The Ben Steinbacher Show

About The Ben Steinbacher Show

Why do some men get promoted, trusted and followed while others with the same talent get passed over? It's rarely intelligence. It's the unwritten skills most of us never learned from Dad and had to learn the hard way. Lessons Dad Never Taught is the conversation we wish we'd had. Host Ben Steinbacher draws on a decade in sales and leadership and thousands of interviews to teach confidence, communication, ownership, leadership and earning trust, so you can succeed in business and excel as a man. Send it to a man who needs to hear it.

Publisher

Ben Steinbacher

Category

education

Language

en

Explicit

No

First episode

12 Dec 2025

Latest episode

23 Sept 2026

Latest episodes

11 episodes in the feed.

1. 

   23 Sept 2026

   Liked But Never Respected: What Keeps People from Trusting You

   Why do some men get trusted, respected and followed, while others with the same talent get passed over? Most of it happens in the first few minutes, and most of it comes down to skills nobody taught us. In this episode, Ben Steinbacher shares what he learned from years in sales and leadership and tens of thousands of conversations: Why nobody wants to be sold to, and what to do instead The habit quietly destroying your relationships (hint: stop trying to fix people) The one question that makes anyone feel heard, and the phrase "that sounds like…" The red flags that you're losing your team, and how leaders lose trust Hard truths about human nature every man should understand How to earn trust before you ever say a word Why trying to be liked makes you less respected, and how boundaries change everything Send this to a man who needs to hear it. Chapters 00:00 Nobody wants to feel sold to 02:50 People buy when they feel understood 03:38 Stop trying to fix people 06:10 What bad listeners do in the first 5 minutes 07:46 The one question that makes anyone feel heard 08:54 Validate, don't fix: "That sounds like…" 12:05 Red flag: they stopped disagreeing with you 14:35 How a leader loses a team 19:10 Letting your best people get away with bad behavior 20:30 Don't be a liability 22:19 Uncomfortable truths about loyalty 23:34 Be the one who initiates 24:31 10/10 truths about human nature 27:49 Overthinking is underacting 30:06 Busy is an ego game 31:09 Success is preparation 32:35 Why people really do what they do 33:41 Trust starts before you say a word 35:33 How to make a killer first impression 37:27 Status signals people read instantly 39:08 Trying too hard and filling the silence 41:35 Liked vs. respected 43:45 The moment people started taking me seriously 46:05 Where to start this week Follow Ben on Instagram: @ben.builds.leaders

2. 

   23 Sept 2026

   How People Decide If They Trust You in the First 5 Minutes

   Within the first five minutes of meeting you, people have already decided whether they'd hire you, follow you, or trust you — and most of it comes down to the words you use. In this episode, Ben Steinbacher breaks down the lessons he learned the hard way from interviewing and hiring thousands of people, building teams, and more than a decade in sales and leadership: The two words that reveal who someone really is How the way people talk about their past predicts how they'll treat you The phrases that quietly kill your authority ("Does that make sense?" "I'll try my best." "Sorry, is this a bad time?") Why excuses, gossip and passive aggression make leaders stop trusting you How to walk into any room like you belong there If you want to be more trusted, more respected, and taken seriously at work, at home and in every room you walk into, this one's for you. Send this to a man who needs to hear it. Chapters 00:00 The first 5 minutes decide everything 03:02 The 2 words that reveal who someone really is 04:41 Patterns don't lie: how people talk about their past 07:03 Big emotional words and what they reveal 08:13 Everyone wants to be paid in something 10:31 Excuse or lesson? How people frame their past 11:27 Your words predict your future 12:05 Why skills, not degrees, earn respect 13:37 Over-apologizing and disqualifying yourself 15:36 Approval seeking: "Does that make sense?" 17:16 Excuses vs. ownership 18:18 Gossip and complaining 19:37 Talk less, slow down 21:04 Let your yes be yes: "I'll try my best" 22:58 Passive aggression: "Must be nice" 24:13 Always, never and other little tells 25:45 First-impression killers 27:16 You're in the room. Act like it. 28:16 Preloading disappointment and limiting words 30:04 "I have to" and the courage to say no 31:52 Recap: speak with certainty Follow Ben on Instagram: @ben.builds.leaders

3. 

