Unsolicited Advice from a Nobody

About Unsolicited Advice from a Nobody

Unsolicited life advice from a certified nobody. I’m Sonia Viteri – Ecuadorian-born, world-lived, multilingual mother of two with zero official qualifications in psychology and way too much experience in real life. If you’re tired, overloaded, questioning your choices and secretly hoping someone will say the thing everyone else avoids, you’re in the right place. No gurus. No five-step systems. Just honest, slightly sarcastic reflections on relationships, motherhood, living abroad, self-worth and trying to stay sane in a world that makes none.

Publisher

Sonia Viteri

Category

society & culture

Language

en

Explicit

No

First episode

27 Nov 2025

Latest episode

20 Oct 2026

Latest episodes

18 episodes in the feed.

1. 

   20 Oct 2026

   No! Please don't take it personally.

   Two letters. One syllable. Almost fifty years to figure out how to use it. NO. For most of my life, I’ve been the person who says yes. Yes, I’ll help. Yes, I’ll take care of it. Yes, of course I have time! Spoiler alert: I didn’t always have the time. From childhood expectations and questionable decisions to career ambitions, motherhood, and learning to let go of things I genuinely love, this episode is about my complicated relationship with a word I’ve spent most of my life avoiding. And somewhere along the way, I discovered something unexpected: sometimes saying no isn’t about disappointing others. It’s about finally making room for yourself. Am I an expert at saying no now? Hell no. But I’m learning. Welcome to Episode 18 of Unsolicited Advice from a Nobody. Real stories, questionable wisdom, and a little sarcasm along the way.

2. 

   1 Oct 2026

   The Nobody Who Just Wanted to Dance

   What happens when something you love doing quietly becomes a much bigger part of your life? For me, it started long before Zumba. It started with a ten-year-old girl dancing alone in a dark living room, imagining a huge stage filled with people who somehow knew exactly the same choreography she did. Years later, I walked into a Zumba class in the U.S., discovered Melissa, fought my way to the front row (as one does), and fell completely in love with it. Then came years of classes, moving countries, having children, putting the idea of becoming an instructor aside, picking it back up at 45, surviving my first certification choreography disaster, teaching my first class, creating a slightly terrifying color-coded playlist spreadsheet, learning to actually listen to my students, and eventually finding a community I never really knew I was looking for. This episode is about Zumba, yes. But it’s also about what can happen when something that simply makes you happy stays with you long enough. And about discovering that maybe being a Nobody doesn’t mean you’re nobody to everyone.

3. 

   17 Sept 2026

   Excuse Me, Where Did I Go?

   Have you ever looked at your life and thought… wait, where the hell did I go? I started writing this episode in the middle of the night in Corfu, surrounded by beautiful beaches, my children, friends and everything that should have made me happy — except I wasn’t. Somewhere between moving countries, motherhood, family, responsibilities, aging, perimenopause (or, as I prefer to call her, peri meni) and simply living life, I realized I didn’t quite recognize the woman living mine anymore. So this episode isn’t really advice. It’s personal. It’s messy. It’s about missing the woman I used to be, trying to understand the woman I am now, and realizing that maybe I don’t need to have all the answers yet. For once, the Nobody doesn’t have the unsolicited advice. Maybe you do.

4. 

   4 Aug 2026

   The Beautiful Art of Rejection

   What if rejection isn’t something to fear… but something to understand? In this episode, I look back at the moments in my life that began with a simple “no.” A doll I never got as a little girl. Friends I thought didn’t want me around. Jobs I didn’t get. Relationships that didn’t work. Comments that shook my confidence. For years, I saw these moments as setbacks. Looking back, I see something very different. Every rejection quietly redirected me toward the person I was becoming. This isn’t an episode about pretending rejection doesn’t hurt. It does. But perhaps our greatest opportunities begin with the doors that never opened. Join me as I explore The Beautiful Art of Rejection and why, looking back, I honestly wouldn’t change a thing.

5. 

   14 Jul 2026

   Love: I Don’t Believe in “The One”

   Do I believe in soulmates? Not exactly. In this deeply personal episode of Unsolicited Advice from a Nobody (UAFAN), I share my journey through first kisses, first love, heartbreak, betrayal, marriage, divorce, unforgettable dates, and everything in between. This isn’t a list of relationships. It’s a collection of lessons. Looking back, I realized that every person who crossed my path taught me something different about love—and more importantly, something about myself. Whether you’ve been happily married for decades, recently experienced heartbreak, or are still figuring out what love means, I hope this episode reminds you that our relationships shouldn’t only be measured by how long they last, but by how they shape us. Because maybe… The people we love don’t complete us. They reveal us. 🎙️ New episode of Unsolicited Advice from a Nobody

6. 

