You built a business with your life partner for more freedom. Then the business took over, your relationship hit the back burner, and your sex life didn't even make it into the pan.
The Intimacy Edge is real talk for entrepreneurial couples who want it all - a great relationship, a great business, and great sex. Hosted by Adam & Marie Hill, married, in business together, with all the chaos and adventure included. Learn how the proven systems for great business meet the honesty of great intimacy to create a mind-blowing relationship, including the parts most podcasts won't touch.
"Growing Apart: The #1 Reason Marriages Fail (It's Not Cheating)"
Entrepreneur couples often face a unique challenge: one partner's ambition accelerates while the other feels stuck, left behind, or forced to keep up. In this episode, Marie (intimacy coach) and Adam (business coach) get personal about the times their own growth was mismatched — and what they learned about mindset, attachment, and control along the way.
Key Discussion Points:
Adam's Ironman training story and how it triggered feelings of abandonment for Marie
What a "fixed mindset" really is — and how it often traces back to childhood safety patterns
Carol Dweck's growth vs. fixed mindset research and how it applies to relationships
Why growing apart (not cheating) is a leading cause of marriage breakdown
Anxious attachment and why a partner's growth can feel like a threat
The Michelangelo phenomenon: how great couples sculpt each other into their ideal selves
Letting go of control vs. trying to "fix" your spouse
The Dolly Parton example of supporting a partner's individual growth
A practical exercise: the Vivid Vision practice for growth-minded couples
Introducing the SPARK framework for weekly relationship check-ins
Resources Mentioned:
Mindset by Carol Dweck
Vivid Vision by Cameron Herold
Free Couples Connection Workbook (SPARK framework) — link in description
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21 Jul 2026
"Why Flirting Keeps Relationships Alive"
Show Notes / Key Topics:
Why flirting fades after the honeymoon phase and why couples "forget how to flirt"
The link between stress/survival mode and loss of playfulness
Research: Frisbee & Booth (2012) study on flirting, satisfaction, and commitment in 164 couples
The Gottman Institute's concept of "bids for connection" and marriage outcome predictions
Debunking the myth that flirting only happens at the start of a relationship
How to identify your personal flirting style (touch, humor, sensual, subtle/polite)
Navigating misalignment when one partner is more flirtatious than the other
Why flirting is a bridge between "safety" and "play" (SPARK framework)
Practical homework: how to start flirting again this week, without pressure or expectation
The difference between spontaneous flirting (daily life) and structured relationship check-ins
Call to Action:
Enjoyed this episode? Share it with your spouse or a friend, subscribe for more episodes, and download the free Connection Workbook (linked in show notes) for a weekly guide to deepening intimacy and connection with your partner.
Suggested Tags/Keywords: flirting in marriage, relationship advice for couples, Gottman Institute bids for connection, marriage communication, intimacy coaching, business couples, keeping the spark alive, relationship maintenance, couples therapy podcast, SPARK framework
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14 Jul 2026
Debunking the Myth of Automatic Intimacy
Marie and Adam tackle one of the biggest myths in relationships: that intimacy should just happen automatically. In this episode, they break down why waiting for spontaneous connection often leads to disappointment — and how intentional scheduling can actually increase spontaneity.
In this episode:
Good news check-in: 4th of July reflections and an exciting quarterly business meeting
The myth of "automatic intimacy" and where it comes from (hello, 90s rom-coms)
Why consent conversations are ongoing alignment discussions, not one-time talks
The different types of intimacy: intellectual, physical, and emotional — and knowing your own style
Why scheduling intimacy actually creates more spontaneity, not less
The importance of aftercare — even outside of BDSM contexts — for processing intimate experiences
What to do when only one partner is willing to have these conversations
Core values shout-outs: continuous growth and play
Key takeaway: Intimacy isn't something you're supposed to just "know." It requires ongoing, intentional conversation — about wants, needs, and boundaries — repeated often, not just once.
Resources mentioned:
Free weekly connection workbook for entrepreneurial couples (link in show notes)
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