The Actualising Woman

About The Actualising Woman

Hi Everyone who is listening, Clare here... I've been The Actualising Woman for a little while, but sadly the pressure to keep this poddy going has been a little too much for me due to my perfectionism and a lot of overwhelm over the last 6 months. (AuDHD!) However ... I have started Flooba! (much more manageable for me). Flooba is a new podcast which is a sensory sound space for neurodivergent minds. I produce immersive audio support for rest, sleep, emotional regulation, anxiety, productivity, focus and sensory recovery for ADHD, ADD, ASD and AuDHD. Using binaural beats, isochronic tones, rhythmic drumming, sound-drift, solfeggio, ambient textures, soothing frequencies and SFX (and so, so much more), each episode creates a calm, predictable sound environment for us spicies!! These soundscapes may help with: • Focus and productivity • Anxiety relief and stress reduction • Emotional regulation and sensory balance • Meltdown recovery and post-overwhelm decompression • Burnout and masking fatigue • Re-grounding after sensory challenges or stimming • Frustration, anger and emotional outburst • Parasympathetic ("rest and restore") activation • Vagus nerve calming and lower stress-related cortisol • Background noise masking, relaxation and sleep Here are my links to this new venture. These sounds have helped to settle me and become more emotionally stable (because of all the sound production!) https://linktr.ee/flooba I'm on Apple, Amazon Music, Youtube and soon to be on Spotify and Patreon. Thank you for staying with me, and I do hope that you will look into Flooba and tell me what you think! Contact: floobasounds@gmail.com for requests or questions Clare Llewellyn-Bailey: Counselling Psychotherapist (MBACP, BA Hons)

Publisher

Clare Llewellyn-Bailey

Category

education · health & fitness · society & culture

Language

en

Explicit

No

First episode

19 Sept 2025

Latest episode

9 Mar 2026

Latest episodes

11 episodes in the feed.

1. 

   9 Mar 2026

   ADHD & Autism Diagnosis in Women: Finding Your Tribe After a Late Neurodivergent Diagnosis + Advocating for Your Needs

   ADHD & Autism Diagnosis in Women: Finding Your Tribe After a Late Neurodivergent Diagnosis, Advocating for Your Needs. (Includes 8-12 sec. short breaks) Receiving a late diagnosis of ADHD or autism can be life-changing, confusing, and deeply emotional—especially for women who have spent decades masking their neurodivergence. In this episode of The Actualising Woman, Clare shares her personal journey after being diagnosed with ADHD in midlife and explores why finding the right suppor...

2. 

   16 Feb 2026

   AUDHD MASKING + UNMASKING | PROs +CONs | Late Diagnosed | Authentic + Congruence Identity

   AUDHD MASKING + UNMASKING | PROs +CONs | Late Diagnosed | Authentic + Congruence Identity. My experiences so far! In this deeply personal episode on AuDHD masking and unmasking, I explore the pros and cons of camouflaging as a late-diagnosed autistic + ADHD woman and what it truly means to rediscover your authentic, congruent identity after diagnosis. If you’ve received a late Autism diagnosis, ADHD diagnosis, or identify as AuDHD and feel confused, grieving, angry, or unsure who...

3. 

   27 Jan 2026

   PART 2 What is Actualisation? What does it MEAN to me? Becoming a Fully Functioning Person with AuDHD

   PART 2. In this episode I'm outlining: 1. what actualisation means. 2. what it means to become a fully functioning person and 3. what does that mean for me in REAL terms? What changes do I need to make regarding self-development, what do I need more of, less of, to be able to live with psychological, financial and geographic FREEDOM?! REFERENCE: Carl R Rogers ‘A Therapist’s View of Psychotherapy – On Becoming a Person', 1961 pg 191-192, pg 168-176 The Actualising Woman 🪴 is...

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   12 Dec 2025

   PART 1 What's Your Plan Clare?? What Do You Need For You to Start Becoming a Fully Functioning Person? AKA - Actualise?

   PART 1. In this one, I'm talking about (well... rambling on, really) a lightbulb moment I had in May 2022, which I've never got out of my head. A long term dream. BUT, it seems that it's only now that I'm ready for it to come to fruition. Why? Because certain experiences needed to be experienced first, for me to gain clarity about why the dream happened in the first place... Hindsight eh! This plan of action, I'm hoping, will provide me with the sensory, social and financial security I ...