   22 May 2026

   The Friends Who Built Me

   Friendship means something different to everyone, but when I look back at my life, I realize I remember it through people more than anything else. In this episode, I take you through the friendships that shaped different versions of me — from childhood memories in Ambato, Ecuador, to teenage years without social media, folded notes passed during class, the famous “Tontódromo,” modeling, moving to the United States, loneliness, cultural shifts, unforgettable nights, chosen family, and the people who quietly became part of my story. This is not an episode about how many friends I’ve had. It’s about the people who helped shape who I became. The childhood friends.The crazy teenage friendships.The friends who opened my world.The ones I lost touch with.The ones I miss.The ones who stayed.And the ones who eventually became family. Sometimes we don’t remember life by years. We remember it through friendships. Unsolicited Advice from a NobodyA podcast about life, identity, motherhood, reinvention, relationships, travel, chaos, growth, and the stories that quietly shape us.

7. 

   9 May 2026

   Permission to Feel

   This episode wasn’t planned. It was necessary. In this deeply personal episode, I talk about the emotional cost of constantly trying to become “something” while balancing motherhood, ambition, dreams, responsibilities, creativity, exhaustion, and the invisible pressure to keep functioning no matter what. Late at night, while everyone sleeps, I reflect on identity, self-doubt, childhood dreams, Zumba, art, motherhood, reinvention, and the quiet battle between the voice that pushes me forward… and the one that tells me I’m not enough. This is not an episode about having life figured out. It’s about learning that strength doesn’t cancel humanity. Maybe some of us don’t need more motivation. Maybe we just need permission to feel. Topics: Motherhood, identity, ambition, burnout, creativity, self-worth, emotional overwhelm, dreams, reinvention, middle-age, women’s emotional load, Zumba, art, personal growth, mental load, purpose, healing, vulnerability.

8. 

   24 Apr 2026

   That One Night in Jail

   I’ve never told this story before. Not to friends. Not publicly. But today, someone used that moment against me… and I realized it was time to finally say it out loud. This is the story of the night I went to jail. Not the version people assume.Not the version that gets remembered. But what it actually felt like… from the inside. A normal Tuesday night.Two glasses of wine. A moment that changed everything. And what stayed with me after:– the fear– the shame– the women I met– and the realization that one moment can follow you for years… even when it doesn’t define you If you’ve ever felt judged by one version of your story…this one might hit differently.

9. 

   11 Apr 2026

   The Art of Traveling: Finding Myself in Every Place

   Every time I travel, I discover something about myself…sometimes something new, and sometimes something I didn’t even realize I had forgotten. In this episode of Unsolicited Advice from a Nobody, I share personal travel stories — from childhood road trips in Ecuador, to moving countries, traveling for love, and unforgettable moments with friends across the world. This is not about destinations.It’s about what happens to you when you move — the shifts, the emotions, the people you meet, and the unexpected ways travel shapes your identity. If you’ve ever traveled, lived abroad, or felt like a part of you belongs in more than one place… this episode will feel familiar. Listen now and maybe you’ll discover something about yourself too.

10. 

    26 Mar 2026

    Where Am I From? It’s Not That Simple

    Where are you from?Sounds like a simple question… until it’s not.In this episode of Unsolicited Advice from a Nobody, I take you through my journey from Ecuador to the United States, Greece, and Germany — navigating identity, culture, language, and what it really means to belong. Growing up in a vibrant Latin culture, adapting to life as an immigrant, building a multicultural community, and now raising children across multiple languages and identities… I started asking myself:Do we really belong to one place? Or are we shaped by every place we’ve ever been? This is a personal story about identity, self-discovery, motherhood, and living between cultures — and maybe, just maybe, you’ll see a part of yourself in it too. If you’ve ever lived abroad, felt like you don’t fully belong anywhere, or are still figuring out who you are… this one is for you.

11. 

    14 Mar 2026

    Motherhood: I Waited 39 Years for This… Nobody Mentioned This Part

    I waited 39 years to become a mother, so by the time my first baby arrived I thought I was prepared.I had done the research, listened to everyone’s advice, and filled my house with every baby gadget the internet recommended.Then my son was born… and suddenly everything I thought I knew about motherhood stopped working. In this episode of Unsolicited Advice from a Nobody, I talk about late motherhood, advice overload, raising two completely different children, and the unexpected moment when I realized that the only advice that really matters might be the one we ignore the most.If you’re a parent, thinking about becoming one, or simply navigating life while everyone has an opinion about what you should do — this story might sound familiar.

12. 

    27 Feb 2026

    When You’re Not the First, You Learn to Be Different

    In this episode of Unsolicited Advice from a Nobody, I go back before moving forward. Before the independence. Before the questionable decisions. Before the “educational life experiences.” I was the fourth child. Actually, the fifth. The last girl in a house that had already lived through all the “firsts.” And when you’re not the first, you learn something different. You learn to adapt. You learn to observe. You learn to create your own identity. This episode is about childhood, imaginary worlds, acne, motorcycle accidents, siblings, gratitude, and what it really means to grow up feeling slightly… different. It’s also about love. And about understanding that even if you were last in the row — you were never last in value. If this episode resonates with you, follow the show and share it with someone who grew up watching all the “firsts” happen before them. Because sometimes the last ones build the strongest foundations.

13. 

