Unapologetically AuDHD

About Unapologetically AuDHD

Unapologetically AuDHD is a space for neurodivergent folks—especially Autistic ADHDers (AuDHDers)—to feel seen, understood, and know you're not alone. We believe there's nothing wrong with having a brain that's wired differently. Through honest conversations about the highs, lows, and messy in-betweens, we normalize neurodivergent experiences, explore intersectionality, and celebrate the unique & sometimes beautiful ways of thinking, feeling, and moving through the world. Led by two AuDHDers with PDA profiles, and lived experience with OCD, this podcast exists to de-stigmatize neurodivergence; honor both strengths and limitations, and remind us that we don't need to be "fixed"—we just want to be heard. Have you been told you're "too" (fill in the blank)? You're too sensitive; you think/worry too much; you take things too personally; you're too emotional, too finicky, too fragile, too intense, too uptight, too slow. Have you been told you can't take a joke; you can't go with the flow? You can't let go of things? Is making decisions difficult for you? You might have an acute sense of smell, and strong odors, crowded noisy environments and bright lights are just too much! You're in the right place! You may have been diagnosed (or misdiagnosed) with anxiety, depression, bipolar, borderline, having OCD or more. Our brain and bodies are wired differently. There's nothing wrong with you!

Publisher

Patricia Young, Alex McLaughlin

Category

education · health & fitness

Language

en

Explicit

Yes

First episode

19 Jul 2025

Latest episode

29 Mar 2026

Latest episodes

13 episodes in the feed.

1. 

   29 Mar 2026

   12 We're Taking a Pause (and Here's Why)

   12 We're Taking a Pause (and Here's Why) SUMMARY Patricia Young (she/her) shares that the podcast is being paused as Alex (they/them) steps back to focus on healing and recovery. She opens up about the grief, uncertainty, and emotional toll that can come with chronic illness, especially when capacity changes and familiar routines are no longer sustainable. This episode offers validation and compassion for neurodivergent and chronically ill listeners navigating limitations, identity shifts, and the challenge of honoring their bodies in uncertain seasons KEY TAKEAWAYS The podcast is being paused to prioritize health and capacity Chronic illness can make consistency and planning difficult "Pushing through" often isn't sustainable for chronic conditions Flare-ups can be unpredictable and deeply disruptive There is real grief in losing previous levels of functioning Identity can feel shaken when you can't do what you used to do The unknown ("Will this last forever?") can feel especially scary Uncertainty can trigger anxiety and future-tripping Honoring your body requires slowing down and listening deeply Self-compassion is essential—but not always easy Taking a step back is a form of care, not failure Capacity is not fixed—it can shift over time Support systems (including community and listeners) matter It's okay to pause creative projects during hard seasons There are still ways to stay connected (like Patricia's other podcast or working together) SOUNDBITES "You can't push through chronic illness—it just doesn't work that way." "There's a lot of grief in not being able to do what you used to do." "It can feel like this moment is going to last forever." "Being in the unknown is really, really hard." "Taking a step back is about prioritizing health." ABOUT YOUR HOSTS: Alex McLaughlin (they/them) has a Master's in Social Work, and is a licensed independent clinical social worker (LICSW) on Wahpekute land (colonized as MN). Alex is an AuDHDer, PDAer, Queer, non-binary, fat, chronically ill, disabled, & a multi-racial (1/8th Chinese & white passing) human with lived experience of OCD. As a late diagnosed adult, Alex has felt different and embraced their quirky, eccentric nature—what they now recognize as undiagnosed AuDHD. This lifelong experience of masking and curiosity about people inspired their passion for understanding and serving others, ultimately shaping their path today. Alex provides neurodivergent and Queer-affirming therapy and Autism and ADHD assessments on Wahpekute land (colonized as Minnesota). Their work is grounded in intersectional feminism, ecological systems theory, and a commitment to decolonizing mental health care. They support clients in exploring how interconnected systems shape their experiences, while fostering resilience, empowerment, and self-understanding—especially for Neurodivergent, 2SLGBTQIA+, BIPOC/POGM, and disabled communities. Trained in ERP, I-CBT (including ND-affirming I-CBT), sand tray therapy, TF-CBT, and somatic approaches, Alex also brings lived experience and is pursuing IFS to deepen their parts-informed practice. Coaching, consulting and training coming soon! Head here to be notified when this practice opens! Head to Alex's website here to connect further: Here Patricia Young (she/her) has a Master's Degree in Social Work, and was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it's like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile, OCD and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive and Unapologetically AuDHD to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren't alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you Patricia's website, podcast episodes and more here! Additional LINKS Email us with questions related to the podcast

2. 

   25 Feb 2026

   11 Justice Sensitivity in a Dumpster Fire Timeline: How to Care for Yourself

   11 Justice Sensitivity in a Dumpster Fire Timeline: How to Care for Yourself SUMMARY Patricia Young (she/her) and Alex McLaughlin (they/them) have a compassionate conversation about navigating collective stress and uncertainty as autistic, ADHD, AuDHD, and chronically ill adults. Without going into graphic details (ICE occupation, Epstein Files), they acknowledge the emotional weight many are carrying right now and focus on neurodivergent-friendly ways to cope — including managing media consumption, understanding cognitive and emotional exertion, nervous system regulation, medication and supplement support, leaning into routine and predictability, and finding accessible ways to engage in activism without burning out. If you're feeling hypervigilant, exhausted, justice-sensitive, or unsure how to show up, this episode offers validation, practical tools, and a reminder that rest, regulation, and survival are meaningful forms of participation. KEY TAKEAWAYS Collective trauma hits neurodivergent nervous systems differently — and often harder. Justice sensitivity in autistic and AuDHD folks can amplify distress during political unrest. You do not have to consume all the news to be informed. Watching traumatic videos can cause secondary trauma — it's okay to opt out. If media consumption disrupts your sleep or functioning for days, it may be too much. Cognitive exertion (thinking, processing news, socializing) costs spoons. Escapism isn't moral failure — it can be nervous system protection. Comfort shows and repetition regulate the autistic nervous system. Food, TV, sleep, social media — these are tools, not character flaws. Movement can be regulating (if accessible), but there is no one-size-fits-all solution. Medication adjustments during high-stress periods are valid and sometimes necessary. Supplements and integrative approaches can also support regulation. Sleep is activism. Rest is survival. Community care can be asynchronous (text, Marco Polo, Signal, email). Parallel play and body doubling count as connection. Activism does not have to mean protesting. Apps like 5 Calls make political engagement accessible and script-based. Mutual aid, donating, sharing resources, and volunteering are meaningful contributions. Regulation and survival as neurodivergent people is itself resistance. You are not weak for being overwhelmed — you are responding to unprecedented stress. SOUNDBITES "Once you see something, you can't unsee it. Protecting your nervous system is not denial — it's wisdom." "We don't have to show up in the same way for our activism to count." "Regulating your system and surviving as a neurodivergent person is part of the work." "It's not the activity — it's how it impacts you." "We will show up when we can. That's compassion." ABOUT YOUR HOSTS: Alex McLaughlin (they/them) has a Master's in Social Work, and is a licensed independent clinical social worker (LICSW) on Wahpekute land (colonized as MN). Alex is an AuDHDer, PDAer, Queer, non-binary, fat, chronically ill, disabled, & a multi-racial (1/8th Chinese & white passing) human with lived experience of OCD. As a late diagnosed adult, Alex has felt different and embraced their quirky, eccentric nature—what they now recognize as undiagnosed AuDHD. This lifelong experience of masking and curiosity about people inspired their passion for understanding and serving others, ultimately shaping their path today. Alex provides neurodivergent and Queer-affirming therapy and Autism and ADHD assessments on Wahpekute land (colonized as Minnesota). Their work is grounded in intersectional feminism, ecological systems theory, and a commitment to decolonizing mental health care. They support clients in exploring how interconnected systems shape their experiences, while fostering resilience, empowerment, and self-understanding—especially for Neurodivergent, 2SLGBTQIA+, BIPOC/POGM, and disabled communities. Trained in ERP, I-CBT (including ND-affirming I-CBT), sand tray therapy, TF-CBT, and somatic approaches, Alex also brings lived experience and is pursuing IFS to deepen their parts-informed practice. Coaching, consulting and training coming soon! Head here to be notified when this practice opens! Head to Alex's website here to connect further: Here Patricia Young (she/her) has a Master's Degree in Social Work, and was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it's like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile, OCD and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive and Unapologetically AuDHD to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren't alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you Patricia's website, podcast episodes and more here! Additional LINKS Email us with questions related to the podcast https://linktr.ee/mplsmutualaid https://www.minnesotamutualaid.org/ https://www.instagram.com/sabocat_teacher?igsh=aGVjOXNqM2JkMnQ0 https://www.instagram.com/zaynabmmohamed?igsh=OHAwNDhqOWRiYXE3 https://www.instagram.com/toussaintmorrison?igsh=bzdkZmNqMjZpbWQz https://5calls.org/

