Welcome to Soft Chaos Psychology, where we overanalyze everything so you don't have to... except we're probably still going to overanalyze it anyway. Hosted by Alyssia Simone, this is your weekly dose of psychology, dating theory, internet culture, identity, hot takes, questionable life choices, and the patterns nobody else seems to notice until it's too late. Equal parts research, storytelling, and "girl... stand up."
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The common trend of 'romanticizing' your life has officially taken a twist on today's episode. Rather than finding beauty and joy in the smallest moments (romanticization), we're discovering how we can apply dramatization and exaggeration to our purpose, and how shifting into this mindset can allow you to better achieve your goals and feel more certain about what you want for your life.
Lewis Howes, the author of The Greatness Mindset, activated an immediate switch to get my ass up and fight my fears head on. Why? You’re probably asking… Because he made me think exaggeratively, and once I did, the possibilities of my success were endless. As well! The possibilities of my procrastination were capable of just as much…
Chapter 12-15 talks about giving yourself permission to do what’s right for YOU… He explains that most of the time we procrastinate because we are FEARFUL, not because we are INCAPABLE or LACKING THE RESOURCES. You’re thinking “Duh Simone,” we’ve heard this plenty of times..
… But, then Lewis said something we’ve NEVER HEARD before. Something so unhinged in the self-help community, and it may be your next game changer 👀
Listen to find out what Lewis and Alyssia Simone have to SPILL.
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29 Aug 2024
The Psyche of People Pleasing
We're diving deep into the twisted world of people-pleasing! From turning into a human doormat to finally snapping like a rubber band on a mission, we’re exploring the good, the bad, and the batsh*t crazy of being the ultimate people pleaser. Expect unfiltered advice, a sprinkle of self-realization, and the kind of humor that only comes from realizing you've bent over backwards one too many times.
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20 Aug 2024
niche culture is dead, art of adaptability
Dive into this week's episode, where we’re getting down and dirty with niche culture, self-expression, and the art of adaptability! We’re talking about embracing your unique quirks, the power of being versatile in different social settings, making it work wherever you go.
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24 Aug 2023
You Get What You Give: Energy Reciprocation, Filtering Negativity
This week we are prioritizing positive energy, self-talk, and expectations. I've realized that over time I have become my biggest critic and have fallen victim to producing negative energy whether it pertains to my self-image, relationships/friendships. This EP is all about changing your perspective and putting out positive energy to receive and enjoy all the good things in life. Enjoy this episode - listen, laugh and relate!
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17 Aug 2023
Are YOU the Emotionally Unavailable One?
I find it very important to sit with yourself from time-to-time and get real honest about what's holding you back in life. This time I did the damn thing, and asked "Why do I attract the men I do?" and boy do I have some answers for y'all. I've come to the conclusion that I struggle with EU (emotional unavailability). This EP is all about how I got here and how I've been coping with it. We also dig a little deeper into how EU has affected the dating pool and increased casual sexual interactions. Enjoy the episode - have a listen, laugh and relate with me.
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6 Mar 2023
Situationship = Toxic AF
If you or a loved one has been personally affected by a situationship, you may be entitled for compensation. In today's society situationships have snuck its way into the category of Sex, Love and Relationships and made it's way to the top of the list in commonality. It's also made Billboard #1 for being the MOST TOXIC. Today's podcast discusses many reasons on why situationships will not work in your favor. If you are looking for a sign to end your 'half-relationship' this is it. Once you conclude this EP, I hope you learn why you deserve commitment, consistency and communication when pertaining to your love life.
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10 Feb 2022
Real Talks About Self-Care
In today's mini segment we discuss the true definition of self-care and how to ensure that your physical and your soul are staying pretty. It's not always about treating yourself with purchases and paid services, but simply fueling yourself with health and positive energy... for FREE!
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4 Jan 2022
Side Effects of Seeking Validation
2021 should have provided you the time to dive deep within yourself and figure out what you seek and ask for within your relationships; Whether you are single, crushing or in a partnership it's important to remember that constant approval-seeking behavior can create chaos and unneeded stress. Why do you find yourself not being satisfied when tooting your own horn? What happens when you are reliant on your partner to fulfill your need of worthiness? Where can you change and develop your ways in 2022?
Answer the poll below: Do you seek validation to receive approval from others or to prove to others that you already are valid?
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2 Nov 2021
Sex and the Simi (To Each Its Own)
We finish Season One with a final big bang! Episode 10 talks about breaking the stigma around casual casual sex pertaining to women. Continuing through we discuss how to navigate causal sex and use sexual liberation to strengthen sexual bonds within yourself.
Thank you to those who have joined the SPILLS community during Season 1. The new upcoming season will bring even more juicer spills and advice as we bring on guest speakers! If you, or someone you know is interested in joining in on an episode, reach out and DM me on IG.
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23 Jul 2021
Moderation = Self-Discovery
This explains how the need for excessive pride, admiration, love and power can stunt your personal growth, relationships and career. As Leo season behinds; it’s time to think ‘Self-Discovery’
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25 Jun 2021
Tap In to Intuition
As Mercury Retrograde’s energy leaves our surroundings we transition into Cancer season. Where our instinctive intuitions are running on full effect. This episode shares the importance of taking note of your surroundings, frequent patterns and gut feelings to improve all aspects of your life. It’s the right time to tap in and the right space to be psychic!
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26 May 2021
Shoutout Mental Illness
The month of May brings awareness to Mental Health and this episode emphasizes and discusses accepting the beauties and struggles of Mental Illness. Sharing my personal struggles with ADHD, Depression, Anxiety and Bi-Polar Disorder and how I overcame being labeled in society.
IF YOU/ OR ANYONE YOU KNOW IS STRUGGLING PLEASE REACH OUT AND CALL YOUR LOCAL CRISIS RESPONSE. SUPPORT MATTERS! YOU ARE LOVED.
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19 May 2021
FU*K THE INCONSISTENT
Today's episode is everything about the inconsistent!! - We dive into the focus of being a consistent friend, romantic partner and keeping yourself consistent, while saving your energy from those who aren't focusing on such things.
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23 Apr 2021
Girls Just Want to Have FUN!
This rant/episode is all about the GIRLS! Cyndi Lauper was thinking it, and now I'm saying it here on Spills. Sharing stories, submissions and questions pertaining to all things masculine energy, sex and society.
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3 Apr 2021
Time of the Season (For Self-Love)
Another helpful abbreviation to reaching self-love during this new and blooming month. April's focus is all about Debrief, Desires, Direction and Discipline.
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12 Mar 2021
Final HOE-Down
This week, we strap on our belts and discuss Society, Men, Sex and all that comes with being a sexual queen.
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19 Feb 2021
Seeking your Sense of Self
This episode is all about SENSE OF SELF:
(1.) Learning who you are
(2.) Being who you are becoming
(3.) And accepting the evolution of your blossom
It's time to get down to the nitty-gritty-- You ready?
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13 Feb 2021
Fear of Rejection
Spills with Simi: THE PILOT You know the Netlfix Series Lost? How the first episode starts off in mid catastrophe, stuck in the air, nowhere but down, and you didn't even get to catch all the characters name yet. Think of that scene when you are listening to this pilot episode, that'll set you right for what to expect from the podcast Discussing overcoming rejection and explaining WTF this podcast is about and WTH took so long! -- FOLLOW ALL MY WORK: https://qqbysimone.squarespace.com/ Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/spillswithsimi/support Follow on IG: https://www.instagram.com/spillswithsimi/
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12 Feb 2021
Trailer
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