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- 2025
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About Swearing Is Allowed
Swearing Is Allowed is a podcast where emotional truth meets nervous system nuance. Hosted by registered psychotherapist Haley Veronyak, this show is for people doing the real work of healing without the shame, scripts, or sugarcoating. Expect emotionally intelligent reflections, unfiltered insights, and permission to be exactly where you are. Because healing isn't linear, perfect, or polite and swearing is absolutely allowed.
- Publisher
- Haley Veronyak, RP
- Category
- health & fitness
- Language
- en
- Explicit
- Yes
- First episode
- 22 Sept 2025
- Latest episode
- 5 Mar 2026
Latest episodes
17 episodes in the feed.
5 Mar 2026
Why Insight Isn’t Enough to Change Your Life
You understand your patterns. You can explain your childhood. You know your attachment style and can name your trauma responses in real time. So why are you still doing the same things? In this episode, Haley breaks down one of the most frustrating parts of personal growth: the realization that insight alone doesn’t create change. Understanding your behavior is important—but real transformation happens at the level of the nervous system, not just the thinking brain. We talk about why patterns persist even when you “know better,” how your nervous system prioritizes familiarity over logic, and why awareness without practice can keep people stuck in cycles they deeply want to break. You’ll also learn the difference between intellectual insight and embodied regulation, why new behavior often feels uncomfortable (even when it’s healthier), and what actually helps your nervous system begin to respond differently. If you’ve ever thought, “I know exactly why I do this… but I still do it,” this episode is for you. In this episode: Why awareness doesn’t automatically change behavior How the nervous system holds patterns your brain understands The difference between insight and regulation Why change often feels uncomfortable at first Small ways to start creating real corrective experiences Be real, be kind to your nervous system—and go out there and fucking crush it.
26 Feb 2026
Learning to Trust Without Losing Yourself with Dr. Amali Firhoj, ND
Follow Dr. Amali on instagram: @dramali_nd (https://www.instagram.com/dramali_nd/?hl=en) Work with her: https://www.dramalind.com/ (https://www.dramalind.com/) Most people overlook the profound impact education and understanding have on building trust in your body and healthcare choices. What if mastering a few simple principles could radically transform your relationship with your health and ultimately, your life? If you’ve ever felt dismissed, confused, or overwhelmed by conventional medicine, this episode with Dr. Amali will change how you see your health journey. We dive deep into the core of naturopathic medicine its focus on root causes, holistic care, and personalized treatment plans. Dr. Amali shares how understanding your body’s resilience and embracing stress as a vital part of growth can dispel myths about fragility and help you feel more empowered. Discover practical strategies to reconnect with your body’s natural healing ability, from clarifying health goals to unpacking common misconceptions about hormones, diet, and stress. You’ll learn why trust in your body isn’t just a mind game but a foundational facet of sustainable health. The conversation tackles how emotional well-being, education, and genuine practitioner-patient relationships foster confidence and reduce the anxiety of health uncertainty. Whether you’re battling chronic issues, navigating new diagnosis, or simply craving a more intuitive approach, this episode offers tangible tools to help you reclaim control. Perfect for anyone feeling stuck in the trap of "all or nothing" health mindsets or struggling to trust their symptoms and experiences. If you believe your body has more resilience than conventional narratives suggest (and want to learn how to support that resilience) this episode is your blueprint to a calmer, more trustful health outlook. Dr. Amali, a licensed naturopathic doctor and holistic health advocate, offers fresh perspectives on healing, trust, and individual care. Her insights inspire you to see health as a dynamic, empowering journey, rooted in understanding, patience, and personalized support. Hit play to rewrite your relationship with your health. Your body is wiser than you think and this conversation will show you how to listen, trust, and thrive.
19 Feb 2026
Attachment Wounds You’re Still Protecting
In this episode of 'Swearing is Allowed', host Haley Veronyak delves into the often unconscious yet powerful concept of attachment wounds. She explains how these wounds can stem from subtle emotional experiences rather than overt trauma, and how they manifest in adult relationships. The conversation emphasizes the importance of understanding and managing these wounds rather than attempting to fix them, encouraging listeners to explore their own experiences and practice safe dependence in relationships.
