Unlearning Out Loud

About Unlearning Out Loud

Coming soon!

Publisher

Melissa Sadorf

Category

society & culture

Language

en

Explicit

No

First episode

12 Dec 2025

Latest episode

3 Jul 2026

Latest episodes

13 episodes in the feed.

1. 

   3 Jul 2026

   12 | America@250! An Imperfect Union? Yes, and that's okay!

   Episode Summary: In this thought-provoking episode of Unlearning Out Loud, Mike and Melissa kick off a new series exploring American history through the lens of curiosity rather than certainty. Inspired by America's 250th anniversary, they challenge listeners to reconsider many of the historical stories they have accepted without question. Rather than promoting political viewpoints or rewriting history, the conversation focuses on the importance of examining primary sources, embracing complexity, and recognizing that history is rarely as simple as the stories we learned in school. Throughout the episode, Mike and Melissa unpack several well-known American myths—from George Washington's "wooden teeth" and Paul Revere's famous ride to the Boston Massacre, the Declaration of Independence, Christopher Columbus, and the Revolutionary War itself. They discuss how cognitive biases, national myths, and cultural narratives shape our understanding of history, often making it uncomfortable to confront facts that challenge long-held beliefs. Their message is clear: staying curious and being willing to "unlearn" is not unpatriotic—it's one of the most patriotic things we can do. Key Takeaways: - America’s 250th anniversary provides an opportunity to revisit history with curiosity rather than unquestioned tradition. - Primary sources offer a more reliable foundation for understanding history than simplified retellings or modern commentary. - Cognitive dissonance often makes people resist historical evidence that challenges familiar beliefs. - National myths can strengthen identity, but they can also oversimplify complex historical figures and events. - George Washington did not have wooden teeth; his dentures were made from a combination of ivory, gold, and other materials. - Paul Revere never rode through the streets shouting, "The British are coming," as commonly portrayed. - The Boston Massacre was a far more complicated event than the popular image often presented in textbooks. - John Adams defended the British soldiers involved in the Boston Massacre because he believed the rule of law mattered more than public outrage. - The Declaration of Independence was adopted on July 4, 1776, but most delegates signed the document weeks later. - The Boston Tea Party participants were not attempting to fool people into thinking they were Native Americans; the disguises were largely symbolic and helped conceal identities. - Christopher Columbus should be understood as a complex historical figure whose achievements and documented brutality both deserve examination. - The Revolutionary War divided families and neighbors, making it resemble a civil conflict in many ways. - Much of what we believe about America's founding comes from simplified narratives created for easier storytelling. - AI-generated summaries and internet searches should always be verified against original historical sources. - Healthy patriotism includes asking questions, examining evidence, and remaining open to learning. Closing Summary: History becomes far more meaningful when we move beyond memorized stories and begin asking deeper questions. Mike and Melissa encourage listeners to resist easy answers, explore original sources, and recognize that historical figures—like all people—were complex individuals capable of both remarkable achievements and serious flaws. As this first installment concludes, they invite everyone to stay engaged, continue the conversation, and join them for Part Two as they explore even more surprising stories behind America's past. After all, true learning often begins with the willingness to unlearn.

2. 

   15 May 2026

   11 | Are your child's letter grades lying to you?