3. 

   13 Feb 2026

   10. When Consistency Meets Chronic Illness

   10. When Consistency Meets Chronic Illness SUMMARY Patricia Young (she/her) explains why she and Alex haven't been able to release podcast episodes consistently and shares the very real impact of living with chronic illness as AuDHD adults. Patricia speaks openly about recording challenges, fluctuating capacity, and the grief that comes with no longer being able to push through fatigue, pain, and sensory overwhelm. She reflects on internalized ableism, late diagnosis, and common autistic comorbidities such as POTS, MCAS, chronic pain, and exhaustion, and why showing up sometimes looks inconsistent, imperfect, and deeply human. This episode centers self-compassion, disabled realities, and the reminder that doing your best doesn't always look productive. KEY TAKEAWAYS Living with chronic illness makes consistency genuinely hard—not morally hard, physically and neurologically hard Many autistic and ADHD adults carry grief for what they used to be able to do Late diagnosis often comes with the realization that "pushing through" had a cost Fatigue, pain, and sensory overwhelm compound over time Internalized ableism can show up as guilt for needing rest Podcasting, creativity, and work don't exist outside health realities Chronic conditions like POTS, MCAS, fibromyalgia, and migraines are common autistic comorbidities Capacity is not static—it fluctuates day to day Losing tolerance for crowds, noise, and standing isn't a failure Disability doesn't always look the way we expect it to Grief deserves space, even when it isn't the focus of the episode Self-compassion is a necessary skill, not a luxury Showing up "imperfectly" is still showing up Productivity culture clashes hard with disabled bodies Sometimes the most honest content is naming limitations out loud SOUNDBITES "There is a lot of grief in realizing your body can't do what it used to do." "Many of us pushed through for years, and eventually the body says no." "Internalized ableism brings guilt when rest is actually necessary." "Sometimes being disabled means things don't look the way you want them to." "We haven't given up—we're just showing up the best we can." ABOUT YOUR HOSTS: Alex McLaughlin (they/them) has a Master's in Social Work, and is a licensed independent clinical social worker (LICSW) on Wahpekute land (colonized as MN). Alex is an AuDHDer, PDAer, Queer, non-binary, fat, chronically ill, disabled, & a multi-racial (1/8th Chinese & white passing) human with lived experience of OCD. As a late diagnosed adult, Alex has felt different and embraced their quirky, eccentric nature—what they now recognize as undiagnosed AuDHD. This lifelong experience of masking and curiosity about people inspired their passion for understanding and serving others, ultimately shaping their path today. Alex provides neurodivergent and Queer-affirming therapy and Autism and ADHD assessments on Wahpekute land (colonized as Minnesota). Their work is grounded in intersectional feminism, ecological systems theory, and a commitment to decolonizing mental health care. They support clients in exploring how interconnected systems shape their experiences, while fostering resilience, empowerment, and self-understanding—especially for Neurodivergent, 2SLGBTQIA+, BIPOC/POGM, and disabled communities. Trained in ERP, I-CBT (including ND-affirming I-CBT), sand tray therapy, TF-CBT, and somatic approaches, Alex also brings lived experience and is pursuing IFS to deepen their parts-informed practice. Coaching, consulting and training coming soon! Head here to be notified when this practice opens! Head to Alex's website here to connect further: Here Patricia Young (she/her) has a Master's Degree in Social Work, and was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it's like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile, OCD and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive and Unapologetically AuDHD to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren't alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you Patricia's website, podcast episodes and more here! Additional LINKS Email us with questions related to the podcast

4. 

   5 Dec 2025

   9. The Change Episode: Why Even Tiny Shifts Can Feel Like Major Plot Twists

   9. The Change Episode: Why Even Tiny Shifts Can Feel Like Major Plot Twists SUMMARY This episode explores why managing change can feel so intensely dysregulating for autistic and AuDHD folks. Patricia (she/her) and Alex (they/them) talk openly about post-holiday burnout, the emotional and sensory cost of social expectations, and the internal pressure to appear flexible even when our nervous systems are screaming for predictability. helm — and they offer compassionate, practical ways to support yourself through it. At its heart, this conversation is about honoring your wiring, trusting your needs, and creating more permission to navigate change on your own terms. BRIEF EPISODE SUMMARY This episode digs into why change—big or small—can feel overwhelming, exhausting, or destabilizing for autistic and AuDHD folks, even when the change is positive or desired. Patricia and Alex talk about post-holiday burnout, sensory overload, emotional fatigue, and the crash that happens after pushing through social expectations. Patricia explores the internalized pressure to be "easygoing," the shame around needing predictability, and the resentment that builds when needs aren't voiced directly. Patricia and Alex  break down how inconsistency, unpredictability, and last-minute shifts can send the nervous system into overdrive. Alex and Patricia  share practical, compassionate strategies for navigating change: pacing, lowering expectations, sensory supports, scripting, noticing your body's needs, and honoring what actually helps instead of what you think you "should" be able to handle. Ultimately, the episode is about self-trust, emotional honesty, and building a life that respects your neurodivergent wiring — especially during seasons of chaos, transition, and holiday noise. KEY TAKEAWAYS Autistic sensory and emotional fatigue after holidays ("harvest feast" instead of Thanksgiving). How pace points/spoon theory help track energy during social and holiday events. Autistic overwhelm from holiday prep, socializing, and changes in routine. The emotional impact of not being direct about needs (resentment vs depression). Feeling "grinchy" and why the Grinch may resonate with autistic and AuDHD folks. Autistic need for sameness, repetition, and predictability for nervous-system regulation. How even positive change can be dysregulating for autistic people. Overwhelm from visual clutter and environmental shifts (decorations, bedding, etc.). The emotional exhaustion of people coming and going in a household. Autistic challenges with transitions, unexpected additions/subtractions of people, and last-minute plan changes. How autistic people mentally prepare and why sudden changes feel destabilizing. Internalized ableism and external criticism around being "rigid," "negative," or "not chill." How trauma, masking, and accuracy needs affect responses to change and inconsistency. Partner dynamics around inconsistency, communication, and misremembered conversations. Observing family dynamics that others don't notice — a common autistic experience. Post-holiday shutdown mode: pajamas, no shower, comfort foods, and rest. Shame around "basic adulting" when autistic burnout hits. Chronic fatigue, post-exertional malaise, and the overlap with AuDHD burnout. How habits, sensory items, comfort objects, and small routines restore predictability. Strategies for managing change: reducing expectations, movement, comfort shows, pacing, sensory support, and compassion. SOUNDBITES Even things that you enjoy can be dysregulating and overwhelming, and change can be difficult." "I think what I call depression is really resentment for not being direct." "If someone could respond differently, they would. We're not choosing to have difficulty with change." "Inconsistency is very difficult for me — it's not about the tree, it's about the mismatch." "Change really affects me. I overdid it, and now my body is telling the truth." ABOUT YOUR HOSTS: Alex McLaughlin (they/them) has a Master's in Social Work, and is a licensed independent clinical social worker (LICSW) on Wahpekute land (colonized as MN). Alex is an AuDHDer, PDAer, Queer, non-binary, fat, chronically ill, disabled, & a multi-racial (1/8th Chinese & white passing) human with lived experience of OCD. As a late diagnosed adult, Alex has felt different and embraced their quirky, eccentric nature—what they now recognize as undiagnosed AuDHD. This lifelong experience of masking and curiosity about people inspired their passion for understanding and serving others, ultimately shaping their path today. Alex provides neurodivergent and Queer-affirming therapy and Autism and ADHD assessments on Wahpekute land (colonized as Minnesota). Their work is grounded in intersectional feminism, ecological systems theory, and a commitment to decolonizing mental health care. They support clients in exploring how interconnected systems shape their experiences, while fostering resilience, empowerment, and self-understanding—especially for Neurodivergent, 2SLGBTQIA+, BIPOC/POGM, and disabled communities. Trained in ERP, I-CBT (including ND-affirming I-CBT), sand tray therapy, TF-CBT, and somatic approaches, Alex also brings lived experience and is pursuing IFS to deepen their parts-informed practice. Coaching, consulting and training coming soon! Head here to be notified when this practice opens! Head to Alex's website here to connect further: Here Patricia Young (she/her) has a Master's Degree in Social Work, and was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it's like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile, OCD and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive and Unapologetically AuDHD to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren't alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you Patricia's website, podcast episodes and more here! Additional LINKS Email us with questions related to the podcast Rest is Resistance: A Manifesto by Tricia Hersey