12 Feb 2026
Ep. 16 Hyper Independence Is a Trauma Response
In this episode, Haley Veronyak explores the concept of hyper independence, distinguishing it from healthy independence. She discusses the origins of hyper independence, its costs, and the emotional toll it takes on individuals. The conversation delves into the feelings of resentment and isolation that often accompany hyper independence, as well as practical steps to challenge this belief system. Haley shares personal reflections on vulnerability and offers reflection prompts for listeners to consider their own experiences with independence and support. #hyperindependence #mentalhealth #vulnerability #self-sufficiency #emotionalsupport #psychotherapy #personalgrowth #resilience #attachmentwounds #selfdiscovery
5 Feb 2026
Ep. 15 Why Letting People In Feels Unsafe
Most of us crave connection but instinctively pull away when vulnerability hits. Why does intimacy sometimes feel like a threat — and how can understanding your nervous system help you finally bridge the gap? In this episode of Swearing is Allowed, Haley Veronyak, a psychotherapist with personal and professional experience, reveals how your brain's patterns of avoiding closeness are often protective, not flawed. You’ll discover how conflicting feelings—wanting support but fearing rejection—are normal, and how your body memorizes risks based on past experiences. Haley breaks down the subtle ways this subconscious safety mechanism manifests, from pulling away in healthy relationships to feeling annoyed when someone checks in. She shares powerful insights on how your nervous system learns these patterns and how, as an adult, you can gently rewire them without shame or pressure. Key topics covered include: The duality of craving and avoiding connection, and why your feelings can be contradictory at once The role of neurobiological patterns in perceived threats of closeness Why logical knowing that connection is essential isn’t enough to change emotional responses Practical strategies for fostering internal safety: starting with yourself before trusting others How to practice gradual vulnerability—sharing in layers and setting boundaries without guilt or shame If you've ever felt stuck in self-protection mode, this episode offers a fresh perspective: your avoidance isn’t a flaw — it’s a survival strategy that can be reworked. Haley shares relatable stories and simple journal prompts to help you identify what your nervous system is really telling you. Whether you're battling shame over your fears or trying to build authentic connections, understanding your body's wisdom is the first step toward change. Perfect for anyone navigating intimacy anxiety, emotional avoidance, or simply longing for genuine closeness, this episode empowers you to honor your nervous system and start rewiring your relationship with vulnerability. Remember: discomfort doesn’t mean danger. It just means you’re growing. If you’re ready to break free from old patterns and create safer, more authentic relationships, tune in now. Your journey to trust begins here.
15 Dec 2025
#14 Your Nervous System: The Ultimate Year-in-Review
A year-end recap of the core nervous system concepts we explored in 2025! From the four states and trauma responses to fear, control, rest tolerance, capacity, and what actually regulates the body. If you’re new here, this episode catches you up. If you’ve been listening all year, it helps everything click. Your nervous system wasn’t failing, it's adapting.
8 Dec 2025
#13 This Year Didn’t Heal You, But It Grew You
This episode reframes what “healing” is supposed to look like. If your year felt slow, heavy, or nothing like the transformation you hoped for, you’ll learn how growth often happens quietly; in boundaries held, spirals interrupted, and clarity that arrives late. A grounded reminder that you’re not behind; you’ve been changing in ways you might not have noticed yet. Follow @SwearingisAllowed on Instagram for updates, to submit your listener question and more!
1 Dec 2025
You Don’t Need to Finish the Year Strong
In this episode of "Swearing is Allowed," host Haley Veronyak delves into the unique pressures of December, exploring why the end of the year often feels overwhelming. Haley discusses the myth of "finishing strong" and how our bodies naturally signal the need for rest and reflection. She offers insights into distinguishing between burnout and natural depletion, emphasizing the importance of listening to our bodies and respecting our limits. Tune in for a refreshing perspective on embracing the end of the year with honesty and self-compassion.