   Episode Summary: What if the way we measure learning is actually working against it? In this thought-provoking episode of Unlearning Out Loud, Melissa and Mike tackle one of education’s most debated topics: grading. Together, they explore whether traditional grading systems have unintentionally diminished students’ natural curiosity and shifted learning from an intrinsic joy to an external reward system. The conversation examines how letter grades often reflect compliance, system navigation, and teacher-specific expectations more than actual mastery of content. Mike and Melissa challenge the long-held belief that grades equal rigor, unpacking how traditional assessment practices can encourage students to “play the game” of school rather than develop authentic understanding and lifelong curiosity. They also dive into mastery-based grading, the limitations of the 100-point scale, the tension between accountability and learning, and why meaningful grading reform remains difficult despite decades of research supporting change. Along the way, they reflect on how family environments, school culture, and broader system structures shape students’ relationship with learning. With their signature mix of deep educational insight, candid reflection, and lighthearted tangents—from almonds and salad expiration dates to World Cup jerseys—this episode challenges listeners to rethink what true learning should look like. Key Takeaways: Why Curiosity Declines in School - Young learners enter school naturally curious, yet many lose that enthusiasm over time. Melissa and Mike explore how traditional grading may contribute to that shift. Grades vs. Learning - A letter grade often tells us very little about what a student actually knows or can do. The Problem with the 100-Point Scale - The hosts unpack why traditional percentage grading creates disproportionate consequences and often punishes rather than supports learning. Mastery-Based Learning Matters - Could standards-based or mastery-focused assessment offer a more accurate picture of student understanding? Extrinsic Motivation and the “Game” of School - When grades become the goal, authentic learning can take a back seat. Community Resistance to Change - Why does grading reform remain so difficult—even when educators know traditional systems have flaws? Learning Beyond the Classroom - The role of home environments, conversation, curiosity, and life experiences in shaping students as lifelong learners. Redefining Rigor - True rigor isn’t about compliance or points—it’s about meaningful challenge, growth, and understanding. Closing Summary: This episode of Unlearning Out Loud invites educators, parents, and learners alike to examine one of education’s most accepted traditions with fresh eyes. If our ultimate goal is to develop curious, capable, lifelong learners, then we must ask whether our grading systems are helping—or hindering—that mission. Melissa and Mike remind us that meaningful change begins with asking hard questions, challenging assumptions, and being willing to unlearn what no longer serves students. Because sometimes, rethinking the way we measure learning is the first step toward transforming learning itself.

3. 

   1 May 2026

   10 | Do Only Dopey Folks Believe Conspiracy Theories?

   Episode Summary: In this thought-provoking and entertaining episode, Mike and Melissa challenge a common assumption: that only “dopey” or uninformed people believe in conspiracy theories. Drawing from psychology, neuroscience, and real-world examples, they unpack how even highly intelligent, educated individuals can fall into conspiratorial thinking. The conversation explores how our brains are wired for pattern recognition, certainty, and emotional comfort—especially during times of chaos or uncertainty. From Thinking, Fast and Slow to modern social media dynamics, the hosts reveal how cognitive biases, intellectual overconfidence, and information overload can reinforce false beliefs. Through humor, debate (including a mock Moon landing argument), and practical insights, this episode invites listeners to reflect on their own thinking patterns—and begin the process of unlearning. Key Takeaways: Intelligence ≠ Immunity - Highly intelligent people are just as susceptible to conspiracy theories. Strong reasoning skills can actually make someone better at defending flawed beliefs. System 1 vs. System 2 Thinking - Fast, intuitive thinking (System 1) often drives beliefs. Slow, analytical thinking (System 2) is used to justify those beliefs after the fact. The Brain Craves Certainty - During uncertain times (e.g., pandemics, disasters), the brain seeks clear explanations. Conspiracy theories provide simple, ordered answers to complex chaos. Patternicity & Agenticity - Humans are wired to find patterns and assign intentions—even when none exist. This leads to connecting unrelated dots into meaningful (but false) narratives. Proportionality Bias - We assume big events must have big, complex causes. In reality, major events can stem from simple or random factors. “Yeah, But” Fortress Thinking - Conspiracy beliefs are protected by constant goalpost shifting. New explanations are created to defend against contradictory evidence. Weaponized Jargon - Technical language can create an illusion of expertise. Complex terminology doesn’t always equal truth or accuracy. Cherry-Picking Information - People selectively choose data that supports their beliefs. More information doesn’t always lead to truth—it can lead to stronger bias. Emotional Pull Matters - If something feels good to believe, that’s a red flag. Awareness of emotional bias is key to better thinking. Possibility vs. Probability - Just because something is possible doesn’t mean it’s likely. Critical thinking requires evaluating evidence and likelihood, not just imagination. Closing Summary: This episode reminds us that conspiracy thinking isn’t about intelligence—it’s about being human. Our brains are wired to seek patterns, certainty, and meaning, sometimes at the expense of truth. The real challenge isn’t proving others wrong, but becoming more aware of our own biases. By practicing curiosity, questioning our assumptions, and resisting the urge for quick answers, we can begin to unlearn harmful thinking patterns. In a world flooded with information, the ability to pause, reflect, and think critically may be one of the most important skills we can develop.