   9 Sept 2026

   Elite Skills Every Man Should Know

   EPISODE DESCRIPTION - Most men were never taught the skills that quietly decide their relationships, leadership, and career. Ben breaks down the practical playbook for becoming a more trusted, effective, and high-value man - from boundaries and conflict to confidence, listening, and influence. You’ll discover: How to set and hold boundaries without becoming controlling Why conflict resolution starts with calm questions, not big speeches The difference between real vulnerability and emotional oversharing How confidence is built through action, self-trust, and keeping promises to yourself Why great listening, rapport, and small talk are often more powerful than being the best talker in the room Ben also digs into leadership, self-worth, body language, reading a room, office politics, buy-in, finances, time management, and sales. The throughline is simple: the men who get promoted, trusted, and invited into bigger opportunities are usually the ones who know how to communicate clearly, stay consistent, and make other people feel understood.If you’ve ever felt like life keeps handing men the same expectations without the instruction manual, this episode gives you the manual. Essential listening if you want to lead better, communicate better, and show up with more clarity in work, relationships, and everyday life.Timestamps00:00 - Opening: practical skills men are rarely taught 04:14 - Setting and holding boundaries 05:39 - Handling conflict without blowing up 07:34 - Understanding healthy vulnerability 09:21 - Defining success for yourself 11:09 - Leadership, ownership, and growing others 15:20 - Eye contact and confident presence 16:58 - Reading body language 19:19 - Building confidence through action 22:25 - Listening with empathy and understanding 26:32 - Building rapport through common ground 28:36 - What therapy can and cannot do 31:41 - Personal growth and emotional regulation 35:25 - Work-life balance, seasons, and priorities 38:46 - Self-awareness and honest feedback 40:43 - Small talk and genuine curiosity 43:00 - Giving meaningful compliments 44:47 - Reading the room 46:56 - Picking your battles 49:41 - Setting the what and why as a leader 50:42 - Preparation, relationships, and luck 53:03 - Health, fitness, and trust 54:28 - What being a high-value man means 56:02 - Office politics and understanding influence

4. 

   9 Sept 2026

   Lessons Dad Never Taught

   Key Topics The impact of growing up without a father How men deal with insecurity and emotional pain The importance of identity and boundaries in childhood The role of achievement and performance in self-worth The connection between emotional health and success How societal changes affect men's development Practical skills for personal growth and leadership The importance of community and connection Chapters 00:00 Introduction: Ben’s personal story and mission 03:55 The impact of divorce and emotional absence 08:09 The importance of identity and boundaries in childhood 09:59 The role of achievement in self-worth 11:50 Playing stupid games and seeking validation 14:03 Beliefs about God and the world based on childhood experiences 16:03 The cycle of performance and validation 17:57 The insecurity of not feeling ready for adulthood 20:05 Societal changes: delayed marriage and parenthood 22:01 The danger of imposter syndrome and validation seeking 24:10 The journey of personal growth and self-love 26:12 Learning emotional intelligence and leadership skills 28:04 The importance of community and connection 29:55 Practical skills: finances, relationships, purpose 32:00 How to handle heartbreak and find a good partner 34:06 What it means to be a good dad 35:51 Teaching values and character to the next generation 38:01 Overcoming pressure and setbacks with resilience 40:02 Building self-worth and confidence 41:59 Conclusion: Embracing growth and purpose

5. 

   26 Aug 2026

   10 Reasons We've Become More Depressed and Anxious!

   Chapters 00:00 Introduction to the impact of 2020 on society and mental health 02:08 How collective hopes and dreams changed during the pandemic 04:13 Society's acceleration and its effects on mental health 05:55 The role of social media in comparison and validation 08:08 Love versus validation and genuine connection 10:14 The rise of mental health focus and its unintended consequences 11:58 Erosion of trust in institutions and authority 14:00 The backlog of unprocessed emotions and digital overload 15:55 Identity and spiritual homelessness in modern society 18:10 The exponential growth of knowledge and societal anxiety 20:09 The importance of authentic connection in leadership Key Quotes "Society is living life at 1.15 speed." "Love is not the same as validation." "Knowledge doubles every 12 hours."