24 Nov 2025
How I Turned My Pain Into Presence with Melissa Loyer of Balance Meditation Coaching
Join host Haley Veronyak, RP, in a deeply moving episode of Swearing is Allowed as she explores the themes of grief and gratitude with meditation coach Melissa Loyer. Discover how Melissa transformed her life through mindfulness, overcoming anxiety and depression, and learn about the power of meditation in healing. This episode touches on sensitive topics such as suicidal ideation and childhood abuse, so please listen with care. If you or someone you know needs support, remember you can call or text 988 in the US and Canada for help. Tune in for an authentic conversation about healing, vulnerability, and finding peace within. Work with Melissa https://www.balancemeditation.ca/ Follow her on instagram @balance_meditation_coaching
17 Nov 2025
Let the F*cking Anger Come Too
Understanding and Embracing Anger in Grief | Swearing is Allowed Podcast In this episode of Swearing is Allowed, host Haley Veronyak addresses the complex emotion of anger, especially in the context of grief. She discusses how anger, often suppressed and misunderstood, can serve as a significant part of the healing process. The podcast explores the importance of recognizing and safely expressing anger, its physiological impact, and how it can signal unmet needs and boundaries. Haley also provides practical steps for managing anger without harm and answers a listener's question about distinguishing healthy anger from overreactions. Tune in to reclaim your anger as a vital, informative emotion essential for healing. 00:00 Introduction and Overview 00:15 Understanding Anger in Grief 02:39 The Physiology of Anger 04:01 Healthy Expression of Anger 06:05 Personal Reflections on Anger 07:15 Listener Q&A: Healthy vs. Unhealthy Anger 08:16 Weekly Reflections and Closing Thoughts 09:29 Podcast Disclaimer
10 Nov 2025
Gratitude Doesn't Require Gaslighting
The Truth About Gratitude: How to Practice It Without Ignoring Your Pain In this episode of 'Swearing is Allowed,' host Haley Veronyak delves into the complexities of gratitude, exploring how it often serves as a tool to minimize emotional experiences. Haley discusses the misconception that gratitude should be natural and emphasizes its practice as a skill. She shares personal stories, practical tips, and reflective questions to help listeners integrate a genuine sense of gratitude into their lives without invalidating their feelings. The episode also addresses the importance of allowing gratitude to coexist with other emotions like grief and anger. Tune in to learn how to make gratitude a more real and supportive practice. 00:00 Introduction to Gratitude 00:43 Misconceptions About Gratitude 02:03 The Practice of Gratitude 03:44 Reframing Gratitude 05:51 Practical Tips for Gratitude 09:31 Listener Q&A: Dealing with Guilt 10:32 Reflections and Conclusion 11:38 Podcast Disclaimer
3 Nov 2025
You’re Allowed to Grieve What Didn’t F*cking Kill You
Understanding Ambiguous Grief: Mourning What Never Was In this episode of Swearing is Allowed, psychotherapist Haley Ronak dives deep into the concept of ambiguous grief, a type of loss frequently experienced but seldom understood. Ambiguous grief arises from the mourning of what could have been, such as relationships that never materialized or dreams that went unfulfilled. Haley provides insights into how this type of grief manifests within our bodies and minds, and offers practical steps to acknowledge and ritualize these losses to process them effectively. The episode also features a listener question on grieving the loss of a friendship and offers reflective exercises for those dealing with similar feelings. 00:00 Introduction to Ambiguous Grief 00:59 Understanding Ambiguous Grief 02:59 The Neurological Basis of Grief 05:35 Coping with Ambiguous Grief 07:48 Listener Question: Grieving a Faded Friendship 09:10 Personal Reflections on Grief 11:49 Reflection and Conclusion 13:03 Podcast Disclaimer
27 Oct 2025
When You’re Scared You Chose the Wrong Life - with Lindsay McLaughlin
Learn more and work with Lindsay: https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/therapists/lindsay-mclaughlin-georgetown-on/1208693 (https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/therapists/lindsay-mclaughlin-georgetown-on/1208693) Navigating Growth and Authenticity with Therapist Lindsay McLaughlin Welcome back to 'Swearing is Allowed,' the podcast where we get real about the struggles of personal growth. In our second guest episode, host Haley Veronyak is joined by Lindsay McLaughlin, an accomplished therapist, wife, and dog mom. Lindsay shares her journey of opening a private practice, battling chronic health issues, and managing the emotional weight of being the 'strong one' in her circles. They discuss overcoming imposter syndrome, the impact of personal struggles on professional life, and the importance of self-care and genuine connections. If you've ever wondered what it's truly like to pursue your dreams while facing life's challenges, this episode is for you. 00:00 Introduction and Guest Overview 01:44 Lindsay's Journey into Therapy 02:56 Struggles and Imposter Syndrome 04:04 Balancing Personal and Professional Life 05:15 Realizations and Career Reflections 08:40 Navigating Misalignment and Self-Care 14:11 Therapist's Self-Discovery and Ethical Practice 22:02 Managing Doubts and Seeking Support 23:03 Facing the Hardest Moments 23:33 Triggers and Coping Mechanisms 24:46 Understanding Fear and Rejection 26:08 The Journey of Self-Trust 28:08 Balancing Personal and Professional Life 31:39 Living with Endometriosis 36:10 Redefining Strength 37:29 Rapid Fire Round 42:43 Final Thoughts and Gratitude 43:50 Podcast Disclaimer