4. 

   17 Apr 2026

   09 | Did You Choose the Choice, or Did it Choose You?

   Episode Summary: In this thought-provoking episode of Unlearning Out Loud, Melissa and Mike dive into a deceptively simple question: Are we truly in control of our choices—or are our choices shaped by forces we barely recognize? Through engaging storytelling, humor, and real-world examples, they explore how the brain’s need to conserve energy influences decision-making. From “intellectual laziness” to the powerful effects of environment, upbringing, and exposure, the conversation challenges the idea of complete free will. The hosts unpack how our beliefs—political, cultural, and personal—are often predictable based on where and how we were raised. They also reflect on how modern influences like social media algorithms reinforce our existing views, creating echo chambers that further limit independent thinking. Ultimately, this episode invites listeners to question long-held assumptions and begin the process of unlearning what they thought they knew about choice, behavior, and human nature. Key Takeaways: The Brain Conserves Energy - Our brains are wired to make quick, efficient decisions, often relying on automatic thinking rather than deep analysis. System 1 vs. System 2 Thinking - Most decisions are made through fast, intuitive thinking (System 1), while slower, more deliberate reasoning (System 2) is used less often than we believe. Familiarity Shapes Preference - The more we’re exposed to something—music, beliefs, or ideas—the more likely we are to accept or even like it over time. Environment Influences Beliefs - Where we grow up—our family, community, and socioeconomic conditions—plays a major role in shaping our worldview and identity. Predictability of Human Behavior - Despite believing we make independent choices, patterns in data show that our preferences and beliefs are often highly predictable. The Power of Algorithms - Social media and digital platforms reinforce existing beliefs by curating content tailored to our behaviors, creating echo chambers. Opportunity Is Not Equal - Access to opportunities varies widely, and success is often influenced by environment and support systems—not just individual choice. The Importance of Self-Awareness - Recognizing these influences is the first step toward more intentional thinking and decision-making. Closing Summary: This episode challenges a deeply ingrained belief: that we are fully in control of our choices. By unpacking the science of the brain, the impact of environment, and the influence of modern technology, Melissa and Mike reveal a more complex reality. But rather than leaving listeners discouraged, the conversation offers something more powerful—awareness. When we begin to understand the forces shaping our thoughts and behaviors, we gain the ability to pause, reflect, and choose more intentionally. Unlearning isn’t about rejecting everything we know—it’s about questioning it. And in that process, we create space for growth, empathy, and better decisions.

5. 

   3 Apr 2026

   08 | Why do we believe what we believe about famous people?

   Episode Summary: In this thought-provoking episode, Mike and Melissa explore the concept of “unlearning” by challenging the simplified, often mythologized versions of well-known public figures. From icons like John Wayne and Bob Ross to unexpected examples like Paris Hilton and Alice Cooper, they reveal how society tends to flatten complex individuals into digestible archetypes. The conversation dives into the psychology behind why we cling to these simplified narratives and how doing so limits our understanding—not just of celebrities, but of people in general. By unpacking the real, often contradictory lives behind public personas, this episode encourages listeners to embrace nuance, question assumptions, and become more thoughtful consumers of information. Key Takeaways: We create simplified versions of people to conserve mental energy. - The brain prefers easy-to-understand archetypes over complex realities. Public personas are often carefully constructed. - Many celebrities (e.g., Paris Hilton, Gordon Ramsay) actively shape how they are perceived. People are inherently complex and contradictory. - Figures like Albert Einstein, Mother Teresa, and Johnny Cash had layered personal lives that don’t fit their public image. Time matters—people evolve. - Judging someone based on a single period of their life ignores growth and change. Challenging assumptions builds critical thinking. - Questioning what we “know” helps us become more discerning and less reactive. We project archetypes onto others in our daily lives. - This can lead to unrealistic expectations and misunderstandings in relationships. Separating a person’s work from their personal life is important. - Contributions (e.g., art, leadership, advocacy) can be valuable even if the individual is flawed. Closing Summary: This episode reminds us that no one is as simple as we make them out to be. By unlearning the myths and embracing the full, messy complexity of human beings, we open ourselves up to deeper understanding and empathy. Whether it’s a celebrity, a historical figure, or someone in our own life, recognizing that people are multi-dimensional allows us to move beyond judgment and toward a more thoughtful, grounded perspective of the world.

