The Bougie Dating Coach is your go-to guide for bold, confident dating! Hosted by Stacey Bessard, a dating coach for successful christian women, this podcast is all about helping you date boldly, live colorfully, and attract the love you deserve. Each episode is packed with practical advice, real talk, and playful insights to help you level up your dating life—without losing your authentic self in the process.
From mastering the art of flirting, to navigating the ups and downs of modern dating, and everything in between, Stacey brings a fresh, empowering perspective that’s both fun and relatable. Whether you’re a confident boss babe or feeling stuck in the dating game, The Bougie Dating Coach gives you the tools to date smarter, shine brighter, and attract quality partners who align with your values and ambitions.
So, get ready to boost your confidence, clear out the dating noise, and step into your most fabulous, bougie self—because you deserve nothing less!
Ep 19: Why I Pulled Away From the Guy I Actually Wanted
In this episode, I open up about my journey with softness, vulnerability, and discovering my fearful-avoidant attachment style. I share how those patterns showed up in dating—especially with one man I really wanted but pulled away from—and the self-sabotage loop I didn’t even know I was stuck in.
We’ll talk about what softness is (and what it’s not), how femininity is rooted in our relationship with God, and what it takes to let go of old patterns so you can attract love that actually aligns with your desires.
If you’ve ever found yourself retreating just when love gets close, this episode will help you see the pattern, name it, and start breaking free.
21 Aug 2025
As a Dating Coach & Therapist, Letting Go of This One Lie Brought Me Closer to Love
In this episode, I get real about the lie I believed that kept me chasing after the “perfect” man who didn’t exist. The truth is—even the best relationships are not 100%. That’s where the 80/20 rule comes in: 80% of what you need to thrive, and 20% that may be missing or imperfect.
I share personal stories (including how high school Stacey overlooked character for cute faces 🙃), lessons learned about attraction vs. values, and why character will outlast butterflies every single time. You’ll also learn how to identify your own 80%—your non-negotiable core values—so you stop settling for less or holding out for someone who doesn’t exist.
If you’ve ever wondered, “Should I stay or should I go?” in dating, this episode will give you the clarity you need to answer that question with confidence.
I share personal stories (including how high school Stacey overlooked character for cute faces 🙃), lessons learned about attraction vs. values, and why character will outlast butterflies every single time. You’ll also learn how to identify your own 80%—your non-negotiable core values—so you stop settling for less or holding out for someone who doesn’t exist.
If you’ve ever wondered, “Should I stay or should I go?” in dating, this episode will give you the clarity you need to answer that question with confidence.
7 Aug 2025
EP 17: The Pause that's preparing you
There’s a shift happening in me—and maybe in you too. A divine nudge to slow down, pull back, and let go of the checklist I’ve clung to for most of my life.
In this episode, I’m sharing what it feels like to sit in the in-between: the space where desire is loud, but God’s instruction is “rest.” Where everything in me wants answers, timelines, and action—but God keeps inviting me into stillness and trust.
I’ll talk about:
The emotional tug of letting go of a life plan that wasn’t mine
How I’m learning to trust that pulling back isn’t punishment—it’s positioning
The grief, frustration, and peace that coexist in the pause
Why your checklist might be keeping you from your clarity
This episode is a permission slip—for the woman who’s tired of striving, who’s ready to hear from God again, and who’s brave enough to believe that waiting well is still movement.
You’re not stuck.
You’re not late.
You’re being prepared.
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