8 Nov 2026
When the Black Slug Gets Loud.
When the Black Slug Gets Loud
Still Becoming — Episode Summary
In this deeply personal episode of Still Becoming, host Bobby opens up about his ongoing battle with depression and the emotional challenges he experienced over the past week. Through vulnerability and reflection, he shares what it feels like when the darkness becomes overwhelming, even when life is filled with love, purpose, and passions worth pursuing.
Bobby describes his depression as the “black slug,” a name he has given to the heavy, intrusive thoughts and emotions that can slowly take over his mind. Despite years of personal growth, developing resources, and learning how to navigate his mental health, he acknowledges that some episodes can still be incredibly difficult. This particular week reminded him that depression doesn’t simply disappear because someone has worked hard to overcome it.
Reflecting on his earlier experiences, Bobby shares that there were moments when he nearly gave up entirely. While those memories aren’t easy to discuss, he recognizes that they are part of his story and nothing to be ashamed of. His journey has taught him that progress doesn’t mean never struggling again. Sometimes progress means understanding what is happening, recognizing when help is needed, and giving yourself permission to experience difficult emotions without allowing them to define your identity.
Throughout the episode, Bobby expresses his gratitude for his wife, Rachel, who has stood beside him through some of his darkest moments over the last decade. Rather than attempting to fix his depression or force him to feel better, she has provided something invaluable: a safe place to be vulnerable, process his emotions, and continue working toward healing. Bobby encourages listeners supporting someone with depression to offer compassion, patience, understanding, and assistance finding appropriate resources.
Another important theme is the meaning of perseverance. For Bobby, refusing to quit doesn’t always mean pushing harder or demanding more from yourself. Sometimes it means resting, stepping away from a passion, asking for help, or simply making it through another difficult day. He reflects on how depression can temporarily disconnect him from activities he loves, including running, writing, and creating his podcast. However, losing that connection momentarily doesn’t mean the passion itself has disappeared.
Bobby reminds listeners that they are more than their struggles, their difficult thoughts, or the challenges they face. Healing isn’t always a straight line, and having a difficult week doesn’t erase years of progress. There is strength in acknowledging pain, accepting support, and giving yourself another opportunity to experience life.
As the episode concludes, Bobby offers encouragement to anyone experiencing depression or supporting someone who is struggling. He emphasizes the importance of seeking help, finding supportive resources, and approaching each day with patience and compassion.
Above all, this episode serves as a reminder that even when the darkness feels overwhelming, your story isn’t finished. You don’t need every answer today. You only need to give yourself the opportunity to keep discovering what’s possible.
You’re not finished. You’re still becoming.
Follow Bobby’s journey on Instagram: @stillbecoming26
If you or someone you know is struggling with depression or experiencing a mental health crisis, support is available through the 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline in the United States. Call or text 988 for free, confidential support.