6. 

   20 Mar 2026

   07 | Digestif: Processing what we've Unlearned so far!

   Episode Summary:In this episode of Unlearning Out Loud, Mike and Melissa take a step back from their usual deep dives to reflect on the conversations they’ve been having throughout the series so far. Framing the episode like a “digestif” after a big intellectual meal, they revisit ideas, reactions, and themes that have surfaced in earlier episodes and explore what it means to pause, reflect, and continue the process of unlearning.The conversation moves fluidly between thoughtful reflection and lighthearted commentary. Mike and Melissa discuss the importance of taking time to process complex ideas rather than rushing from one topic to the next. Along the way, they touch on pop culture moments, current events, and everyday observations that shape how we interpret the world around us. These moments provide a balance between serious reflection and humor, reminding listeners that unlearning doesn’t always have to feel heavy.Throughout the episode, Mike and Melissa invite listeners to think about how their own perspectives evolve over time. By revisiting earlier discussions and acknowledging the ongoing nature of learning and unlearning, they emphasize that growth often happens in the pauses between conversations as much as within them.Key Takeaways:- Unlearning Takes Time: Growth often happens when we pause to reflect on ideas instead of immediately moving on to the next topic.- Reflection Deepens Understanding: Revisiting previous conversations helps uncover insights that may not have been obvious in the moment.- Learning Can Be Both Serious and Playful: Humor, pop culture, and everyday experiences can make complex conversations more accessible.- Curiosity Drives the Process: Asking questions and staying open to new perspectives keeps the unlearning journey active and meaningful.- Shared Conversations Matter: Dialogue helps people process ideas collectively and challenge assumptions in constructive ways.Closing Summary:This episode serves as a reflective pause in the ongoing journey of Unlearning Out Loud. By revisiting earlier discussions and allowing space for humor, curiosity, and thoughtful processing, Mike and Melissa remind listeners that unlearning is not a one-time event—it’s a continuous process. Through reflection and open dialogue, we gain deeper insights into our assumptions, our experiences, and the world around us.

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   6 Mar 2026

   06 | Can you survive influencer health ‘pros’?