6. 

   19 Jun 2026

   The Purpose Mindset, Ownership, and The Biggest Feedback Mistake We Often Make

   Becoming a Strong Christian Man: Purpose, Wisdom, and Leadership. Explore the essential qualities and practices that define a true Christian man. From developing emotional depth and purpose to wise financial stewardship and mentorship, this episode dives deep into how men can better align their lives with Biblical principles and positively influence those around them. In this episode: The importance of growing emotionally, spiritually, and personally as a man of faith How purpose and intentionality shape our daily actions and long-term impact The critical role of wisdom and making decisions for the long-term, not just short-term gains Practical insights into financial stewardship rooted in biblical principles The significance of health, appearance, and physical fitness as a testimony to faith Building identity and giving encouragement to others, especially within leadership The importance of patience, listening, and understanding others’ goals to lead effectively How to leave a legacy through faithful stewardship and intentional living Key Timestamps:00:00 - Introduction to the call for Christian men to grow04:04 - Growing into emotional depth and purpose-driven leadership09:30 - The power of generosity aligned with biblical values16:28 - Trusting God with vision and long-term faithfulness24:11 - Developing gifts to serve and bless others31:10 - The importance of encouragement in leadership

7. 

   28 May 2026

   Ep. 5 - The Call to Lead

   SummaryIn this conversation, Ben Steinbacher dives deep into: Unlocking Leadership Potential Through VulnerabilityThe Role of Emotional Intelligence in LeadershipBuilding Trust: The Cornerstone of Effective LeadershipSelf-Reflection: The Key to Leadership SuccessLeading with Love: A New Approach to Leadership He breaks down: the importance of self-leadership, emotional intelligence, and the traits that make a great leader. He discusses the significance of listening, having a clear vision, and fostering trust within teams. The conversation provides practical insights for aspiring leaders on how to improve their leadership skills and create supportive environments for growth.

8. 

   13 Dec 2025

   Foundations, Winning Ugly, and Maturing in Talking to God with Josh Garcia

   In this episode we dive into… Setting the foundations for your life, knowing your priorities, how to win ugly, maturing in your communication with God, how to deal with situations where you feel powerless, why America is so awesome, why every church “sucks,” how to tell if leadership is “healthy,” and the need for clarity.

9. 

   13 Dec 2025

   Hearing God, Seeing More in Others, and Why Success Never makes you happy with Jeff Barnett

   In this episode we dive into… How to hear God, God’s plan for your life through community, becoming an encourager, having vision for and seeing more in others, why community matters, why generosity matters, why money / fame / success never makes you happy, and what does it mean to persevere.

10. 

    13 Dec 2025

    Suffering, How to Make Big Decisions, and What Every Man Should Know Going Into Marriage ft. Dylan Ciamacco

    In this episode we dove deep into… How to argue well, why marriage can be so hard, why communication can be so uncomfortable and vulnerable for men, why it’s easy for men to shut down in arguments, performing for love, serving as a way of life, how to make big decisions by first knowing your priorities, why discipline matters, sacrifice as a gift to yourself, how to suffer well, what does it mean to be a good dad, how do you know when it’s time to pivot, and figuring out what season of life you’re in!

11. 

    12 Dec 2025

    Essential Lessons Every Man Should Know ft Josh Garcia

    We kick off by going deep into the WHY behind starting this Podcast discussing… How to find a Mentor How Not to learn Lessons the Hard Way Why the World Needs More Fathers Intentionality as a Superpower Being formed through hard experiences How to learn anything as a man The cost of being discipled How to make yourself valuable to those that are farther ahead of you And why you’ll never feel “ready!”

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