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   7 Nov 2025

   8. What is Autism Part 4: The DSM Got It Wrong: What Autism Really Looks Like

   8. What is Autism Part 4: The DSM Got It Wrong: What Autism Really Looks Like SUMMARY In this conversation, Patricia Young (she/her) and Alex McLaughlin (they/them) wrap up their discussion on the DSM criteria for autism through a deeply human, neurodiversity-affirming lens. They unpack how autism presents across childhood and adulthood, challenge medicalized definitions, and reflect on the lived realities of autistic experience—from masking and burnout to doubt, misdiagnosis, and the ongoing process of self-understanding. Together, they illustrate how embracing neurodivergence transforms shame into self-compassion and invites deeper connection and authenticity. SOME KEY THINGS DISCUSSED Grounded, authentic check-in emphasizing permission to "show up as you are." Discussion of living in the "land of not enough" and the emotional toll of productivity pressure. Exploration of Pervasive Drive for Autonomy (PDA) and its everyday impact. Deep reflection on internal vs. external experiences of autistic people. DSM Criteria C–E broken down in accessible, real-world language. Criterion C: Autism traits must appear early but may be masked or misunderstood. Examples of masked autism in childhood—early reading, "picky" eating, routine difficulty with change, hyperlexic tendencies. Misinterpretation of autism traits within families where neurodivergence runs generationally. Emotional safety and meltdowns as signs of regulation, not "bad behavior." Childhood signs: intense interests, anxiety, internalizing vs. externalizing behaviors. Discussion on autistic masking and burnout—"functioning" at great emotional cost. Criterion D: Societal mismatch, not autism itself, causes distress. Criterion E: Traits are not explained by intellectual disability; critique of deficit-based framing. The importance of validation, fact-checking, and curiosity as autistic traits. Common autistic professions: engineers, scientists, data analysts, musicians, writers, therapists. Autism in helping professions and systems (e.g., military, therapy, police, law, medicine). Reflection on doubt after diagnosis and the nonlinear acceptance journey. The harm of misdiagnosis: autism overlooked as anxiety, trauma, BPD, or OCD. Intersectional awareness—how autism is misdiagnosed or criminalized in marginalized communities. Closing insight: embracing identity over pathology leads to freedom, compassion, and authenticity. SOUNDBITES "My internal experience is quite vastly different than how many people perceive me outwardly."--Patricia "Traits must cause challenges not because of being autistic, but because we live in a world not built for us."--Alex "People can have this impression that they're doing well, not knowing this isn't average—it shouldn't have to be this hard."--Alex "I spent so much of my adult life trying to fix what I thought was wrong with me; learning I was autistic changed everything."--Alex "How many kids in the juvenile justice system are really autistic but were misdiagnosed because of their color or class?"--Patricia CHAPTERS (Please adjust for the addition of the intro): 00:00 Navigating Groundedness and Self-Reflection 02:44 Understanding Autism: DSM Criteria Overview 05:42 Personal Experiences with Autism in Childhood 08:41 The Impact of Social Dynamics on Autistic Traits 11:31 Challenges of Masking and Autistic Burnout 14:27 Criteria D: Life Challenges and Functioning 17:17 Criteria E: Disturbances Explained 19:58 Exploring Careers for Autistic Individuals 23:04 Misdiagnosis and the Need for Awareness 25:56 Navigating Self-Doubt and Acceptance 29:00 The Intersection of Race and Autism 31:42 Conclusion and Resources for Neurodivergent Individuals ABOUT YOUR HOSTS: Alex McLaughlin (they/them) has a Master's in Social Work, and is a licensed independent clinical social worker (LICSW) on Wahpekute land (colonized as MN). Alex is an AuDHDer, PDAer, Queer, non-binary, fat, chronically ill, disabled, & a multi-racial (1/8th Chinese & white passing) human with lived experience of OCD. As a late diagnosed adult, Alex has felt different and embraced their quirky, eccentric nature—what they now recognize as undiagnosed AuDHD. This lifelong experience of masking and curiosity about people inspired their passion for understanding and serving others, ultimately shaping their path today. Alex provides neurodivergent and Queer-affirming therapy and Autism and ADHD assessments on Wahpekute land (colonized as Minnesota). Their work is grounded in intersectional feminism, ecological systems theory, and a commitment to decolonizing mental health care. They support clients in exploring how interconnected systems shape their experiences, while fostering resilience, empowerment, and self-understanding—especially for Neurodivergent, 2SLGBTQIA+, BIPOC/POGM, and disabled communities. Trained in ERP, I-CBT (including ND-affirming I-CBT), sand tray therapy, TF-CBT, and somatic approaches, Alex also brings lived experience and is pursuing IFS to deepen their parts-informed practice. Coaching, consulting and training coming soon! Head here to be notified when this practice opens! Head to Alex's website here to connect further: Here Patricia Young (she/her) has a Master's Degree in Social Work, and was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it's like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile, OCD and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive and Unapologetically AuDHD to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren't alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you Patricia's website, podcast episodes and more here! Additional LINKS Email us with questions related to the podcast Neurodivergent Insights Criteria for Autism Explained in Pictures– https://neurodivergentinsights.com/dsm-5-criteria-for-autism-explained-in-picture-form/?srsltid=AfmBOoo8CLpY8e5DjhTWnVISfdEC3IXdZIRVLK7cMYgtjwjQUi25rccv

