The YES Effect show features stories and interviews with some of the world's most successful and inspirational people about how they overcame obstacles, doubts, fears and naysayers to accomplish massive dreams and impact the world. The difference between impossible and possible: saying YES.
Host Shelli Varela is a Story Alchemist, speaker, coach and author, and is no stranger to possibility hacking. Her remarkable journey from 108 pound manicurist to a 30 year career as her city's first female Firefighter & Captain has been featured everywhere from TEDx, to Forbes, Entrepreneur Magazine and a NYT Bestseller.
Shelli has since become obsessed with the power of the mind and in particular, the transformational power of the word YES.
The YES Effect is proof that everything YOU need to succeed and change the world is already inside you.
TYE 157: The Gift of Imperfection (Why I’ve Been Away From Podcasting)
Today, I want to talk about accepting and embracing the wonderful gift of imperfection. As someone who has struggled with perfectionism, I realize it’s been holding me back from creating content lately, including this podcast.
Oddly enough, as a speaker, podcaster and content creator, I am not comfortable in the spotlight. The amount of times I’ve shied away from posting videos or recording interviews because I hated how I looked that day, or the lighting was off, or I just didn’t feel “camera ready” is more than I can count. And it has let so much magic go to waste.
If we continue waiting for the perfect moment to offer the world our gifts, they’ll stay locked away forever. That’s the beautiful thing about imperfection: it releases all that magic, no matter how it looks on the outside. Because doing it imperfectly is better than not doing it at all.
Sometimes you just gotta grip it n’ rip it (like this episode). Believe me, it feels good.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
How to overcome perfectionism
Why we need to stop worrying about our appearance
How to build confidence
How to confidently step out from behind the scenes
How to overcome fear of being on camera
How to learn to accept and appreciate imperfect
Links mentioned in this episode:
TYE 154: How to overcome perfectionism and embrace the messy steps to success (https://www.yesuniversity.com/blog/154)
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21 Aug 2023
TYE 156: Unlocking the Brilliance Inside Challenging Kids with Dayna Abraham
Dayna Abraham has developed a guide for parenting “challenging” kids - those with big emotions, power struggles; the misbehavers and neurodivergents. Her new bestselling book “Calm the Chaos - a Failproof Roadmap for Parenting Even the Most Challenging Kids'' is aimed at reframing what we typically label as “challenging” behaviour as an opportunity for adults to learn and empower their kids to reach their full, innate potential.
In this episode, Abraham talks about how her framework helps parents foster connections, understanding, and empowerment, while removing the stress and overwhelm of parenting. After all, some of the world’s greatest innovators and change-makers were once labelled “challenging” children.
Dayna Abraham is the bestselling author of “The Superkids Activity Guide to Conquering Every Day” and “Sensory Processing 101”. She is also the founder of the popular parenting website “Lemon Lime Adventures.”
In this episode, you’ll learn:
The benefits of “challenging” behaviour in children
How parents can learn from their children
Why calmness is important in parenting
Neurodivergence and neurodiversity
How all behaviour is communication
How to teach empathy to your children
How to help your kids feel more seen, heard and understood
Why you should communicate when you’re upset or stressed
The problem with rewarding “good” behaviours
Quotables:
“Parents often jump to ‘what do we do about this situation?’ instead of ‘how do we be in this situation?’”
“To understand that you might not understand is pretty powerful.”
Links mentioned in this episode:
Calm The Chaos book (order now) (https://calmthechaosbook.com/)
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14 Mar 2023
TYE 155: Focus On The Next Step, Not The Whole Mountain (How I Wrote A Song)
To make a big dream happen, you have to break it into small, individual steps and focus on the next first step. This way, you can make even the wildest, even most absurd, idea a success. This episode is a story about how my 13 year-old step son Ry and I co-created a song with the help of a celebrity music producer, without ever meeting him, and with almost zero musical abilities myself.
I just really wanted to make a song with Ry, and focused on the next first step.
Listen to the end to hear the song itself and a super inspiring Q&A with Ry at the end.
Whatever your big, even absurd, dream is, you don’t need to know exactly how you’re going to achieve it. You just need to know three things: that it’s a “yes,” what the next first step is, and who to ask for help.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
How to break success down into small steps
How I was able to co-write a song without any musical ability
How I sourced my network for help
How I ended up working with a celebrity music producer, who has worked with Cher, Tina Turner, Pink, Gwen Stefani, Joe Cocker & Disney
How to get more people to say “yes” to your requests
Why passion and persistence lead to success
How to listen to your body
Quotables:
“You don’t need to know all the steps. You just need to know: is this a yes, am I excited, and what is the next first thing?”
Links mentioned in this episode:
TYE 151: How To Overcome The Fear of Asking Questions (A Personal Story)
TYE 128: P!nk bassist Eva Gardner on rock stardom and overcoming rejection
TYE 005: A Rock Star's Guide to Overcoming Fear with Mark Schulman
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