The Better Sex Podcast ~ Unfiltered Conversations

About The Better Sex Podcast ~ Unfiltered Conversations

Sit down with Tantra teacher and professional Dominatrix Deborah Kat as she interviews experts in sex, intimacy and relationship. These rich and dynamic conversations share each guest's wisdom, caution and encouragement to support you to have the Better Sex you crave!

Publisher

DeborahKat

Category

health & fitness · health & fitness

Language

en

Explicit

Yes

First episode

10 Jan 2022

Latest episode

23 Oct 2026

Latest episodes

101 episodes in the feed.

1. 

   23 Oct 2026

   When Your Mind Wants Sex but Your Body Doesn't with Dr. Kyle Hulsebus

   In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with health and human potential specialist, author, educator, and third-generation chiropractor Dr. Kyle Hulsebus about what happens when your mind wants sex but your body doesn't quite follow along. We talk about the connection between physical health, the nervous system, intimacy, and our capacity for pleasure. Throughout the conversation, Dr. Kyle shares how his understanding of health as a state of wholeness shapes the way he works with the body. We talk about stress, pain, nervous system patterns, touch, aging, and some of the ways physical tension and communication between the brain and body can affect sexual response, arousal, and connection. Along the way, we get into erections, orgasm, sexuality after 40, and why intimacy doesn't have an expiration date. Dr. Kyle also shares his 40 Over 40 approach to health and longevity, including why "make love" is one of his 40 practices and how connection, communication, and intimacy fit into a bigger picture of health and well-being. This episode is an invitation to think about better sex as part of your whole health, and to get curious about what your body may be communicating when desire is there but your physical response isn't quite matching it. Connect with Dr Kyle Gift 40 over 40 https://www.instagram.com/the40over40/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the40over40/ Website: https://drkylehulsebus.com Connect with Deborah Skool: https://www.skool.com/better-sex-9290 YouTube https://www.youtube.com/@deborahkat9349 Instagram https://www.instagram.com/deborahtantrakat/ Podcast Feedback DeborahTantraKat@Gmail.com Book a Relationship Roadmap Session with Deborah Relationship Roadmap Session

2. 

   10 Oct 2026

   Men, Fantasy & Shame: What They Don't Say Out Loud with PepperKat

   Book a Relationship Roadmap Session with Deborah Kat In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with adult industry creator, former television news producer, and host of The Spicy Spectrum, PepperKat, about what men really say about sex, desire, fantasy, and relationships when they feel safe enough to tell the truth. Through years of private conversations with men, PepperKat has had a unique window into the desires, fears, secrets, and questions many men don't feel comfortable sharing anywhere else. We talk about shame, fantasy, porn, bisexuality, kink, performance pressure, sexual compatibility, and why men's sexuality is often far more complex than we assume. We also explore what it means to listen without judgment, replace assumptions with curiosity, and create conversations where people can be more honest about what they want. This episode is an invitation to get more curious about desire, less attached to what sexuality is "supposed" to look like, and more willing to have the honest conversations that make deeper intimacy possible. Connect with Pepper Kat Pepper's Perspective: https://www.pepperkat.com/heartfelt-perspectives (https://www.pepperkat.com/heartfelt-perspectives) Instagram: @peppertheblackkat YouTube: @spicyspectrumpodcast Connect with Deborah Skool: https://www.skool.com/better-sex-9290 YouTube https://www.youtube.com/@deborahkat9349 Instagram https://www.instagram.com/deborahtantrakat/ Podcast Feedback DeborahTantraKat@Gmail.com Book a Relationship Roadmap Session with Deborah Relationship Roadmap Session

3. 

   17 Sept 2026

   How to Date Without Abandoning Yourself with Shana James

   In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with relationship coach and author Shana James, creator of Honest Dating and author of Honest Sex: A Passionate Path to Deeper Connection and Keeping Relationships Alive. Together we explore how honesty can change the way we date, create chemistry, and build relationships where we can be fully ourselves. Throughout the conversation, Shana shares what she discovered when she started dating again after divorce and why her experience felt so different from the exhausting, disappointing process so many people describe. We talk about the pressure to perform on dates, the belief that chemistry either magically exists or it doesn't, and what becomes possible when we approach another person with curiosity instead of trying to prove that we're desirable or worthy of being chosen. Shana offers powerful insights from her Honest Dating work, including the shift from proving to choosing, from fantasy to reality, and from anxious attraction to conscious attraction. She explains how "mature honesty" helps us speak more clearly about what we want without blaming or making the other person wrong, and how being willing to communicate can actually create more intimacy, chemistry, and pleasure rather than taking the mystery away. This episode is an invitation to stop abandoning yourself in the search for love and discover what can happen when dating becomes less about being chosen and more about honestly creating connection. Connect with Shana James Website  https://shanajamescoaching.com/ Podcast: Practicing Love: Have the Best Love and Sex of Your Life After 40 Challenged by love? Take a Quiz: What Keeps You From Having the Best Love and Sex of Your Life After 40? What Blocks You From Finding Love? Connect with Deborah Skool: https://www.skool.com/better-sex-9290 YouTube https://www.youtube.com/@deborahkat9349 Instagram https://www.instagram.com/deborahtantrakat/ Podcast Feedback DeborahTantraKat@Gmail.com Book a breakthrough session with Deborah https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=11737312&appointmentType=60692935

Who has been a guest on The Better Sex Podcast ~ Unfiltered Conversations

Names identified in recent episode analyses. Showing up to five guests.

• Susan Morgan Taylor
• Danie Bergstrom
• Dr Matt Zakreski
• Tallulah Sulis
• Ayce Kypton

Reach and audience

Public platform figures. Ratings count people who left a rating, not total listeners.

Apple Podcasts (US)

5.0 / 5

7 ratings

Podcast Authority Score: 36 / 100

A composite of feed quality, social presence, YouTube performance and engagement. Read the methodology.

Quality

46

Social presence

0

YouTube

0

Engagement

68

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