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   3 Nov 2025

   7. What is Autism Part 3: Routine, Rattled, and Ready: Living the DSM Out Loud

   7. What is Autism Part 3: Routine, Rattled, and Ready: Living the DSM Out Loud SUMMARY In this lively and validating episode, Patricia (she/her) and Alex (they/them) unpack how the DSM describes autism versus how it actually feels to live it. They explore everyday stimming, sensory seeking, routines, and how nervous system regulation shapes reactions, from "that's my chair" moments to deep nervous system truths. Expect laughter, nuance, and honest conversation about honoring neurodivergent needs without pathologizing them. SOME KEY THINGS DISCUSSED The DSM criteria often miss the lived experience of autistic adults, especially those diagnosed later in life. Stimming is a nervous system regulation tool, not a "behavior to stop." Examples of stimming include toe rubbing, lip chewing, fidgeting, humming, rocking, hair twirling, and even organizing candy by color. Everyone stims—autistic and neurotypical folks alike—it's about soothing and grounding. "Stealth stimming" can be subtle and unconscious, like rubbing fabrics, counting, or shifting in a chair. Sensory seeking is tied to comfort, curiosity, and pleasure—touching textures, smelling things, or petting animals. Stimming can also show up as repetitive speech, watching the same show, or humming, which activates the vagus nerve. Routine and familiarity bring safety. Unexpected changes can cause distress, not because of rigidity but due to nervous system overwhelm. Autistic distress over disrupted routines often differs from OCD—it's rooted in needing predictability and sensory balance, not irrational fear. Personal stories illustrate how "my chair" or "don't move my stuff" moments aren't about control but about regulation and respect. Many late-diagnosed adults mask or internalize distress, leading to exhaustion or self-criticism. Externalized dysregulation (meltdowns) and internalized distress (shutting down, self-blame) are both valid responses. "Size of the problem" teaching models can feel invalidating when they dismiss autistic nervous system reactions. The nervous system reaction is always valid, even if the expression of it needs tools for safety and alignment with one's values. Perseveration (looping thoughts, emotions, or worries) isn't a choice—it's how the neurodivergent brain processes deeply. "Get over it" advice misses that emotional regulation takes as long as it takes. Humor and self-awareness help—especially when noticing our quirks like candy sorting or counting behaviors. Clear rules and predictable structures are calming; shifting expectations without notice can be deeply dysregulating. Autistic self-awareness is not about eliminating reactions, but learning self-compassion and tools for regulation. SOUNDBITES "Living in these meat bodies could be a whole series." –Patricia "Everyone stims. It's just that autistic folks need it to stay regulated." –Alex "If we could stop perseverating on a thing, we would. It's not fun to be stuck."--Alex "My husband knows—don't touch my stuff, don't move my stuff." –Patricia "The feeling and the reaction are valid. How we manage it is what we can work on." –Patricia CHAPTERS (Please adjust for the addition of the intro): 00:00 Introduction and Personal Check-in 01:29 Exploring DSM Criteria for Autism 02:15 Understanding Stimming and Its Variations 05:40 The Role of Stimming in Self-Regulation 09:41 Sensory Seeking Behaviors 12:38 Criteria B2: Safety in Familiarity and Routine 17:03 Reactions to Disruption and Managing Responses 24:08 Understanding Nervous System Responses 27:11 Processing Emotions and Feelings 28:35 The Importance of Clear Rules 32:24 Safety in Passionate Interests 36:21 Exploring Sensory Differences ABOUT YOUR HOSTS: Alex McLaughlin (they/them) has a Master's in Social Work, and is a licensed independent clinical social worker (LICSW) on Wahpekute land (colonized as MN). Alex is an AuDHDer, PDAer, Queer, non-binary, fat, chronically ill, disabled, & a multi-racial (1/8th Chinese & white passing) human with lived experience of OCD. As a late diagnosed adult, Alex has felt different and embraced their quirky, eccentric nature—what they now recognize as undiagnosed AuDHD. This lifelong experience of masking and curiosity about people inspired their passion for understanding and serving others, ultimately shaping their path today. Alex provides neurodivergent and Queer-affirming therapy and Autism and ADHD assessments on Wahpekute land (colonized as Minnesota). Their work is grounded in intersectional feminism, ecological systems theory, and a commitment to decolonizing mental health care. They support clients in exploring how interconnected systems shape their experiences, while fostering resilience, empowerment, and self-understanding—especially for Neurodivergent, 2SLGBTQIA+, BIPOC/POGM, and disabled communities. Trained in ERP, I-CBT (including ND-affirming I-CBT), sand tray therapy, TF-CBT, and somatic approaches, Alex also brings lived experience and is pursuing IFS to deepen their parts-informed practice. Coaching, consulting and training coming soon! Head here to be notified when this practice opens! Head to Alex's website here to connect further: Here Patricia Young (she/her) has a Master's Degree in Social Work, and was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it's like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile, OCD and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive and Unapologetically AuDHD to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren't alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you Patricia's website, podcast episodes and more here! Additional LINKS Email us with questions related to the podcast Neurodivergent Insights Criteria for Autism Explained in Pictures- https://neurodivergentinsights.com/dsm-5-criteria-for-autism-explained-in-picture-form/?srsltid=AfmBOoo8CLpY8e5DjhTWnVISfdEC3IXdZIRVLK7cMYgtjwjQUi25rccv

