Solo and Momming

About Solo and Momming

SOLO & MOMMING Where women talk. Mothers laugh. And we ask better questions. Solo & Momming is a space for honest, thoughtful and sometimes uncomfortable conversations about women, motherhood and life. One conversation explores the woman — her identity, relationships, singleness, shame, healing, becoming and everything that happens beyond the role of motherhood. The other explores Momming — the beautiful, chaotic, funny and sometimes exhausting reality of raising children. The things mothers experience, the things children teach us, and the things nobody warned us about. Because whether you are single, married, divorced, widowed or somewhere in between, motherhood is one part of your story — not the whole story. Expect serious conversations. Unexpected questions. A little laughter. A little Shona. And plenty of moments that make you stop and think. This is a space to talk honestly, laugh freely and ask better questions. Amai Simukai.

Publisher

Nyasha~ Mai Tine❤️

Category

kids & family

Language

en

Explicit

No

First episode

5 Aug 2026

Latest episode

24 Oct 2026

Latest episodes

13 episodes in the feed.

1. 

   24 Oct 2026

   Who Taught WOmen To Be Women? | Coversation with Sue Nyathi

   What happens when an educated, accomplished woman discovers that motherhood comes with challenges she was never fully prepared for? And why does society so often expect women to sacrifice their identities, ambitions and dreams at the altar of motherhood? On this episode of ⁠‪Solo and Momming‬⁠ , we sit down with Sue Nyathi, acclaimed author, mother, investment analyst and friend, for an honest and thought-provoking conversation about motherhood, womanhood, identity and the societal expectations that shape women’s lives. Sue Nyathi is the celebrated author of A Family Affair, The Gold Diggers, An Angel’s Demise and The Polygamist, the novel that inspired the Netflix series of the same name. Beyond her literary achievements and professional career, Sue opens up about her personal journey into motherhood, revealing the challenges she faced. Our conversation goes beyond the joys and responsibilities of raising children. We explore how our communities, cultural expectations and social structures can leave women vulnerable to manipulation, control and unequal power dynamics. We question why women are often expected to put themselves last, and why being a mother can sometimes feel like being asked to surrender every other part of who you are. Most importantly, Sue shares her determination not to allow motherhood to become her only identity. Her story reminds us that a woman can love her children deeply and still pursue her dreams, protect her individuality and continue becoming the person she wants to be. This is a conversation about the realities of motherhood, the invisible pressures women carry, the power of self-awareness and the courage it takes to challenge expectations that no longer serve us.

2. 

   24 Oct 2026

   The Distance Between Us | Coversationw ith Amanda Ndlangisa

   Some conversations stay with you long after they end. 🤎 What happens when you become a mother at 18, but your child is still a newborn and you have to return to school? What does it mean to leave your baby behind, carry the weight of that decision, and continue building a future while navigating the expectations and judgement of society? In this deeply personal episode of ‪Solo and Momming‬ , we sit down with Amanda Ndlangisa, a single mother of two, for an honest conversation about motherhood, teenage pregnancy, separation, survival, shame, and the complicated realities of raising children on your own. Titled “The Distance Between Us,” this conversation explores Amanda's relationship with her daughter, who recently turned 18. Her daughter's milestone birthday brings her face to face with her own past. At 18, Amanda was a young mother herself, trying to navigate school, responsibility, and a future that had suddenly become more complicated. Now, as she watches her daughter enter the same age she was when she became a mother, Amanda reflects on the journey that brought them here, the challenges they have faced, and the experiences that have shaped their relationship. We also explore the realities of single parenting, raising two children alone, dealing with shame and social judgement, and building a loving family without pretending that everything has been perfect. Amanda's story raises an important question: Do we always understand the circumstances behind a mother's decisions before we judge her? Because sometimes, the distance between a mother and her child is not a measure of how much she loves them. It is a reflection of the circumstances she has had to navigate, the choices available to her at the time, and the sacrifices that may never be fully understood.

3. 

   21 Oct 2026

   You are pregnant, now what?

   Sometimes life does not give you time to figure everything out. One day, you are part of a family. The next, you are navigating motherhood on your own, trying to figure out how to pay the bills, raise your children, rebuild your confidence and somehow keep going. In this episode of ‪ Solo and Momming‬ , we talk about what it really takes to get back on your feet as a single mother. Maybe it means selling tomatoes by the roadside. Maybe it means going back to school. Maybe it means starting a small business, learning a new skill, finding a job or simply taking the first step towards becoming financially independent. Whatever it looks like, the important thing is to start. Because motherhood does not pause while you are trying to get your ducks in a row. The children still need you. The bills still need to be paid. Life keeps moving. This conversation is not about pretending that becoming a single mother is easy. It is about acknowledging the reality, gathering your strength and asking yourself: What can I do from where I am, with what I have, to move forward? If you are a single mother, have been through single parenting, or know a woman who is rebuilding her life after becoming a single mom, this conversation is for you. 💬 JOIN THE CONVERSATION What did you do when you realised you had to stand on your own? Did you start a business? Go back to school? Find a job? Sell something? Learn a new skill? Or did someone simply give you the encouragement you needed to keep going?

4. 

   21 Oct 2026

   How i became a mother of 2 kids with different fathers...!

   In this episode of ‪Solo and Momming‬, we sit down with Mbalenhle Mbuli, a mother of two and qualified nurse, whose journey into single motherhood was shaped by abandonment, difficult choices, abuse and resilience. Her story is painful, complicated and deeply human. After raising her first child largely on her own, a search for comfort led to a second pregnancy with a former abuser. Yet, instead of giving up, Mbalenhle pursued her nursing studies, determined to give her children a better life. Her story raises a difficult question: When staying becomes unbearable, is leaving an act of rebellion, or an act of self-preservation? We want to hear from you. Have you ever had to choose between keeping the peace and protecting yourself? Share your story in the comments. And if this conversation resonates with you, share this episode, subscribe to ‪Solo and Momming‬, and join the conversation.

