That's Not Very Ladylike

About That's Not Very Ladylike

That’s Not Very Ladylike is the podcast for every woman who was told to be polite, stay calm, or stop being so dramatic, meanwhile her hormones, boundaries, and sanity were quietly falling apart. Hosted by Tracey Willingham, licensed social worker and the voice behind That Hormone Girl™, each episode starts with one rule: Ladies don’t…and then they do it anyway. Together, we unpack the unspoken expectations, the emotional labor, the generational BS, and the hormone chaos modern women are carrying and we get honest about what it actually takes to feel like yourself again. If you’re ready to question the rules, trust your body, and stop shrinking to make everyone else comfortable, you’re in the right place.

Publisher

Tracey Willingham

Category

education · society & culture

Language

en

Explicit

Yes

First episode

17 Nov 2025

Latest episode

9 Oct 2026

Latest episodes

47 episodes in the feed.

1. 

   9 Oct 2026

   Ladies Don't Get Loud. They Just Use Their Inside Voice for Everything.

   This week I’m taking you to the woods in County Sligo, where I stood with nine other women and screamed. My first scream was a polite, lady’s scream. By the last round, what came out of me was one loud, clear “no.” My whole life, my voice has been called too much, too loud, too weird, and somewhere along the way I learned to swallow the sound. We get into why this rule was never really about being quiet. It’s about who gets to decide how much space your voice takes up. We get into how the rule has never been enforced equally. We get into how the same culture that took your volume away now expects you to be heard at the school meeting, with the insurance company, and in the exam room, just quietly enough that you don’t bother anyone. And we get into the hardest part: catching yourself right before you make your voice smaller, and finding one place this week to be loud on purpose. Music from #Uppbeat https://uppbeat.io/t/mountaineer/break-it-down (https://uppbeat.io/t/mountaineer/break-it-down) License code: 1S4TI94HJFOHIGSH If you are interested in That Hormone Girl information, visit my everything page: https://www.thathormonegirl.com/thg-hq (https://www.thathormonegirl.com/thg-hq)

2. 

   1 Oct 2026

   Ladies Don't Say They're Unhappy. They Just Blame It on Their Hormones.

   This week I'm getting into that moment when you're genuinely unhappy about something with a name, a job, a friendship, the way your marriage works, and instead of saying it, you say, I think it's just my hormones. Then you wait. For the labs, for your next cycle, for the next protocol. And another year goes by without looking at your actual life, and you call that taking care of yourself. We get into the difference between treating your body and postponing your life, and why perimenopause doesn't put those questions in you, it's the season they finally show up. We get into the wandering womb, hysteria, and the rest cure, and why every time women have been dissatisfied with the conditions of their lives, the answer has arrived as a medical one. We get into how the mood changes in perimenopause are real, documented, and treatable, which is exactly why it's your hormones is so hard to argue with when it's only part of the truth. And we get into the hardest part, two lists that ask what would still bother you if you slept eight hours and felt healthy, and what would still be true if your life stayed the same but your body felt like yours again, and then taking both answers seriously at the same time. Music from #Uppbeat https://uppbeat.io/t/mountaineer/break-it-down (https://uppbeat.io/t/mountaineer/break-it-down) License code: 1S4TI94HJFOHIGSH If you are interested in That Hormone Girl information, visit my everything page: https://www.thathormonegirl.com/thg-hq (https://www.thathormonegirl.com/thg-hq)

3. 

   24 Sept 2026

   Ladies Don't Say No to Caregiving. They Just Add the In-Laws to the List.

   This week I'm getting into that moment when your partner's mother falls, and there's a pause in the room where everybody looks around, and the looking lands on you. You already have a list: your kids, maybe your own parents, a job, a household, everybody's schedule living rent free in your head. You never actually say yes. You just quietly start knowing her medications, and you call that being family. We get into why you're just better at it isn't a compliment, it's a job offer with no salary and no end date. We get into how a married woman was historically absorbed into his household, and how today's long-term care system still runs on the assumption that a daughter or daughter-in-law will do it for free. We get into what it costs when that load lands in the perimenopause and menopause years, hitting her career, her retirement, and her health all at once. And we get into the hardest part, writing down every task for two weeks and saying one sentence out loud to your partner: these are your parents, what's your plan? Music from #Uppbeat https://uppbeat.io/t/mountaineer/break-it-down (https://uppbeat.io/t/mountaineer/break-it-down) License code: 1S4TI94HJFOHIGSH If you are interested in That Hormone Girl information, visit my everything page: https://www.thathormonegirl.com/thg-hq (https://www.thathormonegirl.com/thg-hq)

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