This podcast is about diving deep into practical tips and strategies for shifting mindsets, fostering positive thinking, and unlocking one's true potential. Each episode brings actionable insights, real-life stories, and expert interviews to guide you to a resilient and empowered mindset.
Why do the same relationship patterns keep showing up, and what does it actually take to break them?
Erin and Daren welcome Phillip Quinones, LMHT and Relationship Coach, to unpack how trauma, emotional regulation, and self-awareness shape the way we connect with others.
Phillip shares how many people unknowingly operate from survival mode, how that affects communication and intimacy, and why real relational change starts internally, not externally.
Topics Covered:
🔴 Trauma responses and relational patterns
🟢 Emotional regulation tools for healthier connections
🟣 Why awareness must come before relationship repair
CHAPTERS / TIMESTAMPS
00:00 Understanding Feelings and Thoughts
02:58 The Journey of Healing and Self-Awareness
06:12 Navigating Relationships and Communication
08:56 The Power of Questions in Emotional Processing
12:06 Reflections vs. Questions in Communication
14:47 Tools for Shifting Unhealthy Relationship Patterns
24:44 The Power of Writing Things Down
28:05 Accountability in Relationships
30:36 Understanding Trauma Triggers
32:38 Conscious vs. Subconscious Control
36:16 Navigating Change and Resistance
40:00 The Role of Therapy in Relationships
47:59 Preventative Care in Couples Therapy
52:47 Navigating Relationship Challenges
54:22 The Impact of Trauma on Relationships
56:41 Emotional Safety in Partnerships
58:11 Understanding Emotional Needs
01:00:28 The Complexity of Long-Term Relationships
01:02:03 Expectations and Emotional Fulfillment
01:03:34 The Importance of Emotional Intelligence
01:06:26 Rewriting Societal Rules on Emotions
CONNECT & RESOURCES
Guest:
Phillip Quinones — LMHT & Relationship Coach (https://pqcoachingandconsulting.com/)
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Hosts: Erin Harris & Daren Norris
Produced by: Podcast Mechanic
Edited by: TJ
29 Dec 2025
How to Build Real Confidence When Self-Doubt Won’t Go Away | Simone Knego
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In this transformative episode, Erin and Daren sit down with Simone Knego—a mom of six who went from chronic self-doubt to climbing Mount Kilimanjaro after asking herself one simple question: "Why am I telling myself I can't do this?"
What We Uncovered:
💡 The REAL Method: Respect yourself (most important person), Embrace failure (fail forward), Ask what you want (hardest question), Live without limits (stop saying "just")
🔥 Control-Alt-Delete for your brain: How to reboot negative thought patterns like restarting a frozen computer
😢 The word that steals your power: Stop saying "I'm just a stay-at-home mom" or "just a middle manager"—claiming who you are gives your power back
Connect with Simone:
Website: Simone Knego
(http://simoneknego.com)Podcast: Her Unshakeable Confidence
(https://www.youtube.com/@her_unshakeable_confidence)Book: The Extraordinary Unordinary You (https://us.amazon.com/Extraordinary-UnOrdinary-You-Discover-Journey/dp/1544509332/ref=sr_1_4?dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.mXs8t89j4yevOlJwDwJKfNITGfcr59HWFND6oLKvEJ3GjHj071QN20LucGBJIEps.G4E8T6gld07rif7Y40gkAnQHddvCeepmPW8Pr5faFyQ&dib_tag=se&qid=1766969303&refinements=p_27%3ASimone+Knego&s=books&sr=1-4) by Simone Knego
Upcoming book: Real Confidence: A Simple Guide to Go from Unsure to Unshakable (https://us.amazon.com/REAL-Confidence-Simone-Knego/dp/B0FL826957/ref=sr_1_3?dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.mXs8t89j4yevOlJwDwJKfNITGfcr59HWFND6oLKvEJ3GjHj071QN20LucGBJIEps.G4E8T6gld07rif7Y40gkAnQHddvCeepmPW8Pr5faFyQ&dib_tag=se&qid=1766969303&refinements=p_27%3ASimone+Knego&s=books&sr=1-3) (February 17, 2025)
Social Media: @simoneknego - Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/simoneknego/) | Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/SpeakerSimoneKnego) | LinkedIn (https://www.linkedin.com/in/simoneknego/)
15 Dec 2025
Spiritual Awakening or Psychosis? A Psychologist Explains | Dr. Kirsten Viola Harrison
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In this profound episode, Erin and Daren sit down with Dr. Kirsten Viola Harrison, a clinical psychologist who bridges conventional trauma treatment with soul-level healing after her brother's tragic death led her to near-death literature.
What We Uncovered:
🚨 The feel test: How to distinguish spiritual transformation from delusion—"I get completely calm and buoyant" vs. forced messages with ego involvement
💡 Dissociative schizophrenia exists: Dr. Harrison's co-author Shana doesn't fit traditional DID or schizophrenia—she's both, and possibly a "walking spirit."
🔥 The inner self-helper phenomenon: In extreme DID cases, sometimes an otherworldly part emerges that feels transcendent and brings peace to therapy sessions😢 Compassion as cognitive intervention: Why saying "Hi, nice outfit!" to someone catatonic can create reconnection—we all neuro-regulate each other
Actionable Strategies:
✅ For Mental Health Professionals: How to hold space for spiritual experiences without dismissing them as pathology (and without abandoning clinical assessment).
✅ For People with Mystical Experiences: How to honor your transformation without fearing judgment—and finding practitioners who understand the difference.
✅ For Anyone Who Knows Someone "Different": Stop teaching kids to "not say something mean," which becomes "ignore them entirely"—acknowledgment is powerful.
Chapters
00:00 The Human Connection: Moments of Vulnerability
02:51 From Conventional to Holistic Healing: A Journey
05:52 Understanding Trauma: The Intersection of Experience and Healing
08:58 The Role of Spirituality in Trauma Recovery
12:12 Navigating Mental Health: The Spectrum of Experiences
14:58 Community and Connection: The Power of Shared Experiences
17:46 Distinguishing Between Psychosis and Spiritual Awakening
20:53 Generational Trauma: The Legacy We Carry
25:24 Understanding Emotions in Therapy
30:07 Merging Psychology and Spirituality
34:54 The Role of Intention in Healing
39:09 Compassion and Connection in Mental Health
45:10 Educating for Empathy and Understanding
48:27 Redefining Societal Norms on Mental Health
Connect with Dr. Harrison:
Website: Soulwise Solutions (https://soulwisesolutions.com/)
Social Media: @soulwiseteam - Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/soulwiseteam) | Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/soulwiseteam/) | LinkedIn (https://www.linkedin.com/in/dr-kirsten-viola-harrison-20928839/)
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