20 Oct 2025
You’re Allowed to Want More... Even if You’re Scared
Understanding the Fear of Success and Self-Sabotage In this episode of 'Swearing is Allowed', psychotherapist Haley Veronyak delves into the fear of success and its impact on personal growth. She discusses how fear doesn’t always look like panic but can manifest quietly, leading to self-sabotage just as success begins. Haley shares personal experiences and client stories, illustrating the internal battles many face when life starts to go well. She introduces concepts like the 'upper limit problem' and offers strategies to overcome fear-driven behavior, emphasizing the importance of micro expansions and self-alignment. Haley also answers a listener's question about discerning between misalignment and fear of success, encouraging listeners to reflect on their own patterns and beliefs surrounding success. Tune in to understand how wanting more in life is part of growing and not something to fear. 00:00 Introduction to Fear of Success 01:08 A Personal Story of Success and Fear 03:12 Understanding the Upper Limit Problem 05:18 Navigating Fear and Growth 06:40 Listener Question: Fear of Promotion 07:45 Embracing Authenticity and Alignment 09:55 Reflective Questions and Conclusion Follow and submit questions @SwearingisAllowed on instagram
6 Oct 2025
Your Anxiety is a F*cking Genius
Understanding and Rewiring Your Anxiety: Tools for Navigating Fear In this episode of 'Swearing is Allowed,' psychotherapist Haley Veronyak dives into the theme of fear for October. Focusing on anxiety, Haley explains that it's not a flaw but a protective strategy from our nervous system. She discusses how anxiety manifests in daily behaviors like over-functioning, people-pleasing, and perfectionism, often rooted in past survival strategies. Haley offers actionable tools to recognize and soften these patterns, helping you develop new responses and a sense of safety. The episode also addresses how to handle guilt when setting boundaries and provides journal prompts for self-reflection. 00:00 Introduction to the Podcast 00:24 Understanding Fear and Anxiety 00:51 The Genius of Anxiety 01:01 Anxiety as a Survival Strategy 02:08 Modern Threats and Miscalibrated Anxiety 03:42 Protective Behaviors and Their Impact 06:02 Shifting Patterns and Creating New Behaviors 10:47 Answering Listener Questions 13:30 Personal Reflections on Anxiety 15:56 Weekly Journal Prompts and Conclusion 16:51 Podcast Disclaimer
29 Sept 2025
Making Sh*t Happen - With Katherine Latimer from the Social Wellness
Join us for our first guest episode featuring Katie, a successful business development and communications specialist, and founder of The Social Wellness. This month, we dive deep into themes around rebuilding your nervous system, reclaiming routines, and redefining yourself after significant changes. Katie shares her inspiring journey of transitioning from a conventional corporate job to starting her own business, overcoming burnout, and continuously seeking alignment and empowerment. We discuss the emotional and practical challenges of entrepreneurship, balancing control with intuition, and the importance of self-care. Katie also opens up about her personal growth, shifting values, and her aspirations for the future. Whether you're contemplating a career shift or simply looking for motivation to pursue your dreams, this episode is filled with valuable insights and relatable experiences. Don't miss out! Follow Katie on instagram @thesocial.wellness Work with her --> https://www.thesocialwellness.ca/ (https://www.thesocialwellness.ca/) 00:00 Introduction to the Guest Episode 01:21 Katie's Journey to Entrepreneurship 01:46 Challenges in Corporate Life 03:07 Starting a Business and Finding Alignment 05:13 Pivoting and Expanding Services 07:23 Handling Failures and Learning from Mistakes 12:12 Balancing Work and Personal Life 16:07 Self-Care and Emotional Well-being 19:00 Daily Routines and Managing Anxiety 21:16 Dealing with Doubts and Fears 22:45 Reflecting on Personal Values and Support Systems 23:20 Shifting Perspectives on Family and Independence 25:06 Balancing Business Growth and Self-Worth 25:54 Manifestation and Visualization Techniques 28:13 Navigating Spirituality and Practicality 29:02 Embracing Creativity and Managing Anxiety 29:32 Balancing Control and Faith in the Universe 31:32 Learning from Repeated Life Lessons 37:19 Advice for the Lost Twenties 38:55 Quick Fire Questions and Final Thoughts
22 Sept 2025
Who the F*ck Am I Now?
Navigating Identity Whiplash: Embracing Change and Self-Growth Welcome back to 'Swearing is Allowed,' the podcast where we dive into the messy process of personal growth without any sugar-coating. I'm Haley Veronyak, a psychotherapist, and in today's episode, we're discussing 'identity whiplash'—that disorienting phase of standing between who we were and who we're becoming. From changing your career or relationship to minor acts of rebellion against old habits, we'll talk about why these life shifts feel like grief, how to embrace the disorienting feelings, and practical grounding practices to help you navigate this transition with gentleness and curiosity. Plus, we tackle a listener question on feeling empty after leaving a relationship and discuss how to find yourself during this transformative period. Tune in for an honest conversation about identity, growth, and self-acceptance. 00:00 Introduction to Identity Whiplash 01:13 Understanding Identity Grief 03:29 Navigating the Transition Phase 08:08 Grounding Practices for Identity Shifts 11:04 Listener Q&A: Embracing the Space 15:10 Final Thoughts and Journal Prompts 16:25 Podcast Disclaime
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