Get ready to celebrate individuality and embrace the beauty of being "weird" with "Unapologetically Weird with Tobare". Join Tobare as she takes you on a journey of self-discovery and self-love, sharing her personal experiences and opinions on societal norms and labels. This podcast is about exploring Tobare's own journey towards authenticity and encouraging listeners to do the same. If you're ready to break free from societal expectations and embrace your unique self without fear of judgment, then this podcast is a must-listen. Let's be unconventional together!
Unlearning People-Pleasing: Why I Stopped Putting Friendship on a Pedestal
What happens when you realize the friendships you spent your whole life glorifying were built on people-pleasing? On this episode of Unapologetically Weird With Tobare, Tobare takes a deeply honest look at her lifelong obsession with finding her "chosen family," the painful reality of bullying and feeling like an outcast in school, and the exhausting cycle of trying to be chosen. From childhood TV-fueled fantasies of "girl squads" to recovering from chronic people-pleasing, this episode is a raw, somatic exploration of what it truly means to decenter friendship, drop the performance, and find peace in solitude.
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12 Oct 2026
How I Stood Up to My School Bully (Petty Revenge Stories) | Random Unapologetically Weird Moments
What happens when an awkward, book-loving student reaches her breaking point with a high school bully? On this episode of Random Unapologetically Weird Moments, Tobare dives into her archives to share a hilarious and mischievous true story from her junior secondary school days in Lagos. From dealing with pre-teen body shaming and late-blooming insecurities to exacting the ultimate, petty revenge, this episode is all about embracing the messy, unfiltered reality of growing up.
If you've ever felt out of place or wanted sweet, harmless revenge on someone who underestimated you, this episode will make you feel totally seen.
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🔔 Follow & Rate: Hit follow on Spotify and leave a 5-star review so more people can find the weirdness!
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☕ Support Independent Creation: If this story gave you a laugh, consider throwing a tip into my Selar jar here (https://selar.com/showlove/uwwt) to help keep the podcast and writing alive.
27 Jul 2026
Why I Walked Away: Burnout and Toxic Nigerian Work Culture
What happens when your passion slowly turns into survival?
After three years away from the microphone, Tobare begins unpacking one of the biggest reasons behind her absence. In this deeply personal episode, she reflects on the burnout that changed her life, the realities of toxic Nigerian work culture, and how constantly proving your worth can leave you questioning it altogether.
This isn't just a conversation about long hours or difficult workplaces. It's about gaslighting, emotional exhaustion, the lack of empathy many employees experience, and the moment she realized that choosing herself wasn't giving up, it was necessary.
If you've ever tied your value to productivity, struggled with workplace burnout, or wondered why so many people normalize unhealthy work environments, this episode is for you.
This is only the beginning. Over the coming weeks, Tobare will continue sharing the stories behind the last three years; one chapter at a time.
In this episode:
Burnout and emotional exhaustion
Toxic Nigerian work culture
Workplace gaslighting
Mental and physical health
Rediscovering purpose
Choosing yourself
The return of UWWT
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