You might think you need more clarity.
But most women already know what they feel.
They've just spent years overriding themselves to survive.
Hi, I'm Carina Bull—trauma-aware facilitator, intuitive mentor, and host of Soul Medicine.
I help women recognise the survival patterns and roles they've mistaken for who they are, so they can remember who they were before survival taught them who they had to be.
Every week, I invite you into the conversations I'm already having with the women I work with.
Conversations about survival.
Self-abandonment.
Identity.
Relationships.
Boundaries.
Self-trust.
And what becomes possible when we finally begin seeing ourselves differently.
No quick fixes.
No performative positivity.
Just honest conversations.
Thoughtful questions.
Fresh perspectives.
Nervous system awareness.
And the kind of emotional truth-telling that quietly changes the way you see yourself.
Because sometimes healing doesn't begin with finding the answer.
Sometimes it begins the moment you see yourself differently.
Welcome to Soul Medicine.
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Carina Bull — Helping Women Recognise Where Survival Became Identity
Why Do Everyone Else's Needs Feel More Urgent Than Mine?
Have you ever noticed how quickly you respond when somebody else needs something? The kids are hungry. Your partner seems stressed. Someone needs a lift, an appointment booked or something remembered.
You notice. You respond. Meanwhile, you’re hungry, tense, exhausted, overstimulated or desperately needing five minutes alone...and somehow your response to yourself is:
“In a minute.”
But what if you’re not bad at knowing what you need?
What if you’ve simply learned that everybody else’s needs are urgent... and yours can wait?
In this episode, Carina explores why some women become incredibly attuned to everybody around them while quietly postponing themselves.
In this episode, we explore:
Why your attention may have become trained outward
How you can recognise what you need and still automatically delay responding to it
Why other people’s needs can feel more urgent than your own
How survival can make being helpful, attentive and low-maintenance feel safer
Why your needs don’t have to become unbearable before they matter
What becomes possible when you begin answering yourself a little earlier
If you’ve ever found yourself thinking:
“I’ll eat after I finish this.”
“I just need to get everyone else sorted first.”
“Why am I so bad at looking after myself?”
This episode is for you.
Because your needs do not have to become emergencies before they deserve a response.
Continue the Conversation: If this episode has made you wonder where else you might be quietly putting yourself second without even realising it, explore my free private audio series:
Six Hidden Ways Women Quietly Abandon Themselves
Six short conversations to help you recognise the survival patterns you may have spent years calling personality.
→ Start the free six-part audio series here (https://within.carinabull.com.au/start-here)
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Carina Bull is a trauma-aware facilitator, intuitive mentor and host of Soul Medicine. Her work helps women recognise where survival became identity, so they can stop abandoning themselves in real time and reconnect with who they are beneath the roles they learned to perform.
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21 Sept 2026
Why Do I Feel Guilty When I Stop Being the Responsible One in My Family
A lot of women know they’re the responsible one in their family. The daughter who checks in. The sister who sorts things out. The peacekeeper who smooths over tension. The one everyone relies on. But what happens when you stop? When you don’t immediately fix the problem. When you let someone else handle it. When you say no without explaining yourself into the ground.
Sometimes the hardest part isn’t knowing the role is exhausting you. It’s the guilt that appears when you try to put it down.
In this episode, Carina explores why family loyalty isn’t always only about the people we love.
Sometimes it’s also loyalty to who we learned we needed to be around them.
In this episode, we explore:
Why stepping back from family responsibility can trigger guilt
How being the fixer, peacekeeper or responsible one can become connected to belonging
Why you can love your family and still feel resentful or exhausted
The difference between wanting to help and feeling like you don’t know how not to
Why guilt doesn’t automatically mean you’ve done something wrong
What becomes possible when your family role becomes a choice
If you’ve ever found yourself thinking:
“If I don’t do it, who will?”
“I know it isn’t my responsibility, but I still feel guilty.”
“I don’t want them to think I don’t care.”
This episode is for you.
Because you can love your family without continuing to perform the role you learned would keep you connected to them.
Continue the Conversation: If this episode has made you wonder where else you might be quietly putting yourself second, explore my free private audio series:
Six Hidden Ways Women Quietly Abandon Themselves
Six short conversations to help you recognise the survival patterns you may have spent years calling personality.
→ Start the free six-part audio series here (https://within.carinabull.com.au/start-here)
—
Carina Bull is a trauma-aware facilitator, intuitive mentor and host of Soul Medicine. Her work helps women recognise where survival became identity, so they can stop abandoning themselves in real time and reconnect with who they are beneath the roles they learned to perform.
Music from Uppbeat
Mountaineer — Juciest
License code: OEPVET9VNFBLLISZ
24 Aug 2026
Why Do Relationships Change When You Start Choosing Yourself?
A lot of women know they struggle with people-pleasing, over-functioning or feeling responsible for everyone around them. But recognising the pattern is one thing. What happens when you actually stop performing it? When you don’t organise everything. When you say no. When you let somebody be disappointed. When you stop explaining yourself until everyone feels comfortable again.
Because sometimes changing a survival pattern doesn’t only change you.
It changes the relationships that learned how to function around the old version of you.
In this episode, Carina explores why choosing yourself can feel so unsettling when being helpful, agreeable, easy or needed once helped you feel safe and secure in relationships.
And why someone else’s discomfort with your changing behaviour does not automatically mean you’ve done something wrong.
In this episode, we explore:
Why relationships can feel different when you stop over-functioning
How being useful, agreeable or easy can become connected to belonging
Why another person’s disappointment can trigger guilt, fear or the urge to backtrack
How relationships develop unspoken roles and expectations over time
Why healing can reveal which relationships have space for the fuller version of you
What becomes possible when you stop abandoning yourself to restore connection
If you’ve ever found yourself thinking:
“Maybe I should just do it.”
“I don’t want them to think I’m selfish.”
“They never used to be upset with me like this.”
“Maybe I’ve changed too much.”
This episode is for you.
Because not every relationship will immediately know what to do with the version of you who stops abandoning herself. And someone being uncomfortable with your growth doesn’t automatically mean you need to become the old version again.
Continue the Conversation: If this episode has you wondering where survival might be showing up in your own life in ways you’ve learned to call normal, I’d love to invite you into my free private audio series:
Six Hidden Ways Women Quietly Abandon Themselves
Across six short conversations, we explore some of the everyday ways survival can become woven into how you think, behave, relate and move through the world... often so quietly that you begin mistaking those patterns for personality.
Listen privately.
At your own pace.
And start noticing where survival may still be running the show.
→ Start the free six-part audio series here (https://within.carinabull.com.au/start-here)
—
Carina Bull is a trauma-aware facilitator, intuitive mentor and host of Soul Medicine.
Her work helps women recognise where survival became identity, so they can stop abandoning themselves in real time and reconnect with who they are beneath the roles they learned to perform.
Music from Uppbeat
Mountaineer — Juciest
License code: OEPVET9VNFBLLISZ
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