About Virgin Vodka Soda: The QueerRecovery Podcast
Virgin Vodka Soda is a podcast about queer life after the healing buzzwords wear off. I’m Mick Resendez — gay, sober, and done performing wellness. What started as a show about sobriety has evolved into something deeper: a space for high-functioning, emotionally fluent queer men who still feel stuck, spiraling, or like they’re faking it. Each episode is a raw, unfiltered dive into the messier side of growth — from dating and loneliness to body image, boundaries, and finally learning how to feel instead of just perform.
Sometimes it’s storytelling. Sometimes it’s coaching. Always honest. Always human. If you’ve done the work but still don’t feel whole… you’re not broken. You’re just ready for something real.
Platonic friendship isn’t supposed to feel impossible — but for gay men, it often does. In this episode, I dig into the viral Threads post that pulled in over 250,000 views and thousands of comments from men saying the same thing: I want connection, but I don’t know how. We get into the real reasons why: validation chasing, hookup culture, shame, and the conditioning that makes every new interaction feel like it has to be about sex. I talk about what it means to crave friendship but not have ...
20 Aug 2025
Stillness Is Scarier Than Chaos
You’re not too busy. You’re avoiding yourself. In this episode, I unpack the cycle of chasing, crashing, and craving clarity — but never letting yourself sit still long enough to get it. We talk about “someday” reality, healing as performance, and why high-functioning gay men (yes, you) keep filling their calendars instead of facing their truth. We cover: Why silence feels unsafe to your nervous systemHow healing became a brand (and a distraction)What performative vulnerability actually looks...
13 Aug 2025
I Don’t Want to Go to the Cheesecake Factory
Let’s talk about the moments you don’t speak up. Not because you can’t. But because you’ve convinced yourself that being “chill” or “healed” means staying silent. Even when you don’t want to go to Cheesecake Factory. This episode is for the high-functioning gay or queer man who knows their attachment style, knows their triggers, knows their trauma… and is still spiraling over a 30-minute text delay. You’re not crazy. You’re not broken. You’re stuck in performative healing — and no meme accoun...
6 Aug 2025
Pivot! Pivoooot!
We’re back with the second episode of QueerRecovery 2.0 — and this is the one where I finally break down what “emotional integration” really is. This episode is for the high-functioning gay or queer man who’s been in therapy, read all the books, bought the crystals, journaled, meal prepped, and still spirals over texts that go unanswered. You’re not broken. You’re just performing your healing. And you’re exhausted. I talk about: What performative healing looks like (and why it’s so sneaky)How...
30 Jul 2025
I Took a Pill in Ibiza
After a long (and very human) hiatus, I’m back — and this episode is the raw, reflective, real-ass heart of where QueerRecovery started and where it’s going. I take you through the moment that changed everything: officiating a party-heavy wedding in Ibiza just five months sober, and realizing I didn’t need a sponsor, a step, or a sip to stay grounded in who I was becoming. This episode isn’t just about sobriety — it’s about learning to trust yourself even in the loudest rooms. I talk about wh...
7 May 2025
AA: Absolut Assholes
After a disastrous weekend left me hungover, humiliated, and alone, I turned on the TV and saw the Notre Dame Cathedral burning — and somehow, it felt personal. This episode picks up right where the spiral ended and walks straight into the fire: my first experiences with AA. I talk about the shame, the silence, and why those rooms never felt like mine — even when I was desperate for something to work. I know AA has helped millions, and I honor that. But I also know I’m not the only queer pers...
7 May 2025
Airplane Chardonnay
What do you do when you’ve ruined a weekend meant to celebrate someone you love? What happens when the fun runs out, but the feelings don’t? In this episode, Mick shares one of the most personal and pivotal moments in his recovery journey — a blurry, emotional spiral that cracked something wide open. If you've ever mistaken chaos for connection or tried to drink away the discomfort, this one’s going to hit. Hard. This is about memory, meaning, and the moment you ask yourself, “Where do I go f...
23 Apr 2025
Cocaine & Dog Shit
A car crash. A mugshot. Those can be rock bottom for some — I’ve had both — but that’s not what made me question everything. In this episode, I talk about that moment. The one that stuck. The one that made me go, “Wait… who even am I right now?” It’s not glamorous. It’s not tragic. But it cracked something open. I’m talking gay party culture, denial dressed up as fun, and the quiet little “wtf am I doing” that lingers long after the high wears off. If you’ve ever looked in the mirror and said...
22 Apr 2025
My Name is Mick, and I am an Alcoholic
Welcome to Virgin Vodka Soda, the QueerRecovery podcast—where we skip the steps, ditch the shame, and keep it real. In this premiere, I unpack my first drink (ft. a hot older guy and a red Solo cup), the chaotic relationship I had with vodka, cocaine, and the club scene, and why AA just didn’t work for me (and maybe doesn’t work for you either). I also drop 5 brutally honest lessons from 6 years sober—including the part no one tells you about missing alcohol, craving peanut butter M&Ms li...
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