The Art of Being You
Leadership, Identity, and Internal Authority
Most people think confidence is the problem.
It isn’t.
Confidence is the result of something deeper: knowing who you are and leading from that place.
The Art of Being You explores what it actually takes to move from approval-seeking to authentic leadership.
Hosted by Leadership Identity Coach Nancy Haines, this podcast challenges the common narratives around confidence, success, and leadership.
After building a thriving career in Los Angeles and then rebuilding her life and identity after moving to Dubai, Nancy Haines experienced firsthand what happens when your identity becomes tied to external validation.
This show explores the deeper work of leadership:
developing internal authority
separating identity from achievement
leading with presence instead of performance
building confidence that comes from alignment, not approval
Each season features a mix of solo episodes and conversations with leaders, entrepreneurs, and thinkers exploring the psychology and lived experience of authentic leadership.
If you’re a high-performing professional, entrepreneur, or leader who is ready to stop performing for approval and start leading from identity — you’re in the right place.
Because the most powerful leadership doesn’t come from proving yourself.
It comes from being fully yourself.
Episode 17 What Real Confidence Actually Feels Like (With Jayson Graystone)
Episode Summary
In this episode of The Art of Being You, I share a short but powerful conversation with Jayson Graystone — a highly successful trader and businessman — but more importantly, someone who embodies a kind of leadership that isn’t often talked about.
What stood out to me wasn’t just what he said… but how he showed up.
There are certain people who carry a presence that shifts a room without needing to perform, impress, or prove anything. And it raises an important question:
What is it that actually creates that kind of confidence?
In this conversation, we explore what it looks like to operate from internal authority — and how that changes the way you lead, make decisions, and show up in business and life.
In This Episode, We Explore:
How internal authority changes decision-making
The contrast between pressure-driven hustle and a more grounded way of operating
What authentic leadership feels like in real life — not just in theory
A Note on This Conversation
This is a short, focused conversation — but one that captures something deeper than just words.
As you listen, pay attention not only to what’s being said… but how it feels.
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This podcast is for those navigating the shift from external validation to internal authority — in leadership, business, and life.
13 Mar 2026
Why I Stepped Away From My Work — And What It Taught Me About Confidence
After several years away from the microphone, The Art of Being You is returning with a deeper message and a clearer purpose.
In this episode, I share why I stepped away from my work for a period of time, what that space allowed me to see, and why this next chapter of the podcast feels different.
During this time, I reflected deeply on patterns I’ve seen in so many capable people — overthinking decisions, second-guessing themselves, feeling responsible for everyone around them, and constantly looking outside themselves for validation.
What I realized is that confidence was never the real issue.
Confidence is the outcome.
The real shift happens when we move from external validation to internal authority.
This podcast is about understanding the identity patterns that shape how we lead, communicate, and make decisions. Because when identity aligns, presence changes. When presence changes, leadership becomes natural — and confidence follows.
If you’ve ever felt capable but still unsure, strong but still exhausted, or clear but still hesitant to fully trust yourself, this space is for you.
Welcome back to The Art of Being You.
14 Feb 2021
Episode 15- Vulnerability & Intimacy in Relationships
Happy Valentines Day to you! We have a special episode on this day for you to enjoy. It is a topic that most people do not discuss while in a relationship and is necessary for one to thrive.
Let's be honest. Vulnerability and intimacy are sometimes the hardest things to build that require both parties to feel safe and not judged. We share some awesome tips for those who still want to grow in their relationships and give it depth.
Enjoy the laughs and the vulnerability.
17 Jan 2021
Episode 14 - Communication in Relationships
In this episode, we dive in a bit deeper into what communication in relationships really is. The ability to identify your communication style and to identify your needs is crucial for everything to be in harmony. At the end of the day, communication is a massive pillar for a couple. Self-love really comes into play here as well. Loving yourself enough to talk about what your needs are and also your ability to bring up problems in a relationship.
Listen up as we share some mistakes we all make and tips to help you move through all the junk and get to the point of having harmony and essential conversations without the hassle.
18 Dec 2020
Episode 13- Self Sabotage in Relationships
Let's be honest, we have all self-sabotaged at some point in our relationships. A good question to bring up is, how many times have you stood in your own way of your happiness because "what if..."? In this episode we discuss why we self-sabotage in relationships and how to stop it. Identifying patterns and understanding where they come from are a great way to show up in relationships fully prepared and ready!
