal to the next ten minutes, and tell somebody.
The host explains how sobriety fits into a full life through routines like early work, running, daily check-ins, making coffee, and making the bed.
The episode ends with a direct message to listeners who feel stuck: you do not need to hit a lower bottom to ask for help, and change can start now.
17 Dec 2025
Checking in. How's YOUR mental health?
Summary
In this episode of The Sober Gay Guy Podcast, host TJ shares a heartfelt check-in as the holiday season approaches. He reflects on personal challenges, including health issues and the emotional toll of recent tragic events. TJ discusses the importance of mental health, coping strategies for the holiday season, and the necessity of joy and connection. He emphasizes practical tips for maintaining well-being, such as movement, self-care, and reaching out to loved ones. The episode concludes with a message of encouragement and support for listeners during difficult times.
Sour candy is used as a grounding technique to manage acute anxiety or panic attacks by providing an intense sensory distraction that pulls focus to the present moment. The intense, sharp taste of the candy triggers a strong physiological response that momentarily overrides overwhelming feelings of fear and anxiety, a method often incorporated into dialectical behavior therapy (DBT).
Sensory Distraction: The brain is forced to focus intensely on the unexpected and powerful sour sensation, disrupting the cycle of anxious thoughts and rumination.
Grounding: By demanding attention to taste, smell, and texture, the candy helps anchor the individual in the "here and now," which can stop a panic spiral.
Physical Response: The jolt of flavor can activate the vagus nerve and cause physical reactions like salivation or changes in facial expression, which may signal the body to calm down and regain a sense of control.
Sober Gay Guy theme music by: Adam Moyer
21 Nov 2025
It's Okay to Quit. When the whipser becomes the way forwrd'
In this episode of The Sober Gay Guy Podcast, host TJ shares his personal journey of sobriety, reflecting on his time spent in Michigan and the inspiration it provided for his upcoming book; 'Its Okay to Quit. When the whisper becomes the way forward'. He introduces the 'Sober Gay Guy Method,' a non-clinical approach to sobriety that emphasizes personal rituals and accountability.
TJ outlines five key rituals that have helped him maintain his sobriety and encourages listeners to consider their own paths to recovery. He also discusses the importance of community and support in overcoming addiction, and shares his plans for future projects related to his journey.
Sober Gay Guy Music By: Adam Moyer
Who has been a guest on Sober Gay Guy
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Nikki Battles
Dr Lisa Whitty Bradley
Dana Fortner
Lisa
Stella Jones
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Apple Podcasts (US)
5.0 / 5
13 ratings
Spotify
5.0 / 5
12 ratings
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TJ and Sober Gay Guy host the show. Published by SoberGayGuy.
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