   Episode Summary: In this insightful and entertaining episode of Unlearning Out Loud, Mike and Melissa welcome two frontline medical professionals—cardiac nurse Julia Lee and pediatric doctor Shelly Batra—for a candid conversation about health misinformation in the digital age. Together, the group explores why having more information doesn’t always lead to better health decisions, the risks of “doing your own research” on social media, and how cognitive biases influence the way patients interpret medical advice. With humor and real-world examples, the guests share what they wish more patients understood about evidence-based care, shared decision-making, and the limits of TikTok medicine. This episode challenges listeners to rethink how they evaluate health information and encourages a more thoughtful partnership between patients and medical professionals. Key Takeaways: 1. More information ≠ better decisions - Julia emphasizes that medicine is nuanced and context matters. Googling symptoms or reading Reddit threads cannot replace a clinician’s ability to evaluate patterns over time, risk factors, and individual patient differences. 2. The internet is both powerful and risky + While access to information can empower patients, the source matters. Both guests warn that advice from TikTok shops, social media forums, and unverified influencers can lead to harmful choices or dangerous supplement interactions. 3. Evidence-based sources should guide personal research - Doing your own research isn’t inherently bad—but it must come from reputable, evidence-based sources and should always be discussed with a qualified healthcare provider before acting on it. 4. Patients sometimes approach care like a menu - Shelly shares that some families arrive with a checklist of tests or treatments they demand, treating medicine like a fast-food order rather than a clinical process that requires professional judgment and diagnostic pathways. 5. Cognitive biases shape health beliefs - The hosts discuss confirmation bias and ambiguity aversion—our natural tendency to seek simple, definitive answers and to favor information that confirms what we already believe. These mental shortcuts often fuel medical misinformation. 6. Media and medical dramas influence expectations - From reality TV to medical shows, entertainment can distort public understanding of how medicine actually works, creating unrealistic expectations about speed, certainty, and outcomes in healthcare. 7. Shared decision-making is the goal - Both clinicians stress they want engaged, curious patients—but collaboration works best when professional expertise and patient concerns meet in honest conversation. Closing Summary: This episode is a powerful reminder that in today’s information-saturated world, discernment matters more than ever. While curiosity about personal health is valuable, Julia and Shelly make clear that real medical decision-making is complex, individualized, and grounded in evidence—not viral posts. By unlearning the myth that “more Google equals better care,” listeners are encouraged to become informed partners in their health journey—asking questions, seeking credible sources, and trusting qualified professionals to help interpret the noise.

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   20 Feb 2026

   05 | What do we need to UnLearn about Music?

   Episode Summary: In this episode, Mike and Melissa are joined by Joel Knight for an engaging and thoughtful conversation exploring the transformative power of music, creativity, and authentic expression in education and personal growth. Together, they examine how music extends beyond entertainment and serves as a meaningful tool for connection, identity development, and emotional understanding. Through personal experiences, professional reflections, and real-world examples, Joel shares how creative expression can help students and educators discover their voices and build confidence. Mike and Melissa guide the discussion toward the importance of fostering learning environments where experimentation, collaboration, and curiosity are encouraged. They highlight how creativity can deepen engagement, strengthen relationships, and support the development of critical life skills. The conversation also explores how the evolving digital landscape has expanded opportunities for music and arts education while presenting new challenges. Mike, Melissa, and Joel discuss the importance of helping learners navigate technology responsibly while maintaining authenticity in creative expression. Throughout the episode, listeners are encouraged to reconsider traditional measures of success and recognize creativity as a vital skill for resilience, innovation, and lifelong learning. Key Takeaways: - Music as a Bridge for Connection: Music fosters communication, cultural understanding, and emotional connection across diverse communities. - Creativity Enhances Learning: Integrating creative expression into education supports engagement, critical thinking, and personal development. - Authentic Expression Builds Confidence: Encouraging students to explore and share their unique voices strengthens identity and self-assurance. - Technology Expands Creative Access: Digital tools create new opportunities for collaboration and learning but require intentional guidance and balance. - Supportive Learning Environments Matter: Classrooms and educational spaces that embrace creativity promote curiosity, experimentation, and collaboration. - Creativity Supports Resilience: Artistic and creative outlets help individuals process challenges and adapt to change. Closing Summary: This episode highlights the powerful role that music and creativity play in shaping meaningful educational and personal experiences. Through their conversation with Joel Knight, Mike and Melissa emphasize the importance of cultivating environments where creative expression is valued and supported. By embracing innovation while maintaining authenticity, educators and learners can build stronger connections, foster resilience, and prepare for the evolving demands of the future.

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   6 Feb 2026

   04 | We want to hear from you! Are we REALLY divided (or actively SORTED)?