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   18 Sept 2025

   6. What is Autism part 2: So…do we have to text back? Autism friendship "rules"

   6. What is Autism part 2: So…do we have to text back? Autism friendship "rules" SUMMARY In this episode, Patricia (she/her) and Alex (they/them) continue their series on What is Autism? by exploring DSM criteria alongside lived experiences. They discuss how autistic people navigate relationships, friendship dynamics, context shifting, alexithymia, PDA, and the double empathy problem. Both share personal stories of how autism shows up in day-to-day life, from kettles breaking to difficulty with group projects, and offer insights that go beyond clinical definitions. SOME KEY THINGS DISCUSSED The challenges and resilience that show up in everyday autistic life (like handling a broken kettle without melting down). How alexithymia and interoception difficulties affect awareness of one's own emotions. The role of PDA (Pathological Demand Avoidance–preferred term: Pervasive Drive for Autonomy) in amplifying "forbidden fruit" thinking when told not to do something. DSM Criterion A3: difficulties with developing, maintaining, and understanding relationships. Why initiating vs. maintaining friendships can feel very different for some autistic people. How executive functioning impacts social connection (remembering to text back, confirming plans, etc.). The double empathy problem and how communication mismatches are a two-way street. Why autistic-to-autistic friendships often feel easier and less draining than cross-neurotype relationships. The myth that autistic people lack imagination or creativity. How imaginative play and group projects often reflect mismatches in processing styles, not a lack of creativity. The importance of shared interests in sparking autistic creativity and play. How monotropism (deep focus on one thing) shapes transitions and task-switching. Why context shifting (e.g., from task to social mode) can feel jarring. Strategies like sitting in the car before appointments as a transition aid. The tension between expectations in friendships vs. lived autistic processing differences. Trauma's role in shaping how autistic adults approach relationships. Why diagnoses and labels can provide self-understanding and compassion. How disappointment in friendships often stems from mismatched expectations. The unique blend of humor, honesty, and vulnerability that autistic friendships bring. SOUNDBITES "I had to kind of like talk myself through it so I didn't have a meltdown… but if it were a different day, I probably would have." – Alex "I find making friends very easy. It's the maintaining of the relationships that's very challenging." – Patricia "It's like you're interviewing someone for a job. I just genuinely want to know about them." – Alex "Without understanding autism, we assume everybody's like us. And when people don't meet our standards, we're like, what the heck is wrong with everybody?" – Patricia "Relationships are just challenging. I think they're great, I think we need them, but there are so many nuances." – Patricia CHAPTERS (Please adjust for the addition of the intro): 00:00 Navigating Daily Challenges and Emotional Responses 02:55 Understanding Autism: DSM Criteria and Personal Experiences 05:35 The Complexity of Relationships and Friendships 08:38 Executive Functioning and Social Interactions 11:34 The Double Empathy Problem and Communication Mismatches 18:55 Understanding Autism and Communication Differences 20:16 Imaginative Play and Creativity in Autistic Individuals 24:09 Context Shifting and Task Management Challenges 29:47 Navigating Group Dynamics and Social Interactions 32:25 Future Conversations and Closing Thoughts ABOUT YOUR HOSTS: Alex McLaughlin (they/them) has a Master's in Social Work, and is a licensed independent clinical social worker (LICSW) on Wahpekute land (colonized as MN). Alex is an AuDHDer, PDAer, Queer, non-binary, fat, chronically ill, disabled, & a multi-racial (1/8th Chinese & white passing) human with lived experience of OCD. As a late diagnosed adult, Alex has felt different and embraced their quirky, eccentric nature—what they now recognize as undiagnosed AuDHD. This lifelong experience of masking and curiosity about people inspired their passion for understanding and serving others, ultimately shaping their path today. Alex provides neurodivergent and Queer-affirming therapy and Autism and ADHD assessments on Wahpekute land (colonized as Minnesota). Their work is grounded in intersectional feminism, ecological systems theory, and a commitment to decolonizing mental health care. They support clients in exploring how interconnected systems shape their experiences, while fostering resilience, empowerment, and self-understanding—especially for Neurodivergent, 2SLGBTQIA+, BIPOC/POGM, and disabled communities. Trained in ERP, I-CBT (including ND-affirming I-CBT), sand tray therapy, TF-CBT, and somatic approaches, Alex also brings lived experience and is pursuing IFS to deepen their parts-informed practice. Coaching, consulting and training coming soon! Head here to be notified when this practice opens! Head to Alex's website here to connect further: Here Patricia Young (she/her) has a Master's Degree in Social Work, and was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it's like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile, OCD and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive and Unapologetically AuDHD to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren't alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you Patricia's website, podcast episodes and more here! Additional LINKS Email us with questions related to the podcast

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   5 Sept 2025

   5: What is Autism Part 1: Autism Isn't a Deficit, It's a Different Operating System

   5: What is Autism Part 1: Autism Isn't a Deficit, It's a Different Operating System SUMMARY Patricia (she/her) and Alex (they/them) dive into the DSM diagnostic criteria for autism and break it down through a lived-experience lens. Instead of deficit-based language, they highlight autistic strengths, differences, and everyday realities of being AuDHD and neurodivergent. Expect honest stories, laughter, and relatable insights into what autism actually looks like outside of a clinical checklist. SOME KEY THINGS DISCUSSED Differences in communication styles can lead to misinterpretations. Social reciprocity varies greatly among individuals. Nonverbal cues can be challenging for autistic individuals. Connection can be found in shared spaces without verbal engagement. Understanding emotional expression can be complex for many autistic people. The importance of lived experiences in understanding autism. Future discussions will continue to explore autism and its nuances. Compartmentalizing emotions while navigating daily stress The DSM and its fraught, deficit-based history in diagnosing autism Why autistic adults often don't see themselves in the DSM criteria How the criteria ignore late-diagnosed, high-masking autistic people The difference between deficits vs. differences in neurodivergence "Nothing about us without us" in autistic advocacy and research Criteria A1: social-emotional reciprocity and how it actually shows up Autistic empathy: relating by sharing lived experiences Masking in facial expressions, tone, and eye contact The double-bind of asking too many vs. too few questions Why autistic small talk often centers around genuine interests Body doubling, parallel play, and co-regulation as neurodivergent connection The mismatch between verbal tone and facial expressions (alexithymia included) Wrapping up with how lived autistic stories—not DSM checklists—help people recognize themselves The urgency in making life decisions can be stressful. Autism is often misunderstood through a deficit-based lens. SOUNDBITES "The DSM told me nothing, but hearing about other people's lived experience is how I realized I was autistic." "We use the word differences instead of deficits because it's just a different way of communicating." "If you put two neurodivergent folks together, reciprocity looks totally different." "Sometimes I stare too hard at people's eyeballs because I thought that's what good eye contact was supposed to be." "Autism criteria is basically: how much do you make other people uncomfortable?" "We just didn't know that much back then." "Nothing about us without us." CHAPTERS (Please adjust for the addition of the intro) 00:00 Navigating Life Decisions and Stressors 02:48 Understanding Autism: A Personal Perspective 05:58 The DSM and Its Implications 08:34 Deficits vs. Differences in Autism 11:17 Social Reciprocity and Communication Challenges 14:15 Nonverbal Communication and Its Misinterpretations 17:14 The Complexity of Social Interactions 20:10 Finding Connection in Shared Spaces 23:00 Criteria A: Social-Emotional Reciprocity 25:57 Criteria A2: Nonverbal Communication Behaviors 28:50 Navigating Emotional Expression and Understanding 31:51 Conclusion and Future Discussions ABOUT YOUR HOSTS: Alex McLaughlin (they/them) has a Master's in Social Work, and is a licensed independent clinical social worker (LICSW) on Wahpekute land (colonized as MN). Alex is an AuDHDer, PDAer, Queer, non-binary, fat, chronically ill, disabled, & a multi-racial (1/8th Chinese & white passing) human with lived experience of OCD. As a late diagnosed adult, Alex has felt different and embraced their quirky, eccentric nature—what they now recognize as undiagnosed AuDHD. This lifelong experience of masking and curiosity about people inspired their passion for understanding and serving others, ultimately shaping their path today. Alex provides neurodivergent and Queer-affirming therapy and Autism and ADHD assessments on Wahpekute land (colonized as Minnesota). Their work is grounded in intersectional feminism, ecological systems theory, and a commitment to decolonizing mental health care. They support clients in exploring how interconnected systems shape their experiences, while fostering resilience, empowerment, and self-understanding—especially for Neurodivergent, 2SLGBTQIA+, BIPOC/POGM, and disabled communities. Trained in ERP, I-CBT (including ND-affirming I-CBT), sand tray therapy, TF-CBT, and somatic approaches, Alex also brings lived experience and is pursuing IFS to deepen their parts-informed practice. Coaching, consulting and training coming soon! Head here to be notified when this practice opens! Head to Alex's website here to connect further: Here Patricia Young (she/her) has a Master's Degree in Social Work, and was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it's like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile, OCD and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive and Unapologetically AuDHD to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren't alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you Patricia's website, podcast episodes and more here! References DSM 5 in Pictures from Neurodivergent Insights: https://neurodivergentinsights.com/dsm-5-criteria-for-autism-explained-in-picture-form/?srsltid=AfmBOorIPG6mwmRUXPaPa8ttWigArdiS12OojrXcsDRqpZtSu339uw8- Additional LINKS Email us with questions related to the podcast

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   14 Aug 2025

   4: OCD pt. 2: OCD, ADHD & the Dishwasher Olympics: When Efficiency Becomes a Sport

