2 Oct 2026
Midlife Upgrade: Talking Sex, Money, Grief and Community in Midlife with Pamela DeRose and Julie Fedeli
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🎙️ Episode 37: Midlife Upgrade: Talking Grief, Community, Sex, and Money in Midlife with Pamela DeRose and Julie Fedeli
Guest: Pamela DeRose and Julie Fedeli
Air Date: 10/2/26
✨ Episode Summary
Aly speaks with Julie Fedeli and Pamela DeRose, co-founders of Midlife Upgrade, about what midlife looks like for women beyond the “crisis” label. They explore grief, changing friendships, self-advocacy, pleasure, money, and why community matters in this stage of life.Julie and Pamela share how their experiences with menopause and perimenopause led them to create a book, events, a Substack, and a course designed to help women feel supported, informed, and less alone.
Key topics
How Pamela’s own perimenopause and menopause experience inspired Midlife Upgrade, despite her decades of health-coaching experience.
What a “midlife upgrade” means: recognizing your power and making space for conversations about health, finances, sex, relationships, community, and grief.
The many forms grief can take in midlife—including changes in friendships, relationships, family, bodies, and expectations.
Why friendships may shift in midlife, and how women can intentionally create deeper connections and community.
What Pamela learned about rethinking old health habits and listening to her changing body.
Why everyday self-care—sleep, hydration, nourishing food, and morning sunlight—can matter more than occasional treats.
The need for open conversations about women’s sexual health, pleasure, and menopause.
Why women’s health research and medical education need greater attention.
How money can be a difficult topic for women to discuss, and why financial confidence matters.
The importance of self-advocacy, trusting your own experience, and seeking knowledgeable healthcare providers.
Notice when old health habits no longer serve your body, and stay curious about what does.
Think of self-care as the daily basics that support wellbeing.
Ask questions about menopause and sexual health, and seek care that takes your concerns seriously.
Make room for grief and change rather than feeling you have to push through everything.
Invest in supportive, meaningful connections with other women.
Connect with Pam and Julie:
Website: midlifeupgrade.com (https://www.midlifeupgrade.com/)
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