5. 

   21 Oct 2026

   Hear it from me, i was 19 when i became pregnant.

   I became a mother at 19. And honestly, I wasn’t ready for what came next. Becoming a young mother changed the direction of my life in ways I could never have understood at 19. While other young people were figuring themselves out, I was learning how to raise a child, pursue a university education, and somehow find my own identity in the middle of it all. In this episode of ‪@SoloandMomming‬ , I’m having the conversation I wish someone had with me back then. This isn’t a story about regret, shame or romanticising young motherhood. It’s about the reality of becoming a mother before you have had the opportunity to fully discover yourself, build your independence and experience life on your own terms. We talk about teen motherhood, young motherhood, education, personal freedom, life choices, identity, sacrifice and the pressure to grow up before you are ready. If you are a young woman trying to figure out your future, a young mother navigating motherhood and education, or someone who became a mother earlier than expected, this conversation may speak directly to you. And if you’re a young woman who still has choices ahead of you, I hope this conversation helps you think about your future differently. IN THIS EPISODE: 02:40 | Balancing motherhood and university education 07:15 | How becoming a mother can change your life timeline 09:49 | Learning to prioritise your own growth 10:30 | Protecting your body, your time and your freedom LET'S TALK If you became a mother young, what is something you wish someone had told you at 19? And if you are a young woman who hasn’t experienced motherhood yet, what are you currently doing to protect the future you want? Tell us in the comments. Your story might be exactly what another woman needs to hear. Subscribe to ‪Solo and Momming‬ for honest conversations about motherhood, identity, healing, relationships, growth and the realities women often navigate quietly.

6. 

   21 Oct 2026

   This is my story

   What happens when childhood ends overnight?In this video, I open up about the raw, vulnerable transition of growing up and becoming a mother at a tender age - transforming from just Nyasha, a girl with dreams and innocence, into "Mai Tine," a young mother navigating a world she wasn't fully ready for.Becoming a mother when you are still finding yourself is a journey filled with silent tears, profound strength, and quiet sacrifices. How do you raise a child when you’re still learning how to navigate life yourself? Join me as I reflect on the lessons, the pain, the identity shift, and the fierce resilience discovered along the way. This is not just a story of teen motherhood; it’s a story of survival, healing, and unconditional love.LET'S CONNECT:At what moment did you feel your childhood slip away? Share your story or thoughts in the comments below—this is a safe space for all of us.🔔 If this story resonates with you, please LIKE, SHARE with a mother or young woman who needs encouragement, and SUBSCRIBE to ‪Solo and Momming‬ for honest conversations on motherhood, self-discovery, and healing.

7. 

   3 Sept 2026

   Raising you child or recreating yourself?

   Raising you child or recreating yourself?

8. 

   1 Sept 2026

   Are we raising gratitude or obligation?

   Are we raising Gratitude or Obligation

9. 

   31 Aug 2026

   Are you raising your child? Or is a wound raising your child

   Are our wounds raising our kids?

10. 

    17 Aug 2026

    Does society shame us or are we shaming ourselves?

    We talk a lot about the judgement Solo Mothers receive from society. The labels.
The assumptions.
The questions.
The shame. But what happens when we turn the mirror around? In this episode, Mai Tine asks a harder question: Are we only dealing with society’s judgement, or have some of us started judging, limiting and defining ourselves? We look at the things we have been taught to believe about Solo Motherhood—and the things we may now believe about ourselves. But we also look at our actions. Our choices. Our patterns. The relationships we keep repeating.
The ways we respond when we are hurt.
The ways we may protect ourselves, even when those protections no longer serve us.
The parts of our story we blame on society, while avoiding the parts that require us to take responsibility. Because not everything that happens to us is our fault. But what we do with what happened to us… that deserves an honest conversation. This is not an episode about blaming Solo Mothers. It is about asking whether we have sometimes confused our circumstances with our identity—and whether some of the things we keep experiencing are patterns we have the power to change. So the question is not simply: Does society shame us? It is also: What have we started doing to ourselves?

11. 

    13 Aug 2026

    Does It Take A Village To Raise A Child?

    We often say, “It takes a village to raise a child.” But what happens when that village is absent? This episode looks beyond absent fathers and asks about the aunts, uncles, grandparents, siblings, relatives and communities who are also part of a child’s support system. What happens when family relationships break down and children inherit adult grudges? What happens when mothers leave the country to work and entrust their children to relatives — only to discover that the child was neglected, harmed, or no longer feels safe in that home? And perhaps the hardest question: what did we do with the children we were trusted to protect? This is a conversation about responsibility, trust, family, accountability and what it really means to be a child’s village. Because being family is not just about being related. Sometimes, it is about showing up.

12. 

    9 Aug 2026

    When does the sentence end?

    How long is a woman expected to pay for the circumstances that made her a Solo Mother? Sometimes the relationship ended. Sometimes the marriage ended. Sometimes a partner died. Sometimes life simply did not unfold the way she imagined. But somehow, the judgement remains. In this episode, Mai Tine explores the labels, assumptions and social punishment that can follow Solo Mothers long after the chapter has changed. When does the mistake stop being the introduction? When does the circumstance stop becoming the identity? And when does society finally allow a woman to move forward? Because a sentence is supposed to have an end. So… when does hers end?

13. 

    5 Aug 2026

    Who are you when noone is watching?

    Who are you when noone is watching? Motherhood should not erase the woman ,Motherhood and womanhood should both exist because Solo is a season and Momming is a life time.And when the season ends who will you be? Mother,remember who you and rise up

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