   Episode Summary: In this episode of Unlearning Out Loud, Mike and Melissa explore the idea that one of the most urgent things we must “unlearn” today is the belief that we are a deeply divided society. Instead, they propose a powerful reframing: we are not naturally divided—we are actively sorted. Through candid conversation, humor, personal stories, and real-world examples, Mike and Melissa examine how media, politics, social norms, and human cognitive bias push people into opposing camps. They discuss how topics are often selected not to bring people together, but to provoke reflexive opposition, fuel certainty, and keep attention locked into conflict. The episode invites listeners to slow down, question assumptions about intent, embrace uncertainty, and recognize how often we actually share common values—especially in moments of crisis, leadership, and community. This conversation sets the foundation for a deeper, multi-part exploration and invites listeners to engage, challenge, and contribute their perspectives. Key Takeaways: 1. We are actively sorted, not inherently divided - Division is often the result of external forces choosing polarizing topics that push people into opposing “corners,” rather than a reflection of fundamentally different values. 2. The “facilitator effect” shapes our thinking - Just as facilitators can guide group behavior by choosing questions, media and political actors influence public opinion by deciding which issues dominate attention. 3. Reflexive opposition replaces critical thinking - Many opinions are formed by simply opposing “the other side,” rather than through thoughtful analysis or lived experience. 4.Certainty has become performative - Admitting “I don’t know” is increasingly seen as weakness, even though uncertainty is essential for learning, leadership, and growth. 5. Assuming intent fuels unnecessary conflict - Whether in leadership, social media, or everyday interactions, assuming intent instead of examining impact can escalate misunderstanding and division. 6. Shared values are often overlooked - There are many issues—human safety, compassion, community response to crises—where agreement is broad, but these rarely dominate the conversation because they don’t generate outrage or profit. 7. Leadership requires disciplined thinking, not loud confidence - Effective leadership embraces nuance, curiosity, and grace—especially in complex and emotionally charged environments. Closing Summary: This episode challenges listeners to pause and reconsider a deeply ingrained narrative: that division is inevitable. Mike and Dr. Sadorf argue that much of what feels like division is actually the result of sorting—driven by incentives, systems, and habits that reward certainty and conflict over curiosity and connection. By recognizing how topics are chosen, how assumptions form, and how easily we abandon nuance, we gain the power to think more independently and lead more intentionally. This conversation is not about choosing sides—it’s about reclaiming our ability to think, question, and connect. Listeners are encouraged to reflect, respond, and join the ongoing dialogue as this topic continues in a future episode that will incorporate audience perspectives and additional voices.

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    23 Jan 2026

    03 | Learning History: Have We Been Asking the Wrong Questions?

    Episode Summary: In this episode of Unlearning Out Loud, Mike and Melissa dive into a thoughtful and timely exploration of how we engage with history—and what it really means to “learn” from it. What begins as a light, post-Thanksgiving conversation quickly evolves into a deeper discussion about the way history is often reduced to simplified narratives of “good guys” and “bad guys.” Rather than focusing solely on historical outcomes, Mike and Melissa challenge listeners to examine the conditions, incentives, and contexts that lead people and societies to make the choices they do. Using examples such as the Civil War, World War II, and global conflicts, they unpack how history is curated, flattened, and sometimes weaponized—often preventing us from recognizing repeating patterns. Drawing from education, leadership, and human behavior, the conversation emphasizes the importance of asking better questions, embracing complexity, and resisting the urge to seek quick moral conclusions. This episode invites listeners to rethink how history is taught, discussed at the dinner table, and applied to modern life—encouraging curiosity over certainty and inquiry over judgment. Keys: History is curated, not neutral - What we remember—and what we omit—shapes how we see ourselves and others. “Good vs. bad” narratives flatten complexity - Simplifying history into heroes and villains prevents deeper understanding of how events unfold. Conditions matter as much as character - Geography, economics, fear, incentives, and social pressure often shape decisions more than individual morality alone. Learning history isn’t the same as memorizing facts - Passing a test does not equal understanding the forces and patterns behind historical events. Questions should invite exploration, not just assessment - Real learning happens when questions are open-ended and encourage dialogue rather than predetermined answers. Unlearning requires discomfort - Growth comes from resisting easy conclusions and sitting with nuance, ambiguity, and disagreement. These lessons apply beyond history - The same thinking patterns show up in leadership, organizations, families, and everyday decision-making. Closing Summary: Mike and Melissa close the episode by reminding listeners that the purpose of studying history isn’t simply to label events as right or wrong—it’s to understand how societies arrive where they do, and how similar conditions may still be shaping our world today. By unlearning our reliance on simplified narratives and embracing thoughtful questioning, we become better equipped to recognize patterns, challenge assumptions, and engage more meaningfully with one another. As always, Unlearning Out Loud isn’t about providing final answers—it’s about creating space for better conversations. The episode ends with reflections on leadership, curiosity, and the value of examining the systems and incentives behind human behavior, leaving listeners with plenty to think about long after the episode ends.