   4: OCD pt. 2: OCD, ADHD & the Dishwasher Olympics: When Efficiency Becomes a Sport SUMMARY In this candid and often humorous episode, Patricia (she/her) and Alex (they/them) share their deeply personal neurodivergent experiences with OCD, weaving in childhood rituals, intrusive harm thoughts, contamination fears, and the tangled coexistence of Autism, ADHD, and trauma. They explore how OCD shows up in everyday life — from dishwashers to hyper-specific food hygiene rules — while unpacking the overlap between Autistic routines and OCD compulsions, the stigma around taboo intrusive thoughts like pedophilia OCD, and the toll of decision fatigue. Along the way, they discuss diagnosis challenges, the role of cultural conditioning in reinforcing OCD patterns, and evidence-based treatments like Exposure and Response Prevention (ERP) and Inference-Based CBT (ICBT), offering validation, understanding, and a dash of humor for anyone navigating the messy, nuanced reality of an OCD brain. SOME KEY THINGS DISCUSSED OCD prevalence stats in adults and children in the U.S. (a.k.a. Turtle Island) Childhood rituals with stuffed animals and early harm-related intrusive thoughts Overlap and confusion between Autistic routines, ADHD efficiency needs, and OCD compulsions Harm OCD imagery while driving and in daily life Contamination fears and hygiene rules (including mayo placement politics) Decision fatigue and how structure/routines can reduce it for Autistic & ADHD brains Somatic obsessions after allergic reactions and medication side effects Taboo intrusive thoughts, including pedophilia OCD, and the distress they cause Misdiagnosis challenges, including being told OCD symptoms were PTSD or OCPD The role of attachment injuries in triggering OCD spirals Food preoccupation as an OCD manifestation, especially with an eating disorder history Normalizing catastrophic thinking in neurodivergent lived experience Cultural and gendered reinforcement of reassurance-seeking behaviors Evidence-based OCD treatments: Exposure and Response Prevention (ERP) and ICBT Importance of OCD specialists and screening tools like the OCI-R SOUNDBITES "OCD is showing us how much you value this thing." "It's important to work with an OCD specialist." "We don't have to show up shiny, perky, happy all the time." "OCD attacks what we value — it goes straight for the things that matter most to us." "I've just gotten accustomed to having terrible graphic thoughts about what could happen and going, isn't that interesting?" "My mayo has its designated spot far in the back of the fridge — and yes, I need my own." CHAPTERS (Please adjust for the addition of the intro) 00:00 Navigating Low Energy and Self-Compassion 01:56 Understanding OCD: Facts and Statistics 03:33 Personal Journeys with OCD: Alex's Story 11:27 Diagnosis and Misunderstandings of OCD 14:24 Patricia's Experience with OCD and Autism 19:23 Coping Mechanisms and the Impact of OCD 20:50 Understanding Intrusive Thoughts and OCD 27:43 Cultural Influences on OCD and Mental Health 31:22 Therapeutic Approaches to Managing OCD 37:32 Exploring Different Therapies for OCD 40:33 Final Thoughts and Resources for OCD Support ABOUT YOUR HOSTS: Alex McLaughlin (they/them) has a Master's in Social Work, and is a licensed independent clinical social worker (LICSW) on Wahpekute land (colonized as MN). Alex is an AuDHDer, PDAer, Queer, non-binary, fat, chronically ill, disabled, & a multi-racial (1/8th Chinese & white passing) human with lived experience of OCD. As a late diagnosed adult, Alex has felt different and embraced their quirky, eccentric nature—what they now recognize as undiagnosed AuDHD. This lifelong experience of masking and curiosity about people inspired their passion for understanding and serving others, ultimately shaping their path today. Alex provides neurodivergent and Queer-affirming therapy and Autism and ADHD assessments on Wahpekute land (colonized as Minnesota). Their work is grounded in intersectional feminism, ecological systems theory, and a commitment to decolonizing mental health care. They support clients in exploring how interconnected systems shape their experiences, while fostering resilience, empowerment, and self-understanding—especially for Neurodivergent, 2SLGBTQIA+, BIPOC/POGM, and disabled communities. Trained in ERP, I-CBT (including ND-affirming I-CBT), sand tray therapy, TF-CBT, and somatic approaches, Alex also brings lived experience and is pursuing IFS to deepen their parts-informed practice. Coaching, consulting and training coming soon! Head here to be notified when this practice opens! Head to Alex's website here to connect further: Here Patricia Young (she/her) has a Master's Degree in Social Work, and was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it's like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile, OCD and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive and Unapologetically AuDHD to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren't alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you Patricia's website, podcast episodes and more here! References Research shows that the average person goes 14 to 17 years before receiving an OCD diagnosis. And that delay in diagnosis is the biggest barrier to finding the relief you deserve. Studies show that only about 200,000 people with OCD actually seek effective therapy (McGrath, 2024). OCD affects about 1-3% of the global population,(Brock, Rizvi & Hany, 2024) per one study. Another source estimates about 1 in 100 adults, or between 2-3 million adults in the U.S.A; and 1 in 200 kids and teens, or around 500,000 in the U.S.A.. (as reported by the IOCDF, 2024 (https://iocdf.org/about-ocd/who-gets-ocd/)) OCD can be incredibly debilitating, in fact, according to digging that the OCD-UK did, "OCD was once ranked by the World Health Organization in the top 10 of the most disabling illnesses by lost income and decreased quality of life" (OCD-UK, 2018) Additional LINKS Email us with questions related to the podcast Obsessional Compulsive Inventory - Revised (OCI-R) 4 question OCD screener Evidence based approaches include: Exposure and response prevention (ERP) Inference-based cognitive behavioral therapy (I-CBT) Acceptance and commitment therapy for OCD (ACT) Supportive Parenting for Anxious Childhood Emotions SPACE Ensure your therapist is ACTUALLY trained in the therapy modality IOCDF Resources (podcasts, I-CBT vs. ERP charts, creators w/ lived experience, etc.) @autisticworldofalexmac Top 10 tips for managing OCD: A Guidebook from an OCD therapist who truly gets it! Finding a therapist OCD Twin Cities IOCDF search Find a therapist of color (see inclusive therapists below) How to find the right therapist Neurodivergent (ND) therapists (not all trained in OCD) Inclusive Therapists Pscyhology Today NOCD Self-guided OCD interventions Jenna Overbaugh (ERP) Self-guided I-CBT (ND-affirming) Self-guided I-CBT I-CBT Self-help course Support groups and treatment groups NOCD support groups (accessed via the app – and I believe for free) Books Overcoming Unwanted Intrusive thoughts Everyday Mindfulness for OCD Resolving OCD (I-CBT book)

