SAY IT is a podcast about dating, masculinity, and emotional clarity.
Hosted by Dorian , the show explores modern relationships without chaos, shame, or therapy speak. These are conversations for men who want connection without confusion, boundaries without hardness, and intimacy that feels steady instead of performative.
SAY IT is not about fixing yourself.
It’s about seeing clearly, choosing intentionally, and learning how calm can be powerful.
New conversations, said plainly.
SAY IT — Episode 11 Did Gay Men Make Wanting Monogamy Embarrassing?
Send us Fan Mail Gay men don’t hate monogamy. We hate admitting we want something other gay men might laugh at. We respect every kind of relationship—until someone says he wants one person, exclusivity, and the security of being chosen. Then he’s called insecure, naive, heteronormative, or apparently…a Disney adult. Maybe gay men didn’t destroy monogamy. Maybe we just made wanting it embarrassing. In the first episode of SAY IT, I’m asking what happens when performing detachment becomes safer...
22 Apr 2026
Episode 10 : We Hate What We Were Taught To Be
Send us Fan Mail Gay men survived the world telling them who they were was wrong. And some of them turned around and said the same thing to their own community. In this episode, Dorian gets into femme shaming, masc culture, drag, and the internalized homophobia we still haven't fully confronted — even with each other.
25 Feb 2026
Episode 9: If he says this on a first date… leave.
Send us Fan Mail Most people don’t get hurt because they didn’t see it. They get hurt because they saw it… and stayed anyway. Those lines aren’t confusion. They’re clarity. You just have to decide if you’re going to listen to it. Stop trying to turn potential into reality. The right person won’t make you guess where you stand. Be honest… which one have you ignored before?
4 Feb 2026
Episode 8: The Addiction to Better
Send us Fan Mail Better bodies. Better faces. More attention. One swipe away. So instead of choosing, we keep browsing. In this episode of Unbuttoned, I talk about how endless options rewired our brains, why stability feels boring now, and what real connection actually requires in a world addicted to “better.” This isn’t about blame. It’s about awareness. 🎧 Full episode out now.
7 Jan 2026
Episode 7: Reassurance Is Not Intimacy
Send us Fan Mail A lot of people don’t actually want intimacy. They want reassurance. In this episode of Unbuttoned, Dorian breaks down the difference between emotional comfort and real closeness, why reassurance gets mistaken for connection, and how people stay emotionally nearby without ever stepping forward. This conversation is about presence, responsibility, and learning to stop negotiating with inconsistency. Calm clarity isn’t cold. It’s information.
3 Dec 2025
Episode 6: Hurt Men vs. Healed Men: The Real Divide in Our Community.
Send us Fan Mail Today on UNBUTTONED, we’re getting brutally honest. Not about sexuality — but about behavior. Why do so many gay men come off as cold, judgmental, competitive, or straight-up mean? Not because they’re gay…but because they’re unhealed. In this episode, I break down the difference between hurt men and healed men — the ego, the armor, the insecurities, the body hierarchy, the dating games, and the emotional survival strategies that shape our entire community. If you’ve ever felt...
1 Nov 2025
Episode 5: The Gay Body Standard: Confidence or Conditioning?
Send us Fan Mail The Gay Body Standard: Confidence or Conditioning? We call it confidence — but most of the time, it’s conditioning. From gym culture to social media validation, here’s the truth about how the gay community shaped our self-worth. Because being fit is great — but being free? That’s power. 🎙 Unbuttoned — new episode out now.
18 Oct 2025
Episode 4: Swipe, Hook Up, Repeat: Why We’re Still Lonely
Send us Fan Mail Dating in the gay community isn’t easy. Apps made meeting easy — but connection harder than ever. We chase validation, perfection, and three-second attention spans… but what about depth? In this episode of Unbuttoned, I get real about why modern dating feels so broken — from ghosting and hookup culture to the pressure to perform masculinity and hide softness. Because at the end of the day, we all want the same thing: to be seen, safe, and loved for who we are — not how we loo...
1 Oct 2025
Episode 3: Monogamy vs. Open: The Truth We Don’t Talk About
Send us Fan Mail Monogamy isn’t boring. It’s strength. It’s discipline. It’s being chosen every single day. I tried open… and I ended up crying in the bathroom while my partner brought another man into our bed. That’s when I realized: this isn’t love. This isn’t partnership. We don’t talk about how messy open really is. The jealousy. The emptiness. The way it chips away at intimacy until you feel more like roommates than lovers. I’m not here to shame anyone — I’m here to tel...
26 Sept 2025
Episode 2: Pride — Protest, Party, or Politics?
Send us Fan Mail Episode 2: Pride — Protest, Party, or Politics? Pride began as resistance, a fight for visibility and the right to exist. Today, it’s parades, parties, and political stages. But what happens when you don’t fit the mold? In this episode of Unbuttoned, I share my experience as a bisexual conservative — from the peer pressure of my first Pride in West Hollywood, to the erasure of bi voices, to the silencing of anyone who doesn’t follow the “approved” script. Pride is supposed to...
24 Sept 2025
Episode 1: Gay + Conservative… Can You Really Be Both?
Send us Fan Mail Welcome to the very first episode of Unbuttoned. In this opening conversation, I share my own story — from being outed without my choice, to feeling like an outsider in gay spaces, to finding unexpected respect in conservative ones. This episode isn’t about proving one side right or wrong. It’s about asking harder questions: Why are gay men treated like a monolith? Why is “diversity of thought” so controversial? And can we find common ground without canceling each other? ...
24 Sept 2025
INTRO - E0
Send us Fan Mail This is the beginning of Unbuttoned. I’m Dorian — gay, conservative, and ready to open the conversations most of us avoid. In this short intro, I share why I’m starting this podcast, what it means to me, and what you can expect moving forward. No shouting, no canceling — just honest talk that’s raw, respectful, and unbuttoned.
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