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A space where I speak candidly about my life experiences, relationship, and topics that need to be discussed. Through it all I empower you to be the best version of self and provoke change through taking a good look at self in the mirror and fixing the parts of self that need to be worked on. We are family around here and keep it 100
“You’re Not My Ex, So Why Am I Fighting You Like You Are?”
When old wounds start running new relationships
Some of us are in relationships with three people: us, the person we’re with now, and the ghost of the person who hurt us before. And somehow, that ghost still has voting rights.
They’re deciding what feels suspicious. What silence means. Whether somebody can be trusted. How we respond when a text goes unanswered. And sometimes, they’re even deciding how much love we’re willing to receive before we start preparing for something to go wrong.
In this episode of Talk & Toast, Coach Chanel G gets into what happens when old wounds start translating new experiences. We’re talking hypervigilance, trust issues, relationship testing, self-sabotage, confusing chaos with chemistry, and why peace can feel suspicious when dysfunction once felt familiar.
But this conversation goes deeper than “heal before you date.”
What if the real question isn’t simply, “Can I trust this person?” What if it’s also, “Do I trust myself enough to handle the truth if this person disappoints me?”
Whew. Yeah. We’re going there.
We’ll unpack the difference between discernment and fear, boundaries and walls, intuition and anxiety—and how to recognize when your past is informing you versus when it’s governing you. And because we don’t just identify problems around this table, you’ll leave with practical questions and tools to help you slow down, separate facts from fear, communicate your triggers without weaponizing them, and stop making new people stand trial for somebody else’s behavior.
And before we toast, there’s one question I want you to sit with:
What does the person in front of you deserve that somebody from your past stole from them?
Baby…come sit at the table.
🎙️ Talk & Toast with Coach Chanel G
We talk it out. We work it out. And baby, we toast to what happens next.
10 Jan 2026
Softness Is Not a Liability
Somewhere along the way, strength stopped being a choice and started being requirement. In this 45-minute episode of Talk and Toast, we tell truth about softness- especially for Black women who learned early how to brace, how to survive, and how to stay ready in spaces that were never built for their care.
This conversation explores how strength became muscle memory, why softness started to feel risky, and what it costs us when resilience never gets to rest. We name the fatigue that often goes unseen and reframe softness not as weakness, but wisdom.
This episode is for anyone who's been praised for being strong while quietly longing for relief.
Pull up a chair
Lower the armor
And stay for the toast
Talk and Toast is powered by Provoke Change, where we name the problem- and toast to the solution.
19 Dec 2025
Loving Someone While Learning Yourself
In this raw and unfiltered episode of Talk and Toast, Coach G dives into the sacred tension of loving someone deeply—while still figuring out who you are. What happens when your heart is all in, but your identity is still under construction? From personal stories to expert insights, this episode breaks down the psychology, the emotional labor, and the soul work behind showing up in love without losing yourself.
Expect truth. Expect fire. Expect the kind of reflection that shakes your spirit and stirs real conversation at your table. And for the first time ever, Coach G drops an original song—“Loving Someone While Learning Yourself”—right in the middle of the episode, creating a moment that hits all the way home.
Whether you're in love, recovering from it, or learning to love yourself again—this episode is your mirror.
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