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    8 Aug 2025

    3: OCD: When Your Brain Plays the "What if" Game

    OCD: When Your Brain Plays the "What if" Game SUMMARY In this conversation, Patricia (she/her) and Alex (they/them) delve into the complexities of Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD), discussing its definitions, misconceptions, and talking about their lived experiences with OCD. They explore the different themes and subtypes of OCD, the impact of reassurance seeking in relationships. The discussion also touches on the intersection of OCD with autism and ADHD, emphasizing the importance of understanding these conditions in a nuanced way. The conversation concludes with reflections on finding balance in life and the challenges of perfectionism. HIGHLIGHTS: OCD is characterized by obsessions and compulsions that cause distress. Obsessions can take the form of thoughts, memories, or sensations, etc.. Compulsions are actions taken to reduce distress or prevent feared outcomes. There are various themes within OCD, including harm OCD and relationship OCD. Reassurance seeking (a compulsion) can be a significant challenge in relationships for those with OCD. Medication can be effective in managing OCD symptoms, often in combination with therapy. Perfectionism can be a form of OCD. Perfectionism may lead to avoidance of tasks. The intersection of OCD with Autism and ADHD can make diagnosis and treatment more complex. Understanding the nuances of OCD can help in finding effective coping strategies. Finding joy in structure and organization can be beneficial, but it's important to recognize when it becomes excessive. SOUND BITES "What is OCD?" "It's a mental health condition." "Does it bring you joy?" CHAPTERS (please allow for addition of introduction) 00:00 Understanding OCD: Definitions and Misconceptions 04:20 Themes and Subtypes of OCD 12:29 The Nuances of Reassurance Seeking 17:59 Medication and Treatment Options for OCD 20:13 Exploring OCD Subtypes Further 28:25 Understanding MCAS and Its Implications 29:19 The Intersection of OCD, Autism, and ADHD 32:03 Co-occurring Conditions: Autism and OCD 33:48 Perfectionism and Its Challenges 36:34 The Journey to Diagnosis 38:14 Finding Joy in Systematization 40:31 Compensatory Strategies for Neurodivergent Minds 42:39 The Looping Behavior Analogy ABOUT YOUR HOSTS: Alex McLaughlin (they/them) has a Master's in Social Work, and is a licensed independent clinical social worker (LICSW) on Wahpekute land (colonized as MN). Alex is an AuDHDer, PDAer, Queer, non-binary, fat, chronically ill, disabled, & a multi-racial (1/8th Chinese & white passing) human with lived experience of OCD. As a late diagnosed adult, Alex has felt different and embraced their quirky, eccentric nature—what they now recognize as undiagnosed AuDHD. This lifelong experience of masking and curiosity about people inspired their passion for understanding and serving others, ultimately shaping their path today. Alex provides neurodivergent and Queer-affirming therapy and Autism and ADHD assessments on Wahpekute land (colonized as Minnesota). Their work is grounded in intersectional feminism, ecological systems theory, and a commitment to decolonizing mental health care. They support clients in exploring how interconnected systems shape their experiences, while fostering resilience, empowerment, and self-understanding—especially for Neurodivergent, 2SLGBTQIA+, BIPOC/POGM, and disabled communities. Trained in ERP, I-CBT (including ND-affirming I-CBT), sand tray therapy, TF-CBT, and somatic approaches, Alex also brings lived experience and is pursuing IFS to deepen their parts-informed practice. Coaching, consulting and training coming soon! Head here to be notified when this practice opens! Head to Alex's website here to connect further: Here Patricia Young (she/her) has a Master's Degree in Social Work, and was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it's like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile, OCD and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren't alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you Patricia's website, podcast episodes and more here! Additional LINKS Email us about the podcast! Top 10 tips for managing OCD: A Guidebook from an OCD therapist who truly gets it!

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    31 Jul 2025

    2: How we met; our fears about starting a podcast, and navigating time agnosia

    How we met; our fears about starting a podcast, and navigating time agnosia SUMMARY In this conversation, Patricia (she/her) and Alex (they/them) explore their differing relationships with time, the impact of time sensitivities on their friendship, and the insecurities that arise in their podcasting journey. They discuss the importance of communication in relationships, especially regarding time management, and how their neurodivergent experiences shape their perspectives. The conversation also touches on feelings of inadequacy and imposter syndrome, highlighting the challenges of self-acceptance in a world that often prioritizes punctuality and credentials. They share their friendship journey and express their fears and concerns about starting a podcast together. The discussion emphasizes the importance of authenticity and vulnerability in sharing their experiences, as well as the value of normalizing the differences in how neurodivergent individuals navigate the world. HIGHLIGHTS: Patricia and Alex have different relationships with time. Communication about feelings is crucial in relationships. Their experiences with time agnosia (FKA "time blindness"). Societal norms around time can create pressure. Imposter syndrome is real. Sharing insecurities can alleviate feelings of shame. Understanding each other's perspectives fosters empathy. Managing time sensitivities requires self-awareness. It's okay to not meet societal expectations of neuronormative time frames. Recognizing personal strengths can help with feelings of inadequacy. Executive functioning differences are common among neurodivergent individuals. Time management can be perceived as a difference rather than a deficit. Building community is essential for neurodivergent people. Authenticity and vulnerability foster connection in relationships. Self-disclosure in therapy can be a double-edged sword. Concerns about how one presents themselves in public spaces are valid. Navigating OCD in relationships requires open communication. The right audience will resonate with authentic expressions. Comparison can lead to feelings of inadequacy, but everyone has unique strengths. Normalizing neurodivergent experiences helps reduce stigma. SOUND BITES "I have a very different relationship to time than you do." "I was having some feelings about it, but wasn't gonna say anything." "I struggle with comparison." "It's really common for anyone to have that imposter syndrome." "It's a difference, not a deficit." "I was needing some community." "The right people will find me." TOPICS EXPLORED IN ORDER: Introduction and Check-in Exploring Our Relationship with Time Navigating Time Sensitivities in Relationships Understanding Time Agnosia and Its Impact Insecurities and Imposter Syndrome Navigating Neurodivergence and Time Building Community Among Neurodivergent Therapists Fears and Concerns About Podcasting Authenticity and Vulnerability in Sharing Experiences ABOUT YOUR HOSTS: Alex McLaughlin (they/them) has a Master's in Social Work, and is a licensed independent clinical social worker (LICSW) on Wahpekute land (colonized as MN). Alex is an AuDHDer, PDAer, Queer, non-binary, fat, chronically ill, disabled, & a multi-racial (1/8th Chinese & white passing) human with lived experience of OCD. As a late diagnosed adult, Alex has felt different and embraced their quirky, eccentric nature—what they now recognize as undiagnosed AuDHD. This lifelong experience of masking and curiosity about people inspired their passion for understanding and serving others, ultimately shaping their path today. Alex provides neurodivergent and Queer-affirming therapy and Autism and ADHD assessments on Wahpekute land (colonized as Minnesota). Their work is grounded in intersectional feminism, ecological systems theory, and a commitment to decolonizing mental health care. They support clients in exploring how interconnected systems shape their experiences, while fostering resilience, empowerment, and self-understanding—especially for Neurodivergent, 2SLGBTQIA+, BIPOC/POGM, and disabled communities. Trained in ERP, I-CBT (including ND-affirming I-CBT), sand tray therapy, TF-CBT, and somatic approaches, Alex also brings lived experience and is pursuing IFS to deepen their parts-informed practice. Coaching, consulting and training coming soon! Head here to be notified when this practice opens! Head to Alex's website here to connect further: Here Patricia Young (she/her) has a Master's Degree in Social Work, and was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it's like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile, OCD and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren't alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you Patricia's website, podcast episodes and more here! Additional LINKS Embrace Autism (https://embrace-autism.com/) Email