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   25 Nov 2025

   How Does Congruence Help You Unmask as an ASD ADHD -er? - A Core Condition for Actualising The Ideal 'You'

   How Does Congruence Help You Unmask as an ASD ADHD -er? - A Core Condition for Actualising The Ideal 'You'. I talk about how masking goes against your congruent self.. causing distress and misalignment. The Actualising Woman 🪴 is a raw, unfiltered diary of life after my late diagnosis of (Level 1) ASD & ADHD (AuDHD) and a mental breakdown at 58 🌸 I share my journey of living unmasked, rebuilding a congruent identity, and creating a life that truly fits ME, inspired by Carl Rogers’ T...

6. 

   16 Nov 2025

   How I'm Helping Myself Unmask and Process ADHD, ASD Diagnosis - Self Parenting, A Potato + The Actualising Tendency Carl Rogers

   How I'm Helping Myself Unmask and Process My ADHD, ASD Diagnosis - Self Parenting + The Actualising Tendency Carl Rogers. Here's the story of how Carl Rogers came to learn about The Actualising Tendency! AND why he developed his theory of The Three Conditions required by therapists (and yourself) to create the PERFECT environment in which a person/you can thrive, heal, grow, reach full potential and ACTUALISE This theory will underpin my journey towards actualisation. What's my PLAN?! ...

7. 

   4 Nov 2025

   How Trauma & AuDHD Led Me to Chronic Negative Thinking & Breakdown

   This episode is fully loaded! I talk about how having experienced trauma in childhood (and adulthood) alongside undiagnosed ADHD and ASD, had led me to my recent mental health breakdown. Heavy topics which I have only just touched on in this episode, but give an outline of what (I believe) have caused this life-changing experience. I talk about what I'm learning that I need to change about myself, so that I can live more healthily, authentically, in the world as an unmasked late-diagnosed wom...

8. 

   14 Oct 2025

   Starting to Come Back to Myself - My NEW Self - Breakdown to Breakthrough as an AuDHD-er

   Starting to Come Back to Myself - My NEW Self - Breakdown to Breakthrough as an AuDHD-er. I talk about how I move into an assessment phase, despite still feeling very vulnerable, emotional, sad and distressed. I assess Version 1 (the old Clare: the masker, the people-pleaser, etc) into Version 2, the Clare who has NO IDEA how to be unmasked in this world and knowing I cannot go back to V1 of myself. I can't get the toothpaste back in the tube!! The horse has bolted now and there's no wa...

9. 

   6 Oct 2025

   Falling into Breakdown - What Was the Last Straw? AuDHD-er's Journey Towards Diagnosis

   Falling into Breakdown. In this episode, I talk candidly about what caused my 'crash' into being mentally and physically incapacitated for 13+ weeks after months and years of extreme stress and worry. But what was the final straw? Includes: life review, dissociation (detachment from reality and time) and executive function malfunctioning! Trigger Warning - This one is a bit sad and dark, so if you're feeling wobbly, maybe give this episode a swerve! The Actualising ...

10. 

    25 Sept 2025

    My AuDHD Diagnosis How did THAT happen? Late Diagnosis Journey

    My AuDHD Diagnosis How Did THAT happen? Late Diagnosis Journey The Actualising Woman (previously The Blooming Boss)🪴 is a raw, unfiltered diary of life after my late diagnosis of (Level 1) ASD & ADHD (AuDHD) and a mental breakdown at 58 🌸 I share my journey of living unmasked, rebuilding a congruent identity, and creating a life that truly fits ME, inspired by Carl Rogers’ Theory of Actualisation. This channel is about growth, self-acceptance, and becoming a fully functioning, ...

11. 

    19 Sept 2025

    WELCOME to The Actualising Woman and Here's What to Expect

    INTRODUCTION to The Actualising Woman... what to expect The Actualising Woman 🪴is an unfiltered, raw diary of life after my late-diagnosis of (Level 1) ASD and ADHD (AuDHD) and a mental breakdown in 2025 at age 58 🌸 I talk candidly about how I’m learning to live unmasked, rebuilding a congruent identity and search for a life that finally fits ME (however unconventional and 'off the beaten track' it might seem!) so that I can freely become a fully functioning and actualising woman; and hopeful...

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