To get some deeper support, remember to check out the Dim to Damn Girl online program (link found on IG @the_confidence_catalyst). Don't let this New Year start without learning some great tools to help yourself!
4 Dec 2020
Episode 12 -Resentment In Relationships
Resentment in relationships is very common. It can be the wedge that starts creating disconnect and toxicity. The toxicity it creates may impact a relationship enough to cause irreparable damage. We talk about the types of resentment, the causes, and some tips on how to help your relationship survive it! Let's start becoming aware of our habits and start creating healthy relationships!
9 Nov 2020
Episode 11- Roles in Relationships
Who are you when you are in a relationship? What role do you normally take? Does it serve you? These are just some questions that we discuss in this episode. I brought my husband in to get his perspective and for men to hear a male perspective on this topic. We share some of our challenges in our relationship that led us to have the conversation that was needed to move forward.
29 Sept 2020
Episode 10 - Does Your Self-Love Come With Conditions?
In this powerful episode, we discuss a very intriguing question. Do you love yourself just for being yourself? Or do you love yourself with conditions?
21 Sept 2020
Episode 9 - Setting Healthy Boundaries
Setting healthy relationships is a part of self-love. It is important because it impacts your identity.
7 Sept 2020
Episode 8 - The Toxicity of Judgment
Everyone does it, but what you may not realize how much it's actually impacting your everyday life. Judgment creates so much toxicity in your mind and body. It steals your peace and it creates negativity. The moment you become aware of what you judge, you can change the pattern and create a different connection with those around you. Remember, what you focus on, grows...which means your annoyance will just keep increasing unless you decide to change it.
31 Aug 2020
Episode 7 - Surrender and Get Out of Your Own Way!
The act of surrendering is so powerful and yet it is not used enough. In this episode, we talk about what it means to surrender and how to get out of your own way. Any challenges you are facing requires an answer from a higher power. Surrendering allows you to ask for help and accept you are not alone in this. What are you not happy with that you want to surrender? Try it and see what happens!
16 Aug 2020
Episode 6 -The Difference between Confidence and Self-Esteem
Confidence and self-esteem are used interchangeably and most people do not know the difference. The impact of each is very unique and be the reason why you are feeling a bit off.
Understanding the difference between each is quite an aha moment. What it can do for you to know the difference is quite powerful. I was inspired to do this episode from an interview with Dubai Eye Radio.
As always, I share with you some tips to use to help you get out of the funk and getcha mind right!
19 Jul 2020
Episode 5 - Interview with Lara Tabet
I had the absolute pleasure of sitting with Lara Tabet, an iconic woman in Dubai. Lara Tabet wears many hats! Among being a wonderful wife and mother, she is an Award-Winning Global Influencer, TV Presenter, Official spokesperson of Arab Fashion Council, and brand Ambassador for multiple luxury brands. Lara shares some intimate stories that will leave you with inspiration, hope, and amazement.
16 Jun 2020
Episode 4 - The Importance of Being Seen and Heard
Whether it is at home or in the office, there is a disconnect with others when they don't feel seen or heard. Even if you think you are listening, you may not necessarily be active listening. In this episode, I share some stories and tips to help you to connect with people on a deeper level.
2 Jun 2020
Episode 3 - Finding Your Voice
In a time when your voice is the only thing you can use to change the world, this episode discusses how to get it back if you feel like you have lost it.
Finding your voice is a powerful tool to showcase that authentic and unapologetic you!
5 May 2020
Episode 2 - Identity Crisis During Challenging Times
In this episode, you will be introduced to this concept of identity crisis and how it impacts you in your daily life.
Many of us go through an identity crisis when we are going through a transition phase. Single to in a relationship, married to divorced, single to parent, etc...
The phase we are all currently going through is a challenging one and the effects of an identity crisis are here! They are coming to the surface and they feel stronger than ever.
Learn the tips and tools to identify it and also how to overcome it.
13 Apr 2020
Episode 1 - Introduction
In this episode, you get to know a little bit of who I am and why I'm doing this podcast.
The tools I will be sharing with you that I have used with my clients and the journey I have had to get to where I am today. From death in the family, to divorce, to body shaming...It is all coming out. We can't take our power back from a situation if we cannot be vulnerable about it all.
We will discuss identity crisis, self-worth, confidence building techniques and so much more to help you in any situation you are in your life. If you are single, a mom, a career babe...we got you girl! Any transition that you face can be experience with much more ease if you have the right tools and mindset.
Come with me and our guests as they take us through their journeys. See you in the next episode.
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