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    9 Jan 2026

    02 | Is What We Learned from Hollywood Going to Kill Us All?

    Episode Summary: In this second installment of our opening series, we continue digging into a tough but universal question: Why does it often feel like everyone around us is difficult, unreasonable, or “the problem”? Melissa and Mike unpack the layers behind our snap judgments, the stories we tell ourselves, and the habits we’ve unknowingly built over years of conditioning. This episode explores how our personal narratives, leadership experiences, and emotional triggers shape the way we interpret—and misinterpret—others’ behavior. Through honest reflection, personal stories, and plenty of laughter, Episode 2 challenges listeners to move from blame to curiosity. It's an invitation to unlearn the knee-jerk labeling and step into a more reflective, compassionate mindset. Key Takeaways: 1. The stories we default to aren’t always the truth. - We often assume intent based on how something makes us feel, not on what actually happened. 2. Leadership magnifies perception. - In positions of responsibility, small misunderstandings can feel bigger—and more personal—than they actually are. 3. Patterns come from our past. - Our upbringing, work culture, and lived experiences shape our reactions before we even notice them. 4. Curiosity softens conflict. - A simple shift from “What’s wrong with them?” to “I wonder what’s happening for them?” changes everything. 5. Unlearning happens in small, deliberate moments. - Awareness doesn’t erase old habits—but it gives us the chance to choose differently each time. Closing Summary: Episode 2 continues our journey into unlearning the assumptions, stories, and emotional shortcuts that shape how we see others. When we pause long enough to reflect on our reactions, we create space for empathy and better communication. As Melissa and Mike remind us, the work of unlearning isn’t about perfection—it’s about progress, intention, and understanding that there’s always more beneath the surface than we initially assume. Stay tuned for Episode 3, where we push the conversation even further and explore how unlearning can transform not just our relationships, but our leadership as well.

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    26 Dec 2025

    01 | Is Everyone Else an *Hole?