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    24 Jul 2025

    1: Our Autism and ADHD Diagnoses Journeys

    Our Autism and ADHD Diagnoses Journeys In this heartfelt episode, join Alex (they/them) and Patricia (she/her) as they open up about their personal journeys to understanding their Autism and ADHD diagnoses. From initial suspicions and self-assessments to the emotional rollercoaster of validation, anger, grief, sadness and more, they share candid insights into the challenges and revelations that come with late diagnosis. Explore the nuances of high masking Autism, the impact of societal stereotypes, and the importance of finding affirming support. Whether you're on a similar path or seeking to understand more about neurodiversity, this episode offers a compassionate and enlightening perspective. Tune in for an honest conversation that celebrates authenticity and resilience. HIGHLIGHTS: The personal journeys of Alex and Patricia in discovering their Autism and ADHD diagnoses. How societal stereotypes can delay diagnosis for many individuals. The concept of high masking Autism and its impact on late diagnosis. Emotional responses to receiving a diagnosis, including grief, relief, and acceptance. The role of self-assessment tools like RADS-R and CAT-Q in identifying Autism. The importance of finding affirming and skilled clinics for diagnosis. How personal experiences and anecdotes can reveal signs of neurodivergence. The intersection of Autism, ADHD, and OCD in personal experiences. The impact of trauma, anxiety and intersectional identities on masking neurodivergent traits. The significance of self-acceptance and unmasking in improving quality of life. The challenges of navigating social norms and expectations as a neurodivergent individual. The role of family and friends in understanding and supporting neurodivergent individuals. The concept of internalized presentations of Autism and ADHD. How cultural norms, and safety due to being in politicized bodies, can influence the presentation and recognition of neurodivergence. The impact of executive function challenges on daily life and career paths. The importance of recognizing and accommodating personal needs and differences. The role of special interests and hyperfocus in the lives of neurodivergent individuals. The challenges of managing OCD and its various presentations (more on that next episode)! The significance of personal growth and learning in understanding one's neurodivergent identity. The value of sharing personal stories to foster understanding and acceptance. SOUND BITES "I finally felt like I had answers." "I think you might have ADHD." "I love numbers and data." "I do not like losing things." "Where the fuck is it?" "I never knew what I wanted to do." "I struggled with paperwork." "ADHDers thrive on that adrenaline." "I can let that go." CHAPTERS (Please adjust for addition of the introduction) 00:00 Introduction to Our Stories 02:47 Alex's Diagnosis Journey 06:00 Understanding Autism and Mental Health 09:01 Exploring ADHD Diagnosis 11:46 Reflections on Diagnosis and Family Responses 16:02 Patricia's Journey to Understanding HSP and Autism 20:08 Cultural Perspectives on Autism Diagnosis 24:09 Navigating Life with Autism and ADHD 28:00 Navigating ADHD and Anxiety 31:06 Career Journeys and Executive Functioning 33:57 The Challenges of Licensing and Paperwork 36:59 Childhood Clues and ADHD Traits 41:00 Understanding OCD and Its Variations About your hosts: Alex McLaughlin (they/them) has a Master's in Social Work, and is a licensed independent clinical social worker (LICSW) on Wahpekute land (colonized as MN). Alex is an AuDHDer, PDAer, Queer, non-binary, fat, chronically ill, disabled, & a multi-racial (1/8th Chinese & white passing) human with lived experience of OCD. As a late diagnosed adult, Alex has felt different and embraced their quirky, eccentric nature—what they now recognize as undiagnosed AuDHD. This lifelong experience of masking and curiosity about people inspired their passion for understanding and serving others, ultimately shaping their path today. Alex provides neurodivergent and Queer-affirming therapy and Autism and ADHD assessments on Wahpekute land (colonized as Minnesota). Their work is grounded in intersectional feminism, ecological systems theory, and a commitment to decolonizing mental health care. They support clients in exploring how interconnected systems shape their experiences, while fostering resilience, empowerment, and self-understanding—especially for Neurodivergent, 2SLGBTQIA+, BIPOC/POGM, and disabled communities. Trained in ERP, I-CBT (including ND-affirming I-CBT), sand tray therapy, TF-CBT, and somatic approaches, Alex also brings lived experience and is pursuing IFS to deepen their parts-informed practice. Coaching, consulting and training coming soon! Head here to be notified when this practice opens! Head to Alex's website here to connect further: Here  (https://www.thedivergentgrovetherapy.com/) Patricia Young (she/her) has a Master's Degree in Social Work, and was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it's like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile, OCD and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren't alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you Patricia's website, podcast episodes and more here! Additional Links Embrace Autism (https://embrace-autism.com/) Email

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    19 Jul 2025

    0: Introduction and What to Expect

    Introduction and What to Expect In this episode of Unapologetically, AuDHD, hosts Patricia Young (she/her) and Alex McLaughlin (they/them) introduce this new podcast, sharing their backgrounds, experiences, and the mission behind the show. They discuss the importance of normalizing neurodivergent experiences, the topics they plan to cover, and some feelings about self-disclosure in therapy. The conversation aims to create a supportive community for those who identify as neurodivergent, particularly those who are autistic, ADHD, OCD, and PDA. TAKEAWAYS Patricia Young was a licensed clinical social worker. She currently provides online coaching globally for neurodivergent folks. Patricia is AuDHD, OCD, and PDA Alex McLaughlin (they/them) is an AuDHDer, PDAer, Queer, non-binary therapist with lived experience of OCD. The podcast aims to provide education around non-stereotypical presentations of Autism and ADHD, OCD, and other related topics. Hosts want to help listeners feel less alone in their experiences. The mission is to normalize neurodivergent experiences and celebrate unique ways of thinking. Alex wants current therapy participants to know that self-disclosure in therapy can affect the therapeutic relationship, and to consider the pros and cons to listening to the podcast. The podcast will cover various topics related to neurodivergence. Listeners are encouraged to engage with the hosts about their experiences. The hosts emphasize the importance of community and shared experiences. The podcast is a platform for honest conversations about neurodivergent lives. SOUND BITES "We're here to tell you about our new podcast." "I work with autistic and ADHDers." "We want to talk about what does that [AuDHD, OCD, PDA, etc. for us] look like?" Patricia says: "If you're one of my clients, enjoy it." CHAPTERS (PLEASE ALLOW FOR ADDITION OF INTRODUCTION) 00:00 Introduction to Unapologetically, AuDHD 05:03 Hosts' Backgrounds and Experiences 09:58 Mission and Purpose of the Podcast 14:59 Topics of Discussion and Future Episodes 20:03 Self-Disclosure and Therapeutic Boundaries About your hosts: Alex McLaughlin (they/them) has a Master's in Social Work, and is a licensed independent clinical social worker (LICSW) on Wahpekute land (colonized as MN). Alex is an AuDHDer, PDAer, Queer, non-binary, fat, chronically ill, disabled, & a multi-racial (1/8th Chinese & white passing) human with lived experience of OCD. As a late diagnosed adult, Alex has felt different and embraced their quirky, eccentric nature—what they now recognize as undiagnosed AuDHD. This lifelong experience of masking and curiosity about people inspired their passion for understanding and serving others, ultimately shaping their path today. Alex provides neurodivergent and Queer-affirming therapy and Autism and ADHD assessments on Wahpekute land (colonized as Minnesota). Their work is grounded in intersectional feminism, ecological systems theory, and a commitment to decolonizing mental health care. They support clients in exploring how interconnected systems shape their experiences, while fostering resilience, empowerment, and self-understanding—especially for Neurodivergent, 2SLGBTQIA+, BIPOC/POGM, and disabled communities. Trained in ERP, I-CBT (including ND-affirming I-CBT), sand tray therapy, TF-CBT, and somatic approaches, Alex also brings lived experience and is pursuing IFS to deepen their parts-informed practice. Coaching, consulting and training coming soon! Head here (https://forms.gle/LJL76rTJqqtF5L4X7) to be notified when this practice opens: Head to Alex's website here to connect further! ------ Patricia Young (she/her) was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it's like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile, OCD and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren't alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you Patricia's website, podcast episodes and more. ---- Connect with us via email @ unapologeticallyAuDHD@gmail.com

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