    13 Feb 2026

    From Mamacita to Mommy (that sometimes looks more like a Mummie)

    There was a time I left my house at 11pm in high heels. Now I wake up at 6am in sneakers packing snack boxes. In this deeply personal episode of Unsolicited Advice, I share my journey from a vibrant single life in Atlanta — filled with house parties, international friendships, and Dinner with a Passport — to becoming a 39-year-old new mom in Germany navigating expat life, late motherhood, identity shifts, and loneliness in a foreign country. This is a story about living abroad, building community as an immigrant, and raising an international family where four languages are spoken at the dinner table. It’s about women over 35, life transitions, motherhood later in life, and the emotional reality of starting over in a new country. If you’ve ever questioned your timeline, compared your life to others, or wondered whether you made the “right” decisions — this episode is for you. This is not a story about regret. It’s a story about seasons. From Atlanta to Germany. From high heels to sneakers. From Mamacita to Mommy. Follow the podcast and share this episode with someone navigating their own life transition.

14. 

    1 Feb 2026

    So… What Do I Do, Exactly? | Career Detours, Impostor Syndrome & Becoming

    Every time someone asks me “So… what do you do?” I pause.Not because I haven’t worked — but because the answer depends on which version of me you’re asking about.In this episode, I talk about my career journey — or better said, my detours. From early jobs and corporate roles to moving countries, starting over, feeling behind, and learning that a career doesn’t always follow a straight line. This is a story about saying yes before feeling ready, learning on the go, dealing with impostor syndrome, and realizing that nothing you do is ever really wasted. If you’ve ever struggled to explain what you do, felt behind in your career, or wondered whether your path makes sense yet — this episode is for you. If you enjoy these stories and want to follow along, tap Follow so you don’t miss future episodes.Unsolicited advice included. Perfection not required.

15. 

    12 Jan 2026

    From Nobody to Somebody to Nobody Again: Moving Countries & Rebuilding Myself

    Have you ever changed countries, jobs, or lives… and suddenly felt like you had to start over as a completely different version of yourself? In this episode, I talk about what happens when familiarity disappears, confidence wobbles, and you realize you’re rebuilding more than just a routine. This isn’t a how-to. It’s a reflection on identity, starting from zero, and the quiet strength it takes to begin again — even when you don’t feel ready. If you’ve ever felt like a nobody in a new chapter, this one might hit closer than expected. Unsolicited advice included. Nobody asked for it.

16. 

    17 Dec 2025

    The Hall of Shame: Pool Chaos, Bad Wipes & Sauna Confusion

    Ever get hit with a random memory and instantly want to relocate? Same. In this episode, I’m taking you through my personal Cringe Chronicles: a very public pool mishap, a first-date product misunderstanding, a spicy-food “confidence flex” gone wrong, a workplace spelling disaster, and a German sauna moment that taught me humility. We’ll laugh, we’ll cringe, and we’ll remember: embarrassment is just proof you were out there living.

17. 

    9 Dec 2025

    The Art of Messy First Times

    If you still cringe about something you did 20 years ago, this one’s for you. In this episode, I talk about some of my most unforgettable “first times”: my first day of kindergarten surrounded by crying kids while I was just happy about toy day, my first crush (ft. my sister pulling my pants down in public ), my first kiss, my very questionable “first love”, my first breakup, and even my first day in a new country – when you suddenly go from feeling like somebody to being a total nobody again. We’ll laugh, wince and maybe overthink together, and I’ll share what these messy first times taught me about starting over, surviving heartbreak, and not being afraid to try again. If this episode makes you feel a little less alone, makes you laugh at your own chaos, or even slightly offends you… then my job here is done. Hit Follow on Spotify so more nobodies can accidentally find this little corner of unsolicited advice.

18. 

    27 Nov 2025

    Who Gave This Nobody a Microphone?

    In this very first episode of Unnecessary Advice from a Nobody, I finally answer the question:Who am I, and why on earth am I giving advice? I’m Sonia – a 40-something mom, expat, overthinker, Zumba addict and professional collector of life experiences. I’ve been a cashier, receptionist, sales assistant, secretary, marketing consultant, wife, ex-wife, girlfriend, friend who gives “just one more opinion”… so no, I’m not a therapist or a guru. I’m just someone who’s messed up, learned, laughed, cried – and is still here to talk about it. In this episode I share: • What this podcast is about: honest, unfiltered conversations about relationships, work, family, identity and all the messy in-between. • What this podcast is not: therapy, professional advice or a place where I pretend to have my life together. • Why I think “nobodies” like us are actually the best people to talk about real life.If you’ve ever felt like you’re too old, too late, too tired, too much or not enough – you’re in the right place. Stay connected:Follow me on Instagram @soniaviteri and send me your questions, dilemmas or “you’re not going to believe this” stories. They might end up in a future episode (anonymously, of course). Thanks for being here for Episode 1. Now let’s see what kind of unnecessary advice we can get into together.

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Apple Podcasts (US)

5.0 / 5

1 ratings

Spotify

5.0 / 5

6 ratings