    𝐄𝐩𝐢𝐬𝐨𝐝𝐞 𝐒𝐮𝐦𝐦𝐚𝐫𝐲: Welcome to the very first episode of UnLearning: Out Loud! where hosts Mike and Melissa dive headfirst into a question we’ve all asked ourselves: Is everyone else the problem—or could it be us? Through humor, honesty, and a bit of social psychology, they unpack the concept of Attribution Bias—how we explain our own mistakes as situational, but see others’ mistakes as personal flaws. From traffic mishaps and missed deadlines to locker room oversharing, the duo explores why our brains make these snap judgments and how to pause before assuming the worst. They also dig into how this bias shapes relationships, leadership, and workplace culture—and how to reframe our thinking to become more self-aware and empathetic humans. To lighten things up, Mike shares his annual horror movie coping ritual for Halloween, Melissa reflects on being on “baby duty,” and together they kick off their ongoing segment, “Stuck in Our Craw,” where they hilariously rant about life’s small absurdities. 🧠 𝐊𝐞𝐲𝐬 𝐭𝐨 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐄𝐩𝐢𝐬𝐨𝐝𝐞: - Attribution Bias: Why we give ourselves grace but judge others harshly. - The Fundamental Attribution Error: The human habit of linking other people’s behavior to their personality instead of their situation. - Self-Serving Bias: How we take credit for success but deflect blame for failure. - Hostile Attribution Bias: When we interpret neutral behavior as a personal attack. - Energy & Emotion in Decision-Making: How our brains conserve energy by choosing quick (and often wrong) judgments. - Unlearning Tip: Treat your first explanation for someone’s behavior as a draft, not a verdict. 💡 𝐂𝐥𝐨𝐬𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐒𝐮𝐦𝐦𝐚𝐫𝐲: In this debut episode, Mike and Melissa remind us that we’re all human—and that our knee-jerk judgments about others say more about us than them. By slowing down, asking what else could be true, and giving others the same grace we give ourselves, we can begin to unlearn some of the faulty thinking that fuels division and frustration. 𝑹𝒆𝒎𝒆𝒎𝒃𝒆𝒓: 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒈𝒐𝒂𝒍 𝒊𝒔𝒏’𝒕 𝒕𝒐 𝒇𝒊𝒙 𝒉𝒖𝒎𝒂𝒏 𝒏𝒂𝒕𝒖𝒓𝒆—𝒊𝒕’𝒔 𝒕𝒐 𝒏𝒐𝒕𝒊𝒄𝒆 𝒊𝒕. 📱 𝐂𝐨𝐧𝐧𝐞𝐜𝐭 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐌𝐢𝐤𝐞: - Facebook: MikeLee1970 - Instagram: @yoteshowl1 - X (Twitter): @yoteshowl

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    12 Dec 2025

    00 | What if there is MORE or LESS to know?

    Episode Summary: In this kickoff “Episode Zero,” Mike Lee and Melissa Sadorf introduce Unlearning Out Loud, a podcast for curious humans who are willing to rethink what they think they know. With humor, humility, and a whole lot of curiosity, Mike and Melissa explore why humans cling to misinformation, how childhood myths shaped our understanding of the world, and why unlearning is often harder than learning something new. From quicksand panic and gum-growing-in-your-stomach myths to the questionable life lessons of Curious George, they shine a light on how confidently—and often incorrectly—we carry beliefs into adulthood. They also reflect on their shared background as lifelong educators, their friendship, and the conversations that inspired this podcast. In this episode, listeners are introduced to the show’s mission: to create space for curiosity, challenge long-held assumptions, and laugh through the process of being delightfully wrong. Unlearning Out Loud isn’t about proving or disproving truths—it's about making room for updated understanding, asking better questions, and embracing the weirdly wonderful ways our minds work. Keys (Key Takeaways): 1. Unlearning Is Part of Being Human - We all carry beliefs formed from half-truths, old stories, pop culture, childhood warnings, and the many things we thought adults were right about. Recognizing this is the first step toward growth. 2. Curiosity Beats Certainty - True curiosity means being willing to reexamine what we “know.” Mike and Melissa emphasize that curiosity—not being right—is the actual goal. 3. Our Beliefs Become Our Identity - Often, we protect our opinions because they feel like part of who we are. Unlearning requires humility, humor, and the courage to update our internal operating system. 4. Learning Adds, Unlearning Clears Space - If learning is downloading new information, unlearning is deleting glitchy old code. You can’t upgrade if you don’t clear out what no longer serves you. 5. We’re All In It Together - This podcast is an invitation to sit at the table, laugh at ourselves, rethink things we’ve carried for years, and explore the complexity of being human—without judgment. Closing Summary: Unlearning Out Loud begins with a reminder that even our most confidently held beliefs may need revisiting. In this playful and thoughtful introductory episode, Mike and Melissa set the tone for what’s to come: conversations rooted in curiosity, humor, and a shared willingness to admit that we don’t know everything—and we’re not supposed to. Listeners walk away encouraged to question old assumptions, explore new perspectives, and embrace the joy of discovering that there might be more—or less—to know. This episode lays the foundation for a podcast that helps us rethink, relearn, and laugh our way toward better understanding.

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