That's What She Said

About That's What She Said

That's What She Said is a women's podcast for women of every generation, featuring interviews spotlighting honest conversations, real-life stories, and earned wisdom from everyday women. Many of the guests are Gen X, midlife, and older women whose experiences, insights, and voices deserve more space, not less.

Publisher

Dr. Robin Buckley

Category

education · society & culture

Language

en

Explicit

No

First episode

22 Mar 2026

Latest episode

13 Oct 2026

Latest episodes

30 episodes in the feed.

1. 

   13 Oct 2026

   Women in Midlife: How to Question the Life You Inherited and Choose Your Own

   What happens when you become very good at living a life you never stopped to question? Dr. Gwendolyn Dolske is a philosopher, professor, writer, speaker, and co-host of Good Is in the Details. Her work brings philosophy out of the classroom and into the messier questions of everyday life: Who am I? What makes a life good? Where did my beliefs come from? And how much of the woman I have become was consciously chosen? In this episode of That's What She Said, Gwendolyn joins Dr. Robin Buckley for a wide-ranging conversation about women, identity, people pleasing, motherhood, midlife, love, sexuality, cultural expectations, and the freedom that comes from questioning the ideas we were taught to accept. They explore the difference between being "good" and being obedient, why traits historically labeled masculine or feminine are often simply human, and how women can lose touch with themselves when caring for everyone else becomes their primary source of value. Gwendolyn also offers a philosophical perspective on midlife, particularly for Gen X women who inherited traditional expectations while simultaneously gaining access to choices previous generations of women often did not have. More possibility can create more anxiety, but it also creates freedom. The conversation also challenges the scripts surrounding love, sex, motherhood, aging, and what women are allowed to want. From questioning whether love is merely a feeling to examining why women are still taught to suppress desire, Gwendolyn invites us to ask a deceptively powerful question: Where did this belief come from, and do I actually want to keep it? Because curiosity is not just intellectual. It can be a way out of rigidity, people pleasing, and a life lived according to someone else's definition of who you are supposed to be. If you have ever wondered who you are beyond your roles, questioned whether the life you built still fits, or felt drawn toward something you could not quite explain, this conversation may give you permission to stop searching for the "right" way to live and start exploring a way that is actually yours. You'll want more from Dr. Dolske: The Good is in the Details podcast (https://www.goodisinthedetails.com/) Book

2. 

   6 Oct 2026

   Why You Forgot How to Flirt and How to Get Your Spark Back

   What if flirting isn't something you do to get someone to like you, but a way of reconnecting with the playful, confident, magnetic part of yourself? Confidence therapist, dating strategist, image expert, and Charisma Quotient host Kimmy Seltzer returns to That's What She Said for a bonus conversation all about flirting, especially flirting after 40. Kimmy and Dr. Robin Buckley unpack why so many accomplished women feel awkward, embarrassed, or completely out of practice when it comes to flirting. They explore how rejection, relationships, aging, perfectionism, shame, and years of being responsible can slowly make women more guarded, even when part of them still wants to feel playful, attractive, and seen. Kimmy explains why good flirting has less to do with clever lines and more to do with body language, eye contact, approachability, curiosity, playfulness, and letting go of the outcome. She also shares practical ways to practice flirting when you feel rusty, including starting small, making it a game, and learning to tolerate the discomfort of being noticed. And this conversation goes beyond dating. Robin and Kimmy talk about why flirting often disappears inside long-term relationships, how couples can keep seeing each other as lovers rather than simply logistical partners, and how to distinguish harmless social warmth from outside attention that may be filling an unmet emotional need. Whether you're dating after 40, putting yourself out there after divorce or a long relationship, trying to rebuild dating confidence, or simply wanting more playfulness and connection in your life, this episode is a reminder that flirting does not have to be a performance. Sometimes it is simply permission to feel alive, visible, playful, and a little imperfect again. Pasted text Pasted text Want to discover your own flirting style? Take Kimmy's free Flirt Over 40 quiz at FlirtOver40.com and get access to her follow-up videos and flirt formula.

3. 

   1 Oct 2026

   Why High-Achieving Women Feel Like Imposters and What to Do About It

   What if self-doubt is not proof that you are unqualified, and fear is not a sign that you should stop? Dr. Jill Stoddard is a psychologist, author, TEDx speaker, entrepreneur, and expert in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy who studies anxiety, courage, and imposterism. In this episode of That's What She Said, Jill joins Dr. Robin Buckley to challenge one of the most persistent beliefs holding capable women back: that they need to feel confident, ready, calm, or fully qualified before taking the next step. Jill explains why imposter thoughts are extraordinarily common, why high achievement does not make them disappear, and how perfectionism, over-preparing, doing everything alone, and trying to be "superhuman" can actually reinforce the fear that you do not belong. They also explore why women and other people who have experienced marginalization may have very rational reasons to question whether they belong in certain rooms, why discomfort often appears precisely where something matters most, and how Acceptance and Commitment Therapy can help people stop letting fear make their decisions. This conversation is not about becoming fearless. It is about becoming more willing to feel fear while still moving toward what matters. If you have ever thought, I need one more credential, a little more experience, more confidence, or just a little more time before I'm ready, this episode may change how you think about self-doubt entirely. You'll want more from Jill: Website: https://jillstoddard.com/ Quizzes: https://jillstoddard.com/quizzes (https://jillstoddard.com/quizzes) Psychologists Off the Clock podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/3h9wMoc9TZ6jNv7w1oTy7E?si=bf69962300a64d4b We, the Sunlight podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/7w3iD26b9i6Q722EYfcQlM?si=55e7df76f64d44ed Books: https://jillstoddard.com/books (https://jillstoddard.com/books)

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5.0 / 5

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